How to Give a Small Penis Humiliation Handjob

Is your partner into SPH (small penis humiliation)? If so, learning how to give a small penis humiliation handjob might be near the top of your to-do list – especially if you’re here, with me, on this article!

Instead of focusing on how to give a basic handjob (there are thousands of amazing articles out there that will focus on the basics of a handjob), we’re going to spend this article talking about some of the creative, unique ways you can add small penis humiliation to the handjob sensations your partner or submissive probably already loves.

You provide the sensations you want to provide, and we’ll talk about how to add small penis humiliation flavor to what you’re already doing.

(Author’s Note: This article occasionally assumes that the receiving partner is equipped with a biological penis. However, many of these handjob techniques can also be used while stroking a clitoris or using a trans stroker on a large clitoris. All bodies are valid, and if you need help adjusting one of these ideas to someone with a very small penis, please feel free to reach out!)

With that said, let’s get straight into how to give a small penis humiliation handjob:

Use Your (Dirty) Words

Not the first tip I’m pretty sure any person – femdom or otherwise – wants to hear, but it’s true: using your words can be a very, very easy, cost-free way to instantly change a standard handie into a SPH handjob.

Simply give a handjob but add in dirty talk about their penis size and its inability to please you.

You might find this easiest if you already know some of the SPH things that really get their motor revving. (See the tip below this one) As a lot of SPH fetishists have specific terms or ideas that really get them off, and using those terms and scenarios can honestly be a quick cheat-sheet to turn them on.

Some basic small penis humiliation dirty talk examples though:

• “This is barely worth spending my time stroking it”.
• “You know, it’d be way more enjoyable to stroke it if were bigger”.
• “You must be really embarrassed to get undressed in the locker room with this to show off”.
• “You better hope we never get divorced. This tiny nub is way too small to ever please any other woman/man/person”.
• “No wonder sex is so unsatisfying. There’s no way this is big enough to do anything for me!”
• “We’re going to be training your hands and mouth from now on. It’s barely satisfying to have in my hand, and it certainly won’t feel any better anywhere else on me!”
• “Is it going to get any bigger? I’m always expecting so much more, and it’s always a let-down when it just looks like….this” (Right after they’ve started going from soft to hard and reached full erection)

Watching a few SPH camsites could also give you even more inspiration and phrases that you could use during your own SPH handjobs.

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Make Them Tell You How to Give a Small Penis Humiliation Handjob

Especially if you’re reading this “How to Give a Small Penis Humiliaton Handjob” article because you’re both new to kink, you may not really know what turns your partner on about small penis humiliation.

For mine, I know he really loves the feelings of inadequacy he feels compared to other “alpha men” for his penis size. He loves the idea of never having intercourse with me again because his penis is simply too small to be pleasurable for me and being forced into a life of only handjobs because it isn’t worth “real” sex with him. His small penis humiliation kink also has strong ties with chastity, his submission, cuckolding, pegging, and feminization.

But for many submissives, cuckolding or chastity might be a hard limit and an instant turn-off.

Help figure out what, exactly, your partner loves by simply making them tell you.

Start by getting them very turned on. I’d recommend lots of tease and denial ahead of your SPH handjob, but you can do whatever makes you happy. The idea is that we want to get them so turned on that a lot of the self-conscious, logical parts of their brain start short-circuiting.

Once you have them at that point, give your handjob, but command them to tell you about one of their recent fantasies about small penis humiliation.

Even if someone is stuck in horny brain, this is still going to be a big ask, so you’re going to sweeten the pot by stopping the handjob every time they stop talking. Now the delicious sensations are the instant reward they get for sharing their fantasies.

They’ll likely give you a short, abbreviated synopsis with the first ask (“Oh, it was just about a woman talking up how tiny her husband’s penis was”), so you’re going to have to dig in with details and questions. You can command them to give you more details, to describe a scenario in detail, or anything else.

Depending on your partner’s creativity and preferences, you may have more success commanding them to tell you about or show you their favorite small penis humiliation porn video.

Once your partner gets talking and finds that you’re genuinely interested, if they’re in that nice horny brain space, they’ll start spouting off all the details you didn’t even know you wanted once they’re warmed up to the idea.

I’d recommend paying attention to a few specific things to use for future “fodder” in doing small penis humiliation handjobs:

• What scenarios do they like? Are there any specific roleplays/dynamics that seem to get them going? Do they prefer scenarios between established partners, or do they like to roleplay the humiliation of showing off their “small penis” to an unexpecting partner during their first sexual encounter?
• What words do they use? Pay attention for specific fetish jargon. The words they use are likely the words that turn them on, so you can simply parrot these back later. Common words might include: dicklet, beta, alpha, clitty, micro dick, needle dick.
• What are the underlying “premise” for their small penis fetish? This is a big ask, but you can usually get the basic premise with enough backstory. Is it because their small penis can “never start a family”? Is it because their small penis means they should be forced into handjobs because their penis isn’t worth fucking?
• If you want to ask, you can ask them what things don’t appeal to them. For example, if they seem to steer hard-left away from cuckolding opportunities when the fantasies would present themselves, ask them if that’s something they’d like.

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Use Visuals to Make Your Point

Another simple (and free) way to turn your standard handjob into a SPH handjob is simply by adding visuals.

The most common version is probably the most well-known porn trope for SPH: an attractive woman, cleavage-forward, pinching her two fingers together to “show” how tiny a little dick is.

You can do a lot of the same things. Pause your handjob to hold two fingers up to “measure” how tiny their little dick is. Talk about how “big” a normal dick is with both of your hands, showing this ultra-large, exaggerated size.

You can even get a little more creative with things like strapping on an extra-large dildo and standing up to show them what a “real” cock looks like.

You can wear a nice push-up bra for a cleavage-forward look, and use your hands to make your breasts jiggle while talking about how useless it would be to give them a boobjob because their dick wouldn’t even make it out the other side.

You can even include a tape measure. It’ll probably get a bit lube-y, so keep that in mind, but you can hold it up to your partner to take “measurements” of their inadequate size.

A few manufacturers even make “small penis humiliation rulers” that change up the measurements to make it seem like they’re even smaller than they are. Just make sure not to confuse that for your regular rulers, or you’re going to have a bad day next time you go to the home improvement store.

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Describe a Previous Partner – or Fantasy

Small penis humiliation kinks often tie straight into eroticizing inadequacy with their past (or imagined past) partners.

You can use this to your advantage, and I actually find that it can be easier than coming up with lots of unrelated, dirty talk snippets.

Instead, simply use your words to describe a sexual encounter with a past partner – and spend a lot of time talking up how much larger and satisfying their penis was (even if it was probably the same size as your current partner’s package).

If that seems triggering or uncomfortable for you, simply make up a fantasy instead. Talk about how you’ve been fantasizing about this large-penis stallion who’s so much more “alpha male” than your current “beta”. Feel free to get graphic about all the ways this made-up partner would be superior, and your small penis humiliation partner is clearly “inferior”. (Use whatever words and terms are hot within your SPH dynamic!)

If you want, you could also talk about a scenario that includes them instead. Especially if they have a cuckolding kink alongside their small penis fetish, you can talk up what would happen if you both found a third. Describe the hotel room, where he’d be watching, and what you all would do. Think of it like “writing” erotica – only you’re simply speaking it out loud instead.

Make sure you know your receiving partner before you try this one out! While this can be extremely spicy (in the best of ways!), our turned-on brains don’t always communicate with our everyday brains. This means you might accidentally trigger some painful jealousy. Ensure that your dirty talk will be hot and arousing – instead of painfully triggering afterwards – before adding this in.

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Get Creative with Condoms

This is probably one of the most creative methods I’ve used (I’m still pretty proud of it, okay).

I found some small penis condoms online. They’re clearly a gag gift item, but they’re clearly boxed for small penises.

I then went to an online store that specifically sold condoms for extra-large penises. I purchased their largest condom size. (Mind you, many of the “Magnum” condom sizes sold in store are barely larger than their standard counterparts. You can still do this with grocery store extra-large condoms, but the size difference won’t be as drastic.)

I unpacked the condom that came in the small penis condom container, and I replaced it with the extra-large condom.

Now, when I gave him the specially-marked condom for small penises, he already got an erotic thrill. However, when we went to put it onto his penis and the “small” condom swam on top of his penis, it was a completely different, additional thrill. How tiny is your penis if the condoms made for small penises are too big for it?

The rest of the SPH handjob was then spent leaving the condom in place (as best as possible) and constantly fiddling with it because it was simply the wrong size for his shaft. It kept sliding off. But it made for a lot of great dirty talk fodder and visual interest as his penis was too small for the specially-marked small penis condoms.

10/10, would definitely do again.

It’s a bit of extra work, but it was a fun swap from a lot of the small penis handjob things we usually do.

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Stroke a Dildo Alongside His Penis

You can also play with sex accessories in a different way. Consider using a strap-on harness to strap an extra-large dildo onto your partner. (Using the Bag Trick will help if it’s uber-large!) A double-hole strap-on harness like the Spareparts Deuce will make this viable for wearing the dildo near their own shaft, but you can also use a thigh harness to have the dildo near – but not in the way of – the action.

Now that the dildo is strapped onto their body, use both of your hands to give a SPH handjob. Use one hand on the dildo while simultaneously using your other hand on your partner’s shaft. Lots of lube will help your hands slide on both of them without needing to pay too much mind to either.

You can simply use this new dildo as a prop to “talk up” how much more fun it is to stroke the larger dildo compared to your partner. Feel free to remark about how your hand barely fits around it or how the strokes on the dildo take so much longer because it’s so long.

I’m particularly fond of making the receiving partner the “lube bitch”, and sticking out my hand anytime I need a bit of extra lube. He squirts the lube on my hand (bonus: it keeps our lube bottle away from the lube), and then I make a show out of ensuring the “big dick” gets all of the nice, fresh lube because it ‘deserves it’ way much more than his little dicklet. Tiny dicks like his shouldn’t take priority over large, superior ones.

If you want to take it one step further, “put your money where your mouth is”, and as the SPH handjob goes on, start focusing more on the dildo than on his own shaft. Feel free to make this as obvious – or as subtle – as you want. Talk about how much more fun a handjob is on a larger penis, and even take breaks to double-fist the dildo while ignoring the receiver’s penis.

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Use a Sex Doll for Mutual Pleasure

Okay, this isn’t for the cheapest among us, but if you have the space and capital to make it happen, using a penis-equipped sex doll can be an amazing addition to your small penis humiliation handjob.

Simply ride the dildo while you give your handjob, talking up how much better the large cock feels than his tiny little dick.

If the idea of micromanaging two activities at once sounds horrible, this can also be a great fit for small penis jerk off instructions. Bind your receiver to some furniture (but leave one of their hands free), put some space between the two of you, and let your receiver watch as you ride the sex doll. Give them commands of things to do to their penis while you both watch each other. Adding a riding crop can be a good fit here as you can reach out and slap them if they start to disobey.

If a sex doll isn’t a viable option for the two of you (the dildo-equipped ones can be especially pricy), you can get away with adding a Liberator BonBon to the bedroom. This will allow you to hands-free “ride” the dildos you already own. It won’t have quite the same visual as something designed to look like a human underneath you, but it can definitely get the job done.

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End the Handjob with Chastity or Orgasm Denial

While we’re talking about how to give a small penis humiliation handjob, your SPH details don’t need to stop as soon as ejaculation happens.

Instead, you can draw out some of the small penis humiliation aspects by “forcing” your receiving partner straight into a chastity cage. If you want to add some of this same flavor during the SPH handjob, you can keep the chastity cage nearby and start talking it up as they get closer to orgasm.

If you want to be extra sadistic, consider keeping a bag of ice ready to apply straight to the penis after orgasm to get it small enough to stuff into the cage. This can take off some of the afterglow of orgasm, and it can be a fun way to reinforce their “tiny penis” status even after they’re already satiated.

If chastity cages aren’t y’all’s bag, you can simply forgo the hardware and stick to the premise. Tell them that their little dicklet doesn’t deserve as many orgasms as a large dick does, and give them a date in the future that you’ll “consider” letting them cum again.

(As with anything kinky, don’t spring this on your partner. If chastity cages have never been a part of your kink lives, stick with verbal instructions to see if your partner is into orgasm denial. If so, maybe chastity cages will be a thing down the line!)

If chastity cages or orgasm denial aren’t for you, adding some feminization (as “your little dick doesn’t need the extra room of men’s underwear”) can have similar vibes after your SPH handjob.

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Author’s Note on Penis Size and How to Give a Small Penis Humiliation Handjob

There is literally nothing superior or inferior about any given penis size. Penises are penises. One penis isn’t “better” because it’s bigger or smaller. Really, either extra-big or extra-small, size doesn’t matter aside from finding the right sex toy or ensuring your partner isn’t in pain during intercourse. Like clothing and body size, it’s simply another unique trait about us that helps us choose how we do activities for the most pleasure possible.

The small penis humiliation kink really fetishizes this interior/superior dynamic, though, and being able to get into a headspace where you can separate the erotic from the reality can really help with dirty talk and activities that will turn on someone with a SPH kink.

Especially if you’re reading this “How to Give a Small Penis Humiliation Handjob” article because you’re new to SPH, you’ll want to spend extra time after your play for aftercare. Reassure your partner that their penis size doesn’t matter to you and ensure they realize that this is just for play – and not an indicator of your enjoyment with your sex life. Even if they are medically diagnosed with a micropenis that may not allow for intercourse, this can still work as a great time to reinforce the things you do love about your sex life with them, your intimacy, and your connection.