Should I Buy a Fleshlight?

July 23rd, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

If you’ve done any sort of research into male sex toys, you’ll know the most-recommended toy is the Fleshlight. You’ll also have looked into buying one – and found that the price tag definitely shows the demand for this high-quality male masturbation sleeve. Lots of people still continue to recommend them as the “must have” male sex toy, though, so is it going to be something that’s good for you?

So what should you consider before you buy a Fleshlight?
– You’ve experimented with other male masturbation sleeves. If you’ve played with other male masturbation sleeves and love the idea but wish the sensation was more lifelike or intense, you might be ready to try a Fleshlight. What’s most important is that you enjoy using the toy and the feeling of an extra layer of plushy material around your penis.

– You want the most realistic experience possible. There’s a reason that Fleshlight has developed a cult following, and it’s because it is one of the most realistic experiences out there. Partnered with Fleshlight’s realistic molds from famous adult stars to bring the DVD action straight into your own hands, lots of men swear by Fleshlights as the most realistic sensation humanly possible. Fleshlights can even be warmed in warm water before use to increase the realism of the experience.

– You’re okay with taking care of it. Fleshlights were never designed to be a “use and toss” type of toy. Instead, they can last for a couple of years with regular use as long as you take care of them. This requires fully washing them out after every use and allowing them to fully dry in an area with good air circulation. To really keep the material feeling as super-soft and realistic as when you first received it, it also can require some extra powdering after usage. Without doing this, your new toy is going to last a whole lot less time than it should.

Those reasons resonate with you, and now you’ve decided you want to buy a Fleshlight. If that’s the case, for the best possible experience, there are some things you should consider when picking up your new sex toy:

– Don’t go with the Classic texture. Mostly because the “Classic” texture is the complete lack of texture. While some people enjoy this texture, most newbies will find it completely underwhelming. After all, you got the Fleshlight in order to feel a new sensation, right? If that’s the case, you’ll want to pick a Fleshlight with a texture. Users tend to agree that the “Lotus” or “Wonder Wave” texture feel the closest to the real thing. If you want to try something with less texture later, consider picking up a “Classic” version then.

– When selecting a texture, consider how long your penis is. While some guys tend to be extremely long, most guys are average size – which is fine! But when Fleshlight makes their toys to be over 10″ in length, if you’re only 6″ in length, you’re not going to be able to reach that final 4″ of texture. When selecting a texture, make sure the majority of the textured portion falls at a point where you can actually feel it.

– If you would like to watch (or your partner would) consider getting one of the Fleshlight Ice toys. See-through, these toys make it a lot easier to watch the action. Whether you’ve met that person on a text-based sexual service like Arousr or they’re your regular partner, they’ll appreciate being able to see inside the Fleshlight as you enjoy yourself.

– Look around until you find the best Fleshlight for you. The Fleshlight official site has the most options, but you can potentially find better deals on Fleshlights on other websites if you can find the one you want. Start your journey on the official website to see the full extent of your options, and move onto other sex toy retailers once you figure out what items from the Fleshlight line appeal most to you.

Once you get your toy, enjoy it, and take care of it! Make sure to read the instructions and take good care of your new toybox addition to ensure it lasts as long as you want to use it. Feel free to leave some of your own suggestions below for other shoppers.

Tips for Buying a Wand Massager

July 15th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Wand massagers have made a name for themselves – and for a good reason. A wand vibrator is known for power. Where smaller, more portable vibrators might be easier to hide or travel with, wand massagers are known for their pure vibrational strength. Originally designed to massage sore muscles around the body, people started to find that those deep, rumbly vibrations also made for a lovely sex toy.

With the popularity of the Hitachi Magic Wand, manufacturers have started to expand their massage wand offerings. With all of the choices available at your favorite sex toy stores, how are you supposed to choose? Luckily for you, looking at a couple of important things will help you narrow down the large selection into a couple choices that you’ll better be able to think about.

Size: A huge consideration with a wand massager, the larger sizes of these toys allow them to be equipped with stronger motors for better vibrations. However, the actual size may correspond with how powerful the massager is. If you’re willing to sacrifice a bit of the power in order to have a smaller size that feels more comfortable to hold, you may want to do that. Make sure to pay attention to the measurements of the toy as you’re buying.

Portability: Wand massagers vary in their power sources. Some massagers can be recharged much like your cell phone. Other massagers, however, much be plugged into the wall in order to operate. Models that require wall electricity are much stronger than rechargeable versions, but it also tethers you to requiring electricity to enjoy your toy. If you only enjoy your toy in the comfort of your home, you may not mind, but if you’re hoping to travel with your new electronic buddy, you might consider a rechargeable model. It’s up to what works best for you.

Colors: While not as important as other things, if you have a specific color or design in mind, now is the time to consider finding a wand that fits your dream. This is used for your sexual pleasure, so if the wand doesn’t look attractive to you, you might want to consider a different option. The market is full of bright and attractive sex toys – don’t settle for something you’re not interested in!

Reviews: More important than other types of toys, you really want to read the reviews about your potential wand massager before purchasing. While wand massagers will probably be larger and more cumbersome than most regular vibes, the reward you receive is supposed to be via intense vibrational power. Read the reviews ensure that the manufacturer has equipped the toy with the strong vibrations that you want from your toy.

Get started on your shopping journey by exploring a couple of good options. The Hitachi Magic Wand is always a good choice, but the Euro Massager has been rising in popularity as well. The Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t allowed to be sold outside of the United States, so the Euro Massager is the European version of the popular wand (find more information about the Euro Massager at this country-specific sites: Europe, France, Germany, Spain ) Whether you want to stick with the classic Hitachi or Euro Massager or want to experiment with something else, it’s time to take these tips and find a new orgasmic toy to enjoy!

Setting Up a “Relationship Agreement”

June 30th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Whether you’re in London looking for escorts or just hoping to start up a relationship with a new person, having a general expectation of a relationship can avoid a lot of excess heartache and grief. Especially in alternative types of relationships such as kink-only or polyamorous arrangements, there isn’t always a clear expectation of what all parties want. In “traditional” dating, two people meet each other and find out if they’re (assumably) going to be compatible for the rest of their lives. What if you’re already married? In alternative situations like those, it may help to set up a playful “relationship contract”.

While everybody’s contract may look different, this type of clear, set-out arrangement allows all parties to enjoy the relationship without worrying about miscommunication. You probably already do this on a conversational level. You both might agree that you’d like to see each other once a week on the evenings or that a primary partner (or family or friends) may always come first. Putting it all out on the table with a negotiation-style just helps you both stay on the same page and prevent any misunderstandings.

Bringing this topic up with your partner doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, you can make an enjoyable and playful experience. If you’re at a loss for words, consider something like: “I really enjoy spending time with you, and I want to make sure that we’re both as happy and as fulfilled as possible in our relationship. If it’s okay with you, I’d like to sit down and discuss what we both really would like from each other to avoid any future misunderstandings”. If it makes it more fun for the two of you to open up a word processor and make a “professional” contract, go for it! If you prefer just a verbal discussion, that can work too. However, I would recommend that you have your agreements written down in some format. The idea isn’t to throw it in your partner’s face in an argument (“You said we could meet twice a week and we haven’t!”), but instead, the idea is that you both can revisit what you’ve agreed to at a later date and see if things have changed.

Whether you want to call it a “relationship contract”, a “relationship agreement”, or a “friendship pact”, the idea is the same: it’s a general set of principles that you both agree upon that makes everything run more smoothly. If you’re hoping to set up a “relationship contract”, here are some things you may want to consider:

Time Together: If there’s ever a single thing we only get a limited amount of in our lifetimes, it’s time. We can always make more money or buy more things, but the amount of time we have is always finite. Discussing how much you’d like to see one another is a good idea to nail down. Misunderstandings of time, sexuality, and money tend to spark the largest disagreements in most relationships. Whether you want to hang out once a week with an overnight visit or prefer to see each other every two weeks for a couple days in a row, this is something that you both should discuss and agree upon.

Digital Contact: If you can’t see each other often, you may want to talk about how often you’d expect digital contact. Would you like a text at least every day? Would you rather prefer an e-mail once every couple days instead of the regular, smaller texts? Knowing where you both stand on this will help you both stay close to one another even when you’re not in the same physical proximity.

Sexual Activities: Sex is a huge part of most relationships – or it may not be a part of yours at all. What does matter is that you both agree on it. Whether you both think once a week is a good amount, once a month is fine, or once a day would be great, having sexual differences can cause a lot of frustration – and quickly. Discuss what works best for both of you, and be able to compromise with what you’d like. This may also be the time where you want to discuss any particular issues that may make you more/less interested in having sex, so that your partner may understand in the future. (For example, if your partner wants to have more sex, but you find that having sex after having to deal with the children all night doesn’t work for you, your partner may want to volunteer for childcare duties on occasion to make sex more appealing)

Monetary Considerations: While you and your partner may wing it when it comes to who foots the bill, you might want to briefly discuss this point. It may turn out that one of you has been feeling frustrated over never (or always) paying the bill. While it’s not something you have to include, having this point ironed or (or at least ensuring there are no hard feelings) might make things run more smoothly.

Consider Outsiders: If you’re in a polyamorous arrangement, you may want to bring in people outside of the dating couple – or at least request their input. While the two of you may be great with the timeline you’ve set up, in a poly relationship, there may be more opinions to consider. While the two of you may think that hanging out twice a week would be great, another partner may feel shafted if they’ve been longing for more of your time. Asking your other partners for their opinion or input may prevent hard feelings in the future, but as always, understand that you can make the final decisions for yourself.

Other Arrangements: While these things can work themselves out on their own, you may want to discuss some of the smaller aspects of your relationship as well. How often would you both like to sleep (actually resting) together? Is sexting allowed or encouraged? If the relationship gets serious, how would holidays get split up? What are the arrangements for food preparation and how often would you like to go out to eat?

Sexy Realism: Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform Review

June 11th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Available from XDress is the XD Cheer Uniform. Adorable, feminine clothes specially designed for the male form, this cheer uniform was specially designed in the quality fabric found in real cheerleader outfits. It certainly doesn’t feel like a cheap Halloween costume. The set comes with the top, a cheer panty to go under the skirt, and the skirt itself. Each one of the pieces includes side zippers to easily put on the outfit. The outfit is made from 96% cotton with 4% spandex, and it’s available in the single red/black color scheme.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Side view of cheerleader outfit

The XD Cheer Uniform is available in sizes XS through 2XL, and they offer a size chart to easily figure out what size is going to work for you. For those of you who require differently-sized tops and bottoms, you can make a note in the checkout process to receive different sizes for the top and bottom since the cheerleading outfit is sold as a set. We received a Small, and the outfit runs pretty true-to-size. If you measure yourself and compare yourself to their size chart, you shouldn’t have any sizing surprises. Since these sizes aren’t quite typical male or female clothing sizes, it’s vital that you pay attention to the size chart when ordering. Since this outfit has very minimal stretch, I’d recommend going up a size if you fall between sizes.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Under-skirt panty that’s included

Don’t expect this crossdresser cheerleader outfit to feel like silken lingerie. It was designed to feel like a real cheerleader outfit, and that’s exactly how it feels. It’s not scratchy, but it feels very heavy-duty and durable. It has a heavier material that doesn’t “cling” to the body. If you have any particular problem areas or squishy areas you’d prefer not to bring attention to, the fabric of this cheerleader outfit does a great job of lying flat on the body instead of clinging.

The skirt has the “fly-away” panels that aren’t entirely realistic, but when partnered with the blank cheer panty that goes underneath it, you’ll have no issue with the skirt flying up. This design also means that any sort of “bulge” in the skirt is virtually non-existant, so if that’s a concern for you, you’re in luck with this outfit. Alongside that, this cheerleader outfit offers enough coverage to easily wear full-coverage bras with silicone inserts without any issues. The neckline doesn’t dip deeply enough in order to make it a concern to need to contour or set up cleavage.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Backside of cheerleader outfit

When you’re done with your outfit, make sure ot hang it up. The material of this male cheerleader outfit doesn’t seem to hold wrinkles too easily, but there’s no reason to subject it to wrinkling if you can just easily hang it up on a hanger and reduce all of the problems. XDress recommends hand-washing, but we’ve put it into the washing machine (with line dry) with no issue on multiple occasions.

Overall, if you’re ready for a high-quality cheer outfit that’s going to actually hold up to cheering and was truly designed as a professional-quality uniform, the XD Cheer Uniform is your best choice. With a flattering cut and sizing designed for the unique shape of the male form as well as a fun and playful flyaway skirt, this is literally one of the best and highest-quality cheer uniforms you’re going to find. Thanks to XDress for providing their XD Cheer Uniform for men for my review.