Setting Up a “Relationship Agreement”

June 30th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Whether you’re in London looking for escorts or just hoping to start up a relationship with a new person, having a general expectation of a relationship can avoid a lot of excess heartache and grief. Especially in alternative types of relationships such as kink-only or polyamorous arrangements, there isn’t always a clear expectation of what all parties want. In “traditional” dating, two people meet each other and find out if they’re (assumably) going to be compatible for the rest of their lives. What if you’re already married? In alternative situations like those, it may help to set up a playful “relationship contract”.

While everybody’s contract may look different, this type of clear, set-out arrangement allows all parties to enjoy the relationship without worrying about miscommunication. You probably already do this on a conversational level. You both might agree that you’d like to see each other once a week on the evenings or that a primary partner (or family or friends) may always come first. Putting it all out on the table with a negotiation-style just helps you both stay on the same page and prevent any misunderstandings.

Bringing this topic up with your partner doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, you can make an enjoyable and playful experience. If you’re at a loss for words, consider something like: “I really enjoy spending time with you, and I want to make sure that we’re both as happy and as fulfilled as possible in our relationship. If it’s okay with you, I’d like to sit down and discuss what we both really would like from each other to avoid any future misunderstandings”. If it makes it more fun for the two of you to open up a word processor and make a “professional” contract, go for it! If you prefer just a verbal discussion, that can work too. However, I would recommend that you have your agreements written down in some format. The idea isn’t to throw it in your partner’s face in an argument (“You said we could meet twice a week and we haven’t!”), but instead, the idea is that you both can revisit what you’ve agreed to at a later date and see if things have changed.

Whether you want to call it a “relationship contract”, a “relationship agreement”, or a “friendship pact”, the idea is the same: it’s a general set of principles that you both agree upon that makes everything run more smoothly. If you’re hoping to set up a “relationship contract”, here are some things you may want to consider:

Time Together: If there’s ever a single thing we only get a limited amount of in our lifetimes, it’s time. We can always make more money or buy more things, but the amount of time we have is always finite. Discussing how much you’d like to see one another is a good idea to nail down. Misunderstandings of time, sexuality, and money tend to spark the largest disagreements in most relationships. Whether you want to hang out once a week with an overnight visit or prefer to see each other every two weeks for a couple days in a row, this is something that you both should discuss and agree upon.

Digital Contact: If you can’t see each other often, you may want to talk about how often you’d expect digital contact. Would you like a text at least every day? Would you rather prefer an e-mail once every couple days instead of the regular, smaller texts? Knowing where you both stand on this will help you both stay close to one another even when you’re not in the same physical proximity.

Sexual Activities: Sex is a huge part of most relationships – or it may not be a part of yours at all. What does matter is that you both agree on it. Whether you both think once a week is a good amount, once a month is fine, or once a day would be great, having sexual differences can cause a lot of frustration – and quickly. Discuss what works best for both of you, and be able to compromise with what you’d like. This may also be the time where you want to discuss any particular issues that may make you more/less interested in having sex, so that your partner may understand in the future. (For example, if your partner wants to have more sex, but you find that having sex after having to deal with the children all night doesn’t work for you, your partner may want to volunteer for childcare duties on occasion to make sex more appealing)

Monetary Considerations: While you and your partner may wing it when it comes to who foots the bill, you might want to briefly discuss this point. It may turn out that one of you has been feeling frustrated over never (or always) paying the bill. While it’s not something you have to include, having this point ironed or (or at least ensuring there are no hard feelings) might make things run more smoothly.

Consider Outsiders: If you’re in a polyamorous arrangement, you may want to bring in people outside of the dating couple – or at least request their input. While the two of you may be great with the timeline you’ve set up, in a poly relationship, there may be more opinions to consider. While the two of you may think that hanging out twice a week would be great, another partner may feel shafted if they’ve been longing for more of your time. Asking your other partners for their opinion or input may prevent hard feelings in the future, but as always, understand that you can make the final decisions for yourself.

Other Arrangements: While these things can work themselves out on their own, you may want to discuss some of the smaller aspects of your relationship as well. How often would you both like to sleep (actually resting) together? Is sexting allowed or encouraged? If the relationship gets serious, how would holidays get split up? What are the arrangements for food preparation and how often would you like to go out to eat?

Sexy Realism: Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform Review

June 11th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Available from XDress is the XD Cheer Uniform. Adorable, feminine clothes specially designed for the male form, this cheer uniform was specially designed in the quality fabric found in real cheerleader outfits. It certainly doesn’t feel like a cheap Halloween costume. The set comes with the top, a cheer panty to go under the skirt, and the skirt itself. Each one of the pieces includes side zippers to easily put on the outfit. The outfit is made from 96% cotton with 4% spandex, and it’s available in the single red/black color scheme.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Side view of cheerleader outfit

The XD Cheer Uniform is available in sizes XS through 2XL, and they offer a size chart to easily figure out what size is going to work for you. For those of you who require differently-sized tops and bottoms, you can make a note in the checkout process to receive different sizes for the top and bottom since the cheerleading outfit is sold as a set. We received a Small, and the outfit runs pretty true-to-size. If you measure yourself and compare yourself to their size chart, you shouldn’t have any sizing surprises. Since these sizes aren’t quite typical male or female clothing sizes, it’s vital that you pay attention to the size chart when ordering. Since this outfit has very minimal stretch, I’d recommend going up a size if you fall between sizes.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Under-skirt panty that’s included

Don’t expect this crossdresser cheerleader outfit to feel like silken lingerie. It was designed to feel like a real cheerleader outfit, and that’s exactly how it feels. It’s not scratchy, but it feels very heavy-duty and durable. It has a heavier material that doesn’t “cling” to the body. If you have any particular problem areas or squishy areas you’d prefer not to bring attention to, the fabric of this cheerleader outfit does a great job of lying flat on the body instead of clinging.

The skirt has the “fly-away” panels that aren’t entirely realistic, but when partnered with the blank cheer panty that goes underneath it, you’ll have no issue with the skirt flying up. This design also means that any sort of “bulge” in the skirt is virtually non-existant, so if that’s a concern for you, you’re in luck with this outfit. Alongside that, this cheerleader outfit offers enough coverage to easily wear full-coverage bras with silicone inserts without any issues. The neckline doesn’t dip deeply enough in order to make it a concern to need to contour or set up cleavage.

Crossdressing XD Cheerleader Uniform

Backside of cheerleader outfit

When you’re done with your outfit, make sure ot hang it up. The material of this male cheerleader outfit doesn’t seem to hold wrinkles too easily, but there’s no reason to subject it to wrinkling if you can just easily hang it up on a hanger and reduce all of the problems. XDress recommends hand-washing, but we’ve put it into the washing machine (with line dry) with no issue on multiple occasions.

Overall, if you’re ready for a high-quality cheer outfit that’s going to actually hold up to cheering and was truly designed as a professional-quality uniform, the XD Cheer Uniform is your best choice. With a flattering cut and sizing designed for the unique shape of the male form as well as a fun and playful flyaway skirt, this is literally one of the best and highest-quality cheer uniforms you’re going to find. Thanks to XDress for providing their XD Cheer Uniform for men for my review.

Tips for Finding a Casual Sex Arrangement Online

June 11th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

The Internet has made it easier than ever before to meet people that you never would have in real life. The amount of dating websites is enormous. The convenience of being able to look for a potential mate from the comfort of your home or office is something that has attracted millions of people around the world to these sites. The Internet has also made it easier for people who are only looking for sex to find what they need. There are now as many hookup, one night stand, and sex only websites as there are regular dating sites. It is safe to say that no matter what you are looking for in the realm of relationships and sex, there is a site that will cater to your specific tastes. That having been said, what do you do if you simply want to get laid? Use some of these tips to find sex online.

Create a social media profile: Social media started out as a way for people to post photos and contact friends and family. However, it has exploded in popularity since then. It is now a very popular way for people to search online to find a fuck buddy. With one out of seven people on the planet having a Facebook account, this is an incredible way to meet people in any part of the world. There are also hundreds of millions of Twitter users around the globe, so social media is an extremely valuable tool for people who are looking for sex. However, the trick is to find people who are looking for the same thing you are. Fortunately, there are various Facebook pages and groups that cater to people who are trying to get laid. The popularity of these groups has seen a tremendous rise over the past few years, proving that social media is now one of the biggest methods that people use to find sex on the Internet.

Use an adult dating site: The words “adult dating” are usually code for either a site that caters to people looking to have an affair, or people looking to have a one night stand. In either case, if you want to get laid quickly, these sites are a good place to start. If a person posts a profile on one of these sites, there is a good chance they have few inhibitions. Many of these sites allow the users to chat with one another. If there is a connection, they can exchange their phone numbers. Basically, they operate the same as regular dating websites – except these are specially designed for people who want to a relationship based on sex.

Post an online personal ad: Online personal ads were around before adult dating sites and social media. They are the Internet’s oldest method for people to get laid. They are still surprisingly popular, so they must still be working for somebody. There are a wide range of sites that people can post personal ads on. The most popular of these sites is Craigslist. However, if you reply to one of these ads, as usual, please use caution before meeting up.

Black Level PVC Gloves Review

May 26th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Black Level PVC Gloves

Black Level PVC Gloves

Having a kinky appearance can be just as fun as having kinky sex, and that’s where fun costume accessories such as Black Level PVC Gloves come in. Opera-length gloves (they hit slightly above the elbows), these gloves are made from a PVC-coated material and are designed to have a fetish-look to them. Designed to comfortable fit your arms no matter what size, these gloves are offered Small, Medium, Large, and Extra-Large.

Black Level PVC Gloves

Showing how well/clingy the forearm portions sit

Along with the gloves’ available in different sizes, each one of these PVC gloves comes with a stretchy non-PVC panel along the back-side of the gloves. This panel allows the forearm portion of the gloves to stretch out. This means that people with larger forearms can still wear the gloves with very little issue. This stretchy, spandex-like panel helps the gloves fit, well, “like a glove”, onto the forearms for a sexier appearance that helps keep the gloves from looking like medical armwear.

Black Level PVC Gloves

Showing the back, stretchy panel for the best fit

The gloves don’t have a latex or PVC coating on the inside. You’ll only feel the PVC-type feeling on the outside of the gloves. The interior, while not soft, isn’t uncomfortable either. The seams can be felt, and there’s nothing uncomfortable about the seams when wearing the gloves either.

Because of the interior material and the exterior non-breathable PVC coating, wearing these gloves can make your hands feel pretty hot pretty quickly. You should expect to feel your hands start sweating within ten minutes of putting on the gloves. They definitely insulate the hands extremely well. There isn’t much air flow inside the gloves. However, even when really warm, the material isn’t slick, so you won’t feel your hands slipping inside of the gloves.

The oddest thing about the gloves is probably the thumb sizing. The thumb is long enough to look like a fifth, full-length finger. I don’t know if maybe someone has a hand like that, but the thumb on this one goes almost 3/4 as long as the pointer finger when the hands are laid flat. That’s a really, really long thumb. You won’t notice it unless you position the hand a certain way, and it doesn’t effect your handling abilities in the gloves too much. I wish it wasn’t quite set-up like that, but it’s not a huge deal.

Black Level PVC Gloves

Showing the thumb length

Taking the gloves on and off is pretty simple. They just pull off like any other gloves. However, if you’ve been wearing them awhile, be aware that the sweating from your hands may make them a bit harder to pull off. While the gloves do stick and feel tacky when rubbed against one another, they don’t have any problem with sticking or rubbing uncomfortably against any other materials. You can easily touch skin or other clothing without a sticky feeling.

To clean these PVC gloves, you’ll want to use warm water and some gentle soap. They can’t go into the washing machine like other clothing or lingerie, so you’ll need to hand wash them to keep them looking nice.

Overall, if you want cute, black PVC gloves, these will work. They seem to be wearable, but they’re hot (as you’d expect most PVC gloves to be). The spandex, stretchy panel means that the gloves will fit you as they should, and it’s relatively easy to move and bend your hands while in the gloves. The thumb length is really the only issue for the gloves; the thumb’s length just seems so long compared to the rest of the fingers. Aside from that, the gloves really have a great, sexy appearance that’s going to appeal to a lot of people. Thanks to UberKinky sex toys for providing these PVC gloves for my Black Level PVC Gloves. Choose a size and pick them and other women’s fetish wear up right from the UberKinky website.