JULY 2023 NOTE: The Incoqnito line is no longer available in production. Also, my photo quality 9 years ago left a lot to be desired. Please check out my current reviews for a much-better example of awesome sex toy photos.
The Incoqnito Necktie is one of the “discreet” items sold by Incoqnito that doubles as a regular day-to-day item as well as a bondage accessory. The Necktie is actually a real necktie by “day” and can become a leash and collar by “night”. The tie itself is made from polyester and is about twenty four inches long (about your average tie length) while the adjustable piece is metal. The metal comes in two different colors: gold and silver while the tie is always black.
Incoqnito always has some great packaging. The necktie is no different. The tie comes packaged in a discreet, black box with which the lid of the box pulls off from the top. The tie is curled up inside with the instruction manual inside as well. The tie may have wrinkles from being stored inside, but mine did not. The instruction manual just includes a basic picture and includes information on how to best use the collar/leash. The instructions actually showed me a lot of things that I hadn’t seen at first glance, so it’s worth looking at it. The box is suitable for gift-giving, and it’s possibly suitable for storage as long as you aren’t too worried about wrinkles. It might be recyclable in your local area.
The stuff that people come up with is amazing to me sometimes. I never would have imagined using a neck tie as a leash before. The submissive actually has some job interviews for internships coming up in the next couple weeks, so I think he’s going to be wearing this to the job interviews. The tie looks like a real tie, and because of the metal piece around the collar, it actually ends up looking more classy than a regular tie. It might actually look out of place around your more casual business look, though, so consider that. I never thought that anyone would make a collar and leash out of a necktie though. It’s actually kinda amazing.
Not only did they make a good collar and leash, they thought of some other stuff to make it even better. For one, during necktie wear, the “tie” actually has little small flaps around the neck portion that are tucked into the inner part of the tie. This does not feel scratchy or anything at all and is very comfortable. However, if you want to use it as a collar, the inner flaps actually fold out to give the collar more surface area. Why does this matter? More surface area means less pressure on one small area, so the collar ends up being more comfortable while your partner is tugging on the leash. After scenes, the little flaps tuck easily back into the inner portion of the collar again.
Another aspect of the collar that I didn’t know about was the handle. On the bottom-layer of the tie (usually the little piece when you tie a “real” tie), Incoqnito did an amazing thing and included a small extra piece of fabric. This extra piece is tied firmly onto the necktie, and what it actually ends up functioning as is a handle. They knew the material of the tie was a bit slick to hold onto, so you can slip your hand into this extra piece of material, and it works as a handle to keep your hand from slipping off the tie. Again, this is just downright genius. I never would have though of that.
For practicality’s sake, if you have tieing ties, this Incoqnito Necktie has you covered as well. Instead of tieing the tie, this tie just requires you to slip the metal piece away from the neck portion. After the neck portion gets big enough, you just pop your head into the neck portion and slip the metal piece back up to firmly “tie” your tie around your neck. No time wasted while tieing a tie to the perfect length. Again, if you just want to use this for sex play, that makes it very easy to put the collar around your neck too. With the submissive, we found that the collar portion is a pretty tight fit (without having to undo part of the necktie), but it does slip onto his head really easily once we get past the tight fit aspect of it.
The submissive says that the necktie is actually pretty comfortable to wear as well. He says that the material, while not very breathable, does not chafe or irritate his skin at all during long-term wear. He also says that, when I pull on it, it doesn’t hurt his neck at all. Overall, it looks really discreet when he wears it, and it looks professional and sexy as well. It’s easy for me to control him, and I don’t find myself getting annoyed at the leash. For a discreet bondage option, it definitely works.
The product packaging says that this necktie should only be dry cleaned only. This could make it a problem if you want to wear this tie out on a regular basis. However, because of the metal portion, I don’t think I’d recommend tossing this into the washer either. We’ve worn it a couple times and haven’t needed to clean it yet, but I’m not sure what we’re going to do once we do need to clean it. To remove fingerprints, the metal piece can be wiped down with a very slightly damp washcloth. For storage, this Incoqnito Necktie can be kept in the original box, or it can also be kept hanging with other ties.
I really like our Incoqnito Necktie sex toy. It’s a sexy product that is amazingly discreet. How often can you honestly wear your collar in public? Yeah, never. Incoqnito came up with a way to make bondage public-friendly without involving unwilling participants, and I think that’s amazing. The Incoqnito Necktie actually would make an amazing holiday purchase since the packaging is so fancy and the use of the collar is so unique. If you want a new way to experience public play, Incoqnito has you covered. Thanks so much to Incoqnito for providing their product for my Incoqnito Necktie review.
