How to Use a Male Masturbator Cup Sex Toy

The Alive One stroker in front of a record player. The record player is open, revealing an album on the turntable. The image is shadow-y and moody, and it has a lot of blacks and browns for a mature, upscale look.

Have you seen these toys around – and you’re curious about how to use a male masturbator cup sex toy? I’m all for new toys – and learning how to use them. So, let’s dive right in:

What IS a Male Masturbator Cup sex toy?

Before we jump into talking about how to use male masturbator cup sex toy, let’s first talk about what one is. Just like Fleshlights, the term “masturbator cup” used to have a very specific meaning – and it has slowly expanded over time as new products were introduced to the market.

That is, a decade ago, typing the word “male masturbation cup” into a search engine would most assuredly bring up one of the Tenga cups. Unique to the industry back then, these penis stroking devices got their name from their disposable “cup” design. Made from a hard exterior plastic, these stroking toys feel like a plastic drinking cup when you hold them – but they just happen to have squishy, fuckable internal parts to enjoy! If you ever pick up one of these Tenga cups (still popular today!), you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Nowadays, the term “male masturbator cup” has a broader definition, and it seems to be applied to many of the long, penis pleasuring toys released by many Asian brands. They’re extra long (much longer than the standard penis or a standard stroker) and made primarily from a thicker plastic.

In most cases, this male masturbator cup will have internal gizmos that work some magic around the shaft. The masturbator cup may have an internal stroking mechanism that moves up and down along the shaft. Other masturbation cups may have swirling or tightening motions.

This is distinctly different from your standard masturbation sleeve or penis stroker. In most strokers, you’re looking at a smaller length while your hand does all of the “manual labor” of stroking up and down. The modern, powered masturbator cup toys do all of the work for you.


What You Need to Learn How to Use a Male Mastubator Cup Sex Toy

Using a male masturbator cup sex toy doesn’t take much. Honestly, most of it is things you probably already have sitting around your house – or sitting next to your bed for the self-pleasure sessions you already enjoy.

You’ll need:

  • Male masturbator cup sex toy itself
  • USB outlet to charge your toy (if it’s electronic)
  • Headphones with an audio jack (if your electronic masturbator cup has audio built in)
  • A good amount of lube (water-based recommended; read more below)
  • Paper towels or a washcloth
  • Time to yourself to explore

How to Use a Male Masturbator Cup Sex Toy

Now that we know what we’re actually talking about here, let’s talk about how to use the damn thing:


Step 1: Understand How It Works

Before you go about sticking your dick in it, make sure you have a basic idea of how the toy works.

This has two big benefits:

  • Once you’re all lubed up and ready to go, you won’t be fussing around with the instruction manual. You’ll just be ready to go. As some electronic male masturbation cup toys are more complicated than you’d first expect, this can save you some frustration.
  • Defective toys happen. Some manufacturers will not process a return if the toy has already been used. If you try all of the toy’s functionality out to ensure it works before you actually use the toy, you’ll ensure you don’t run into that restriction. Nobody wants to be stuck with a dead toy they just bought.

Take the time to press the buttons, and ensure all of the functionality works as expected. As some electronic male masturbation cup options include an audio port with built-in erotic material, you’ll also want to pull out your headphones and see if that’s functioning correctly.


Step 2: Charge It

If you’re using the style of male masturbation cup sex toy that has moving parts (and a rechargeable battery!), your next step is to charge the toy. I know, I know: you literally just received it, and nobody wants to wait to use a new toy.

BUT just like standard electronics, it’s good for the battery to reach a full, initial charge before you start using it.

And if you need a more practical reason, you have no idea how much juice the battery has in it from the factory. It sucks to wait and charge the toy now, but it would suck more if your brand new toy died within 10 minutes of getting started.

So do that full charge now. For brownie points, look at the manufacturer’s website or the instruction manual to see how much run time you’ll get off a full charge. Especially if you’re a marathon masturbator (like if you enjoy edging!), having a general idea of the battery life can help you plan out your stroking session.


Step 3: Get Hard

While there are some sex toys out there that will work while flaccid, male masturbation cups are not one of them. In order to penetrate the toy, you’ll need to have a relatively firm erection.

If you aren’t starting your masturbation session with one, this might include some self-foreplay. If using lube, make sure to use a water-based variety for compatibility with your upcoming toy. Feel free to take as long as you’d like at this stage. It’s your foreplay and your pleasure; the toy is just there for whenever you want it.

Depending on your body that day, this may include strapping a cock ring at the base of the shaft to help encourage hardness.

If erection isn’t happening, don’t worry! Your male masturbation cup isn’t going anywhere. It won’t walk off to a new owner. You can always use it at another time when erection is happening. Consider a different stroking method – or a sex toy designed for flaccid use – if that’s the case.


Step 4: Lube the Male Masturbator Cup Sex Toy

Now that your body is primed and ready for play, it’s time to ensure your male masturbator cup sex toy is ready to play. As dry material doesn’t exactly feel good sliding down the dick, you’ll need to add some lube to make this experience really shine.

Drizzle the lube along the entrance of the toy as you hold the masturbator cup with the entrance towards the ceiling. This should allow some of the lube to drip down inside the penetratable chamber.

You’ll also want to slide your fingers inside – just like you’ll do with your shaft will in a few minutes! Push the fingers inside, using the pads of your fingers to push lube inside and spread it all around the internal chamber. Try to be thorough; this is what will make the masturbator cup feel amazing in a few minutes.


Step 5: Lube Your Shaft

If you haven’t used lube on yourself yet, now is the time. It’s not like stroking the shaft with lube feels bad, so feel free to tease yourself and enjoy your own hand as much as you’d like. The sex toy will be there when you’re done.

Use more lube than you think you’d need – and ensure the lube bottle stays nearby after you’re done. You’ll likely need to reapply lube during your pleasure session.


Step 6: Wipe Your Hands

Most male masturbator cup toys are made from that thick plastic. Turns out, when you get thick, glossy plastic covered in lube, it gets pretty slippery, and nobody wants to fight with simply trying to hold their own toy!

Skip that frustration by keeping paper towels or a washcloth nearby. After you’ve lubed up both the toy and your shaft, use the towels to wipe the lube off your hands as best as possible.

You can also use a disposable glove to do all of the pre-play lubing. That way, once you’re ready to use the toy, you simply get your penis inside the toy and then strip off the glove. Most of the lube should be contained within the toy and away from your hands.

Getting the lube off your hands will also save you a bit of effort during cleaning! You won’t be getting lube all over the buttons and the exterior of the toy. If you’re like most people and masturbating with the help of a computer or cell phone, you won’t be getting lube all of her your device while trying to enjoy Seksi chat either.


Step 7: Slide the Shaft Inside

The shaft is lubed. Your toy is lubed. Now, the two shall meet.

Place the tip of the shaft up against the entrance of the toy. Very gently try to push the tip of the shaft into the masturbation cup toy. Even with all of the lube, you might experience a bit of a drag if you didn’t lubricate one area fully. That’s why we’re going slow.

If the dragging is uncomfortable or painful, pull the shaft out and start again with more lube. It’s pretty hard to over-apply lube here, so feel free to use more lube than you think you really need.

If everything feels great as you start to insert, keep going. At some point, the tip of your shaft will either hit the back of the toy or the orifice of the masturbator cup will be touching your abdomen. If you’re there, you’re all the way inserted!

Especially if you’re nervous or scared of using a new masturbator cup, it’s possible that the shaft has started to get softer as you’ve started this process. If it’s still hard enough to penetrate but just a little unwieldy, use your other hand at the base of the shaft to help “steady” it to the point where you need it to go. Depending on hardness, you can use this extra hand to hold further up the shaft to incrementally “feed” the shaft into the masturbator cup if needed too.


Step 8: Enjoy the Functionality

Now that your shaft is entirely surrounded by the pleasurable texture of the masturbator cup, it’s time to enjoy its functionality.

The exact movements that your masturbator cup sex toy will provide will vary on what toy you have. Remember: part of learning how to use a masturbator cup sex toy is reading the instructions so that you know what you’re working with. Now it’s time to put all of that knowledge to good use and get to really feel what those sensations feel like!

If your male masturbator cup sex toy has no electronic parts, this is the time you’d start to move the cup up and down your shaft with your hand. Feel free to vary the strokes based on what feels good. Try shorter, faster, shallower strokes and long, to-the-hilt strokes to see what you like best.

You can also vary the angle by changing how you hold the masturbator cup sex toy. Use that to your advantage to target the frenulum or other sensitive parts of the shaft by intentionally rubbing the cup’s internal material up against that spot with an angle change.


Step 9: Reapply Lube

It’s pretty unlikely that you’ll make it through an entire masturbation session without reapplying lube – so don’t be hesitant to do so!

Simply pull out of the masturbator cup, squeeze on more lube, and slide back in. If you’re trying to keep the lube-y mess contained, in most cases, you don’t need to use your hands to spread it around. The act of sliding the masturbator cup toy back on will help slide it all along the shaft, so simply drizzle the lube around the internal chamber or around the shaft.

It’s totally normal to reapply lube during a masturbation session with a sex toy, so don’t hesitate to do so.


Step 10: Enjoy Yourself Some’more!

The world is your oyster.

If you want to keep stroking until orgasm, have at it! If you want to edge yourself for hours, that’s an option too. If you want to swap back to your hand – or a new toy, you can do that too.

While very few masturbator cup toys are open-ended, make sure to have a plan if you’re planning to ejaculate. If you are using a masturbator cup without a sealed end, the ejaculate will likely shoot out the other side – and that can make a mess if you’re not expecting it!


Step 11: Remove Slowly

Depending on your masturbator cup’s functionality, you might find that it has a pretty firm “grip” on the shaft once you’ve shot your load. If you didn’t reapply lube very often, it might have a pretty firm grip on your shaft that’s getting a bit sticky and dry.

If you can, waiting until the penis has started to soften can make it easier to remove it from the masturbator cup. You can also remove it while fully erect; it’s entirely up to you.

In either case, I recommend using one hand to firmly grip the toy and slowly pull it away from your body while you use the opposing hand to hold at the base of the shaft. If your shaft isn’t slippery anymore, this may also include running your finger around the shaft to “unstick” the stroker material from the shaft every inch or so to decrease any uncomfortable pulling on the ultra-sensitive penis.


Step 12: Clean Your Toy

The exact steps you’ll take to clean your male masturbator cup sex toy will vary based on the manufacturer and the toy.

For the best results, consult the instruction manual that came with your sex toy. It will likely have specific instructions about cleaning, and it might teach you some specific tips and tricks that apply to your specific model. (You might find out that the entrance orifice easily detaches for easier cleaning of the interior!)

If your masturbator cup sex toy is electronic, be very, very careful with the flow of water. Getting water into the charging port, near the buttons, or near the electronic base is likely to kill your sex toy. This is another reason that reading the instruction manual can be so important: it might expose ways that you can detach the used, lubricated parts from the sensitive-to-water parts for easier cleaning.

After you’re done, make sure you leave the masturbator cup toy out to dry. Do not put the lid on. Ideally, you’d place it in front of a fan or another spot where there’s great air circulation to help get the air inside the internal chamber.

Depending on the tightness of your masturbator cup’s internal chamber and the air flow in your home, it may take 8 hours – or an entire week – for the masturbator cup to fully dry. To see if it’s dry, try tapping the toy on the counter to see if any water drips out – or slide a finger inside and feel for any damp spots.

Never, never, ever put away your masturbator cup while it’s still damp. A wet internal chamber can become the breeding ground for mold. Literally no one wants to stick their dick into a moldy toy. Ensuring your penis sex toy is fully dry before putting it away is the best prevention of mold.

If you’re playing with an original disposable Tenga cup, you might be able to skip cleaning entirely! The Tenga cups are designed to be disposable – though some careful masturbators like to try to clean them and get a few uses out of them. It’s entirely up to your preference!


What Lube to Use with a Male Masturbator Cup Sex Toy?

Now that you know how to use this style of sex toy, let’s talk about what lube you should be using.

Honestly, this is a simple answer most of the time: you probably want water-based lube.

Despite the popularity of oil-based lube and silicone-based lube for stroking sessions, they can interact with the material of some sex toys – and ruin your brand-new pleasure buddy. Water-based lube (not hybrid either! Simple water-based) is always your best bet.

If you’re someone who uses oil-based or silicone-based for masturbation sessions and want a seamless way to transition to using your male masturbation cup sex toy, consider looking at the instruction manual for the toy or contacting the manufacturer. It’s possible that your toy’s material will work with a non-water-based lube, but it’s always best to play it safe. Some of these male masturbation cup sex toys aren’t cheap, and I don’t want yours to die a premature death.

Happy stroking!

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Mistress Kay
Mistress Kay
Sex toy reviewer, kink educator, and weirdo who is constantly staging pretty photos for sex toys.

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