The front cover

Please Sir is a Cleis Press erotic novel edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. It’s formatted in the regular Cleis Press erotica book format and has 213 pages. This is definitely one of the longer erotica novels I’ve read, so you do get your money’s worth. This is an extremely new erotica book with the publication date being in the year 2010. In those 213 pages, 22 stories are contained which leaves each story at about ten pages. The front cover depicts an attractive woman in a dark red corset with the book title in large font. The back side shows the same picture with some words describing the book’s content. Overall, not exactly a “discreet” book, so this is probably not something I’d take out in public.

The entire theme of Please Sir is “Erotic stories of female submission”. All of the submitting in this book will be done by females – although there is a story of an instance of a Pro Domme submitting to one of her male Dom friends. While not all of the males in the story happen to be Dominants 24/7, they all (vanilla or otherwise) take on a Dominant role during the sexual action.

The book, overall, contained some really sexy stories that were arousing. I won’t say that all of them were arousing, but it was an odd mixture. Most were “extremely sexy”, a couple were “bore inducing” and then another couple were just “interesting to read, but not arousing”. Many times, the stories were definitely good enough to, even when I had planned to put down the book after reading the current story, I continued on to the next story since the previous one had left a good taste in my mouth. There were a couple that just didn’t keep my attention enough; I wanted to skip the story, but in the interest of the review, read through the full story.

It’s worth mentioning in case you didn’t figure it out, but all of the stories in this compilation are written from a omniscient point of view or from the view of the submissive woman. This is possibly why I had a hard time getting into a couple – they were all written about the loving of submission, how arousing it was, and why they loved submitting to their male master’s penis. Not exactly my cup of tea, obviously. Good for “research” purposes – not quite so amazing for an arousal purpose. Because of that, I have a hard time downrating for those couple unarousing stories – they were written well, but the submissive mindset isn’t, obviously, a fetish of mine. Jor liked them though, so I’m pretty sure it’s a personal thing.

I’m not sure if this needs to be stated either, but all of this book is female submitting to males. No variance on that. No homosexuality or transexuality or threesomes or anything. Just the male and the female. Sometimes the couple is outwardly kinky and BDSM-y, other times it’s just a vanilla couple playing around with kink. Sometimes the couple is married, sometimes the couple is just friends or dating.

The plots are semi-over the place. They really end up being about the same thing – focusing on the male/female domination aspect, but they take place in different locations with different actions leading up to the domination. The domination is sometimes just verbal, but many times, it does include impact toys like canes or hand-spanking. Sometimes it includes bondage as well, but it’s mostly just the impact toys that make an appearance. Sometimes sex or masturbation is involved – sometimes it’s just the Domination and submission aspect.

One of the neatest stories (and one that I’ve heard a lot about from other reviewers) is the first story called “Anticipation” by Shanna Germain. It’s about a long-distance couple. The female is traveling the roadside on another continent, and when she logs into her Instant Messenger to talk to her Dominant, he tells her about how he’s remodeling the apartment with kinky ideas in mind like whether the headboard could be used to tie her up. It’s a pretty hot story, and the Instant Messaging aspect makes it unique.

In “Long Time Ago” by Heidi Champa, a woman returns to her high school reunion purely because she wants to see the man she had sex with a long time ago. He was the only man to give her the Domination she desired, and as you can imagine, they meet up at the reunion and have a repeat performance in a hotel room.

In “Knot Here” by Yolanda West, a kinky couple goes out to a diner to push their boundaries. The guy ties up the woman’s hands with rope under the table, and he slides his foot between her legs while she’s ordering – making the waitress a little confused about what they’re doing or if she’s being kidnapped. After going through the entire meal with her hands roped together, they go out to the car where they can’t wait any longer and go to the back of the diner to have sex. Turns out the waitress has become an audience member.

In “Mommy’s Boy” by Doug Harisson, a Pro Domme is talking to a male Dom friend after a scene they did together on a submissive. The conversation turns towards dominating the woman, and she happily agrees while he bends her over a spanking bench. Watersports is included in this story, but I really didn’t mind.

In “Masochist on Vacation” by Aimee Pearl, a female submission wants to learn her service ways, so she agrees to meet up with a Sir to purely provide service. She goes the extra mile beforehand and wants to make sure she does the best that she can do. She spends the weekend doing errands for her Sir, and the final climax of the story is when her full-body massage turns into an anal massage for him. This story ends with her realizing how much service makes her relax and how much she enjoys it. While I can’t say that I found this story arousing, I chose to include it on my review because it provides an amazingly unique viewpoint on pure service in BDSM. The writer did an amazingly awesome job, and it was a great read despite not being aroused by it.

“Walking the Sub” by Salome Wilde is probably the most unique story out of the bundle. It’s about a male Dominant who, in true BDSM fantasy (really, a lot of kinksters wish this could happen in real life), takes his female submissive out on a leash and for a walk in the park. A relatively long story, but it’s a nice one including public blowjobs, public sex, voyeurs, and lots of other fun, kinky things.

So overall? I liked the book  even if some of the stories weren’t the most “amazingly erotic thing I’ve ever read”. They still provided a unique look into a female submissive’s mind and were well-written. None of the stories were lacking in taste. As you can see from my list of “favorites” above (which I had to cut down on), there are quite a few hot, sexy stories that easily make picking up this compilation worth your time. This sex toy store sells this book of erotica, so pick up Please Sir today. If you want to save 15% off your entire order, use the EdenFantasys coupon “EP4″.

A lot has been going on with our local BDSM club. I’m actually the treasurer, so I end up getting involved with a lot of the activities going on. We’ve been working on getting more funds to purchase new things for the club as well as getting our name out there. Luckily, we’re a university-sponsored group (One of the very few in the US), so we don’t have too much of a problem with funding.

Something I’ve been attempting to do lately though is to get more resources out to our members. We all know that college kids don’t always have the best financial record, so our group attempts to get as many useable resources as possible for our members. Right now, we have a Violet Wand, lots of books, and rope for check-out by any of our members. Since some toys are fluid-bonded, I tend to try and stay away from getting the group sex toys or BDSM toys, but I try to stick to sponsoring books.

Lately, I’ve been trying to get more of them to the club. Especially since our club is actually an “Alternative Sexuality” club and not really just a BDSM club. That’s just where we usually end up at. So I’ve been attempting to get books on different types of sexuality donated to the group and not just kink books. Recently, I ended up purchasing the The New Topping book for our club, and Babeland graciously agreed to donate their amazing Moregasm book to the club’s library as well.

I’ve already written a review on Moregasm, but I wanted a copy for the group since we don’t have any sexuality books. In all of our sex club’s library, not a single one about actual sex. So I figured it was time to get one. Now the club owns a copy, and our members can learn about the importance of lubricant or anything else that they need to know.

For the most part, though, the BDSM Club is doing pretty good. Nothing exciting is going down. I just sit in for regular office hours to do absolutely nothing but read or do homework. I’m presenting a couple presentations this semester including Female Dominance/Male Submission, the Intro meeting, and Porn/Erotica. So I’ve got some fun presentations ahead of me. Here’s to hoping that my college/work load doesn’t kill me first.

The LELO Packaging

The Lelo Etherea Silk Cuffs in black are a pair of restraints made from both silk and suede. These restraints, sold by this sex toy store, are intended to be luxurious restraints. Each cuff is a separate cuff and they don’t include any specific things to attach them to one another. The cuffs are each a little over two inches wide.

The packaging for these Lelo restraints is well-made just like all LELO products. The outside box is completely black with a picture of the cuffs on the front and backside. The backside also includes the features of the restraints. The inside is a open-top box lined with some paper in which the cuffs can rest. You can choose to discard the outer box, and the inner box will serve well for discreet storage for the cuffs.

The cuffs are definitely made with luxury in mind. The inside, with the floral decorations, is made from soft silk. The outside which is the opaque black, is actually suede. The strands that tie the cuffs together are made from silk. The strands run between the silk and suede layers for extra reinforcement. Since the strands are so long, no one would have any problem fitting their ankles, thighs, or wrists into these cuffs. In fact, you could choose to use one of the cuffs as a blindfold without any sort of problem.

Showing the cuffs in their packaging

The cuffs work really well for tying someone up in bondage who isn’t used to being in bondage. As you can imagine, when you tie something with a bow, it isn’t exactly hard to get out of it, but it definitely feels more “escapable” for a couple who is new to bondage. For us, it was nice to feel the soft, sensual feel of the silk up against his skin, but he knew it would be easy to escape. (If he tried though, he’d still have to face me.) So for us, it wasn’t really a real time for “bondage”, but it still provided the soft feeling of cuffs around your wrist in a way that other leather cuffs don’t provide.

However, the biggest problem we had was attempting to tie the two cuffs together or to something else. Yes, the silk feels very luxurious against the skin, and the tails of the cuffs are actually longer than they need to be to make it easy to tie the cuffs together, but it just doesn’t seem to work as they intended it. Silk ties into a knot really well, and that’s actually the problem. It ties very tight knots, and after we’re done playing, we have to fight a bit to get the knot undone. It’s not a large deal, but just a slight annoyance. Something else we’ve noticed: the bows to tie the cuff onto the wrist are actually really pretty, but when it comes down to be useable, they just aren’t. If you want to tie the wrists together, then the bow will come undone when the cuffs are pulled on. So if you want to actually keep your “victim” captive, you have to tie knots or something more serious than a bow in the tie to keep it around the wrist. Again, it’s not a big deal, but it’s something to consider.

Showing the inside of the cuff

Since these have the long, silk ties that hang off of the cuffs after they are tied, you can tie these up to pretty much anything. You can tie them to each other, tie them to bedposts, or tie them to some sort of O-ring or D-ring. Most hog-tie sets have O-rings on the outsides, so the cuffs could be tied to that. Some Liberator shapes have the same thing. Some bondage bars have O-rings as well. This means that these cuffs willl end up tying to anything that you could snap a convention clip onto.

To clean the cuffs, you just want to wipe down each side with a damp, warm washcloth. Make sure you allow it to dry before you attempt to place it into storage. Because it picks up liquids and other messes, try to keep it away from lubricant or other bodily fluids. For storage, we are going to be keeping it in the original packaging – it’s small, discreet, and looks very romantic.

The Etheria Cuffs in a pretty bow on my wrist

For us, I’d say these cuffs work amazingly for looking pretty. When we go out to a BDSM group meeting, we could end up putting these on because they look fashionable and kinky. The boyfriend could wear these around the house without any sort of sweating or harm against his wrist. He could wear these to bed without any adverse effects as well. They offer different uses from the traditional leather, ‘hard-core’ cuffs. While they perform for other uses quite well, we just didn’t find them to hold up amazingly in the bedroom for real bondage. While we’ll probably use these outside of the bedroom for “softer” bondage, when it comes to holding someone down (which is always my intent), these just aren’t for us. However, if you have someone who is new, curious, or scared of more intense bondage (or is a relatively new partner), these cuffs look luxurious, could be presented on a birthday or holiday without seeming too “forward”, and just make a fun time. Tabu Toys sells this and other beginners bondage items, so if these BDSM restraints look good to you, pick up the Lelo Etherea Silk Cuffs.

The full Vida Lussuria set

I know when I first saw the Vida Internationale line, I was in love. They come in gorgeous (multiple) cases, are rechargeable, have strong vibrations, and come in a couple different toys. From there, I started collecting them. First, the Vanta. Then the Zara. Then the Vida Lussuria. Now all I’m missing is the fun Urja. However, I figure I shouldn’t steal all of the fun from you guys, so when I was accidentally sent two Lussurias, I figured one of my readers deserved to share in the luxury.

Showing the curves of this luxury sex toy

The Vida Lussuria is an insertable vibrator with a nice amount of length and normal girth. It has a curve in the body to provide g-spot pleasure as well as ridges along the top of the head to provide some interesting texture. It’s made from aluminum and silicone, has a backlit LED light, has five levels of vibration, is waterproof, and quiet. It comes with both a small train-case bag for storage as well as a smaller storage sleeve for a smaller storage option. It retails at over a hundred dollars, and I’m sure one of you would really love to take home this luxury vibrator for yourself.

I’m giving you a couple ways to enter for this Vida Lussuria. All are easy. I recommend you not include links in your entry to avoid it going to spam. If you are having problems with entries going to spam, feel free to Direct Message me on Twitter.

1) MANDATORY ENTRY: Go to Topco Sales, and let me know what other product of theirs looks interesting. Leave a comment.

2) For another entry, go to Vida Internationale and let me know which other Vida product you like and why. (You can choose the Lussuria. :) ) Leave a comment.

3) Follow me (Mistress_Kay) on Twitter. Comment to let me know you did.

4) Follow Topco Sales (TopcoToys) on Twitter. Comment to let me know you did.

5) Tweet (allowed once daily) about the contest. Comment (preferably without a link) to let me know you did. ( Play in Luxury with @Mistress_Kay ’s Vida Lussuria giveaway! http://kinky-world.net/?p=3141 Easy to enter! )

Thanks to TopcoSales for sponsoring the giveaway! It will end on September 17th, 2010 at noon, central time. Winner will be announced in a seperate post. Open to US and Canada residents over 18. I will be personally shipping this to you.

The front of the packaging

The Mini Wanachi is supposed to be an affordable, smaller version of the ever-popular Wanachi Magic Wand and it’s produced by Pipedream Products and sold at this sex toy store. It’s about seven inches long, the head is made of silicone, and the body of the toy is made of plastic. The top of the head has a diameter of a little under an inch. The head is adjustable and tilts at nearly a 90 degree angle if need be. This was meant for external use and not for internal use of any kind.

The packaging it comes with is pretty basic. The Mini Wanachi just comes in a little box slightly bigger than its own size. The box is really classy and just shows the product with a black/white gradiant in the background. The box doesn’t hold weight well, so this is only a suitable storage option if you plan on keeping this box on top of any other objects. Otherwise, the box will get crushed.

The back of the packaging

The Mini Wanachi runs on two AA batteries. The battery compartment is just at the end of the wand – much like it would be with other traditional vibrators. The batteries slide in really easily to the battery compartment, + side first. You seal the cap back on tightly, then you can use the twist dial at the bottom of the base to adjust the power of the vibrations. It goes from pretty low to a moderate-high – nothing amazingly powerful here. The vibrations are relatively quiet, but I’d say that these could be heard through a closed door if you didn’t have music or something else on.

The vibrator laying out

Something that concerned me was that, during use, the battery compartment end of the vibrator started getting hot – not just warm, hot. It wasn’t anywhere near burning, but it was at a point where it would be uncomfortable to touch the magic wand in that place. I’m not sure why this happens, but I’d highly recommend against leaving this on and leaving it unattended near possibly-flammable things. I’d also probably be aware of that problem and make sure you don’t put your hand there in a fit of passion just to get scared off by the heat of the bottom cap.

The Mini Wanachi was comfortable to use. The handle is pretty easy to grip, but I found myself wishing that the handle actually had more girth to it. In fact, I found myself actually wanting the flexible head to go away. Anytime I’d want to use pressure, the head would be “flexible”. It ended up making me a little more frustrated than I’d like to be. I also found that I was wishing the vibrations were stronger. The vibrations were relatively decent, but if they had more strength, I feel like it would have been much easier to be satisfied with it.

Showing the flexibility of the head

How does this hold up compared to the Wanachi? Well, it’s just not the same. Despite being run by batteries, the Mini Wanachi is actually still less powerful than the rechargable Wanachi. The small surface area of the Mini Wanachi also seems to pale in comparison to the full-size Wanachi. The Wanachi is rechargeable and doesn’t require batteries while the Mini Wanachi requires two AA batteries. However, the Wanachi is a pain in the butt to travel with or use during sex while the Mini Wanachi is extremely easy to travel with and is tiny enough to be pretty useful during sex. It does lack the power of the full-size Wanachi though, so that’s something to consider. But it also has a cheaper price tag. Decisions, decisions…

Since the head of this sex toy is silicone, I’d recommend using water-based lubricant if you want to use lubricant. For washing, you can clean this with some antibacterial soap and some warm water to get it looking all happy again. For storage, we’ll be keeping this in the box, but you may prefer to keep it in your favorite sex toy storage container.

Overall, it’s a neat little toy that works well for travel or small spaces while still providing more power and leverage than the average bullet. It’s body-safe, comes in cute colors, and is relatively inexpensive compared to other magic wands. While this Mini Wanachi doesn’t have any specific attachments that go with it, I’m sure can you find attachments for other wands that will fit this one. This sex toy store sells massagers, so pick up the Mini Wanachi (Pink) today. It also comes in Blue and Black.