Femdom Goon Scene Ideas

Know your partner has a fetish for femdom goon play and looking for some ideas to make it a two-person activity? As a kink we regularly play with, let me share my decade of lifestyle domme experience with some of my favorite femdom goon scene ideas.

First, Let’s Understand Gooning

What is gooning? Why, exactly, would someone be attracted or into it?

Those are questions you’ll want to ask your partner, but let me give you some of the basic definitions so you aren’t flying into that conversation blind.

Edging: This is the act of masturbating to the “edge” of orgasm – but not actually having an orgasm. When someone is using the word “edging”, they are probably implying doing this as an on-going activity, intentionally going to the edge of orgasm (without orgasming) anywhere from 5 to 500 times in a single pleasure session.

Orgasm Denial: Some people, when they edge, will eventually let themselves orgasm. For those into orgasm denial, though, they won’t. At some point during their masturbation session, without achieving orgasm, they’ll just choose to be done, even though they’re still really horny and would like an orgasm. For people into orgasm denial, the act of not having an orgasm can be a huge turn-on.

Gooning: Think of “gooning” as these two activities taken to the extreme. People into gooning (“gooners” or “goonettes” as they may call themselves) will intentionally spend hours edging and masturbating without orgasm as their end goal. We’re not talking about going for a half-hour here. Gooners may spend hours “gooning” with some self-proclaimed gooners setting daily goals to go for at least 1, 2, or 3 hours. Gooning can easily become a “hobby” to itself.

It’s important to note that “gooning” comes with a certain level of sexual addiction – whether that’s played up for the fantasy or a real issue. If you end up down the rabbit hole far enough to consider yourself a gooner, you know that you love masturbating and/or porn, and you have cravings for it when you’re not doing it.

Some people love this because it can be an easy way to feel submissive without necessarily having a partner. Some gooners love the idea that they’re “lesser than a real man” because a real man would never be addicted to porn and constantly masturbating; they’d be out there trying to please a woman. Gooners may identify with the “simp” label as an erotic concept, and they may get turned on by the idea that they “aren’t worthy” to touch and/or see (censored porn is a real thing!) the porn stars they look at.

Others don’t necessarily associate power exchange with it. There are a lot of feel-good hormones that release when you masturbate and look/think about erotic things, and those hormones alone can be a pretty good reason to love gooning. It’s like getting to eat a luscious cake, for hours on end, with no calories involved.

It’s important to have a conversation with your submissive about gooning before you start. Everyone’s interest in gooning is unique, and you want to understand what they find a turn-on before you start fantasizing about scenes. Not only can this help you avoid any play-ending emotional landmines, but it can just make for sexier scenes overall.

By understanding what turns your partner on about gooning, edging, and denied orgasm, you can better play with the concepts behind them. You’ll better understand what turns your partner on, and you can better harness it while building your femdom gooning scene ideas.

A Quick Note of Caution

The brain is in a highly suggestible state when it’s this turned on and horny. This isn’t, necessarily, a bad thing. Being so mindless with arousal that someone will do anything for more pleasure is part of what we intentionally create in some of our BDSM scenes.

However, that very same energy makes renegotiating details mid-scene so dangerous. They’re in an altered, high-suggestible state where they’d agree to things that their reasonable mind wouldn’t normally agree to. You, as the domme of this scene, are responsible for ensuring anything you suggest falls within things they’d be okay with when they were stone-cold-unhorny.

This same aroused suggestibility can also have long-term consequences with repeated exposure. Just like Pavlov’s experiments, you can train the human brain to be turned on or respond in certain ways with constant repetition of rewards.

This means, if you continually reward certain behaviors or thoughts with sex and orgasm, the body will begin to associate those behaviors with sex and orgasm.

Our femdom goon scene ideas here can play with this learned response for fun, but it’s vital to note that constant repetition of some of these scenes can have a lasting, potentially-unexpected impact.

Sometimes, this can really be fun.

For a personal example, I always jerk off my submissive while wearing a glove. I just don’t like lube on my hands. Anytime he sees me pull out a glove, he’s already starting to get horny. Putting on gloves has simply been repeated, over and over, as the clear start to “the lube is coming out and you’re getting stroked”.

So when I pulled out a glove to eat a bag of cheesy potato chips and he started getting horny, it was hilariously humiliating for him and entertaining for both of us.

This isn’t always just a cutesy story, though. For example, if you’ve only allowed your submissive to cum to the sound of your voice stating “You can cum now, slut” for years, if you break up or pass away, your partner may be unable to orgasm entirely. They’ll need time (at a minimum), potentially all the way up to sex therapy in order to break this roadblock that has been trained in their brain.

While playing with any femdom goon scene ideas, please keep this in mind. Play responsibly with your partner. The quick and easy mental exercise for femdom goon harm reduction is just to think:

“If I died next week, would this leave lasting damage or problems?”

If the potential answer is “yes”, this scene/activity should be done rarely, and you should mix up its appearance with other arousal and orgasm triggers too. For even lower risk, reframe or rethink your scene/activity to reduce what aspects may cause this lasting damage. (From our above example, this might mean changing the verbal “You can cum now, slut” to the submissive being presented with a physical token that can be kept in their possession in case of a break-up.)

Let’s Get into These Femdom Goon Scene Ideas

Okay, excited? Let’s do this!

Supervised Gooning

If your bottom loves getting lost in porn or has an ignore kink, this one can be fun.

In it, just let them know that you’re going to be supervising their gooning. That’s it.

Then, simply watch as they masturbate. Really, that’s it.

The act of simply telling them that you’ll be watching because you said so can be a really hot way to amp up the feelings of submission without you actually having to do literally anything.

If you find it hot, you can masturbate yourself while they touch themselves. It’s kinky mutual masturbation!

If you’re not in the mood, you don’t have to do anything. You can read a book or play on your phone, occasionally looking up to make sure they’re “doing a good job”.

If you’re in a dominant mood, you can also set odd restrictions or limits on what they’re doing just to fuck with them. Tell them their left hand must be on their left thigh when they aren’t controlling their mouse. Tell them their lube bottle must be stored across their computer desk in-between lube applications.

Then have fun “punishing” them for each infraction. If you aren’t in the mood to move (because you’re comfy reading your book), simply verbally scold them and threaten a future punishment. For example, tell them things like “I told you to keep your hand there. No matter. I’m just extending your orgasm denial for another week. Learn to listen.”

You can add to the feeling of power exchange by making this sound like it really isn’t any consequence to you. You don’t care if they cum or not. It’s so beneath your potential worries or cares in the world. ;)

This is also one of those types of scenes that can be done online or over streaming, so it’s a great for professional camgirls, casual online play, or couples who happen to be apart for the scene.

Use Bondage for “Forced” Gooning

A lot of gooners are turned on by the idea of being addicted or unable to resist the allure of porn. While this can be extremely unhealthy if that’s actually the case, it can be a hot concept to play with for femdom goon scene ideas.

You can use bondage to reinforce this femdom goon “training”, telling them that you’re going to make sure they get addicted like the good little gooner slut that they are.

You can use the BDSM gear that you enjoy and have at your own house. Some of my favorite bondage ideas:

• Use ankle cuffs to bind them to their seat, forcing them to stay put to watch/read/look at porn and masturbate.
• Use a wrist cuff on their non-masturbating wrist to bind them to their chair.
• Wrap a posture collar around their neck, forcing them to leave their neck looking forward, exactly at the porn-filled screen you’ve positioned for them.
• Buckle them into pony-style blinders, making it impossible for them to use their peripheral vision, keeping their attention focused straight in front of them.
• Have them sleep in bondage (in easily escapable bondage) as they’re forced to listen to a playlist of porn videos all night.

(Keep in mind that you should never leave a bound person alone for their safety! If you choose to bind your bottom up while they’re gooning, make sure you’re around to unbind them. Even if there isn’t an emergency happening, your partner is probably going to have to pee or need a drink of water.)

Create a Gooning “Theater”

At any given time, there’s probably a lot going on in your home. The washer might be running, a delivery driver might be dropping off a package, or a phone notification might ding to try to steal your attention.

All of these are potential distractions from your bottom’s masturbation, and we can’t have that, can we?

Instead, with a bit of effort, you can create a masturbation cave or “theater”, forcing them to focus their full attention on the erotic material and masturbation that you desire.

• Dim or turn off the lights. Make the brightest thing in the room the porn that your gooner is enjoying. (Talk to your partner to figure out a happy medium. Eye strain with a single bright light source is a thing, so you’ll probably want some nearby light that isn’t too competitive.)
• Close the blinds and curtains. This reduces any outside movements that might catch their eye.
• Take advantage of the bondage ideas above to make it clear they aren’t moving from their spot.
• Use headphones. Wrapping headphones over their ears limits any distracting noises. If you still want to be able to talk to them, consider open-ear headphones or only one ear of the headphones. For ideal immersion, though, you want full noise-cancelling.
• Keep a bottle of water and lube nearby. The lube makes their masturbation more comfortable while the water ensures they don’t need to get up as they get dry.
• Adjust the temperature to comfortably neutral-to-cool temperature. The body gets warm and sweaty in arousal, but you also don’t want it to be so cold that they don’t want to strip off clothing.
• Cover their seated area with a towel or sex blanket. If your gooner is one who worries about or is self-conscious about leaving sweat stains or bodily fluids on the furniture, take that worry entirely out of their mind. This lets them better focus.
• Have their preferred sex toys nearby and charged. If your bottom likes to use sex toys during their masturbation and gooning, make sure they’re within easy-grabbing distance.

If you want to go all-out, you can take this to the next level with:

• Using parental software or work-focus software to remove the person’s ability to use the internet or any apps that aren’t the ones you’ve approved. And you only approved porn, right? ;)
• Taking their cell phone or turning off all notifications on their cell phone.
• Using a DVD or a carefully-curated playlist of no-ad videos/stories/images to ensure there are no disruptions in sexual content. This might also look like having a full selection of subscribed OnlyFans creators to scroll through.
• Ensuring they have literal hours of time where they’re not expected to do anything else. You want them to entirely get caught up in their gooning.
• Minimizing your movement or putting gear on them (mentioned above) to minimize any movements that aren’t on the porn screen. If you’re moving around a lot, it’s going to catch their attention. Ideally, you’d want to be seated/comfy behind them, away from their view, for easy supervision and to minimize any distractions to them.

Femdom Goon Scene: Require Things They’re Not Into

If they want to touch themselves, they’re just going to have to masturbate to the content you choose.

And you can choose whatever you want. ;)

Feel free to have fun here, putting together porn playlists of activities or vibes you know they wouldn’t necessarily be into. For example, if they’re straight, you might make an entire playlist made up entirely of lesbian or gay porn. If they want any sort of masturbation material, they’ll just have to make due with what you’ve given them. ;)

This can also be activities. If your submissive isn’t into spanking, for example, you can make them read entire erotic stories about spanking instead of their usual stories about consensual non-consent or chastity.

For best results, try to integrate these things they aren’t into with things that they are. If they’re into women, for example, have the spanking stories involve sex with women. You’re aiming to make their gooning and masturbation a little more unpleasant and under your control – not necessarily turn them off the idea of doing it entirely.

All of this can be a fine line, though. Make sure you choose something that’s not a hard limit or triggering. You want to choose activities that they wouldn’t necessarily choose for themselves but not things that are actively unarousing, triggering, or upsetting.

You can also use this same idea as a reward by choosing a specific person or model. If you’ve seen your gooner often commenting and liking a specific cam model’s content, you may require them to only masturbate to that model’s content – or you might purchase some of that model’s content as a treat for your gooner.

Audio-Only Femdom Goon Scene Idea

Is your gooner one who often looks at visual material? If so, this one can be a lot of fun.

Instead of letting them have free range on the entire internet, put together an audio-only playlist of whatever porn you want them listening to. The exacts will vary based on what you want (but that’s the point!), but your bottom will only be listening to the audio porn you’ve selected for them.

Once you’ve compiled a fun list, bind all of your bottom’s limbs except a single hand and blindfold them. Slide the headphones over their head, and let them goon while only listening to the playlist that you’ve compiled for them.

Some additional ways to add some femdom gooning dominance:

• The playlist is only a set length of time. After the playlist is up, they’re done gooning.
• You’ve pre-recorded your voice as the entire playlist. Maybe this is you talking about some fantasies you have or even just reading some erotic stories that you found online.
• You make the playlist match your kinks. You might be trying to get them into a new kink, or you might want to direct their attention towards activities and kinks that you’ve been excited to try. If so, you can make the entire playlist match your own goals.

Gooned Up and Seriously Denied

I’m not sure about you, but I find it absolutely hilarious when a bottom is absolutely desperate to cum, and they’re given permission to cum – but they are given a time limit (or method to cum) that simply won’t let them orgasm.

If you’re in the same boat, consider adding this as the end of a femdom goon scene where you don’t want your gooner to cum.

You can do this one of two ways:

• Set a time limit. Your bottom only gets 20 seconds to make themselves cum. Oh no! They couldn’t quite make it. :( (This works best if your gooner has had a lot of time to come down from their last edging session. If they’ve already been on the edge of orgasm for the last 30 minutes, a single touch might be all they need.)
• Require orgasm in a way that doesn’t get them off. Sure, they can orgasm after their gooning session today, but they’re not allowed to touch their penis/clit to do so. This might look like requiring them to orgasm from nipple or anal stimulation alone – or even setting out a specific image or video and only allowing them to orgasm if they can cum from their thoughts alone.

In either scenario, your gooner may actually be able to achieve orgasm if they’re really amped up, so make sure you’re okay with an orgasm if it does happen. This is probably a femdom goon scene idea to avoid if you’re intentionally trying to keep them horny and denied for future play.

Sexualizing Non-Sexual Activities/Things

Once you’ve hit a point where your bottom has been denied and edged long enough, you can have a lot of fun sexualizing things that aren’t necessarily sexual.

As noted in the “cautions” above, if you do this often enough, you can actually associate arousal with the activity or object, making for some pretty hot behavioral modification for those who are into it.

Some things you can do: some that I’ve done and some that I haven’t:

• Forcing him to edge and goon during certain sports’ games, sexualizing the act of watching your sport of choice.
• Forcing her to goon while wearing a specific “outfit” or while looking at specific clothing, associating it with masturbation and pleasure.
• Requiring use of condoms if he wants to goon, sexualizing condoms and making less resistance when we use them in other activities.
• Only allowing gooning or masturbation to completion after doing a specific activity or going to a specific place. They might only get to masturbate to orgasm after they’ve gone out to eat at your favorite restaurant. Mentions of your favorite restaurant will now turn them on. ;) You can also do this with healthier habits, like only allowing the possibility of orgasm if they’ve worked out directly before their gooning session.

“Goon” While Pleasuring You

Most of these femdom goon scene ideas don’t necessarily have direct physical stimulation for you, but this one does.

If you have the ability to hold the sex positions to make it possible, simply tell them that they’re only allowed to physically stimulate themselves when they’re actively pleasuring you.

This may look like scooting your butt to the edge of a bed, allowing them to kneel next to the bed to provide oral sex. This lets them still stroke themselves while pleasuring you.

If you have the sex toys or tech for it, this could also look like having your gooner slide into a sex doll or grind up against a hands-free vibrator that’s placed on the ground while they use their mouth to pleasure you.

You can really up the femdom goon scene intensity of this one by the words you choose to bring it to life. Things like:

• “Awww, isn’t it nice to get to goon while touching a real pussy? Don’t get used to it.”
• “If you’re going to be such a porn-addicted beta, you might as well make yourself useful to me. Lord knows your cock/pussy isn’t good for anything.”
• “Your little gooned out brain would do anything just to make a little spurt, wouldn’t it?”
• “Your silly little dicklet will never get to fuck me. The only thing you’re good for is your mouth, so you might as well get used to your hand.”

Weeks of Physical Pleasure Only While Pleasuring You

With the same idea, you can also choose to prohibit your gooner from having orgasms unless they’re actively pleasuring you for a set period of time.

Make it clear that, for the month, they’ll only be gooning with their own hand, no orgasms allowed. The only time they’re allowed an orgasm is if they’re actively pleasuring you in some manner (sex, hands, mouth – whatever you want).

This one can be especially hot if your submissive is into the idea of gooning making them more submissive.

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