If you’ve been around the world of kink for a bit, you’ve probably heard of foot fetishism. Surprisingly enough, it’s one of the most common kinks for people into femdom (alongside pegging, jerk off instructions, and a few others!) There’s something about feet for a lot of people. It’s some all-encompassing for some people that they identify as a foot slave.
If you’re on the femdom side of things, that’s lucky for you; it’s an easy arousal point to take advantage of. ;)
If you’re on the foot slave side of things, that’s lucky for you, too. It certainly isn’t as dangerous or “out there” as many other kinks in the world of BDSM. As an added bonus, there are lots of things to do with feet that aren’t necessarily fetishistic that can provide a service to your dominant while simultaneously whetting your foot slave appetite. Win-win!
Why Do Foot Slaves Like Feet?
Okay, but almost everyone has feet. What in the world makes them so special to a foot slave? If your partner is interested in being a good foot slave, you’re best off asking them. But if you’re purely curious about the feet-focused world at large, some common reasons include:
“Less Than” Sensations: A big part of foot fetishism for many is the “less than” sensation. The feet are the lowest parts of our bodies most of the time. They bare the brunt of our daily lives – to the point of smelly feet on occasion. Some foot slaves really identify with being even lesser than the feet you walk on. They don’t even deserve to be taller than the lowest part of their partner.
Sensitivity: Feet actually have a whole lot of nerve endings. If you’re playing with a foot slave who has some prior experience, they may have been partially conditioned into finding feet erotic because their partners found the sensations so arousing. Just like you might become turned on by the idea of cunnilingus if your brain automatically associated it with your partner’s pleasure and orgasm, the brain can be conditioned to find touching the feet arousing as well.
High Heels: High heels were invented to make the feet and legs look amazing. Is it surprising that some people associate sex appeal with the part of the body that wears them?
Invasion of Personal Space: The feet are a relatively “personal” space for most people. How often do you go about placing your bare feet onto anything? How often do strangers touch your bare feet? (compared to your bare hands) Being honored with the privilege of touching someone’s feet can feel like a very private and intimate experience.
Simple Visual Appeal: Some people, simply, like the look of feet. These foot slaves will have preferences on the look of their “ideal” foot – like a low or high arch, painted (or unpainted) toes, toe length, and more. Just like someone might like the look of a part of someone else’s body (it’s forearms for me!), some foot slaves are simply into the curvature of the foot.
How to Be a Good Foot Slave
Interested in feet – and want to make it as enjoyable as possible for your partner? Consider these five things:
Be Obedient
Before you begin your play, you and your dominant partner need to have a chat about your boundaries, what you’ll be doing, and the basics of the scene. This chat allows you to make sure you aren’t going to be doing anything you’re uncomfortable with doing. Once that is over, you’ll be expected to be obedient unless you negotiated some bratting and pushing of buttons ahead of time. Most dominant partners find themselves frustrated by a partner who acts out intentionally during a scene – unless that was negotiated ahead of time. You’ll be expected to be obedient and do as commanded during your scene. Of course, if the offending activity is actually outside of your discussions and boundaries, please speak up – and use your safeword if you need to as well! You should never be expected to do something that will cause you lasting damage – either mentally or physically.
Learn How to Give a Good Foot Massage
If you want to be around feet, why not learn how to give great foot massages? A good foot massage can be a serious pleasure to the feet-owner – and since you like being around feet anyway, why not make it great for everyone? Feet massages can take a bit to master, but with some good massage lotion, some time spent at the foot of a willing test subject, some YouTube videos, and some patience, you’ll find people asking you for the privilege of receiving one of your massages.
Kiss Their Feet and Lick Their Toes
One of the most popular forms of foot worship includes oral worship with your mouth. If that’s something you’re into and open to, consider adding it to your scene. Feet kisses and toe licking can feel extremely erotic – and can feel like a strong power exchange activity for everyone involved. Make sure to ask your dominant partner if they have any particular preferences for your oral worship.
Consider all the Risks before Letting them Stand on your Body
“Trampling”, or the act of standing on top of a bottom partner, is a pretty commonly-related activity to foot fetishism. It’s certainly not required to enjoy foot fetishism, but once you start practicing feet-related kinks, you’ll see this activity come up often. Don’t feel pressured into trying trampling if it’s not your kink, and make sure you do some research into the physical risks before you give this a try. In fact, I recommend asking your dominant partner to explain the risks to you to ensure they know the basics of safety before you engage in something like this.
Trampling should never be done with someone you aren’t familiar with – like if you recently met your partner on fetish singles. Trampling, while a great time, can be genuinely dangerous, and if you aren’t comfortable with your partner taking care of you in a medical emergency, they probably aren’t a good fit for trampling with you. (At this time!)
Master Feet-Related Skills
We already talked about giving foot massages, but did you know that there’s more than just massaging that can be done? If you’d like to provide a service that gives you a chance to enjoy foot fetish time while also pleasuring your Master or Mistress, consider putting some time into learning how to give pedicures. Pedicures aren’t just painting toenails either! Pedicures include hard and soft exfoliation, care of the toenail beds, and lotioning the foot and the calves. All of that is just as important (and pleasurable!) on a male-bodied individual as a female-bodied individual. For the Mistresses out there (or the Masters as well!), you might consider taking it a step further and learning about painting toenails – including the proper technique, base coats and top coats, and more. Luckily, YouTube can be a fantastic resource for you!
Good Slaves Also Know How to Protect Themselves
All sexual fetishes – foot fetishism included – can be a blast. However, they can quickly turn from fun into “danger” if you aren’t careful – especially when it comes to trampling. Make sure you and your foot fetishism partner negotiate, discuss boundaries, discuss risks, and have a safe word before playing. This allows both parties to end the scene if anything dangerous or problematic comes up.
(Still need more inspiration? This femdom foot fetish scene plan might help you add foot fetishism into your sex life.)
Update: January 2023.
