BDSM Series: Riding Crop

December 29th, 09   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   1 Comment

I’m going to start a small series for help with different BDSM toys. It will include things to consider when buying them, safety concerns when using them, and different uses for the toys once you actually have them in your hands. Todays installment is going to be about riding crops.

Buying a Riding Crop
If you choose to hang your riding crop up when you’re not using it, make sure to look for a strap on the end of the handle. Aside from that, there’s a couple other things you will want to consider.

Images from edenfantasys.com. Text explaining this is below.

If you want more pain, get something that’s very small. Picture 1 (Narrow Tip Crop from Eden Fantasys) is a good example of this. Because it’s so small, it will cause more pain. If you want less pain for the bottom during use, get one with a bigger “tip”. You want something that has more surface area to cause less pain. Picture 2 (Riding Crop from Eden Fantasys) is a good example of this. This is because it has more surface to disperse the hit through rather than having a tinier surface that deals with all of the blow.

Images from edenfantasys.com. Text explaining this is below.

Another consideration is what the tip is made out of. If it uses a floppy piece of leather, then it *will* wrap around and cause more pain. Picture 1 (Mini Crop Medium from Eden Fantasys) is a good example. You can see that the leather is very flimsy and will move around during use. Anything that is firm will cause less pain than something that is allowed to wrap around. Picture 2 (Fresh Flower Crop from Eden Fantasys) shows this wonderfully. It’s firm leather and has no give, so it will not move while being swung.

Another great thing about riding crops is the versatility in the tips. Some have little hearts and some are just plain. With a hard-enough hit, it will leave an imprint on the skin. I’m sure if you look around different stores, you’ll notice cute little ones that will leave imprints.

The next consideration is one I can’t show you through pictures. The long “pole” that connects the tip to the handle is usually made of different strengths and consistencies. Some will be very flexible while others will be very rigid. For a beginner, I do recommend more rigid because they are easier to control. They also will do less damage because they don’t wrap around. More flexible ones will “move” during the swing, giving it more momentum behind the swing, and thus, they do hurt more.

Riding crops also usually come in different sizes. They may come as small as 16 inches and may go all the way up to 28 inches. It’s a personal preference as to which size you prefer. However, if your play partner has bigger hips or butt, you may want to consider having a longer riding crop just so you can cover all of the surface area in your swings. However, remember that, as the riding crop gets longer, it becomes more dangerous and harder to control as well. If you’re a beginner, I recommend a shorter crop.

Safety Issues
Riding crops are BDSM toys and should be treated as such. You should never spring one of these on your partner without asking first. You should certainly never hit someone without having spoken about it before. If you want to incorporate it into your current relationship, make sure you’ve spoken about it.

Riding crops also can cause damage. If you’re a novice, you should only strike the butt of your partner especially if you’re doing hard swings. There are nerves on the rest of the body that can be harmed with strikes. Remember to take things slow and start with very light swings until you both get the hang of the riding crop. To get a taste of how hard you’re hitting, it’s considered very wise (and a very experienced thing to do – almost all BDSM practitioners do it) to hit yourself on the thigh with the crop to understand how much it will hurt.

Different Uses
For someone inexperienced with riding crops, you would thing that the only use is just to take a huge strike with it. This, of course, is not the case, and it’s actually more pleasurable to use it in different manners.

For example, the best way to use it is with very light taps with the tip along the skin. Possibly mix in a harder swat to the butt after doing a couple of those short, quick taps. Once again, all hard swats should, and MUST, stay to the butt to avoid doing damage to your partner.

Another way that most people don’t consider is to use it as a cane. This is not the most optimal choice for any riding crop with a soft, floppy tip, but for those with a firm tip, it’s a good method. Instead of hitting your target with the tip, slide the length of the crop back and forth against your partner’s skin in “forewarning” of what’s to come. Then slowly put back and hit them using the middle part of the crop instead of the tip. I wouldn’t do this one too hard because it does hurt. Most people prefer to place a strike like this one right where the back of the thighs meet the butt.

Of course, the most obvious way to use a riding crop is to use the tip to hit something. However, that is painful, so I wouldn’t hit hard. Also, why not consider mixing in your little hits with dragging the riding crop sensually along the skin. Nobody says it always has to be painful. In fact, it’s more fun and lasts longer if you mix in pleasure as well.

Sidenotes
I guess I’d have to say that riding crops are a good place to start. They’re one of the easiest BDSM toys to control. They’re easy and cheap to find, and they come in such varieties that it’s also fun to collect more. Of course, this is also just advice, and I’m not responsible if you choose to disregard this advice and end up harming someone. All pictures in this post were also originally from Eden Fantasys.

Video
Subbie consented and tells me he couldn’t even feel it through his jeans, but here is the video for the uses of a riding crop. Don’t watch if you’re offended by someone being touched by a riding crop.

If you have questions but are uncomfortable posting here, please feel free to send me an e-mail at the.mistress.kay@gmail.com . I’m always happy to help or recommend toys. :)

1 Comment on "BDSM Series: Riding Crop"

Arthur says...
April 14th, 2010

Thanks for the instruction!

I was very interested in buying a riding crop, but couldn’t decide on length or flap size when I saw all of them. Now I know I’ll be buying a longer one with a smaller flap (for use of the shaft) and a shorter one with a nice big flap. :)

From a horse shop no doubt… Hope they won’t ask me about my horse. hahaha.

I just need someone to use it on, but that’s another dilemma all by itself. :P Been using sites and I will visit local meets from now on. I you have any advice on that too… ;-)

Once again, thanks!

~ Arthur




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