Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set Review

February 14th, 18   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

A dildo and harness set, the Dillio 6 Inch Strap-On Suspender Harness Set comes with everything you need, straight out of the box, to jump straight into strap-on sex. The harness is made from nylon with plastic buckles while the 6″ dildo is made from phthalate-free rubber. The dildo has an insertable length of 6.5″ and a diameter of about 1.25″ with a slightly tapered tip. The harness includes over-the-shoulder suspender straps for extra stability, has an interchangeable O-ring system, and fits a hip size of 60″.

The Dillio Strap-on Suspender Harness comes in a thick, sturdy cardboard box. The box itself is bright and eye-catching, and all of the product’s information is included on the back of the box. However, if I were to pick this box up in-stores, I’d likely put it back onto the shelf as the harness box lists no sizing information – a huge no-no for plus-size in-store shoppers. The box is easily sturdy enough for long-term storage of the dildo and harness in this box. The box contains the strap-on harness and suspenders, the 6″ Dillio, three interchangeable silicone O-rings, a sample-sized bottle of Moist water-based lubricant, and a sample-sized bottle of Refresh Toy Cleaner.

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

The Suspender Strap-On Harness included in the set looks like a small bundle of straps and buckles until you get the lay of the land. It’ll likely take you a few times of putting on this harness before you’ll be able to do it without getting confused in the straps. (To make it easier, storing this harness on a hanger with the shoulder suspender straps really does help keep things untangled). The harness itself is made fully from nylon with plastic adjustable buckles at the adjustable corners. The crotch/dildo area is unpadded with a felt-backed side (where the harness rests against the wearer’s body) and a lace design on the display side. There are four snap buttons that unsnap and re-snap around an O-ring where the O-ring will hold the base of the dildo up against the harness. The over-the-shoulder suspender straps are not removable.

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

The included 6″ Dillio is the “Dillio Twister” model that Pipedream Products sells. It smells strongly of rubber and plasticizer, so you’ll likely want to let it air out before you choose to use it for penetration. I’d also highly recommend using a condom on it because of it’s porous design. The Dillio Twister has no texture to the surface of the toy; it’s entirely smooth aside from the small segmented “bumps” that are easily visible on the photo. In addition to its simple design, the Twister Dillio includes a slightly concave base that allows the base to function as a suction cup. This gives you a bit of flexibility with your Dillio as you’ll be able to use it, hands-free, without the use of the included strap-on harness.

As mentioned before, the Dillio Suspender Strap-On Harness has interchangeable O-rings. This means you can pull out this O-ring and slide in another O-Ring – and use virtually any dildo you’d like with the set. There’s no reason to stick with this dildo unless you’re in love with it – which gives the set added flexibility as you can add on new (and larger!) toys if you want as the two of you figure out what you love.

That being said, the included dildo does a decent job as an introduction to most type of strap-on play. The tapered tip makes it easy to insert (especially if you’re new to pegging), and the gently waving shaft gives it a bit of sensation without being something so intense that it’ll take time to get used to the sensation. The base’s suction cup ability is strong enough to hold the toy to a floor – though not strong enough to hold it well on a wall. This offers some options for self and solo enjoyment in addition to use of the dildo within the strap-on harness.

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

And what about the harness? It does what it’s advertised to do. As mentioned above, getting into the harness is definitely a learning process, and keeping the shoulder straps on a hangar for storage helps a lot. You’ll also want to keep an O-ring securely snapped into place on the front of the harness before attempting to put it on. None of the straps on the Strap-On Suspender Harness will stay in place without their fastenings being entirely snapped shut. Once you’ve figured out your perfect fit with the harness, it’s possible to wiggle in and out of the harness itself instead of messing with fastenings every time you want to put it on.

The shoulder straps definitely do help distribute some of the weight of any dildo onto the shoulder in addition to the hips. It also provides a vertical “lift” to your strap-on dildo. Say good-bye to a droopy dildo! That being said, the suspender harness shoulder straps don’t necessarily stay in place at all times, so don’t expect them to be the perfect “nipple hiders” unless you are constantly adjusting the straps. With the movement of your body, the nylon straps of the harness will move too.

With most people’s standard use of a harness, you don’t necessarily need the extra support of a shoulder strap. Especially with standard, “realistic” looking dildos, there’s just not enough weight to justify needing the shoulder straps. So with that in mind, the purpose of these shoulder straps is three-fold: 1) for those who love the look of the suspender straps and think it’d look sexy. 2) for those who are constantly annoyed by the drooping or a downward position of the strap-on dildo and 3) for those who use big-ass toys (like Bad Dragon or other gigantic toys) that likely weigh multiple pounds. For those who use these large toys, the included silicone O-rings won’t likely fit the base of the gigantic items, but you can bring your own O-ring – and you’ll be set to play. (My only complaint about using this particular harness for large, thick toys is that the harness itself isn’t padded in any way which can become painful in some cases depending upon how heavy the toy is.)

As for sizing, I found that the 60″ hip measurement does seem to be accurate. I’m pretty close to that measurement, and while it’s definitely tight and on the loosest settings, it *does* fit my hips. What’s a tight fit is my thighs – right around the closest part of my body where a jock-strap style harness would rest. While it does fit 36″ thighs, it’s a very tight fit, so if you’re like me and carry most of your weight in your butt and thighs, keep this in mind. Anything under 56″ hips and 32″ thighs, though, and it should be a comfortable fit without too much tightness on the looser settings. As for the shoulder straps, as far as I can tell, they aren’t adjustable in length. This means that if you have a short or long torso, this may not fit so well. For me, however, they were basically the perfect length.

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set

As the dildo is made from rubber, it’s porous, and it should be treated as such. It can’t be thoroughly sterilized, so once you use this dildo on a person, you’ll want to consider it fluid-bonded – and only use it on other person’s who share that fluid-bonded status with the original owner. The toy, however, can be given regular cleanings to help it remain clean. Warm water and anti-bacterial soap should find its way onto the toy before and after every use, and since the Dillio Twister doesn’t have any intricate textures or crevices, it’s extremely easy to clean. The surface of the dildo does seem to pick up hair and lint relatively easily, though, so you’ll want to store it in a plastic bag (away from fabric bags) and make sure to give it a good rinse before any use without a condom.

The strap-on harness will require separate cleaning from the dildo. As it’s mostly made from nylon and plastic, it’s not designed for a washer and dryer. Instead, use a slightly damp washcloth with warm water to wipe down the harness as necessary. You may want to use that washcloth with anti-bacterial soap on the crotch portions of the harness to ensure it’s clean. If possible, you may want to consider the Dillio 6 Inch Strap-On Suspender Harness to be a single-person harness if regularly used without clothing due to its difficulty in fully cleaning every inch of the material. When it comes to storage, all of the straps tend to go their own way, so you’ll likely want to keep it in a bag of its own to ensure it gets as least tangled as possible. As previously mentioned, you could also hang the two shoulder straps over a clothes hanger, and that helps to keep the harness as a recognizable bundle when you want to use it.

Overall, the Dillio 6″ Strap-On Suspender Harness Set does pretty well for what it is: an affordable way to get into and enjoy strap-on play. While we likely won’t be using the dildo too often (as it’s smaller than our usuals and not made of silicone), it offers a beginner-friendly and body-safe-enough way to try strap-on play that doesn’t break the bank. The particular shiner here is the harness and its ability to use gigantic toys (such as others that aren’t included in the set). Over-the-shoulder straps aren’t usually required for many standard toys, but once you get into the huge toys that weigh multiple pounds, an over-the-shoulder design like this makes everything much more comfortable. With the Dillio’s Strap-On Suspender Harness interchangeable O-ring, you can bring your own O-ring and bring your own huge dildo – and you’re set to play! Plus, the over-the-shoulder straps can look pretty sexy in their own right. Thanks to LuvToyz for providing this plus-sized strap-on harness for my Dillio 6 Inches Strap-On Suspender Harness Set.

Tips for Taking the Perfect Sexting Photo

February 07th, 18   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Sure, word-based erotic sexting can be HOT – but what about those times where you want to share more with your partner? What about times where your body just feels so smokin’ that you want to use it to arouse someone else? What if you just feel like an erotic photo session? When inspiration strikes, make sure you follow some simple tips for the best nude photos you can manage. You’re already hot – but make sure your shots portray that as best as possible with these simple tips:

HAVE CONSENT! Before you ever consider sending a nude or erotic photo to someone, you should be damn sure you have consent. What consent looks like for you and your partner might be different than what consent looks like for someone else. Maybe it’s something as simple as “I’m feeling a bit naughty this evening. Would you like me to show you?” or maybe it’s something as explicit as her text saying “Show me your cock”. Whatever it is, if you’re not sure that it’d be a welcome addition to your conversation, DON’T. Make sure both parties think it’d be fantastic – or you’re just going to turn-off your sexting partner anyway – which defeats the point.

Clean Your Location: First off, pick a good location. You don’t have to overthink this, but there are some places that are likely a “definite no” – such as while on the toilet (unless that’s your kink), with lots of garbage in the background, or anywhere near children. Other possibly awesome places may include in front of a bedroom mirror, in the bathtub, on the bed, or on your couch or chair. If you know you’re going to be taking photos, if you have time, try to clean off any garbage or clutter near your photo space so everything will look nice and neat when you’ve finally memorialized yourself. This can be as easy as shoving everything further away from your photo space to make everything “appear” clean. Hey – we don’t always have time for cleaning when we’re wanting to take nude photos.

Pick Good Lighting: Many of the best casual photos are taken in natural lighting with the sun offering most of the gentle, flattering lighting that’s great for a lot of us. For most of us, however, our sexting playtimes likely come in the middle of the night – or at least when it’s dark outside. This can make it harder to get flattering lighting – but it can still be done. Try to pay attention to where your shadows are falling. Shadows can be your best friend – and they can be your worst enemy. Even when working with indoor lights, just try turning in a circle while looking at the screen and see where you think your body looks “best” – and use that position. Some lighting scenarios will be better than others. And please no – don’t even think about turning on your phone’s “flash”. Turn on some other lights long before you resort to that. Your phone’s flash is the last resort.

Come Prepared with Back-Up: Depending on what the two of you are sexting about, you can always “come prepared” to your sexting session. As long as you protect your photos and your device, there’s no reason that you can’t have some “favorite” sexting photos saved on your phone for sending at a later date. Not only does this give you the flexibility to choose when your energy is high, your outfit is perfect, and the lighting great, but it also means that you might be able to focus better on your own pleasure (rather than getting shots) during the sexting itself. You can even mix prepared photos with on-the-fly photos for a good mixture of higher-quality and “look what I’m doing right now”.

Start Small: There’s no reason that you have to strip off every strip of your clothing for your first sexting photo. In fact, don’t! Part of the allure of sexuality can definitely be the lead-up and the tease. Consider starting off fully clothed with photos that get more erotic as time goes on. Consider slipping a bra strap down your arm or a shot of the bulge through your jeans long before you’re ever entirely naked for the shot.

Protect Yourself: Unfortunately, not everybody looking to sext has the best intentions in mind. Unless you are entirely, 100% trusting of the intentions of a person, NEVER send a sext with identifiable information in it. This can be as obvious as your face – or as innocent as a street sign in the background of an open window or the exposed address of an accidentally-left-out bill on the table behind you. Make sure to comb through your photos before sending them out. Don’t forget about the non-visible data as well. Many cell phones offer “geo-tagging” and other automatically-tagging services. Make sure your photo is wiped from that data – and you may wish to turn off that feature for future photos as well. (I always keep mine turned off just to prepare for that one time I might accidentally forget to wipe it off a photo.) While you’re at it, make sure your photos aren’t automatically backing up to the cloud (unless that’s something you want).

Be Creative: You don’t just have to use your OWN image for inspiration. While you shouldn’t go about pretending someone’s erotic photos are your own, there’s nothing wrong with finding an explicit video clip online and sending it to your partner as “Something you’d like to do with them”. As long as it’s obvious that it’s not you, it’s fair game. Let their imagination run wild – without needing to take a single photo.

Out of ideas? Consider these photo taking ideas no matter what your gender identification:
Fully clothed, Pulling up the shirt to display your midsection, Pulling down a waistband to display underwear, Pulling down underwear and a waistband to display bare skin, Pulling up a shirt enough to display the bottom of a bra, Completely shirtless, Completely shirtless while wearing a bra, Completely shirtless while wearing a bra while flirtily pulling at a shoulder strap, Completely shirtless with long hair covering bare breasts, Completely shirtless with an arm covering bare breasts, Shirtless without pants while still in underwear, Shirtless without pants while teasingly pulling down the underwear waistband while still not exposing anything, A shot of your butt while standing, A shot of your butt while laying and bent over, Naked face-down on the bed with a shot that shots the curvature of your butt and back from over your shoulder, Laying in bed with blankets strategically covering your naked body, Naked except for a robe, Taking a bath with bubbles and water hiding specific areas.

Of course, that’s only the visual ideas; you can always go for more explicit sexual shots like masturbation or penetration as well.

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

January 29th, 18   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

Simple and straight to the point, the LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager is a simple massage tool sold by MEO.de. Different than the other massage tools that MEO.de sells, this little guy is shaped like an octopus. (Isn’t it hard not to anthropomorphize it?) It’s relatively small at 3.15″ in height with a diameter (at the widest points of the legs) of 4″. I’m not quite sure I’d agree with the market copy’s description of “pocket-sized”, but it’s standard-sized for most massage implements. It’s waterproof and made from a simple, but strong, ceramic material.

Unlike many other MEO.de options, this Body Octopus Massager comes in the packaging from the original manufacturer. This is a basic cardboard box that holds the Octopus massager inside. You can use this box for storage – as it’s the perfect size for the Octopus’s odd shape. The box easily reseals, but it’s not a sturdy box, so heavier items can’t be stacked on top of it.

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

As you can tell from the photos, this sensual body massager looks just like a little octopus. It’s not the cutest octopus that I’ve ever seen, but you’re certainly not going to confuse it for another shape; it’s definitely octopus-shaped. The bottom of all of the legs and the massager itself has no texture or indentations, but the top-side of the massager has a lot of etched in “details”. The octopus has little rings around the top of its tentacles, and it has a face on the head of the massager. The massager is extremely light-weight, and it’s hollow on the inside. It also can clearly hold up to a lot of pressure; it’s definitely designed for heavy, deep tissue massages.

While the etching detail on the massager is pretty cute, it can also make for some drawn-out cleaning. As long as your hand is dry (which it honestly needs to be to get a good grip on the octopus) before you grip onto the massager’s head, you likely won’t need to worry too much about cleaning up the top-side of the massager. The tentacle side has very little texture and cleans up easily from massage oil. However, if your hands are covered in bodily fluids, lotion, or oil, expect to spend a decent amount of time cleaning up the top side of this octopus massager. While I appreciate the attempted attention to detail, it should never come at the cost of the effectiveness of the massager – and in this case, it does.

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

The Octopus is pretty simply designed for a single type of use – holding the head of the “octopus”, the legs of the Octopus can be used to offer a deep tissue massage into the skin. This provides eight little legs that provide pressure onto the skin. It’s definitely a targeted sensation. Imagine the sensation of pressing the knuckles into the skin; it feels similarly to that. Because it’s such an intense sensation, I recommend using this part of the Octopus on only the larger, fleshier bits of the body. The butt, the back, and the thighs will likely be your targets. The sensation can be somewhat painful on the smaller bits like upper shoulders, arms, or calves. Regardless of spot, however, it’s definitely a deep tissue massage – and you should be sure your partner likes that type of massage before bringing this little guy out.

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

However, if you want to get a bit more creative, it can be a bit harder to hold, but you can hold onto the legs and use the Octopus’ head to massage the skin. Depending upon the size of your fingers, this might feel comfortable (or not). For my medium-glove-size female hands, my fingers fit in between the octopus legs perfectly. My male partner’s medium-sized-glove hands also fit perfectly. Larger hands may not fit so well. When using it this way, as the head is a broader piece of ceramic, it definitely has less of a sting to it. The sensation is still deep tissue, but it feels more relaxing instead of piercing. Still, I’d keep to the broader, squishier areas of the body – and still keep in mind about the cleaning issues that are likely to arise if you’re using it this way. Lotion and any oil will get stuck into the detailed etchings along the body of the octopus, so keep this in mind for clean-up (or don’t use lotion for these times).

As the Body Octopus Massager is a single piece of ceramic, it’s simple to clean up as long as you didn’t get lotion or bodily fluids onto the top-side of the massager. The bottom side is ceramic and cleans up pretty easily with warm water and anti-bacterial soap. Depending on the massage lotion you used, it might take more effort than you’d expect. Oil-based lotions are particularly hard to clean up. Just give it a second bath after the first and you’ll likely have the LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager good to go. This massager is compatible with all types of lotions and lubricants, and for storage, it does tend to work pretty well being kept within its original box.

Overall, the Body Octopus Massager is a good massager to provide targeted, deep tissue stimulation during a massage. It can get frustrating to clean depending on how you use it, so I recommend keeping dry hands and using it as it was intended (with the feet providing the massaging). It’s affordable, simple to use, and does a pretty damn good job of providing a deeper massage with very little strength required on the holder’s part. Thanks to MEO.de for providing this ceramic body massager for my Body Octopus Massager review.

LoversPremium Body Octopus Massager Review

Fuze Wilde Dildo Review

January 12th, 18   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Fuze Wilde Dildo

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Designed specifically for strap-on use, the Fuze Wilde Dildo is the company’s most generously proportioned toy. Offering a slightly pronounced head at the tip with a bit of ripples nearby but otherwise textureless, this toy is 1.75″ in thickness with a length of 7″. Like all Fuze toys, the dildo comes equipped with a flat, ribbed base for wearer stimulation. Next to this ribbed base is a small hole that allows for a bullet vibrator (not included) for even more pleasure. This dildo offers a high-shine body-safe silicone, and it’s available in both a gem purple and a shiny black.

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Thickness of the Fuze Wilde Dildo

Similar to other dildo manufacturers, most of the toys from Fuze will come in similar-types of packaging. Fuze uses a slightly-sturdy plastic see-through box. The box allows you to view the dildo from all angles before purchasing. The packaging probably won’t hold up to any heavy objects placed on top of it, but it does provide a ton of useful information about the dildo, and it will keep your toy safe until you get it. It’s pretty proud of being made right in Canada as well; there are cute Canadian leaves on the packaging. (The size of the box makes it simple to gift wrap as well)

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Hole in the base of the Fuze Wilde Dildo for an optional vibrator

One of the biggest draws to the Fuze Dildos brand is that they’re especially designed for use in strap-on harnesses. While some people with penises do use strap-on harnesses, a good chunk of the strap-on harness market is taken up with vagina-owners who are wearing harnesses. With that in mind, some of the round, thick, or unwiedy bases don’t seem particularly designed for the harness wearer’s pleasure – or even for their comfort. I’ve had bases that pushed into my thighs or ones that pressed painfully into particular areas.

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Unique, pleasurable base of the Fuze Wilde Dildo

Fuze changed that. They wanted to make a base that was just as fun for the wearer as it was for the receiver. The base actually achieves that relatively well. If you’re a vagina-owner who can orgasm from grinding up against firm objects, this is a toy that could help you orgasm during strap-on sex. Unlike other strap-on toys, there wasn’t a single second of discomfort or annoyance while wearing this dildo. At the same time, being able to orgasm and enjoy all of the ridges will depend upon how the dildo is situated against the wearer’s body. Experiment and feel free to try different positions until the ridges hit where they need to. The most important lesson is that: even if the base doesn’t always get you off, it’s always been comfortable for strap-on use. I’ve never once had it get in an uncomfortable area in any positions or times that I’ve used it.

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Showing the barely-there flexibility of the Fuze Wilde Dildo

In terms of size, the Fuze Wilde is about the width of an average human penis. It might have a bit more length compared to a human penis. However, for being one of the largest and thickest toys that Fuze offers, it’s surprisingly not all that “size queen/king” like. It’s pretty standard in size compared to many dildos.

At the same time, the Fuze Wilde isn’t made of a particularly flexible silicone. The silicone isn’t rigid, but it takes quite a bit of effort to be able to bend it. This makes it particularly well-suited to anal play. It won’t bend when you’re trying to slide it in various areas. This lack of flexibility means that the silicone isn’t very soft or plushy either. The size that you measure on the dildo is the size that you’re going to get.

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Packaging for the Fuze Wilde Dildo

The Fuze Wilde shaft is also one of the thickest toys that Fuze offers. Its thickness lends itself well to strap-on harness users that enjoy a thicker toy. For those that enjoy being able to feel every “touch” of the material, the Fuze Wilde provides that as well. The glossy silicone tends to produce a pretty noticeable drag on the skin. Depending on how much of that sensation you enjoy, you might end up reapplying lubricant particularly frequently. We’ve taken to covering it with a condom; it makes for easier clean-up while reducing how often that lubricant needs to be applied. If you enjoy that sensation of a dragging of a toy against the skin, though, the Fuze Wilde definitely provides that.

While you’re wearing it in your harness, you might be pleased to realize that the dildo doesn’t really droop. It doesn’t quite have the upward angle that some of my Vamp Silicone strap-on toys do, but it doesn’t droop like a lot of my Tantus or Vixen Creations toys do. The ridged and curved base helps support the weight of the dildo, and it keeps the dildo pointing slightly upwards.

Fuze Wilde Dildo

Showing the full design of the Fuze Wilde Dildo

I enjoy the Fuze Wilde – probably the most out of the various Fuze brand dildos that I’ve played with so far. I know they’re still a smaller company, but I’m hoping to see them expand their dildo size line-ups. I’m particularly fond of dildos of slightly-above-average length so it looks more in-ratio with my thicker hips. I know some people are fond of pretty thick-diameter dildos for pegging as well, so again, that’d be another market they could get into with their revolutionary base. I’m hoping to see them expand into non-standard sizing as they get larger. Many pegging couples, in particular, really tend towards above-average width toys.

As a full piece of high-quality silicone, the Fuze Wilde is designed to be easy to clean – and it is. The only annoying cleansing concern is the hollow bullet space at the base of the dildo. Make sure you take the time to clean out the hole to avoid any bacteria build-up. The Fuze Wilde can be cleaned pretty simply, though. Use warm water and anti-bacterial soap, and the entire toy will clean up very easily. There are no crevices or various annoying spots to worry about. When using lubricant, make sure to choose a lubricant that’s compatible – that means you’ll most-likely want to select from water-based options. For storage, this type of silicone tends to pick up a lot of hair or dust. You could keep it in the original plastic box, or you could choose a plastic baggie or other drawstring bag. It may require a quick rinse in the sink to remove any hair that’s taken a ride right before any uses, but water makes the hair/lint come off really easily.

Overall, if you’re into the idea of a standard-size dildo that excels with strap-on harness use, the Fuze Wilde is a good choice for you. The ridging at the base can provide a good amount of clitoral stimulation, and most importantly, it fits so comfortably between the legs that it doesn’t hurt during harness wear. The dildo provides a particularly good sensation – especially for people who love thicker dildos or silicone that produces a bit of a dragging sensation. If you love your strap-on harness, I’d particularly recommend any of the Fuze Dildo toys – including the Fuze Wilde. Thanks to Fuze Silicone Dildos for sending out this pegging orgasm dildo for my Fuze Wilde dildo review.