How to Give a Femdom Titjob

You’ve heard of femdom blowjobs and femdom handjobs, but today, let’s talk about how to give a femdom titjob. Let me start by saying:

every titjob a femdom gives is a femdom titjob.

It doesn’t require lots of frills and extra work on the femdom’s part to “be dominant”. The whole point of “being the dominant” in any relationship is that the dominant gets to do what they want (within the boundaries of consent, obviously).

If that femdom wants to give a titjob, that’s it: that’s all that’s required to make it “femdom”.

The “fem” chooses to do an act, and their partner agreed as it was within their consented-upon boundaries.

BUT you probably didn’t click into a how to give a femdom titjob article to be told that everything you’re doing is already as kinky as possible, so let’s go over some ways to add some additional power exchange and kink flavor to your titjob fun.

How to Give a Femdom Titjob: Use Bondage

Adding bondage to your scene is always my first suggestion, and it’s for a good reason: it’s surprisingly easy and it’s surprisingly effective. Why make things harder on yourself if you don’t have to?

Simply add a bit of bondage to your submissive partner to make them “feel” like the submissive partner in this sex act.

This doesn’t mean that you have to do all of the titjob work now either. Feel free to use bondage to restrain them in a way that doesn’t impact much of their movement. For example, you can simply fasten an ankle to an Under-the-Bed Restraint System which will keep them on the bed, but it won’t necessarily keep them from thrusting up against you unless you tighten the tether very tautly.

Make It Uncomfortable…for Them

Let’s be fair: giving a titjob is already an awkward movement. Somehow, your breasts need to match up with a penis’s height while simultaneously coating yourself in lube and not getting cum in your eye. Fun times.

You’ve already been tolerating all of this bullshit, so why not pass some of that off onto them?

Intentionally find a titjob position that feels comfortable for you but is a stretch for them. Make them do the work to feel that luscious skin of yours wrapped around their cock. I promise; it’s entertaining AF.

Some ideas:

• Find surfaces that place your chest slightly above their penis height when you’re near them. This requires them to get onto their tippy toes in order to make each thrust.
• Lay down on a bed, on your side, facing them, and restrain a limb or two of theirs to a bondage point behind them. Now they’ll need to try to thrust into the titjob without use of a hand or foot – which can be hilariously lopsided.
• Use bungee-style straps or workout resistance bands to bind your submissive at a bondage point behind them. You then stand/lay in front of them with a bit of space in between you both. Each time they thrust between your breasts, they’ll have to literally fight the bands’ resistance, adding a workout to the entire experience. If it fits into your dynamic, this can be a great way to make fun of them for their lack of strength/cardio capabilities.

Set a Time Limit

How long do they get the privilege of touching your luscious chest? Simply setting a time limit adds to the franticness and limited availability of this gift you’ve bestowed upon them.

Up the intensity by letting them know that they won’t be having an orgasm today unless they cum during the time limit you set for your femdom titjob.

Use Chemical Substances as Lube

Are you into chemical and sensation play?

If so, there are various chemicals that won’t feel like much on sealed, intact skin – but will feel like hell on the mucous membranes of the penis. I’m talking about things like cooling lubes, warming lubes, or Icy Hot.

You can use some of these as “lubes” for your femdom titjob to instantly make them feel the double-edged sword of pain and pleasure.

Just make sure your skin is entirely intact first! If you have any ingrown hairs or cuts on your chest, you very well could burn yourself – which entirely defeats the point! (I highly recommend a trial run with your desired liquid/sauce ahead of time to see how your skin reacts.)

Numb their Cock First

Wouldn’t it be fun if you went through all of the trouble and niceness to reward them with a femdom titjob…and they couldn’t even feel any of it?

That can be the fun that awaits you if you find some numbing cream to slather all over their penis before giving them a titjob. Creams/sprays that “prevent premature ejaculation” can be an easy, penis-friendly option here.

Now, they get the visual of receiving a titjob, but they don’t get to feel any of it! How deliciously evil.

Check your own chest for any open cuts/sores/ingrown hairs before doing this one to avoid any painful sensations on yourself.

Expect that your own chest flesh will be numb as well after this titjob. If you want to try to contain the spray, feel free to use a condom overtop of their penis, but honestly, that numbing spray just tends to get everywhere when you use it, so go into it expecting numbed skin afterwards.

(i.e., you’re probably not going to get much pleasure from nipple play for a couple of hours when you’re both done.)

For some submissives, lack of sensation may mean that they lose their erection – which may make it more difficult to maintain a femdom titjob. Keep this in mind if your scene specifically involved taking this titjob to a specific point.

Add a Painful “End” and Blindfold Them

Depending on your chest size and their penis length, your submissive’s penis may poke out from between your breasts on some of the titjob strokes.

This can be a great place to add some fun pain. Simply hold something unpleasant/painfully textured on top of where their penis will poke out. You could wear a pair of vampire gloves – or hold ribbons of spikes there.

For each deep thrust that pushes the penis out from between the pillowy softness of the chest, there will be a painful “end” waiting for them.

For extra sadism, blindfold your submissive and command them to do the thrusting. They won’t have much of an idea when they’re about to go “too far”, and you’ll have an entertaining time watching them fight between their interest in more pleasure – and their avoidance of accidentally poking their dick with a sharp object.

Count Their Strokes

This can be a great one if your submissive is into general humiliation, premature ejaculation, or small penis humiliation.

Simply make them count out each one of their thrusts out loud. You can even make them thank you after each one, if you’d like.

Especially if they’re really turned on, that number may not be very high before they accidentally cum – and you have some great humiliation fodder on them.

If you want to take it up to another level and you have a larger chest, they are only allowed to count a stroke if the entire head of their penis pokes out from the other side of your chest. If you have a large chest and they’re of average size, this may not happen too much – and this can be a great number to use for any small penis humiliation. (“I haven’t even seen it once yet! It’s so small!”)

Use Their Flaccid Cock

Is their inability (or unreliability) to get hard a factor for erotic humiliation for the two of you?

If so, your femdom titjob could include offering this titjob – and then a lot of verbal humiliation about how it just won’t work because they can’t “get it up”. I recommend being a bit over the top about how nice you are even offering this, and they’re still letting you down even though you were so nice.

Feel free to play up trying to stuff it between the breasts or talking about how small it is that it won’t even fit between the breasts. You can choose to fully deny any further pleasure for them that day because of your “disappointment” or make them “show their worth” to you in another way (like via oral sex) because “their cock certainly isn’t part of the reason you keep them around”.

It’s entirely up to the two of you and your dynamic! 

Use That Femdom Titjob as a “Reward”

Nothing says “I’m in charge in this dynamic” like requiring specific tasks to be done to even earn the privilege of being able to touch your body. That’s why, if you’re trying to figure out how to give a femdom titjob, I’d recommend using the very act of the titjob as a “reward” for your submissive partner.

Let them know that you won’t even consider giving them a titjob unless they complete some task.

This could be a chore they’ve been putting off, or it could be related to your own pleasure. Some fun examples:

“I will consider giving you a femdom titjob once you:..”

• Have given me 10 orgasms with your mouth
• Have provided the perfect pedicure with no color outside the lines
• Have impressed me with the perfect cup of coffee

How to Give a Femdom Titjob: Turn It into a Spa Day

Are you someone who loves being pampered?

If so, consider attaching a femdom titjob to the end of submissive-led spa day.

Let your submissive know that they’ll always earn the privilege of sliding between your breasts if they arrange a mini spa “staycation” for you to relax ahead of time. After all, don’t they want your breasts to be as lotioned and soft as possible?

As most submissives will be absolutely lost as to what this entails and what you’d like out of it, make sure to have the mental energy to craft a list and lay out, step-by-step, what you’d like to happen. This may entail a specific shopping list to ensure they get the correct items you’ll both need to make that spa day happen.

Your little spa day might look something like this:

• Your submissive draws you a warm bath with your favorite bath products.
• They refill your drinks and provide anything you need while you’re in there.
• They provide a warmed towel to towel you dry.
• They put on your full-body, after-bath lotion.
• They sit you down or lay you down for a light massage with relaxing music.
• Once you’re fully relaxed, you allow them the enjoyment of a titjob while you enjoy the floaty, relaxed space they’ve created.

Expect the spa day to take a few practice tries before it starts feeling like the fantasy escape you had in mind. After all, your local spa location has had years of practice to perfect it. Your submissive will need time too.

Use a Sex Doll’s Chest Instead

Not in the mood to shower off a ton of lube? Would you rather watch? Honestly, I find it hot AF to watch my submissive fuck “another woman”, and a sex doll makes that surprisingly easy and conflict-free.

If your sex doll has softer, plushier breasts, that can work just as well for a femdom titjob.

Think of it like giving jerk off instructions – only you’re giving instructions about how your submissive can enjoy the titjob with a sex doll. You can command them to go slower, push the breasts together more, go deeper, or even change positions entirely.

He does all of the work, and you get to be a lazy femdom while enjoying all of the visuals. And it can feel great for everybody involved (especially if you end up using sex toys on yourself). It’s a win-win all around.

How to Give a Femdom Titjob: Ignore Him Entirely

While it’s much easier to indulge in an ignore kink while giving a femdom handjob, you can still do it while giving a femdom titjob.

Simply throw something up on the TV – or an audiobook on the speaker – and let them “use” your chest while you ignore them completely.

You’ll still be bothered by the creature humping your boobs, but if you’re trying to indulge in a bit of a femdom ignore kink fantasy, this can still make it happen. You just won’t be as undisturbed as other methods.

Updated: March 2024, November 2023, October 2023, August 2023.