You have all of these Easter sets and decorations laying around after Easter – what’s a kinkster to do? Or maybe you’re like me, and you browse the Easter clearance after holiday is over – and you find the cutest basket and eggs, and you just want to take them home but can’t find any reason to buy them?
Welcome to your reason to buy them: an easy way to turn those cute seasonal decorations into femdom game for your submissive or an easy chastity game too. Essentially, it can do pretty much anything you want (isn’t that the point of a femdom game?!)
Not only that, but just like my Christmas chastity game, this BDSM game for couples is also discreet enough to leave out – and no one will know any wiser. I’d personally recommend leaving it out around the Spring season – for something that looks a bit more “in place”, but this basket of eggs easily looks like household decor – and not a super-kinky femdom couples game.
I’m especially fond of games like these because I like keeping my partner busy – and our sex life active – but I’m also a really busy person myself, and the idea of creatively coming up with tasks and sexual ideas every day is so freakin’ daunting to me. Instead, I get as long as I want to “plan out” tasks I want to see completed, and those tasks are fun, exciting, and “who knows what you’re going to get?”.
And as a final veto, if he draws something I’m just not into that day, I tell him to put it back into the egg, toss it back into the pile, and draw a new one. So even if though we’re playing with a femdom game, as always, my say is the final say.
BDSM Games for Couples: What You Need
You don’t need a whole lot to do this, and you can get a lot of this on super-clearance after Easter. You can also get this stuff at a dollar store for super-cheap too. If you’re on a budget, you could easily have everything you need under $5 – or if you want your display to be gorgeous (seriously, galaxy-colored eggs make me die happy), you could spend up to $50. It’s up to you.
You just need:
- Easter Basket of your Choice
- Plastic, Break-Apart Easter Eggs of your Choice
- Hand-written or Printer-Printed Tasks/Words to Slip Inside Them
BDSM Games for Couples: How You Set It Up
This game is honestly really simple – to the point that I’m surprised I haven’t really been using it more often.
First, come up with the tasks that you want to include in the Easter eggs. I’ve included some inspirational examples below, but you can pretty much use whatever you want to use – and you can tailor it to you and your partner’s specific kinks as well.
With how I’ve “designed” this game, it was designed to have the submissive person select a task from the femdom sub task Easter basket every day. During that day, the submissive needs to complete that task and provide proof to the femdom. This means you’ll likely want the tasks that are simple and easy to complete in a single day – and if you required something that requires abnormal household objects, make sure you keep track of those and provide that list of “you need to haves” before you start the game.
Write those tasks down if you’re into that – or I’m much-more into printing them out on a printer to save my fingers (and make more text easily fit into a small area). The hand-written tasks definitely have an element of sensual personalization, though. Write down as many tasks as you happen to have eggs. Like I mentioned above, you can brainstorm and plan for this for months in advance to have everything ready by Spring. It’s up to your timeline.
When you’re ready, cut out the tasks and place one task into each break-apart egg. Close the egg. Toss egg into basket.
Repeat with the rest of the tasks.
And voila! You’re done! That’s literally it.
Femdom Couple’s Game: Fun Variations
You don’t just have to do this for basic submissive tasks. You can easily do this for a variety of other couple’s things too:
- You don’t have to do submissive daily tasks. Instead, opt for something a bit long-term if you want – especially if you both are busy. You can do twice-a-week tasks (every Monday and Thursday) or once-a-week tasks. You can easily tailor what the slips “ask for” if you know you’ll be doing longer time periods.
- Choose a “theme” for tasks – especially if those tasks are specifically designed to improve some aspect of your submissive/relationship that you’ve been really trying to encourage. For example, a feminization theme could include tasks like “paint your toenails”, “wear men’s lingerie I pick out”, “watch a make-up tutorial”, etc. while a submissive who is undertaking anal training might have tasks like “five minutes of your largest plug” or “fuck yourself with a medium dildo” or “rest day”.
- Instead of tasks, make each one of the slips say a different number – just like in my Christmas chastity game. This instantly turns your femdom tasks roulette into a femdom chastity game. Heck yes for flexibility!
- Have a few gifts you want to give your partner – but want to keep the suspense up for as long as possible? Fill the eggs with candies or no candies. Each day (or when you think your submissive “earned one”) your partner gets to open up an egg. If there’s a candy inside, they get the candy. If the egg is empty, however, you’ll let them have one of their gifts. This can be a really fun way to reward the behavior you want to see – especially if you’re doing a lot of slave training or submissive training sessions.
- This “reward” dynamic works especially well for workouts. Most of us don’t necessarily love getting in workouts – but tying it to a fun reward once in awhile is going to make your submissive partner much-more-interested in working out. (Honestly, I’m a bit sad no one gives me presents on random occasions after I work out. That sounds so awesome.)
Long Distance? Submissive Femdom Game Variation
This is something you can do for long distance submissive tasks as well. (And if you’re in a long-distance femdom relationship and need some suggestions, this long distance submissive tasks post of mine has been a huge hit!)
Provide the long-distance submissive with the document full of the tasks and require them to print them out and put them into the eggs. You’ll lose some of the “surprise” aspects of it though. If you and/or your sub is particularly technologically-inclined and has a double-sided printer, though, you could match up a generic phrase with the hidden “task” on the exact same spot on the opposite side of the page. So your submissive would only see the generic phrase – and the surprise would still remain surprising.
Alternatively, if you’re open to mailing things, you could make the slips – already folded – to your submissive to make them assemble the kit themselves or go all-out and mail the entire “kit” to them already pre-assembled as well.
If money and convenience are of concern, the easiest way to keep the tasks secret would be to just mail them in a standard envelope to your submissive. No tech knowledge needed, they won’t see most of the tasks, and you won’t need to mail the entire kit either.
BDSM Games for Couples: Submissive Tasks To Do
Now that we know how to set up the game, I’m sure you’d like some inspirational examples. (I mean, who doesn’t like to easily pick-and-choose from femdom tasks when someone else has done most of the creativity?)
So, hey, I did the creativity part for you (mostly for my own version of this game!), and you can copy mine if you want.
- For an entire hour today, you will only be able to crawl. Plan accordingly. I expect to see no use of your feet.
- Today you will complete a chore you’ve been putting off. Your choice, but I expect you to do it well.
- I expect you to spend 30 minutes writing in your sub journal today. Topic: “What things put me in a submissive headspace?”
- You are expected to edge for me 30 times today. You’re only allowed to attempt edgings while you’re standing.
- You are not allowed to touch your dick– at all – today. This includes in the shower and to pee. Get creative.
- Do something nice for a complete stranger today. I expect you to text me and tell me all about it and how it made you feel.
- Do something nice for someone you care about today. How did you choose that activity, and why?
- Wear something that makes you feel sexy today. I want to see at least three separate pictures of you wearing it. Put some effort in and impress me. ;)
- Sex toy maintenance day! Pull out all of your favorite sex toys, label their chargers, and charge them all. I want them to be in tip-top shape when I want to play with them.
- Casually wear your favorite pair of heels for at least 3 hours today.
- Push yourself in your workout today. I expect you to do something that challenges you.
- I will select your underwear tomorrow. Send me a picture of five of them today, and I’ll pick out what you’ll be wearing.
- I’m being nice today. You may have an orgasm however you’d like.
- I’d like you to spend 30 minutes writing in your sub journal today. Topic: “Why does submission feel like a good fit for me?”
- You will be doing an anal stretching session today. I expect you to slowly use your thickest toy to stretch yourself out.
- Wear an anal plug to do your errands today.
- Every time you go to the bathroom at work today, I expect you to edge yourself twice.
- Drive me everywhere I need to go today. I expect to be treated like a princess.
- (Look for more inspiration in my femdom Locktober calendar challenges.)
