BDSM Scenes, Step-by-Step: Femdom Tickle Torture Scene

Welcome to my femdom tickle torture scene – today’s addition to my BDSM Scenes, Step-by-Step series. This whole series offers easy-to-follow BDSM scene outlines designed for femdoms (but accessible to anyone) to take the stress off planning a scene. We’ll break down everything you’ll need, including the basics of the scene, what you’ll need, how to prep for it, and how to make it your own. I even include a full, numbered, step-by-step list of every specific thing to do throughout the scene.

When I was first starting off in the scene as a “Dominant”, the idea of planning an entire scene from start to finish was terrifying. I’m decidedly Type A, and it seemed like I was supposed to make this whole plan from scratch while still trying to figure out the basics of BDSM. It felt like writing an essay that made up 100% of your grade while in the first week of the course.

I spent hours back then, scouring the internet for “basic femdom scene plans” or “femdom scene outline”. It was impossible to find. Maybe someone had listed it in a book or something somewhere, but to this day, I still don’t really know of a repository like I have here on Kinky World of free, access-anytime step-by-step BDSM scene plans.

So, today, I bring you a femdom tickle torture scene plan to bring tickle fetishist kinks to life.

As always, your sex life is about your enjoyment, and these BDSM scene outlines are here to help. Modify them, remove stuff from them, and change them up to make your scene feel accessible and hot to you as you play.

Now, let’s get onto this femdom tickle torture scene:

This Femdom Tickle Torture Scene Is…

A great way to indulge a partner who has a tickling fetish. Even if tickling isn’t necessarily your kink, a lot of playful fun can be had here when we make that partner become a sex toy holder too. ;)

By mixing in some pleasurable sensations for yourself, you’re able to get more stimulation out of the scene, and it can lead to a BDSM scene where you both come away aroused and wanting to do more (if you want!).

Perfect for femdoms and partners of discordant heights/weights/strengths, we’re utilizing a specific body position (kneeling) and bondage (spreader bars and cuffs) to reduce dangerous flailing that may be harder to control if your tickling fetishist is larger than you.

What Do You Need for Femdom Tickle Torture?

We’re going to use a bit of gear to make this scene come to life – and prevent injury to either you or them with all of the twitching that comes with tickling.

If you’re with someone who is a hardcore tickling fetishist, they may own furniture designed specifically for tickling. If you’re not, though, we can DIY a light version with the help of a spreader bar.

Kinky Gear You’ll Need Handy

• 2 wrist cuffs
• 2 ankle cuffs
• A spreader bar (multiple spreader bars of different lengths would be ideal)
• A favorite sex toy that can be held in two hands (by the bottom) and enjoyed (by you) while standing
• Optional: Tickling implements

Household Things to Have

• A sturdy, flat surface where the captive is accessible at both their head and feet while they’re kneeling on their hands and knees. For most people, this will be a bed, but a wide ottoman, massage table, or sturdy table could work too.

How Long Does It Take?

Femdom tickle torture scenes are relatively personal to the receiver. Some tickling fetishists get off on long, almost-painful tickling sessions. Others love to go fast and hard instead of dragging it out. Partner that with the relatively static position of your captive, and you’ll have a scene that’s limited by physical endurance for tickling and not moving.

This scene could last 30 minutes. It could go 3 hours.

You will set the pacing throughout it. Repeat tickling cycles to make it last longer and drop them further into their masochistic tickling headspace. Remove some of the cycles if you see that they’re starting to drop off in energy and/or you’re ready to be done.

How Do You Prep for this Femdom Tickle Torture Scene?

This is a relatively simple scene, and the prepwork for it is pretty minimal from the top’s point-of-view.

From the top, I’d recommend:

• Gathering the needed gear.
• Thinking about how you want your submissive/captive to “feel”. Should they feel humiliated while splayed out for your tickling fingers? Privileged to be touched? Earning the potential reward of looking at you? Proving themselves worthy? Figuring out how you want your submissive to feel will let you brainstorm some phrases to use throughout. This lets you “set the mood” so your scene has an overarching vibe instead of just “Oh, you’re on the bed and being tickled now, so that’s cool, I guess”.

Your submissive/captive should know ahead of time that this is a scene where they’ll be tickled and staying in one place. This can let them arrive at the scene in a physical and mental space to do that.

In particular, for your bottom, I’d probably recommend:

• An empty bladder if that isn’t part of the scene. For real. Most of us know what happens when you laugh too hard with a full bladder.
• Not hungry but not recently fed. A full stomach for this can end poorly when you laugh so hard you can’t breathe.
• Some nice stretches of the entire body to warm up and prepare for being in this position for a long time. Whether someone is a body builder or Chinese cam girls, people simply thrash about when they’re being tickled, and this can lead to someone pulling a muscle with the best of intentions. Having the body stretched and warm (from physical exertion) can help prevent that from becoming an injury.
• Anything that makes it more comfortable for them to laugh to the point of making it difficult to breathe. This might be a different choice of clothing or being well-hydrated.

If you don’t want to give them a heads-up about the scene, feel free to cryptically command them to do those things without telling them why before the scene starts. (Baby mindfucks, anyone?)

Just make sure this is the type of scene and activities that they’d fully consent to. This shouldn’t be the first time you’ve ever tickled them.

Step-by-Step Instructions for your Femdom Tickle Torture Scene

1. Enjoy whatever pre-scene fun you had in mind. If you’re going for a specific “vibe” (humiliation, embarrassment, punishment, etc.), do some activities that add to that vibe before we move forward. This will mentally reframe the physical act of tickling to elicit the emotions you’re looking for.
2. Using phrases that support the vibe you’re going for, force your captive to get on all fours on the bed. If you have a thinner bed, use that. If you need to have them kneel close to a corner of a bed, use that. Ideally, we want to have both their hands and feet accessible to you while you’re standing off the bed.
3. Put wrist and ankle cuffs on them. You can also use rope bondage or any other type of bondage if that’s sexier or more accessible for you.
4. Tease them a bit. You’ve mentally prepped them for the vibe you’re going for, and you have them kneeling and wearing cuffs. Up the anticipation by simply taking this time to verbally tease them or pet them. Run your fingernails along their skin. Give a couple slaps here and there. The more aroused and skin-sensitized they are, the less “work” you’ll have to do to tickle them, so really, you’re just saving yourself effort in the future here. ;)
5. When they seem very responsive, pull out your spreader bar and bind both ankles together.
6. Start off with a bit of tickling. Choose one foot and tickle it, giving them tiny breaks to breathe as you often as you desire. ;) (Well, without killing them.)
7. Give them a longer break to breathe, choosing whatever form of teasing you’d like. We’re, essentially, giving them a bit of time to calm down a bit before upping the intensity with more tickling. (Think of this scene as a cascade of waves, going up in intensity before calming down a bit, and then going up in intensity a little bit further, and then calming down a bit. Rinse and repeat.)
8. Go back to tickling. If you get tired of using your fingers, don’t forget about feathers or other prickly tickling toys that can be used to do most of the “work” for you.
9. Give them another break to breathe.
10. Repeat this tickle-then-break cycle as often as desired. If your tickle fetishist prefers 30 minute tickle sessions, you might do this a lot. If they can only tolerate it for 15 seconds, you might do this just a few times.
11. When you’re ready to move on, if your captive can remain in their hands-and-knees position while doing so, bind the captive’s two wrists together.
12. Place your sex toy of choice in their hands. Use your words as you do this, making it clear how this sex toy fits into your scene. Depending on your vibe, some easy examples include:
    • Such a good piece of furniture. I expect you to hold this perfect still for me, even if I’m tickling you. You don’t want to disappoint me, do you?
    • Oh, you think you’re just the center of attention, hmm? Typical spoiled brat behavior. I’m going to get mine, and you’re not going to cum at all.
    • Look at how much I’m spoiling you. You don’t often deserve to be this close to my pussy/cock, do you? Enjoy the front row seat as my personal sex toy because you’re certainly not going to get to touch me.
    • I expect this toy to be held exactly like this and be available when I want it. Since you’re pathetic ass can’t even manage to breathe right when I’m tickling you, you have to be able to at least hold something, right? Maybe if you do a good job, I’ll feel gracious enough to let you cum. Maybe.
13. Make adjustments to the sex toy’s angle and placement. You want to be able to “use” it while they’re holding it.
14. Keep in mind that you have a bit of a “time limit” here. Looking upright while kneeling on the forearms can be a bit rough on the back and neck, and your partner is probably a bit exhausted from the tickling. They probably won’t be able to hold this sex toy for too long.
15. Go back to alternating to tickling them and letting them breathe. Now, when you give them time to breathe, go enjoy the perfectly held sex toy. Depending on your level of sadism, you can always use their hair as a handle while playing with your toy. ;)
16. Alternate as much as desired. Caution: Every captive will have a physical limit to how long they can do this, and as they approach that limit, they’re more likely to drop your sex toy. Depending on the floor underneath your bed this may break your toy. Keep this in mind for how long you draw out this scene.
17. When you’re ready to stop “torturing” your captive, take the sex toy from their hands and unbind their wrists. This will allow them to come back onto a neutral-back, knees and hands position (instead of forearms).
18. You can end the scene here, if desired, but you can also keep the “look but can’t touch” vibe going if you want to add something like this before you unbind them:
    • If you want to get off, you can easily pull up a chair right next to the bed, and make them watch as you use the sex toy they were just holding to have an orgasm. Add teasing words as desired.
    • If you want to get them off, use their legs-spread-wide position to make that easy. A wand massager can be orgasmic for all bits, and the longer reach of its handle can make it easier to hold in place.
    • If you’re a pegging person, this bent-over position of your captive can be one of my favorite pegging sex positions. You can crawl between their spread legs and slide inside, if desired. Take off the spreader bar or swap to a longer/shorter spreader bar if you need them at a different height to make penetration happen.
    • If you want to do a little bit of gymnastics work, you can wiggle yourself underneath them while they’re still bound. If they’re a penis-owner and their legs are spread wide enough, you could potentially use their penis “as a dildo” for intercourse, setting the pace and speed while they’re still bound in the position you put them in. Definitely play this one by ear though; your partner needs enough physical strength left in the tank, and the angles have to match up.
19. When you’re completely done, unbind all parts of your captive, and let them gently move their body around. Their knees and back are likely going to be pretty stiff, so let them move at their own pace, and don’t rush them out the door to make the evening matinee.

Femdom Tickle Torture Scene Ideas

• Not looking for any physical, sexual stimulation for yourself? That’s cool. Instead, you can up the intensity of the bondage. Use a spreader bar with four bondage points. Make your captive lay down on their chest, placing their wrists through their spread legs towards the spreader bar. You can then bind the wrists to the spreader bar too. (Let your captive stretch their body out before your scene if you’re doing this. This can be a very heavy on the back.)
• If you or your partner enjoy foot fetishism, this can be a great fit in the scene too – just not while tickling them! Pull up a chair next to their head, and place your feet on the bed instead of making them hold a sex toy. When they’re taking their “breathing” breaks, they’ll have to suck on your toes instead.
• For those of you with bathroom control kinks, throwing a waterproof blanket or mattress protector down ahead of time can mix really well with tickling them to the point where they lose control.
• Unless you’re using your captive’s bum or bits for something, this BDSM scene doesn’t require access to those areas. If your captive has a kink for lingerie, diapers, penis jewelry, chastity, or any other decor for their bits, you can easily add it in. This ups the intensity for them without necessarily interrupting anything you were planning to do.

Cautions

Physical injury is the biggest danger in tickle torture female domination scenes. And honestly, if physical injury occurs, it’s likely to be an accident on someone’s part. People simply can’t control their reflexes when they’re being tickled.

With that in mind, be very cognizant of where you stand and where you’re at when you’re tickling your captive. Take a moment to see what the full range of their limbs are compared to where you’re standing. Using the spreader bar while kneeling on a bed reduces a lot of the potential movement, but it’s still not a zero risk.

Some spreader bars and cuffs can have sharp or heavy points to them. To reduce that, use cuffs made from softer material and spin them around until most of the metal hardware is pointing away from your face. Try to use a padded spreader bar or a lightweight one. If you really want to reduce risk, you could tie fabrics (or sweatshirts) overtop of the captive’s cuffs, but that’s definitely going to look ridiculous. (Feel free to add in humiliating phrases to make it clear it’s “their fault” they can’t control themselves so you don’t get a nice “sexy thing to look at”.)

To further prevent any tripping or falling, I’d recommend you do this scene in flat feet or flat shoes. An errant kicking leg could tip you sideways while wearing heels, and you don’t need to sprain an ankle for this kinky scene (though that’d be a good story!)

You might also find that this position leaves your captive’s hands, knees, and back a bit stiff. Use a soft mattress, pillows, and gentle repositioning as best as possible to keep them comfortable. Swapping spreader bar widths can allow them to reposition while still maintaining the bondage. For some people, though, staying in this position for a long time may be a no-go, and you’ll need to modify as needed.

An easy solution: simply swap the captive to lay flat on their back. You can do this mid-scene as needed or simply start that way. Their feet will still be accessible and tickle-able. However, this position allows the captive to flail a LOT more (so be careful), and it removes some of the vulnerability of the face-down, ass-up position.

To reduce the likelihood of pulled muscles, make sure your captive is warmed up and stretched ahead of time. A warm, recently moved body is less likely to injure itself in tight positions. Anything cardio can accomplish this – including forcing them to masturbate in strenuous positions. ;)