Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps Review

September 21st, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

For those who can’t modify their living space or just want an easy and discreet way to put up bondage points and then put them down, there’s the Overhead Attachment Straps from MEO.de. Convenient and easy to use, these high-quality leather straps just loop on top of a door to wedge between the door and the doorframe. Once there, they stay in place against the door, and each strap’s available D-ring allows for bondage possibilities up against the door. the Overhead Attachment Straps includes these two straps, fully-assembled and ready to go as soon as you open the package.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Like most MEO.de purchases, the Overhead Attachment Straps come packaged in a plastic, see-through bag. This bag will need to be destroyed to get the straps out, so don’t think you’ll be able to use it for storage. The bag includes a barcode for warehouse use, but it’s otherwise instruction-less.

These straps don’t really require much instruction, though. Each one of the Overhead Attachment Straps features a slim bar at the end of the straps. You open your preferred door, toss the straps on top of the door with the D-rings facing the side you want to play on, and then you shut the door firmly. Lock the door if possible. The straps will be over the top of the door, the door will be closed, and you will have two, unmoving overhead attachment points for playtime.

Once you have these straps in place, make sure you don’t need to open the door again. They slide out extremely easily after the door is opened – even if no one is attached to them. To be honest, it’s been a bit of a source of frustration when I know I need something in the other room and need to get through the door after I’ve set up the Bondage Attachment Straps. Make sure to plan ahead better than I do.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Depending on the fit of the door, the person on the unused side of the door will likely see very little. There will be a small black bar at the very, very top of the door. That’s it. Unless someone is paying attention, they won’t notice the Overhead Attachment Straps on the unused side, so don’t worry too much about playing on people-facing doors. However, be aware that the person might think you “caught” something in the door and open it to tell you – OR they might hear your captive banging around on the door. Appearances may not be the only possible concern with that one.

The exact fit that these Overhead Attachment Straps have in your doorway is going to depend on your particular doorway. For example, my front door happens to have an interior rubber lining along the doorframe – which makes these straps a very, very tight fit, and once in place, the straps won’t move an inch. However, on some of my other interior doors that don’t have this rubber lining, the straps seem free to move around along the top of the doorframe a bit more. As a clarification, I’m talking about moving from side-to-side – not coming off.

As a note, some doors may not have the required/necessary space between doorframe and door to allow these to work. Most people’s interior home doors should be fine, though.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

That being said, I’ve had absolutely no problems with the overhead attachment straps coming off. Once they’re wedged between the door and the door frame, they seem to stay there pretty much perfectly. Getting them into position can be slightly frustrating (as mentioned above), but once there, they definitely stay. With the door shut and locked, I’ve had no problem with the door bowing or moving under the person’s struggles either.

How well do they hold up? Fantastically. Even with multiple uses and multiple squirming submissives under the presence of these, I’ve had absolutely no problem. The leather is reinforced in multiple places near the attachment points including thicker leather all throughout the entire strap. Near the D-ring, there are a couple extra rivets while the loop near the doorway bar has extra rivets too.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Do be aware that these straps were never designed to hold a full person’s bodyweight. These are designed to be overhead bondage points – not suspension points. Don’t try to hang your partner by just their wrists – or by just these two hanging points. It’ll hurt them, possibly destroy the door, and may just rip the leather. Wouldn’t recommend it. These are just designed to keep your partner’s hands in an upright position and fasten/bind them to the wall/door behind them.

There shouldn’t be much cleaning required with these straps. They shouldn’t get much of anything on them. A gentle wipe-down with a slightly-damp washcloth on occasions should do a good job of keeping these nice.

Overall, I would enthusiastically recommend the Overhead Bondage Attachment Straps. Especially for people who are renting or who can’t make holes in their ceiling/furniture, these straps are going to offer a secure and safe way to bind your partner to a fixed object. The straps are very durable, extremely easy to use, affordable, and just look sexy too. No complaints here; these are fantastic! Thanks to MEO.de for providing these over-the-door bondage options for my Overhead Bondage Attachment Straps review.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Mr Hankey’s Toys Remove-O-Balls Review

September 14th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Is your dildo missing a little bit of something-something? Well, Mr. Hankey’s Toys Remove-O-Balls are designed to help. Swinging, silicone testicles attached to a flexible, stretchy silicone ring, the Remove-O-Balls are designed to add the realistic sensation of testicles to any dildo. Available in three skin tone colors and made from silicone, the balls have a resting ring diameter of 1.75″ and testicle width of 3.75″.

Coming from a small studio, the Removte-O-Balls will come to you in a plain, unmarked brown box. Inside the brown box, the removable dildo balls will be wrapped in a plain black, opaque bag. Even if someone does accidentally open your box, all of the toys inside are hidden via this black bag.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Now, I’ll admit: the Remove-O-Balls look kinda weird. Well, more than “kinda”. They look weird. Why in the world would you want to add some testicles to a dildo? Especially attachment testicles that are a separate part and seemingly useless outside of the visual?

First off is their application for strap-on use. When many dildos come equipped with their own testicles, they’re placed on the base – which is exactly the part of the dildo that presses up against the wearer’s body during strap-on use. Depending on the type of harness you’re using, the balls might even be entirely hidden underneath the harness’s fabric! For that reason, the balls of those dildos usually have very little movement or added sensation. That’s not the case once you add the Remove-O-Balls. Not only are they going to sit outside the harness and in front of the strap-on O-ring, but they also move around – a lot. Every movement of the hips has these balls swinging with relative ease. Soft, gentle sex likely won’t add much sensation for the receiver, but anything more than grinding will likely have these testicles swinging and hitting pleasurable areas for the person you’re penetrating.

It’s also worth mentioning that these removable silicone testicles for dildo can be used for other purposes. If you get especially rough or fast-thrusting with your own dildos, you’ll likely create enough movement to experience the sensation these testicles can provide. You may also find these balls to be an especially great addition to partnered sex as a cock ring or for use on a sex machine or thrusting hand-held dildo machine.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Second off is their unique “swinging” sensation that no other dildo balls offer. As mentioned above, most testicle-equipped dildos have built it into the base of the toy. That means very little (to none) movement of the balls. The Remove-O-Balls don’t have that problem. They’re stand-alone, and they move with every moment of the dildo. This movement causes the balls to “slap” up against the skin of anyone who’s being pounded with the dildo. It’s a particularly pleasurable sensation – one that I’ve heard a lot of my friends talking about as enjoyable. These balls can help create that in a way that no pre-built dildos seem to do. And when you don’t want it? Poof! Just “remove” the Remove-O-Balls, and the sensation will be gone.

The Remove-O-Balls have a texture and design that lends themselves well to this swinging, strap-on use. The front of the Remove-O-Balls has a very life-like, wrinkled texture. The ring of the removable balls is entirely smooth. The backside of these balls is entirely flat and smooth to avoid adding extra bulk to the backside of the balls for no reason. Made from pretty firm silicone, the testicles move as one large “bundle” – don’t expect a lot of bounciness or individual “ball” movement while using this one. The entire package moves as one with a good chunk of momentum behind it.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Getting these removable dildo testicles onto any toy isn’t difficult. The ring of the testicles stretches out pretty nicely. Depending on the thickness of the toy you’re using, you might have to have someone hold the dildo (or use your feet to keep it upright while sitting in an awkward position) while using both hands to stretch out the ring large enough to slide onto the toy. If you’re having issues because of the width, remember that you can add some lubricant to the balls or the shaft of the toy to help it slide into its proper place. The balls stretch just fine, but they do require some effort to get them to stretch to the biggest sizes. But once they’re in place, they stay just fine, and I’ve never had any issue with the balls sliding or moving out of their place at the base of the dildo.

The Remove-O-Balls are particularly well-sized for any of the Mr. Hankey’s Toys. They share a thick O-ring that matches the thick bases of most of the Mr. Hankey’s Toys. The balls stretch out enough (with a decent amount of pressure) to slide over the biggest toys that I own. That being said, the circular ring of the Remove-O-Balls is still relatively small at rest, so it also fits some of my medium-sized toys as well. (It does not, however, stay snugly on some of my 1″ diameter and similar toys. You’ll need at least an average, 1.5″ or bigger thickness to get these balls to stay.)

The Remove-O-Balls colors perfectly match all of the shades of toys that Mr. Hankey’s Toys sells. I have to admit wishing that they expanded some of their color choices of the Remove-O-Balls to match other various “skin tones” of silicone dildo manufacturers. While the Remove-O-Balls are great for use with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, they’ve also been fantastic to use with our other dildos, and I do wish the colors matched a bit more. The sensation is still fantastic, though, so they get used regardless.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

If you’re using these removable sex toy balls for pleasure, you’ll likely get some bodily fluids on them. Using warm water and anti-bacterial soap will clean up the surface of these silicone balls pretty quickly. You might want to consider getting a super soft toothbrush and doing in-depth cleaning along the texture of the balls on a regular basis. That, or you can consider doing some sterilization with boiling water or a water and bleach mixture. If using lubricant to get the balls onto the base of a toy, you’ll want to use water-based lubricant. For storage, these removable silicone dildo balls are pretty easy to deal with. Just don’t put them in direct sunlight or squish them, and you’ll likely be fine. I’d also recommend against storing them stretched out on a dildo as you’ll likely loosen the silicone’s tightness over time with that plan.

Overall, while you’d think the Remove-O-Balls might just be a bit on the odd side or something you’d never imagine being useful, you might be surprised. They’re extremely easy to use, add extra stimulation for people who like that feeling, and they’re super A-Plus for use in strap-on harnesses. Fantastic job, Mr. Hankey’s Toys. Thanks to Mr. Hankey’s Toys for providing these removable dildo balls for my Remove-O-Balls review.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Should You Check Your Partner’s Online Activities?

September 14th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Lack of trust and jealousy can easily become the destructive forces that can wear down your relationship. You would expect that one will trust their partner, but the reality is that we’re human. Jealousy and paranoia are part of most people’s natures, and we don’t want to lose the amazing things we already “have”. The media, the soap operas, and the movies we watch often portray paranoid or jealous behavior as “romantic”, and this can stain the way we see things. One big real-world example is when a person checks their partner’s private online activities. The question is: is this even acceptable? Should you consider doing this, and what effect will it have on your relationship?

Unfortunately, when you feel insecure, it’s hard to avoid those paranoid feelings that are stuck in your head. This is why when someone has trust issues, just telling them: “Don’t worry; you can trust me” won’t quite cut it. It can become a compulsory behavior, and nothing short of a slow, long trust-building process will cause the urges to go away. However, sneaking through your partner’s stuff only gives them more of a reason not to trust you – and less of a reason for you to trust them – and the ugly cycle will continue. Eventually, it will reach a point where they will leave you – or even worse, your fears of “cheating” might come true because of annoyance, anger, and an unsatisfied relationship. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy: your paranoid behavior has pushed your partner away, and in the process, you’ve made your paranoid predictions come true.

Well, let’s not beat around the bush: this stuff happens all the time. It doesn’t take a lot of forethought to realize that going through someone’s private online activities can end up really hurting that person. Imagine if someone did this to you. How would you feel? For most people, it can definitely erode some of the trust the two of you had. If anything, you know that they are doing things without your consent – which is certainly not the best way to grow a relationship.

But what if you discover that your partner has indeed been cheating on you on some naughty dating site like http://www.grannycontacts.com/us/ ? Does this mean that your actions are suddenly justified? It kinda feels like it, doesn’t it? As they say: it’s not paranoia when they’re after you. Is going into someone’s online accounts only justified by the success of your findings? Not quite. You’ve just piled another trust concern on top of the infidelity that your relationship is already going to have to handle. Multiple wrongs don’t make a “right” – but they certainly are going to make it harder to rebuild the relationship.

One article won’t be nearly able to cover that whole spectrum of the issue, but you should know that it is not acceptable to go through your partner’s online activities behind their back. If you don’t trust them, just tell them and ask them to show you what they are doing online. It might sound like a harsh thing to ask, but it’s better than just betraying their trust – especially when they’ve done nothing wrong. Consider a statement such as “I know it might sound silly, but I’m feeling really paranoid today because you’re so important to me. Could you show me what you’ve been doing online?”

If this is something you do with every partner you’ve ever had, then it might be time to consider a bit of extra help. Extreme paranoia and jealousy can decrease your satisfaction in relationships (and life!), but it’s mostly “treatable” with a change in perspective, open communication, and some professional help. After all, just like a single mental trait (fear of failure, free of heights) doesn’t have to change your entire life experience, a fear of losing your partner doesn’t have to change it either. You’ll just need to go through some extra steps to make sure you can manage your fears and expectations.

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

September 07th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

Spreader bars: fun, right? Well, when you’re looking for an easy way to keep your partner’s limbs apart, consider the Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar sold by ManShop. Not only does it break down into three pieces (none longer than 15″), but it can be adjusted for various spreader positions in addition to working on either the wrists or the ankles. Each cuff is designed to fit a size between 6″ to 10.5″. The spreader bar itself can adjust from 23″ all the way out to 36″. The spreader bar is made of a lightweight metal and attaches to the cuffs via a curved piece of metal. The cuffs are made from a thick, single piece of leather with holes cut in the cuffs for a locking fastener to slide through. The cuffs do not fasten without some type of lock or external fastener through the holes, so this spreader bar set was definitely designed for use with locks (though I mention other options for fastening later on if you’re uncomfortable with locks).

With such a big item, it’s very little surprise that the spreader bar comes with minimal packaging. It will be shipped in a plain, brown, discreet box. It will have a small tag on it that says “Stockroom” that’s simple to cut off, but other than that, your toy will come straight and “ready for play” straight out of the box. It does not, however, come with any locks or fasteners, so you’ll likely want to have those ready to take full advantage of the spreader bar.

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

Unlike many other spreader bars out there, the Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar comes with its own cuffs. As-in, these cuffs can not be removed or changed out for your own favorite pair of cuffs. On one hand, this works particularly well for “one item only necessary”, so you won’t be carrying extra items out to play. On the other hand, you’ll have to religate your favorite cuffs to another scene as this spreader bar comes with all of the cuffs you’ll need.

Each cuff is relatively minimal as well. Each cuff is a nice, thick, single layer of leather. The cuff is attached to the metal spreader bar by a curved piece of metal. This means the cuffs can not be removed. The cuffs can be widely adjusted to fit either ankles or wrists, and they do not have their own secure fastening system. With any bit of struggle, the strip of leather will come off of the metal bar. However, this type of cuff was designed to be used with a lock. Once a lock is slipped into the fastening metal loop, the cuff will not come undone. If you aren’t comfortable using or don’t have any metal locks, anything that can be slipped into the metal loop would work – such as a carabiner or anything similar. You just need something that will keep the leather portion from sliding off the metal loop that the cuffs are equipped with. This means, if traveling, you’ll want to plan ahead with something that fits that description.

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

The cuffs are relatively comfortable as well. They aren’t nearly as comfortable as the faux fur or plush cuffs that I have around the house, but the single, thick layer of leather manages to ensure that your captive will stay captive without getting too uncomfortable. Any extreme position can start to get uncomfortable, though, if the edges of the leather cuffs are pressing into the skin in any way. Allowing a bit of extra range of motion when using this adjustable spreader bar will ensure that your captive stays comfortable while still staying bound.

Adding to the comfort, each one of the cuffs is mounted on a moveable joint that attaches to the spreader bar. This joint allows the cuff to reposition on either side of the bar or on the ends of the bar. It does not allow for full, 360-degree movement, but it will move on a single 180-degree adjustable pivot. This is unique from most spreader bars as the design of most bars will allow the cuff to move in any direction. This will allow you to use the spreader bar in more positions while still providing a firm, “bound” feeling to your captive when they have very little movement with their limbs when attached to the spreader bar.

Now – as for the spreader bar itself. As you can see from the photos and the title, this spreader bar is designed to be adjustable in length. This adjustability is done through two small pins (attached to O-rings) that pull out of the two holes in the center of the bar. The pins are pretty easy to pull out, and they go back in pretty easily as well. They aren’t going to slide out during use, but unlike some of the adjustable furniture I’ve used like this, I also don’t spend twenty minutes swearing, breaking nails, and so forth just to adjust the length.

That being said, I don’t see a “simple” way to lock these pins to ensure your captive can’t pull out the pins themselves if you’re using this adjustable wrist/ankle spreader bar for the ankles. You might be able to figure one out if you get creative. As it stands, I’d just recommend ensuring that the wrists are bound and away from the spreader bar if you’re worried about a bratty submissive trying to escape. (As a note, however, even if they did pull the spreader bar fully apart, because of the design of the cuffs, they’d still have a giant, metal bar sticking out of each side of the cuffs, so they really wouldn’t be “free”. The bars wouldn’t be connected to anything, but it would definitely limit movement.) There’s nothing keeping this metal adjustable spreader bar from pulling apart fully into three pieces, so there’s no “stopper” point to keep the pieces from coming fully apart (such as – if you’re adjusting the bar during the middle of a play scene with a struggling partner).

This lack of a “stopper” is what means the travel-friendly spreader bar can come apart into three pieces for travel purposes. When fully assembled, in the best possible arrangement, this spreader bar will require at least 23.5″ of space for its length. When pulled into three parts, that number changes drastically to 15″. If you regularly travel and require a lot of discretion in smaller bags, this spreader bar fits the bill.

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar Review

It’s also worth noting that there was some paint rust on the interior bar of the spreader bar. It didn’t affect use or look, but it rubbed off all over my hands (and then the paper towels I used to get the rest). It took some of the paint off the interior bar, but once it was wiped down, it doesn’t seem to be shedding anymore.

There isn’t much cleaning to be done with the Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar. You’ll likely want to wipe the leather cuffs down with a slightly damp washcloth, but it doesn’t require any scrubbing. The metal bar itself can be wiped down in the same manner. Try to avoid using any abrasive materials to avoid scratching up the paint or the leather of the spreader bar. For storage, you’ll likely want to allow this spreader bar a bit of width because of the metal cuff attactment points (at least 3″), but because the bar can break into parts, you’ll require less length than most spreader bars. It could be stored in most small spaces, and depending on the size of the drawer, it could be stored in some clothes drawers.

Overall, while I’m a bit frustrated by the fact that I need to add extra locks/fasteners in order to fully close the cuffs, I have no other complaints about the Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar. In addition to being easy to tote around and lightweight, it adjusts really easily, offers a pretty wide variety of uses, and can be used any way I want. In fact, I haven’t come across a situation yet where I’m like “darn. This one won’t work”. It’s a nice, all-purpose spreader bar that will likely start traveling with me to play parties and other kink events. Thanks to ManShop Toys for providing this adjustable spreader bar for my Travel-Friendly Stockroom Adjustable Wrist/Ankle Spreader Bar review.