Your submissive has asked you for humiliating facesitting. They may have confessed an interest in being humiliated while you’re on their face, or you already know they love humiliating and degradation, and you want to figure out a way to add it to more of your activities.
Or, you badass you, you might have even taken the reins here, and you’re going to add some humiliation and degradation to the facesitting you and your partner already do. (Just make sure they’re into humiliation first!)
For whatever reason, I’m here to make that fantasy come to life with your humiliating facesitting how-to guide.
Here are some easy ways to add humiliation, embarrassment, and degradation to your facesitting and queening BDSM scenes:
Wear Underwear
Facesitting while wearing clothing can feel very different than nude facesitting. It can add a barrier between you and your giver’s face. You can really “emphasize” that barrier and why you want it with words:
- You don’t really deserve to taste my pussy.
- I hope the fabric gives you friction burn. I want you to remember your place when you’re eating lunch tomorrow.
- If you’re good, I’ll take off my panties, but you have to prove it’s worth the effort first.
- You’re just a little pantysniffer now, aren’t you?
You can make this underwear as kinky as you’d like. Wear lingerie. Make it days’-worn underwear for intensity. Require them to wear your underwear ahead of time then put it on yourself to sit on their face. It’s entirely up to you.
Wearing clothing may reduce how much sensation you receive from facesitting, and if that’s not going to get you the pleasure you want, make sure to require pleasure elsewhere. Even though we’re trying to make this facesitting humiliating for your partner, you should still get what you want out of it!
Humiliating Facesitting after Prolonged Edging
Get your giver all nice and turned on with a prolonged edging and orgasm denial session. You really want them “lost” in horny brain to make this work, so feel free to spend a few hours getting them ramped up with absolutely no relief.
Once they’re there, it can be awfully humiliating to straddle their face…but stay just slightly out of reach. Make them use their words to beg for it. Make it clear that they won’t receive any relief until they’ve satisfied you to whatever level of satisfaction you want.
…and they can’t even begin to satisfy you until they’ve debased and begged well enough that you deign to lower yourself onto their undeserving face. ;)
This one can be a great fit to add in bondage. If they’re unable to move their hands or crane their neck, they really will be entirely at your mercy and whether you choose to sit on their face. This can really amp up how well they need to beg.
Queening after a Workout
If, and only if, you’re comfortable with it, facesitting after a workout can feel really humiliating for the giver. You can amplify this humiliation by the words you use; mention that it’s not worth showering before making them lick you or humiliate them for how much they enjoy even being underneath your unwashed ass.
Bonus points for being fresh enough off the workout that you’re still dripping sweat.
Or get creative with a water dropper that you’re holding to “drip” water onto their arms while they’re underneath you. If they can’t see you, they’ll assume you’re dripping sweat. ;)
Use Your Squish
Do you happen to have thick thighs, a cute squishy tummy, or a bodacious bum? If you aren’t in the mood for oral sex at the moment but your bottom is really craving some humiliating facesitting, simply sit on their face with other parts of your body!
Make sure your receiver knows that they don’t deserve the sexual parts of you. All they deserve is to be used as a seat, the only possible task they could be qualified for. If you’re in the mood for it, further tease and reinforce their lowly status by using a sex toy to pleasure yourself instead.
However, it’s really vital here to ensure you have a tap-out system established with your bottom. Squishy parts like thighs, tummies, and bums have a lot less built-in space around them. You can suffocate someone very easily with the all-encompassing weight of your body.
If you’re a bit of a sadist, you can also dangle the promise of those sexual parts of you above their head. Let them know that they might get a taste of your orifices if they orally pleasure your thigh well enough. ;)
This is also a type of humiliating facesitting that can be done solo with help of chubby sex dolls. The bottom lays on their back and places the sex doll overtop of their face, enjoying the feel of heft and squish on their face. Just make sure to give your sex doll a good, thorough clean first!
Use Bondage for a Humiliating Facesitting
If you want a simple way to make anything feel more dominating and embarrassing, just use a little bit of bondage. It’s simple for you, but it can make a huge difference for the bound person.
They aren’t “just” agreeing to have their face sat on when bondage is involved. They simply “don’t have a choice” anymore. It’s “impossible” for them to escape when they’re secured to the surface beneath them, unable to move.
How extensive you want to get with your bondage is up to you. You can simply restrain the hands and feet, making it impossible for them to get up. If you want things to really feel “stuck”, though, you’ll want to look at chest straps and other upper-body bondage to keep them from raising their head and shoulders to try to get where they want to go.
As always, though, make SURE to keep your partner’s breathing in mind. Once they’re fully bound and unable to move, an asshole or vulva on their face can make it literally impossible to breathe. Work in a safe action or double-tap when they’re at a point where they need air and you may not have realized it.
Get Creative with an Ejaculating Dildo
There are a lot of fun ways to involve an ejaculating dildo in a humiliating facesitting scene. Most notably, this can be really arousing degradation play for those who are into cuckolding.
Have a great time with your ejaculating dildo ahead of time. You can force your captive to use the dildo on you, or you can use it on yourself while they watch. You could even strap it onto them, if that’s the type of play you enjoy.
If you’re trying to make this an embarrassing facesitting with cuckolding overtones, feel free to use dirty talk to really embellish while you’re using the ejaculating dildo. Things like:
- Oh, he fucks me so much better than you ever can.
- Mmmm, this is what a real man really feels like!
- Oh, god, I’m never going to go back to useless cuck cock again!
You get the idea.
When you’re ready, trigger the dildo’s ejaculation function, squirting the liquid of choice inside of you. (I’d recommend a cum lube for realism, but you can pretty much use anything that’s safe for your insides.)
Once that happens, tell your cuckold that they have to clean you up, and climb on top of their face. Again, dirty talk can make a huge difference here to set the fantasy in their head with statements like:
- How does it feel to taste a real man?
- Clean up his entire load. I might want to go another round with him!
- This is really where you were meant to be. You’re not even that good with your tongue, but you’re even worse with your dick! I deserve more than that.
- As soon as you’re done, you’re going into chastity. I don’t think I’ll ever need your useless dick again.
Add CBT or Cock and Balls Play
If you feel like leaning forward and can reach their genitals, this can be a great time to add CBT or Cock and Balls play.
Go slowly and ensure the person underneath you has explicit instructions not to hurt you. A surprise “ouch” on your receiver’s bits can cause them to jump or bite YOU, accidentally, in surprise. Make sure you’re doing your best to avoid that. Your bits are in THEIR mouth.
You can make this as casual or as in-depth as you want. A simple BDSM scene could just include squeezing their balls every time you feel like their technique is lacking or you want them to change what they’re doing. It’s like a little joystick game!
Add Jerk Off Instructions
If your facesitting giver has their hands free and can hear with your thighs on their head (this is worth testing before you plan out an entire scene), you can add jerk off instructions to your humiliating facesitting plan.
This is sorta like cock and ball play – only it’s easier on you, so you can focus more on the pleasure. Just bark out commands that they have to follow.
Just be aware that there’s a whole lot of stimulus (both physical and mental) going on right now, and it may be harder to keep them from cumming. Either make sure an accidental ejaculation is a potential outcome that you’re okay with or have a back-up gameplan (possibly to humiliate them for it?) if it happens.
Acquire a Queening Chair
Owning a queening chair, on its own, doesn’t have to mean a humiliating facesitting. There’s nothing degrading or embarrassing about using sex furniture to make pleasure better.
But simply owning a queening chair can be an arousing mental image in itself. It signifies that facesitting and queening will be a regular-enough part of your sex life to require specialized furniture for it.
You can mentally train your giving partner to see it that way with your words. Play up the queening chair’s place in your home with phrases like this:
- Now we have a place for pretty boys/girls like you to show why I should keep you.
- This stays out so you can always be of service to me.
- Make sure to adjust the queening chair to your measurements; you’ll be the only one underneath it!
- I wanted some furniture to make it easier for you to do your job.
- We got it just for you! Now you can spend hours there where you belong!
You want to train them to feel humiliated and submissive every time they see that queening chair meant just for them. ;)
Humiliating Facesitting After Using the Toilet
If you’re comfortable with it and you think your giver would be too, you can really amp up a humiliating facesitting by simply doing it right after you’ve used the toilet. For omorashi kinksters, this will be a dream come true, but for people without a bathroom kink, this can be embarrassing in its own way.
Feel free to wipe up as desired, potentially making it so nothing actually makes it “onto” the giver.
But even the fact that you’re doing it straight after using the toilet can be a pretty big point of degradation already.
For bonus points in a spacious bathroom, make them lay down right in the bathroom itself, going straight from the toilet to their face. Bathroom floors aren’t known for being particularly comfortable, and this can really add to the humiliation. You can even add a bondage board to add bondage to your bathroom floor. ;)
Updated: January 2025, December 2024, October 2024.
