Femdom Locktober Calendar

It’s almost October, and you know what that means: Locktober is just on the horizon! This Locktober calendar will ensure you really capture the “spirit” of Locktober with challenges every day to keep your denial at the edge of your mind.

And none of them require a chastity cage or a keyholder!

Feel free to explore this Locktober calendar whether you’re solo or coupled, vulva or penis, locked in a device or not. As long as you’re denying yourself and having a great time, you’re doing Locktober right!

What You’ll Need for this Locktober Calendar

This Locktober calendar calls for you to have access to a few items within your home. In most cases, if it isn’t a standard item, I’ve tried to provide an alternative option.

If you complete the Locktober calendar as written, you’d need:

A chastity cage (if you’re using one)
Your favorite adult material
A bondage method that’s safe to sleep in
A toy/vegetable to practice oral sex on
Nipple clamps
A penetration-safe sex toy
Bondage-safe rope
Two pieces of paper and pen/pencil
Underwear-friendly laundry detergent
A vibrator
A butt plug
A skin-safe marker
A kinky audio hypnosis track

I recommend reading through every seven days at a time to gather the items you need, then laying these items out in an easy-to-see place. Since the items will already be there and waiting, it also helps with ensuring those tasks get done! I know how busy real life can be.

Locktober Calendar

All of these Locktober Calendar tasks do NOT require a keyholder. You’re free to modify them to include your keyholder, but I wanted to make the calendar as accessible as possible.

(This also reduces the drain on your keyholder as well; they shouldn’t be beholden to a calendar you’ve found on the internet. ;) )

Day 1

Today’s the day it all starts! I expect you to edge yourself 20 times today.

If you’re using a chastity cage for Locktober, you’ll then go straight into the cage.

If you aren’t, restrain your hands and hold them above your head for 5 minutes after the last edge. Can’t have you cheating already. ;)

Day 2

Half of the fun of Locktober is the community. After all, if you were doing Locktober solely for yourself, you could simply do it in April or July. You’re doing it to be a part of Locktober with everyone else.

With that in mind, find where you’ll be interacting with your Locktober “community” and post about your excitement for the month.

This might be a close friend that you’re texting or a kink forum you’re posting in. It might be a kink-friendly social media network, and it might simply be a private Discord or Telegram chat. However you’re doing it, get involved to get the moral support you’ll need to make it through the entire month – and to make this femdom Locktober calendar the most fun it possibly can be!

Day 3

Let’s really rub in your denial today. (pun intended)

Today, you’re going to spend at least two hours looking at porn, creating a playlist of some of your favorite clips. I expect the playlist to be at least 10 minutes in length and feature videos that really appeal to you.

If you aren’t someone who enjoys Tube sites, take the same premise and apply it to your erotic material of choice. That might mean:

Spending 2 hours laying in bed, fantasizing. Latch on to a few fantasies and plan to replay them often this month.
Read through some of your favorite erotica books, and bookmark a few favorites and place them in a pile. Plan to reread them this month.
Watch some of your favorite full-length erotic movies and make a note where some of your favorite action happens.
Scroll through Twitter and find some of your favorite GIFs, videos, and pictures. Make a specific List with just those content creators.

Enjoy the porn viewing. You won’t get nearly as much porn again until November.

Day 4

Have you ever slept in bondage? Tonight’s the night.

Using safe bondage options, you’ll be heading to bed in bondage to keep your sex drive amped up overnight.

This might look like simply wearing your wrist cuffs, unclipped, on both your wrists. If you don’t have gear, this might look like burrito-ing yourself in a blanket for sleep or wearing tight – but safe – clothing.

Make sure your bondage option is safe for sleeping. Ropes, tapes, things around the neck, and metal bondage aren’t safe for sleeping. This how to sleep in bondage article will help point you in the right direction.

Day 5

If you’re following a Locktober calendar, you’re probably someone who enjoys some sort of adult entertainment.

Today, you’re going to be writing a heartfelt note to your favorite adult content creator thanking them for their work.

While being respectful, let them know that you appreciate their work. What do you love about it? What makes it stand out in the world of adult content? Are there specific, non-sexual things that you can compliment about their work? Try to avoid any comments on their body, and instead, focus on the quality and scenarios they do.

Feel free to send it – and remember, this is simply a short letter to make sure they know how appreciated they are. Do not expect a response or write like you’re expecting a response.

They might be an illustrator, an animator, a porn star, or an erotica writer. They might even be someone who occasionally posts a 140-word sentence on Twitter that spurs the fantasies you use later on!

Day 6

If your bits are going to be locked up, you really should be useful some other way.

Today, you’re going to spend 10 minutes practicing oral sex. If you prefer to give oral sex to people with penises, this might mean getting a dildo or cucumber to suck off.

If you’re partial to giving oral sex to vulvas, this might mean cutting open a round fruit (like an orange!) or taste-free penis stroker (harder to find than a taste-free dildo, honestly!).

Spend 10 minutes practicing intentional oral sex on it. Don’t phone it in; if your jaw/tongue isn’t feeling a bit worked over by the time you’re done, you need to try harder.

Day 7

Have you tried nipple clamps before? They’re an equal-opportunity sex toy; most of us have nipples!

If you have nipple clamps, you’re going to wear them for 15 minutes today while you look at porn.

If you don’t have nipple clamps, you’re going to actively grope and play with your nipples for 15 minutes while looking at porn.

Either way, we’re playing with the chest today! ;)

(Learn more about nipple clamps if you’re brand new to them!)

Day 8

Penetration play!

Today, you’re going to spend 20 minutes penetrating yourself in the way you enjoy.

That might be orally, vaginally, or anally – and that might be with your fingers, a cucumber, a dildo, a vibrator, or a butt plug. Whatever it is, you’re going to do it for 20 minutes today.

Pause, if needed, to avoid orgasms. Just remember to pause the timer too. ;)

Day 9

Selfie day!

Spend at least an hour today taking intentional, high-quality photos of yourself.

You can focus on any parts of you that you’d like (underwear set? chastity belt? your ass?), but I want you to focus on making these good, intentional photos. Don’t just phone it in.

Use these tips to up the quality of your photo, and play with different poses and angles to see what works best on your body.

After all, don’t you want to memorialize the 31 days you intentionally chose not to orgasm?

Day 10

Wear your clothes into the shower today.

Do you know how different showers feel if you’re still clad in all of your clothing? It can feel funky – and kinda sensual too!

Remove each layer of clothing as you shower, paying special attention to how it feels and drapes on your skin. This is all about the new sensations.

Feel how your wet clothing could honestly be heavy enough to function as bondage of its own. ;)

Take your regular shower once you’re fully undressed in your shower. To save on water, you could even wash your clothing by hand while you’re in there. Look at how useful you are!

Day 11

For the next 7 days, you’ll be keeping track of how many times you touch your genitals for more than 1 second. While we’re primarily talking about sexual teasing, being “thorough” after urination counts too.

There’ll be a punishment coming for all of this teasing you’re doing to yourself, so start counting now. ;)

For tonight, though, you’ll be sleeping in bondage. Ensure your bondage is easily escapable (in case of emergency!), but you’ll be expected to spend the entire night in some form of bondage.

This may look like simply wearing your cuffs to bed – or you might restrain an ankle to the bedframe. For those with safe supervision, this could even involve a sleep sack.

Don’t phone it in; challenge yourself to be bound as safely and as thoroughly as possible.

Day 12

Today, you charge your sex toys.

What did you think would happen when you followed a Locktober calendar from a sex toy-obsessed femdom?

Did you know that most sex toys function best if they’re fully recharged at least once every 60 days? Don’t let hundreds of dollars go to waste with early sex toy deaths if you can avoid it.

So, if you’re a sex toy slut, you’ll be spending a lot of time today. ;)

If you don’t own any rechargeable sex toys, inspect any sex toys you do have to ensure they’re in good condition and clean them as needed.

Feel free to reminisce about some of the favorite times you’ve had with those toys while you’re cleaning them. That’s how nice I am.

Day 13

Follow an online tutorial and tie a full-body rope harness underneath your clothing today. You’ll be “wearing” it all day.

Account for extra time in the bathroom if you need to untie it for restroom purposes. You’ll be tying it back on.

This is a great YouTube video that shows how to tie a full-body rope harness.

If you don’t own any rope, wear the underwear or lingerie that makes you feel sexiest all day.

Day 14

Today, we’re putting some of that pent-up energy to good use.

Find a recipe you’ve been meaning to cook, and you’re going to bring it to life. Bonus points if it’s healthy.

Oh, and you’ll be doing it naked. Because that’s how a chaste person like you should be. ;)

Day 15

Today, you’ll practice your humping skills. Will you ever have any use for them again? Dunno. Might not. But just in case, we’re going to make sure you’re prepared.

Spend 20 minutes grinding against a surface of your choice, practicing fluid, sensual movements of your hips. Beds, pillows, washing machines, or grindable sex toys are all good options here.

Take breaks, as needed, to avoid orgasming.

Day 16

Let’s practice oral sex again.

Follow the instructions on Day 6 – but I want you to do 20 minutes instead of 10.

We’re strengthening those muscles to make you more useful in the best of ways. ;)

Day 17

Let’s work over your hand today instead.

Get two pieces of paper and a pen/pencil.

Fill in the blanks, and write this sentence enough times to fill up both pieces of paper.

“As a _________, I really wish____________”

Fill in the blanks with however you’re feeling – but the sluttier the better. Some great examples:

As a locked chastity whore, I really wish I could touch my cock right now.
As an obedient slave, I really wish I could make my Mistress orgasm today.
As a horny guy who can’t focus, I really wish I could cum tomorrow.
As a horny woman who wants to please her Master, I really wish I make it through Locktober.

Fill those pages front-to-back for brownie points. ;)

Day 18

You remembered to count up how many times you touched your genitals for more than 1 second, right?

Today, you’re going to spank yourself 3 times for each time you did that over the last seven days.

Bend over your couch or bed, naked, for those spankings. You should feel punished like the misbehaving person you are.

Day 19

Flip a coin.

If it’s heads, you have a day off. Enjoy it. You don’t get many.

If it’s tails, you’re expected to edge yourself 15 times today. If you’re wearing a chastity device, you’ll be removing it today for maintenance cleaning – and to complete those 15 edges.

Take as long as you need; no orgasms allowed here. Just squeaky clean, worked up genitals.

Back in your device (if applicable!) when you’re done!

Day 20

What’s one fantasy you’ve always wanted to act out?

You’re almost 3 weeks into your denial, so you should really be feeling the “erotic juices” flowing.

I expect you to write at least 2 pages worth of an erotic story detailing that fantasy. What does it feel like? What aspects are important to you? Is there a certain locale you imagine?

It doesn’t need to be great; it just needs to be written. Spend as much time – or as little time – as you’d like getting it done.

If you have a partner (now, or in the future!), this can be a great springboard for discussing your fantasy and how to make it happen in real-life.

Day 21

Today, you’re learning how to handwash lingerie.

Whether you want to wear lingerie of your own or serve someone who has lingerie, there’s a surprising amount of clothing out there that’s handwash only.

If your parts aren’t going to be accessible for play, you should really know how to service your partner in other ways.

Today, you’re going to take all of your unclean underwear and wash it by hand in the sink. Bonus points if you have any delicate items of clothing (like lace!) that you could wash as well.

These YouTube tutorials will help explain the basics of washing delicate items: Rebecca Page, POPSUGAR.

Take special care of the clothing, pretending it’s some of the treasured lingerie of someone you care for.

Do a good job; you’re not throwing these undies back in the washer when you’re done. You’re expected to wear the clothing you’ve washed. They’re clean now, right?

Day 22

You’re probably riding high on that sexual energy by now, aren’t you?

I want you to put it to good use by figuring out a self-improvement project for November.

Whether you want to practice things to be a good submissive or simply want to drink more water, I want you to set an achievable November goal and determine how you’re going to make it happen come November.

Make the plans now so that you can succeed in November.

Being as lewd or as practical as you’d like, I’d recommend goals like:

Drink more water (incrementally aim to drink more water each day in November)
Get better at cooking (try to cook 1 new dish a week)
Find movement pathways you love (try 1 new workout type a week)
Become a better dick-sucker (set out 2 days a week to practice sucking and strengthening your mouth muscles)
Take larger anal toys (set out 2 days a week to practice anal penetration)
Look better in high heels (Twice a week, 1-hour timespans spent in heels at home)

Day 23

Today, you try on erotic outfits.

Do you know what you’d wear if you were going to go to a kinky dungeon or sex party?

If not, why not?

Today, you’re going to figure it out. Pull out some of the kinkiest items in your closet, and spend time mixing and matching until you figure it out. Take notes if you think something is missing that you’d need to buy.

Don’t forget to accessorize. Collars? Leashes? Floggers? Cuffs? What accessories can you add to take this hot outfit to the next level?

When you’re done, take a photo of your complete outfit. Bonus points if it shows off your chastity device (if you’re wearing one!)

Now, you’ve removed a barrier to trying a kink party for yourself in the future. You’ve already got the outfit picked out!

If you already go out to kink events dressed to the 9’s, create a new outfit.

Day 24

Getting awfully close to release day at the end of this Locktober calendar, aren’t you? You can almost taste it.

Get another feel of what it’d feel like by sitting in your favorite masturbation spot and pretending to masturbate. Spend 5 minutes pretending to jerk off in your favorite way.

That might be pretending to hold a clitoral vibrator, or pretending to pound yourself with a dildo. You might just simply move your curled hand up and down as if you were stroking your shaft. Boo-hoo. :(

Day 25

Today’s a bit of a cheat day.

You can repeat any previous day of your choice.

Need more oral sex practice? More sleeping in bondage? More edging?

Today is the one day you get to make a choice for yourself.

Enjoy it while it lasts. ;)

Day 26

Let’s make this final week even harder, shall we?

Get a vibrator, and hold it between your thighs.

No orgasms, but you’re expected to hold that vibrator against your body for 15 minutes total today.

If that means you only get 30 seconds and have to take a minute break, well, you’ve only done 30 seconds.

I recommend your cell phone to make timing this easier. Make sure you get all 15 minutes!

(If you don’t have a vibrator, use your washing machine or grind up against a pillow.)

Day 27

Public play day!

Today, you’ll be wearing a butt plug in public.

Slide in your reasonable, comfortable butt plug and head out. If you’re busy, this might look like running errands. If you have a bit more time, this might look like sitting at the park or having dinner at a restaurant.

Make sure to pack a “just in case” bag for your public play. It should have a small bottle of lube (to refresh your lube, if needed), a closable disposable baggie (in case you need to remove the plug in public), and a wet wipe (in case you need to clean yourself up a bit after removing the plug). All of those items should store in an opaque bag to hide the butt plug if you need to remove it.

If you don’t have a butt plug, you can choose something kinky to do in public. This might be wearing a hands-free vibrator, wearing lingerie under your clothing, wearing clothing tighter or skimpier than you’d usually be comfortable with, or anything else that pushes your usual “comfortable” boundaries. Try something new to really amp up that sexual energy!

Day 28

What are the best sexual things about you?

Today, we’re going to write them all over your body in washable, skin-safe marker.

Sure, degradation is fun, but it can be just as embarrassing to have your good sexual qualities written all over your skin for anyone to see too. ;)

Expert at not touching my cock
Filthy erotica writer
Ready to do anything you ask
Cums on command
Pint-sized cock for easier blowjobs
Extra-wet and ready to be used
Gives cunnilingus on command
Plush booty for ramming protection
Small tits perfect for sucking
Big tits ideal for fucking

I expect at least 3 different phrases written on your body. They’ll stay on your body all of today. Rewrite them if they start to sweat off.

Day 29

Back to penetration! Spend 30 minutes actively penetrating yourself in whatever way you enjoy! That might be grinding against a butt plug, sliding a cucumber into your mouth, or using your hand to pound yourself vaginally with your favorite dildo.

Whatever you choose, you’re doing 30 minutes of it today. What a nice surprise for the end of the month. ;)

Day 30

You’re almost there! Today, you’re going to be listening to an audio hypnosis track while you head to bed. (If you need to do it during another time of day to protect your sleep schedule, feel free!)

Listen to your favorite audio hypnosis track tonight while heading to bed. Feel free to fall asleep to your hypnosis track; there’s something to be said about absorbing information into your unconscious brain while you’re sleeping. ;)

To find kinky hypnosis options, use these search terms (or ones for your own kink) on tube sites:

femdom hypnosis
kinky hypnosis
edging hypnosis
chastity hypnosis
sissy hypnosis
abdl hypnosis

Day 31

Tomorrow is the big day! You’ll have finished the femdom Locktober calendar!

Today, you get ready.

Get all of your sex toys charged, make sure you have the lube you need, and start clearing your schedule to luxuriate in all of the stroking you’re going to get tomorrow.

Oh, and you’ll be watching over that porn playlist you made on Day 3 today. Feel free to add even more to it. You’re probably worked up enough to go deep into gooning space as you watch porn. If that’s your thing, have at it.

And have a good cum tomorrow. ;)

Inspiration for this Locktober Calendar

Inspiration for this Locktober calendar came from Jade_McLewd on Twitter, foot domination clips, and Volfgangbang on Twitter.

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