Today, let’s run through some femdom “Never Have I Ever” questions!
Have you heard of the standard, vanilla Never Have I game? It’s a fun, easy-to-play party game that only requires conversation – and disclosing personal things about yourself, too, of course.
This verbal-only functionality also means that it translates well to post-sex cuddles – or online play – just like my Femdom Truth or Dare questions and dares do.
The Femdom Game Rules
The rules are simple:
- Everyone starts with an arbitrary number of points depending on how long you want the game to go. For ease of counting, 10 points is often the starting number – and everyone holds up 10 fingers.
- One person states “Never Have I….” and follows it by stating something they have never done. It must be something they have never done.
- Everyone who has done the activity that the person stated loses a point – and puts down a finger.
- The next person then repeats the same process with every person in the game taking a turn.
- This continues until the first player is completely out of points. Once you’re out of points, you’re out of the game, and you do not take a turn or continue to count points.
- The game then continues, with each zero-point player dropping out until one player is left standing with points. This player wins!
The goal of the game is to be very strategic with your “Never Have I” statements. You want to pick something that you’ve never done – but you think everyone else has done. This would make everyone lose a point – so you’d be better positioned to win in the end.
However, because “Never Have I Ever” is all about private disclosures – and gets sexual very quickly – some people will choose non-winning statements just to see other players’ answers. This can make it a pretty fun game.
“I’ve never had a threesome” may not be a winning statement in a sex-positive group, but you’ll quickly find out who has had a threesome by who puts their finger down.
You can quickly see how this could be a fun addition to a femdom space. Not only is it easy to understand and requires no equipment, but it’s a fun way to learn things about the people around you in a low-effort way. Whether you met those people on femdom sites for finding a dominatrix or these are friends you’ve known for awhile, you can quickly learn something new about everyone playing.
A popular “house rule” may prohibit any explanations of answers which can add an extra-fun twist when you’re shocked by someone’s answer and not “allowed” to learn any details.
Because of the flexible nature of “Never Have I”, it can be played in groups or just with the two of you. This can make it fantastic for a femdom play party or poly play partners as well.
So, let’s get into the femdom Never Have I Ever questions to add a bit of BDSM fun to your standard party game.
Femdom Never Have I Questions
Looking for your “Never Have I Questions” inspiration? Here you go! Assume each question is started with “Never Have I Ever…””
Introductory Femdom Never Have I Questions
- …had a domme/submissive before.
- …talked to someone online about femdom.
- …talk to someone in-person about femdom.
- …met up with someone in real life after meeting them online.
- …had a formal negotiation about an upcoming scene.
- …made someone/said “green” during a scene.
- …read an educational book about BDSM.
- …owned an educational book about BDSM.
- …been turned on by a TV or movie scene.
- …been turned on by a TV or movie scene that the producers didn’t intend to be arousing.
- …spent more than $100 on a single lingerie outfit.
Community-Based Questions
- …went to a play party.
- …went to a munch.
- …went to a rope bondage meet-up.
- …went to a kink education class.
- …went to a hotel takeover kink event.
- …did pick-up play with a complete stranger while at a kink event.
- …joined in an unexpected group kink scene at a kink event.
- …did a scene during a kink event just to show off.
- …had a crowd watch while I came during a scene.
- …cried while watching someone else’s scene.
- …complimented someone on an amazing scene after watching it.
- …spilled something at an event.
- …been photographed during a scene.
- …forgot to pack the toys needed for the scene I had planned.
- …forgotten my ID and been unable to get into an event.
- …been unable to get a luggage cart at a kink event and had to lug all of my luggage to my room in multiple trips.
- …showed up so late for an event that I had to have special permission to be allowed in.
- …joined a kinky book club.
- …went to a swinger’s event.
- …taught someone how to do something kinky, 1-on-1.
- …had a mentor.
- …had a mentee.
- …taught a kink class about something.
Sexual Femdom Never Have I Questions
- …made an erotic video for someone.
- …sent someone a sext.
- …had phone sex.
- …wrote an erotic story.
- …read an erotic story.
- …came during a scene when I wasn’t supposed to.
- …watched pornography.
- …watched femdom pornography.
- …watched femdom hentai.
- …read an 18+ manga.
- …had a subscription to a mainstream porn site.
- …had a subscription one person’s personal porn offerings.
- …had sex in a public place.
- …had sex in the water.
- …used a sex toy on someone else.
- …lost a sex toy mid-play and was never able to find it again.
- …left a sex toy at someone’s house and was never able to retrieve it.
- …had an orgasm in a car.
- …gave an erotic dance or lapdance to someone.
- …receive an erotic dance or lapdance (strip clubs count!)
- …went on a date with an intentional power exchange element.
- …went to a swinger’s club.
- …went to a strip club.
- …had anal sex where poop was unfortunately involved.
- …read a kinky book while out in public.
Fetish Femdom Never Have I Questions
- …put a chastity device on someone.
- …worn a chastity device.
- …worn chastity long-term for more than 2 weeks.
- …was denied (or did the denying) an orgasm for more than X amount of time.
- …devised/followed an elaborate “scene” that took more than 2 weeks.
- …slept in bondage.
- …participated in a spanking scene.
- …worn a BDSM gag.
- …”became” a pet during pet play.
- …”handled” or “owned” a human pet during pet play.
- …pegged someone/received a pegging.
- …had to give up mid-pegging because a sex position wasn’t working.
- …was involved in pegging where poop was unfortunately involved.
- …had an orgasm during pegging.
- …drooled while wearing a BDSM gag.
- …received/provided cigar service.
- …wore bondage underneath my clothes while out in public.
- …wore sex toys while out in public.
- …controlled someone else’s sex toys while out in public.
- …told someone they had a tiny penis.
- …intentionally dressed as a different gender.
- …given/received jerk off instructions.
- …cried from intense humiliation.
- …did a kinky “seasonal” themed BDSM scene. (Feel free to get specific with things like “Christmas” or “Spooky”)
- …became a piece of human furniture.
- …spent more than $100 on a single kink outfit.
- …been called “Mommy”, “Daddy”, “Son”, or “Daughter”.
- …was a chauffeur (or chauffered) in a power exchange context
(As you can imagine, you can pretty much list any kink within these questions, and you’ll be good to go. Turns out, there are a lot of fetishes and kinks out there!)
Edgeplay Femdom Never Have I Questions
- …tried giving/receiving a golden shower.
- …tried giving/receiving needle play.
- …tried giving/receiving a cell popping.
- …used a knife during sex.
- …been involved in a hook pull.
- …been involved in a hook pull suspension.
- …choked someone during sex.
- …been choked during sex.
- …added religious elements to a scene.
- …made someone cry during a scene.
- …been turned on by watching someone cry.
- …unintentionally made someone bleed during play.
- …intentionally made someone bleed during play.
Fun Note: Depending on where you live, the Femdom Never Have I game may be called “Never Have I Ever…”. It just depends on where you learned it. Both are the same game.
Updated: April 2024, October 2023, May 2023, April 2023, October 2022.
