“The Sexy Bitch’s Book of Doing it, Getting it, and Giving it” is an Amorata Press book which is written by Flic Everett. The book has 8 different chapters which are included on 170 different pages. The book is a small size at about five inches tall and four inches wide, and it can easily be read in public as long as you hide the front cover while you’re reading it.
This sex book focuses on the idea of improving your sex life through the tips and tricks included in the book. The back cover claims “Over 100 Tips to work it like a sexy bitch”, “Master the 10 sure-fire positions”, and “Orgasm in ways you’ve never thought possible”. The book includes quite a few categories and topics of interest to cover a wide variety of what most people do in the bedrooms.
At the same time, because it covers so much, the book isn’t very focused. You won’t really find that the advice in this book, if you’ve read a couple sex-help books before, goes past what you’ve read in the past. It seems to be the basic information that you can get most places – just with the author’s honest flair put on it. In the “Advanced” section of the book, it seemed to be saying the exact same things that it said in the “basic” section – except without explaining anything too much. If you are someone who hasn’t read sex-help books before and thinks this is a good place to start, though, you could get some good advice out of it.
A nice thing about this book is how honest the authors were about their advice. They admit that most sex books (and sex position books) usually give a lot of sex positions and advice that can’t be done on a regular basis or by regular people. They note that fancy sex positions aren’t always the best and sometimes improving on the basics is what makes things most pleasurable. Throughout the book, the author gives an honest look at things you can do with your partner in order to be a better lover and things that you can suggest for him to do to you.
The book covers a lot of topics in a short amount of space. This makes it easy to read through and get a lot of information without having to spend a lot of time reading. The book covers foreplay, positions, orgasms, spicing it up, sex toys, adventurous sex, advanced sex, and spiritual sex. That basically means that it covers manual and oral sex along with intercourse, how to have orgasms, how to have better orgasms, how to make things more fun fo you and your partner including games, different types of sex toys and if they’re effective, sex clubs, BDSM, voyeurism and exhibitionism, and the spiritual side of sex including Tantra.
I had a couple critiques with a couple sections. This book is copyright 2004, and while I’m sure sex toys have changed quite a bit since then, I found it really odd that the author didn’t include anything about male masturbation sleeves. The author talked about cock rings and sex dolls, but she didn’t include anything about male masturbation sleeves which tend to be pretty popular. Along with that, as the book doesn’t have any illustrations, attempting to picture some of the sex positions in my head was difficult. In the sex position chapter, it’s all described with text and there are no illustrations which makes it difficult to act them out. On the plus-side, though, all of the sex positions that are described are ones that the average person can get into and use on a regular basis.
While I certainly think it has some truth to it, I think the book did rely a bit too much on generalizations. For example, a lot of the tips relied on the idea that men are extremely visual creatures so you should show them your breasts are something. It also relied on the fact that women require romance and woo’ing which, again, isn’t quite accurate for everyone. I wouldn’t mind the generalizations quite as much if the book didn’t sometimes make it seem like, if you don’t fit into the generalization, something is really wrong with you.
I think the biggest issue, with this book, for me, was that sometimes, the author came across as very elitist which was really a turn-off. She made it sound like the readers of this book were “better” than everyone else who was attempting to improve their sex life. For example, in the section about exhibitionism, it talks about submitting your picture to a porn magazine to be listed in their “Ameteurs” section since you will stand out next to the “45-year-old on the worn couch with the tits like beanbags”.
Overall, while I think the book is a good idea, I feel like, in comparison to other sex-help books, there was some issues. I would love to see less generalizations as well as more information (and illustrations!) included with the sex positions and sex toys chapter. However, if you like the idea of the blunt, honest way of looking at sex-help that the author provides, this book can be an okay choice. Thanks to Amorata Press for providing this sex-help book for my “The Sexy Bitch’s Book of Doing it, Getting it, and Giving it” review.
