Ride ‘em Cowgirl Book Review

January 27th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Ride Em Cowgirl

The cover of the book

Ride ‘em Cowgirl is a book published by TickleKitty and sold at Adult Sex Toys. Ride ‘em Cowgirl is written by Dr. Sadie Allison, has a tagline of “Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking”, and is a softcover book with pages printed in black and white. This sex-help book has 215 pages with tons of black and white illustrations. The book won the “Best Sexuality” award from the Independent Publisher association. The front of the cover shows a pretty girl wearing a cowboy hat, and the back of the book shows the author along with some of the key points that the book makes. Because of the large text on the front and back, along with the illustrations on the inside of the book, I’d recommend against taking this book into public to read. This is one of those books that is honestly better read at home away from prying eyes.

Basically, what Ride ‘em Cowgirl is is a book that shows sex positions. However, instead of just being a sex position book, it also provides quite a bit of information about ways to improve sex. It has the drawn illustrations that show how the positions should be completed, and it also has information about the positions and how to improve them. For example, each chapter has a specific goal in mind. For the g-spot chapter, it talks about what the g-spot is, how to find it, how best to stimulate it, why it feels good, how you know you’re stimulating it, then finally, goes into the illustrated positions that will show you great ways to stimulate your g-spot during sex. However, it doesn’t give step-by-step information on how to pull off the positions. It just shows what the position looks like – figuring out how to get into it is something that you’ll have to do yourself.

Ride Em Cowgirl

The back of the book

Most of the illustrations portray a skinny women with large breasts coupled up with a muscular, strong male. I’m not sure if this is because that’s what the readers want or if it’s because it was easier to draw. However, two chapters feature other illustrations; the plus-size positions chapter as well as the pregnant sex chapter. In the plus-size chapters, the male and female are both plus-sized which is a little odd and in the pregnant section, the girl just looks like she’s pregnant.

A neat feature of this book is that it seperates the girl’s sections from the guy’s sections. If it’s something that would be good for the guy to know, it’s “For Cowboys Only”, and if it’s something that would be good for the girl to know, it’s “For Cowgirls Only”. Obviously, it’s fine to read the other gender’s section, but if you are looking for something short and easy to get straight into the action, the seperation of the two sections makes it really easy to find what works best for your gender.

Ride Em Cowgirl

Example of the sex position illustrations for the pregnant chapter

Another thing that makes it easy to go straight to the information is that the majority of the book is bullet point. There’s a couple paragraphs to introduce the chapter, but for the most part, most of the text is just texts under “his/her” that will give you a bunch of different ways to improve upon the positions that will be provided later on in that chapter. Some of the bullet points seem like they are just rehashing upon what was already said, but honestly, it gets straight to the point while still keeping the book fun, and that’s exactly what I’ve come to expect out of the TickleKitty publications – and it’s a good thing.

The different positions in the examples are all kinda unique. Most of them will require ordinary things around the house such as a couch, pillows, chair, or other basic things, but for the most part, it’s just spin-offs on the original position that was shown in the chapter. For example, the missionary chapter shows the basic missionary, but then shows you ways to include pillows to make it better as well as ways to change up your legs to make penetration better.

All of the positions were designed and included because they are easy to do. You won’t find that any of these positions leave you feeling like “what is going on here”. They are all basic adjustments of the regular positions you do all of the time, but make the position feel even more pleasurable. Don’t expect anything acrobatic out of this book, and that’s a good thing. It provides the reader with a sense of security and with the ability to try out and purchase this book without feeling intimidated.

Ride Em Cowgirl

An example of the text of the book

The different chapters in here really help provide some good information that will help provide some variety in your sex life. The first chapter has to do with the sex etiquette – not leaving your partner unsatisfied and common sense things like that to improve your sex life and relationship. The second chapter has to do with how to expand and extend your orgasms. It talks about the different types of female orgasms and how to attain them. Chapter 3 and 4 are basically copies of each other – but one talks about what you should when you are the penetrating partner and one talks about what you should do when you are the receiving partner. Both talk about ways to enhance what you’re already giving or receiving.

After those basic “intro” chapters, we get down to the chapters that will begin to include the well-known positions and illustrations of positions. The fifth chapter is all about missionary while the sixth is all about doggy style. The seventh is all about girl-on-top while the eighth is all about spooning.

Ride Em Cowgirl

An example of the text along with illustration

The chapters after those all explain goal-orientated positions. For example, the ninth chapter is all about positions that will allow access to the clitoris for extra pleasure. The tenth chapter is all about positions that reach the g-spot. Both of those two chapters also explain about what it is and why it’s important to stimulate. The eleventh chapter is all about have penis-to-anal sex with the female and the twelve chapter is about stimulating the male p-spot and what positions work well for that. After that, the thirteenth chapter is about sex positions for plus-sized women; I was honestly a little disappointed by this chapter because it only showed four positions while other chapters would get ten and up. The fourteenth chapter is all about sex while being pregnant. It answers some basic questions like “Will I hurt the baby?” as well as gives good positions to go around the belly. It also talks about the specific changes in the sex drive throughout the trimesters.

The fifteenth chapter is all about outercourse – for example, dry humping, mutual masturbation, and things that don’t consider penis-in-vagina sex. Location is the subject of the sixteenth chapter, and it includes different places you can have sex. It talks about the different places to have sex in public and what risks you will take by doing so.

The seventeenth chapter is actually pretty neat. It’s all about the different types of penises – long, curved, short, girthy, not girthy, flexible, and rigid. It talks about what types of positions should work best for each type of penis as well as what ways you can help accomadate the problems of the penis to work better for sex. It’s actually a really unique chapter, and I’ve never seen anything like it in another sexual positioning book.

After that, the last, and eighteenth chapter, is going to be all about the different sex toys you can accomadate into your life. I wouldn’t call it comprehensive – in fact, the author made another book called Toygasms! that better addresses all of the information about sex toys if you are curious. However, it does go over a lot of the basics. After the sex toy chapter, you will hit the safety information chapter which talks about all of the safety concerns of sex and how to cut down on the risks.

So overall? I’m impressed but not as impressed by her previous books I’ve read. It’s a good book that goes above and beyond some of the other sex positioning books out there, but I feel like it could be improved upon by some more advanced positions and step-by-step directions. However, it does seperate the positions based upon what they work best for which is something that other books don’t do, and something that makes finding positions ten times easier, and I’m impressed by that too. The chapter about the different types of penises is impressive too. This sex toy store sells this sex help book, so pick up Ride ‘em Cowgirl today.

UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope Review

January 14th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope

UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope

Buying hemp rope for bondage doesn’t have to be impossible. In fact, UberKinky stocks the UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope that can be added to your cart with your other delicious items. 32 feet in length, this rope isn’t true hemp. Instead, the rope features the traditional look and feel of hemp rope while adding the strength and benefits of polypropylene ropes.

One thing I really love about this synthetic blend: it doesn’t come with the same smell as hemp rope. Hemp has a very Earthly smell to it, and while some people absolutely love it, it only reminds me of a farm (Growing up in Iowa will do that to you). For that reason, I really have never been a huge fan of the hemp smell, and I try to air it out and clean it out of the rope as much as possible before using it. That hasn’t been an issue with the UberKinky Hempex rope. It has no scent to it at all.

UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope

Finished ends

There isn’t any particular packaging to worry about with this rope. You’ll just need to pull it out of the box it came from, and it will be ready to use! It ships in a standard and discreet box.

If you love the feel of hemp rope but haven’t liked the smell or the origin of hemp rope, this honestly could be the perfect substitution. Not only does it have a feel like hemp when you run your fingers over it (only a little bit softer than hemp), but it has the strength of hemp too.

The knots don’t always hold firm. This might be because the rope can feel a bit slick. It WILL hold firm if you tie your knots – tightly. However, this also does present some problems with untying the rope as it definitely tightens up really nicely when you try to tighten it. So too light of a tie comes undone easily while too tight of a tie it hard to undo. I recommend you mess with finding the perfect medium – or use ties that are easily untied for when the time comes. As always, please make sure you have safety shears nearby in case you’re unable to get the ropes off in case of an emergency.

UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope

UberKinky Hempex Synthetic Hemp Bondage Rope

Some people really love those gorgeous rope marks. This leaves the rope marks that hemp ropes will leave (with the pretty spirals on the skin as well). As always, it’ll disappear from the skin after awhile, but while it’s there, the spirals are really pretty and give that unique bondage look.

Be aware that the rope is 32 feet in length. This may not be long enough for all body work, but it’s a long enough size to do most of the work that you’ll probably want to do.

Since this is a synthetic rope, it’s easier to clean than some other ropes. It can be cleaned with a wild detergent in the washer even, but it should not be placed into the dryer. Allow it to air dry if possible. Make sure to give it a thorough washing after every use where it may have come in contact with bodily fluids – and of course, just a regular washing every once in awhile to keep it fresh as well.

Overall, this rope is a fantastic choice for your bondage – especially if you dislike standard hemp rope for any particular reason. It holds knots relatively well (though it may need some reinforcement), and it has a legitimately “real” hemp feeling to it. It’s light-weight, and it seems to hold a lot of good weight without stretching out. Now I just need to find more of it in various colors. Thanks to UberKinky for providing this synthetic hemp rope for my UberKinky Hempex rope review.

How To Improve Your Fleshlight Experience

December 26th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Fleshlight Blade Review

Fleshlight Blade

Whether you know it or not, the male masturbation toy, the Fleshlight, is one of the best-selling male masturbation toys out there. Providing an intense experience for a penis, these toys are frequently touted as one of the most realistic experiences possible without a partner. Building on that idea, Fleshlight offers multiple internal textures as well as multiple types of visual designs for added arousal.

Using a Fleshlight doesn’t just have to be a straight-forward experience. Sure, for the first couple years, that might work just fine. After all, though, you may want to start to experiment with a Fleshlight. You might want to try and get even more out of your Fleshlight experience. It doesn’t just have to be a “sit and use” type of situation. With a bit of creativity, your Fleshlight can add much more stimulation than your basic and regular use.

Fleshlight Fleshwash

Fleshlight Fleshwash

Take Care of Your Toy: Proper care and upkeep of your Fleshlight is step one in improving your Fleshlight experience. With proper care, the Fleshlight material will stay “like new” for even longer, and as you know, your male sex toy felt very close to the real thing when you first bought it. The manufacturer recommends using warm water from your sink to clean your Fleshlight. Because of its extremely-unique material, you should NOT use any type of soap to clean it. It will begin to break down the Fleshlight material. Specially-purchased Fleshlight cleanser can do any tough cleaning while an approved Renewal Powder should be used on the male sex toy to keep it feeling as new and as soft as it did on day one.

Use Warm Water: Did you know that your Fleshlight could be run under warm water for a more realistic experience? Run it under warm water or let it sit in a warm water bath for a couple minutes before playing with it. It will have a more life-like warming sensation closer to the feel of the real thing.

Fleshlight Pure

The inner texture. Image from EdenFantasys.com

Try the Couch…or the Bed: Just want to try something hands-free? Have you considered the couch or bed? Slip your sex toy between the couch cushions or the bed frame and the mattress, and you’ll have a hands-free toy ready to use. You may want to put something on both sides of the Fleshlight to keep it from sliding around, or you can leverage your body weight via resting your arms on top of the cushion to keep things from moving around. Either way, you can have a realistic thrusting experience!

Play In the Shower: Fleshlights are entirely waterproof. Have you taken yours in the shower? Not only can you find compatible suction cup mounts that will help you mount your Fleshlight to the shower wall, but you can just use your own hands to enjoy your Fleshlight in the shower. It also makes for simple clean-up when you’re done! As a word of caution, however, avoid getting any shampoo, body wash, or any other personal care products near your Fleshlight. Fleshlight material is pretty sensitive, and harsh chemicals like those found in cleansers can break down the Fleshlight material. It’s fine to get it on the plastic casing, however.

Watch Some Videos: While you may sometimes watch videos while using your Fleshlight (spicywebcams, anyone?), have you considered actually timing the thrusting of your Fleshlight to the action on the screen? Not only can it feels great, but it helps you to feel more immersed in the action of your favorite adult movies.

Consider Fleshlight Mounts: You may not have known this when you bought it, but Liberator makes Fleshlight Mounts for your Fleshlight. Designed of the same high-quality material as the rest of their sex positioning furniture, these mounts feature a washable hole that allows the Fleshlight to fit inside. This allows for perfect hands-free use with something that can be moved anywhere in your home. Not only that, but these mounts can be used during partnered sex for better angles as well!

Use It With a Partner: While you might consider a Fleshlight a solo masturbation toy, have you considered using it with a partner? Not only may your partner enjoy watching you use a sex toy, but they may enjoy using it on you themselves. During a non-sexual time with your partner, if you think it’s appropriate, bring it up and gently suggest that the two of you try it together.

Not only can you use these tips to improve your Fleshlight experience, but you can always consider adding a new Fleshlight to your toy chest as well. With different internal textures, a different toy can add all different sensations. Happy masturbating!

Naughty Games for Naughty People Book Review

December 12th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Naughty Games for Naughty People

The front cover of the book

Naughty Games for Naughty People is a book full of games that are meant to be played in a group setting that have a sexual feel to them. It’s a paperback book that has 112 pages to it, and it is published by Kheper Publishing in 1999. This means that some of these games are certainly outdated a little bit, but the idea is still the same behind them. Because this is from about ten years ago, some of these games that they considered “extreme” may seem relatively normal now in our share-all culture. The front of the book shows three cartoon players in general states of undress playing a game where they are rolling a dice. You could possibly read this away from home, but since this book doesn’t have much value as a straight read-through book, I’d recommend just keeping it at your own home.

Naughty Games for Naughty People

Back cover of the book

The book, sold at this adult toy store, includes eight different “types” of games: Gossip, Criminal Activity, Vulgarity, Dirty Talk, Couples Only, Physical Contact, Risque Drinking, and Traditional Drinking. Each category has a variety of an amount of games – the average amount of games for each category is just four with the most being seven and the least being two. The games are all listed on the table of contents, so if something sounds interesting, you could highlight it on the table of contents and come back to it later to play.

Naughty Games for Naughty People

Inside example of the book

The book includes a symbol table that makes some of the symbols of the book easier to understand. There’s symbols to show that a game is good as an icebreaker, one to show that a prize should be offered to the winner, the game should be played outside, if the rules of the game shouldn’t be shared, and if the game requires stripping. The icons make it easy for the reader to know what to expect from the game at a glance instead of getting into the game before realizing that it doesn’t suit their needs.

Something about this book is that most of these games are most well-suited for groups of four or more people. They can be done in smaller groups, but it just seems to work better if there are more people to play. Unlike a small, intimate gathering, these are probably more easily done at a larger gathering where there will be a lot of people to play who don’t know each other quite so well. However, the icons will show you if it’s better set for strangers or for intimate friends, so it really depends on the type of game. I do recommend flipping through the book before inviting friends over though – just so you have a good idea of what games would be best to play with that particular group of people.

Naughty Games for Naughty People

Inside example of the book again

Just to give you an example about what the categories are like, the gossip category includes games that just deal with gossip. In the first game, you name a piece of gossip you know about someone, then the players try to guess who the gossip is actually about. In the second game, you have a checklist, and basically go “Scavenger hunting” with people who have had sex with people with the descriptors on the list such as “7+ years than you”. In the third, and final game, a large group of people attend a party where the host will spread three false rumors about the attendees. At the end of the night, everyone lists all of the rumors that they’ve heard and try to guess which three are fake.

For the most part, the “Naughty Games for Naughty People” book does include some neat party games that I haven’t thought up before. Some of the games are a little old or silly and might require some fine-tuning to make them fun, but the book does provide the inspiration that’s needed to actually come up with the updated version. There are thirty different games in this book split into eight different categories, and honestly, I think you’ll enjoy playing most of the games. It’s a great way to come up with new ways to amuse guests, and I’d recommend it if you have friends or parties often. This store of Adult Sex Toys sells this party games book, so check out Naughty Games for Naughty People today. While you are there, check out the rest of their adult books.