Using a Fleshlight doesn’t just have to be a straight-forward experience. Sure, for the first couple of years, that might work just fine. But everything gets old after years of the same thing. Instead, let’s talk about how to make Fleshlight better.
Turns out, as Fleshlight is one of the best-selling male masturbation toys out there, there are a surprising amount of accessories and creative ways to make your Fleshlight better. Let’s go through some of your free (and not-so-free!) ways to make your Fleshlight experience feel new.
Updated May 2024 for some of the new options out there.
How to Warm your Fleshlight?
Use Basic Water: Did you know that your Fleshlight could be run under warm water for a more realistic experience? Run it under warm water or let it sit in a warm water bath for a couple of minutes before playing with it. It will have a more life-like warming sensation closer to the feel of the real thing. Best of all, this is free!
Use a Sleeve Warmer: Back when this post was first published, you had to warm up your Fleshlight in warm water if you wanted a warm sleeve. Oh, how technology continues to add awesome things to our lives. Nowadays, you can pick up a Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer stand that will have your sleeve all nice-and-toasty before you begin – no water droplets required.
Warm Your Own Lube: We all know you need lube to use your Fleshlight. Drizzling chilled lube on top of a warmed Fleshlight is going to negate some of the experience, though. A sex toy warmer like WARM can help warm up your lube ahead of time, or you can always take the tried-and-true method of letting the closed bottle soak in a glass of hot water. (A pint glass filled with hot water would be a great fit for this!)
Use Warming Lubes: I recommend caution with this one, but Fleshlight themselves sells warming lubes. The ingredients inside these warming lubes can cause a chemical reaction with skin that makes them feel “warm” – even in the middle of winter. Try to avoid using too many non-Fleshlight warming lubes; I’m not 100% sure that they don’t have ingredients that won’t degrade your expensive stroker. However, if you stick with the Fleshlight-branded warming lubes, you should be safe.
Where to Use a Fleshlight?
Try the Couch…or the Bed: Just want to try something hands-free? Have you considered the couch or bed? Slip your sex toy between the couch cushions or the bed frame and the mattress, and you’ll have a hands-free toy ready to use. You may want to put something on both sides of the Fleshlight to keep it from sliding around, or you can leverage your body weight via resting your arms on top of the cushion to keep things from moving around. Either way, you can have a realistic thrusting experience!
Consider Fleshlight Mounts: You may not have known this when you bought it, but Liberator makes Fleshlight Mounts for your Fleshlight. Designed of the same high-quality material as the rest of their sex positioning furniture, these mounts feature a washable hole that allows the Fleshlight to fit inside. This allows for perfect hands-free use with something that can be moved anywhere in your home. Not only that, but these mounts can be used during partnered sex for better angles as well!
Play In the Shower: Fleshlights are entirely waterproof. Have you taken yours in the shower? Not only can you find compatible suction cup mounts that will help you mount your Fleshlight to the shower wall, but you can just use your own hands to enjoy your Fleshlight in the shower. It also makes for simple clean-up when you’re done! As a word of caution: avoid getting any shampoo, body wash, or any other personal care products near your Fleshlight. Fleshlight material is pretty sensitive, and harsh chemicals like those found in cleansers can break down the Fleshlight material. It’s fine to get it on the plastic casing, however. (For those of you who are not quite listening, this means do not use shampoo as lube when using your Fleshlight in the shower.)
How to Make Fleshlight Better: Add Excitement
Thrust In Time with Videos: While you may sometimes watch videos while using your Fleshlight, have you considered timing the thrusting of your Fleshlight to the action on the screen? Not only can it feel great, but it helps you to feel more immersed in the action of your favorite adult movies. (Have you looked into Cock Hero videos on most porn tube sites? It “gamifies” solo penis masturbation!)
Try Some Different Fleshlights: Presumably, you already have a Fleshlight. But there’s nothing limiting you to just one. If you’re looking to switch up sensations, you might consider adding a new Fleshlight to your toy box. Even just switching out the Fleshlight sleeve can lead to a bunch of new sensations, but if you really want to earn that extra credit, you can try out a whole new type of Fleshlight. Fleshlight is constantly coming up with new ways to help you stroke your dick; pick out one of their new ones. (Though most people usually swear by the tried-and-true full-length sleeves, some novelty is always welcome! Need some help picking out a new Fleshlight? Should I Buy a Fleshlight? has a ton of help.)
Use a Fleshlight Sex Machine: Fleshlight has been experimenting with automated stroking with their Fleshlights. Just put your Fleshlight into one of their Launches, and this giant, lap-sized machine will move the Fleshlight up and down for you. You’ll still need to hold the machine, but it does all of the hard legwork, letting you focus on watching your videos or fantasizing.
Use It With a Partner: While you might consider a Fleshlight a solo masturbation toy, have you considered using it with a partner? Not only may your partner enjoy watching you use a sex toy, but they may enjoy using it on you themselves. During a non-sexual time with your partner, if you think it’s appropriate, bring it up and gently suggest that the two of you try it together.
Add Vibrations: Did you know that some companies make attachments that attach a powerful wand massager (like the Magic Wand!) to your Fleshlight? That’s going to add some pretty powerful vibrations through the Fleshlight. For obvious reasons (like the fact that your Fleshlight now has a giant wand massager attached to it), adding vibrations through one of these attachments tends to work best if you can “lay down” the Fleshlight somewhere for humping it instead of attempting to hold the entire contraption in your hands.
Take Care of Your Toy: Proper care and upkeep of your Fleshlight is vital in how to make Fleshlight better. With proper care, the Fleshlight material will stay “like new” for even longer, and as you know, your stroker felt very close to the real thing when you first bought it. The manufacturer recommends using warm water from your sink to clean your Fleshlight. Because of its extremely-unique material, you should NOT use any type of soap to clean it. It will break down the Fleshlight material. Specially-purchased Fleshlight cleanser can do any tough cleaning while an approved Renewal Powder should be used on the sleeve to keep it feeling as new and as soft as it did on day one. Regardless, your Fleshlight does have a limited lifespan – though I’ve pushed some of mine to around year 10 while still feeling relatively realistic. (There’s nothing like the material sensation of a brand-new Fleshlight, though.)
Make Fleshlight Cleaning Easier
Use a Fleshlight-Specific Dryer: One of the biggest pains in the ass about Fleshlights is letting them dry. That snug, tight channel that feels amazing during use makes for slow drying because of minimal airflow. That is, until recently. Now Fleshlight offers, essentially, a glorified fan that blows air through an opened-up sleeve. It works, though. It’s taken our usual week-long drying time and shortened it down to just 8 hours.
Manual Air Drying: If you’re someone who doesn’t want to spend a lot – or doesn’t want to mess with electrical outlets to make it happen – Fleshlight now offers three new “hooks” that help your Fleshlight dry. The Hang Dry allows you to hang the Fleshlight sleeve on a shower bar for drip-drying that saves counter space. The Screw Dry screws on a Fleshlight’s case base and makes it way more stable and less likely to get knocked over when upright. The Stand Dry holds the Fleshlight sleeve, naked, upright, on a countertop for full drying inside and outside of the sleeve.
Keep Experimenting to Find Your Sweet Spot
Not only can you use these tips to improve your Fleshlight experience, but you can always consider adding a new Fleshlight to your toy chest as well. With different internal textures, a different toy can add all different sensations. Happy masturbating!
Updated: May 2024, September 2022, July 2022, January 2022, August 2021.
