Everything You Need to Know about Saran Wrap Bondage

September 01st, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Bondage in saran wrap or bondage in cling wrap: whatever you want to call it, bondage with this simple method has exploded in popularity lately. A quick look at porn and Tumblr sites can show exactly how popular this bondage method has become. Not only does it allow a simple and quick way to restrain your partner, but it’s easy to get ahold of and easy to use. Whether you’re used to escorts & babes or just want to try this with your partner, that saran wrap box is about to look a whole lot more kinky when you see it in the kitchen!

Ready to experience plastic wrap bondage for yourself? If you’re hoping to receive cling wrap bondage or do it to your partner, here are some answers to frequently asked questions.

Why Would I Want to Do This?
There are lots of reasons you’d want to do saran wrap bondage instead of any other form of bondage. The most noticeable one is that you want to practice bondage without lots of practice involved. Saran wrap bondage is extremely simple for anyone to get into – you don’t need to learn knots, and since it doesn’t press on nerve joints with pinpoint pressure, you don’t need to worry so much about nerve issues.

Saran wrap bondage is also something that can be done by virtually anyone. If you have access to a grocery store, you can purchase what you need. You don’t need to get cuffs or rope, and if anyone sees a box of saran wrap in your home, it’s totally normal.

Unlike other types of restraints, saran wrap is also pretty absolute. If an arm is restrained with cuffs, you can still move the elbows and arms themselves – the arm is just tethered to a point. With cling wrap bondage, it turns almost into a mummification. The arms and limbs will stay exactly where you put them as long as you do enough wraps with your saran wrap. This can provide for absolute bondage.

As a final bonus, some people really love that plastic wrap bondage is entirely see-through. After you wrap your partner’s genitals or body, you’ll see be able to see everything about them.

Why Wouldn’t I Want to Do Saran Wrap Bondage?
Of course, there are some reasons that some people prefer to use another method for bondage. For environmentalists, as you can imagine, this can go through a lot of saran wrap that needs to be discarded after use. This can also add up in cost as well (as opposed to something reusable like rope or cuffs).

Who Shouldn’t Do Saran Wrap Bondage?
Saran wrap bondage can be practiced by most people without a problem. However, like any other BDSM activity, you should go through a thorough negotiation before attempting something like this. Because of the finality and difficulty in escaping this type of bondage, it should ONLY be attempted with someone you trust. Do not try this with strangers or play partners you’ve never played with. If you must do so, limit it to torso bondage and leave the limbs free in case of an emergency.

People who are claustrophobic or terrified of being unable to move may also not do well with saran wrap bondage. If a person has circulation or body heating issues, you may want to limit the amount and expanse of saran wrap bondage that you perform.

What Safety Things Do I Need to Know?
While the deaths or injuries from cling wrap bondage are pretty low, it has happened (mostly due to drug use and bad judgement in that case). The most important thing to know about saran wrap bondage, like in most types of bondage, is that you DO NOT leave the bound person alone. Period. You don’t go to work for 8 hours. You don’t out on a girl’s/boy’s night. With some common sense, you can usually leave the room with periodic check-ins, but the safest option is to be available in the room – especially if your bound person is new to saran wrap bondage. You never know how someone will react to something – even something they thought they’d love.

It’s also important that you keep safety shears and blankets on-hand. The body is going to get very warm inside your saran wrap bondage – even if the person is naked. (Think of it as a Pro level blanket burrito) The air is going to feel extremely frigid after they’re out of their cocoon, so a couple layers of blankets can be very helpful. The safety shears should be kept around in case of an emergency; regular scissors could easily cut or harm your partner, but the blunt end of safety shears are specifically designed to be safe to skin while cutting off things. If you’re short on money, do NOT skimp on the safety shears! By them from a mainstream website (as they’re a medical device) instead of a kink website to save extra money. (Amazon is selling a pair for $5 right now. There’s no reason to not have some on-hand)

While doing saran wrap bondage is fun, don’t do it for too long. The sweating and the heat can dehydrate the body pretty quickly, so don’t spend hours upon hours in your bondage set-up. Remember to use common sense.

How Much Do I Need?
You’ll go through a decent amount of cling wrap for bondage, but it depends on what you want to do. Full-body mummifications can easily go through 4 or 5 200ft rolls of cling wrap. That’s about $9-16 worth of wrap depending on your local store prices. However, if you’re looking to experiment more with smaller areas, you can get away with a roll or two to just wrap limbs.

You can purchase decently-sized boxes of cling wrap at your local store; you may even want to check the dollar store as the brand-name certainly doesn’t matter for these activities. Some people prefer to purchase the “pallet-sized” cling wrap that’s designed for industrial use to wrap up pallets. You can certainly do this as well, and you may want to “graduate” to doing that. However, for beginners, starting with a cheaper and smaller option will help you get used to the sensation and safety involved with cling wrap before you try and handle a human-sized roll.

How Do I Do Plastic Wrap Bondage?
Honestly, this is probably the simplest form of bondage you can experience! Just keep wrapping the desired bondage areas until your captive experiences the inability to move out of those areas. That’s it! You’ll need at least a couple layers of cling wrap to experience that. You want to wrap it tightly enough to provide a binding experience without going too tightly. Remember, we don’t want to cut off circulation or anything. Having it reasonably tight without pulling it taut should provide the reasonable middle ground. Don’t forget to leave it a bit looser around the chest area to allow for the chest to expand during breathing. This is something you’ll just learn as you continue to perform plastic wrap bondage.

Before you play, you probably will want to have your partner strip down to as little clothing as possible – naked is optimal, but skintight clothing (like tight underwear or a bra) can work as well. This makes it much easier to cut off the bondage when you’re done. Also, as mentioned before, it gets hot in there, so you want to start them off with less clothing. Make sure you and your partner have agreed upon what you both are okay with before you start.

After you’re done, you’ll want to slowly cut off the plastic wrap with your safety shears. If you’ve done a full-body wrap, consider cutting each limb out at a time and gently massaging the tissue. As you’ve had the body in the same position for a long time, you want to get blood flow moving easily again as you cut them out. Don’t forget to have a blanket and lots of aftercare cuddles available.

Where Can I Use Plastic Wrap Bondage?
Plastic wrap bondage is really versatile. You can use it for a bunch of different uses. Consider leaving the limbs free while wrapping the torso and hips (much like a piece of clothing). You can then use your safety shears to cut out small holes for breasts, vagina, or penis stimulation. You can also bind the legs together from the knees down or the hips down. This makes it easy to keep your play partner from moving while you still have the rest of their body to enjoy. Arms and limbs can also be saran wrapped to external fixed objects to keep your partner from moving.

Don’t forget about full-body mummification. That can be done as well. As it’s very intense, make sure you both have agreed this is something you’re comfortable with. If someone is afraid of being unable to escape, this is not the way to start with saran wrap bondage! Consider wrapping up each individual arm and leg before doing the cling wrap over the entire body. This will provide an even-more-intense bondage experience. If you’re doing the full body, please remember to have common sense and leave holes to breathe as well.

How Can I Accessorize My Wrap?
You don’t just have to stick to the basic saran wrap! In fact, if you want to get playful, consider looking for colored cling wrap during the holidays. December almost always gets green and red wrap in retail stores – while you can purchase most colors year-round from various online retailers.

If you’re going for a full immobilization experience, consider blindfolds and earplugs before putting on the bondage wrap as it may intensify the entire sensation.

Looking for even more fun? Consider doing a very light layer of saran wrap. After that, use duct tape over top of the saran wrap, going line by line. Cut the tape after each line to get a nice, even wrap with each line. This may take longer, but in the end, you’ll have a person that’s duct taped into bondage without any of the downsides of having tape pull at the body hair.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo Review

August 23rd, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

One of the latest additions to the Tantus line-up is the Uncut #1 dildo. Partner to the Tantus Uncut #2 dildo, this silicone dildo is made from the special Tantus Dual-Density O2 silicone for a high-quality feel. 0.15″ wider and 1″ longer than the Uncut #2 dildo, this uncircumsized dildo is 7.45″ in length with a width of 1.75″ at the head. Odorless, hypoallergenic, and phthalate-free, this toy features a harness-compatible base that can also be used in strap-on harnesses. The base does not function as a suction cup, and the base does not include a hole to equip the dildo with vibrations.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Showing the texture of the dildo

I’m honestly really surprised that it’s taken this long to get a good uncut dildo out there. I’m sure there are a couple available, and I think I’ve seen them in non-safe materials, but I think Tantus has made one of the first mainstream uncut dildos in body-safe silicone. I’m glad that they have. While this doesn’t have a “moveable” silicone head (I’m not sure if dildo material technology is quite advanced enough to have a material that actually would allow the foreskin to move to expose the head), it does have a realistic feeling to it with a foreskin that mostly covers the head of the penis.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Showing the head of the toy

The Tantus Uncut #1 definitely is an interesting dildo – and it’s top-heavy. Unlike most of Tantus’s dildos, this silicone toy doesn’t stand upright if you set it down on its base. It will fall over. That’s because the head of this toy is pretty thick in size – much more-so than the shaft of the dildo. This is slightly frustrating as the dildo needs to be laid flat – unlike most other Tantus toys.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

No bullet hole in the base

The texture itself is pretty noticeable. The head itself is going to be the hardest part to penetrate with; once you get passed the head, it’s all easy from there. For people using this for anal pleasure, you’ll probably want to be warmed up to take the 1.75″ head. If you’re experienced, you may be able to take that without a warm-up, but most people will probably prefer one. Once it’s in, it’s a long toy. It’s about 7 and a half inches to be specific. This is surprisingly longer than a lot of dildos.

As like most Tantus sex toys, this one has a realistic-like texture throughout the dildo. There are veins, but they aren’t designed to be a “textured sensation” that can really be felt during use. Instead, they look realistic – like a human penis with an erection.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Available at SheVibe

The material itself is pleasurable – though slightly tacky. It’s not tacky in a bad way. It’s tacky in a way that will cause your hands to not smoothly slip down the shaft of the sex toy. Some Tantus silicone allows for that truly smooth experience. This one tends to grip onto skin a bit more. It seems to smoothen up a lot with lubricant, though. Something about the material works well with lube. It doesn’t seem to “absorb” the lube you put on. It seems to stay smooth for a long time, and very little lube reapplication was needed.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Showing the length of the toy

I’m not sure how much I’d agree with the “realistic feel” comment. I imagine it’s even harder to simulate a realistic uncircumsized feel because part of the experience is the moving of the foreskin. While this one looks incredibly real and feels great, it doesn’t quite feel like human skin. I didn’t expect it to, but some people might be disapponted after reading the marketing. It’s probably one of the closer attempts to realism that I’ve seen, but it still doesn’t quite hit the “Is this actually real?” test.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Another view

This dildo really seems perfectly designed for harness use as well. The length makes it a perfect harness partner – as you lose a bit of length when wearing a harness, an extra-long length is important. The base works well in most harnesses. The only thing you’ll need to do is insure that your O-ring is large enough to fit the head of the dildo. As the dildo is about 2″ in thickness, the O-ring will need to be able to switch out O-rings or have a built-in O-ring that’s large enough. The included O-rings with my harness were not large enough, so I had to switch out for a larger one. This is something you’ll have to think about in advance.

As a note, unlike some of the other Tantus dildos, the Tantus Uncut #1 doesn’t have a whole at the base in order to use a bullet in the dildo. This isn’t a big deal, but it’s just something to know.

Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo

Showing the head of the dildo

As this is made from high-quality silicone from Tantus, it’s a breeze to clean. It just needs to be cleaned with warm water and anti-bacterial soap. It can also be boiled in a pot of water in to sterilize it for use with multiple partners (because of its non-porous material). It’s compatible with use with water-based lubricants as well as high-quality silicone-based ones. I’ve had no problems pairing this with Wet Platinum lube. For storage, it does tend to pick up hair and other fuzzies (and even required a wash after putting it in the harness because it picked up some leather fuzzies just from putting it in), so you’ll want to keep it in the original box or storage bag to reduce having to wash it all of the time.

Overall, if you enjoy a thicker head and a long length with an uncircumsized appearance, this dildo is going to really appeal to you. It’s really a fantastic dildo all-around. The material is safe, the texture and appearance is very realistic, it smoothens up really nicely with lubricant, and it can be used in harnesses and by itself. As long as you think you’ll enjoy the measurements, this is a sex toy that does exactly as it’s supposed to do – and you’ll love it. Thanks to SheVibe for providing this uncircumsized dildo for my Tantus Uncut #1 Dual Density O2 Silicone Dildo review.

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Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness Review!

August 11th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

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Designed for plus-size bodies to enjoy the feeling of strap-on sex, the Sportsheets Plus-Size Grey & Black Lace Corsette Strap-On is a strap-on harness designed for larger bodies that’s sold by SheVibe. Its fully customizable design allows the harness to fit bodies between women’s size 12 and size 30 (US sizing) and hips up to 72″ in size. That’s a lot larger than most strap-on harnesses – even plus-size ones!) The harness is made with a four-strap design (jock strap style) and includes two metal O-rings that are interchangeable (one at 1.5″ in diameter and the other at 2″). The harness includes a small pouch for a bullet vibrator to pleasure the wearer, and it doesn’t include a bullet vibrator or a dildo. However, it is compatible with all strap-on harness compatible dildos.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

This harness comes in an easy-to-wrap, large box. The harness slides right out of the box and is ready for play. The box is a lot larger than the harness, so you may not want to use it for long-term storage. It’s also not particularly discreet, but it does a good job of getting your new harness to you.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

Padded back strap

In terms of sizing, this harness has “plus-size” absolutely DOWN. This isn’t just a sad “oh, it can fit a size 12 in women’s” plus-size. This one goes way past my body all the way up to size 30 in women’s. These straps are quite long, and it’s clear that they were designed to be able to fit smaller and larger plus-size women. Since the back design is pretty large and covering itself, it also looks normal whether it’s covering a size 18 or a size 30. However, if you’re on the smaller end of the spectrum, you may end up wanting to cut down the excess strap length. The nylon straps make it so the harness is extremely adjustable, but they also cause a lot of dangling excess if you’re on the smaller end of the spectrum.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

Pretty lace-up back on the back of the harness

When it comes to customizing the size, the nylon strap system makes it pretty simple. While it’s really easy to use, I’d still recommend having most of your sizing concerns taken care of before your first play. It takes a bit to customize and pull the nylon straps for the size of your body. The corset design on the back is (luckily) just for decoration, so all you have to worry about is the two waist straps and two thigh straps. The thigh straps are more of a pain to adjust than the waist straps, but both use a simple system that just requires you to pull tautly on the strap near the buckle. It’s much harder to loosen if you get things too tight, but in terms of how easy it is to pull on and tighten for a good fit, it’s extremely easy. I can’t say that I’m entirely fond of how this harness fits, but it’s more personal preference than anything. I prefer my harnesses to sit lower, but the design of this harness seems to have it sitting higher up on the body than I’d prefer. It tends to place the dildo more on the lower area of your stomach than over the vulva area. Some people really prefer the excess padding and angle of having a dildo situated there, but it’s not my preferred arrangement.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

Showing how large the back panel is

As for comfort, though, this harness definitely has it. The entire Grey and Black Lace Corsette Strap-On from Sportsheets is very comfortable. Beyond comfortable, actually. It doesn’t rub uncomfortably anywhere and (important for plus-size bodies), most of the contact points are relatively large to avoid digging into skin. The front panels and back panels are actually slightly padded and backed with a soft, satin-like material for added comfort. The nylon material seems sturdy, and since you’re able to easily customize your own size, you can keep the harness from being “too” tight in order to avoid the nylon straps getting into the skin.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

Harness with a dildo inserted

The dildo fastens into the harness really simply through the four buttons on the front of the harness that hold the O-ring. Like previously mentioned, this harness comes with multiple O-ring sizes. Just unbutton the buttons around the O-ring, and you can switch out the O-ring. To simply switch out the dildo while still wearing the harness, it’s easy to unbutton a single button, pull the current O-ring (with dildo) away from the body, and slip in another dildo. This makes it easy to switch out dildos in the middle of play.

Sportsheets Plus-Size Lace Corsette Strap-On Harness

The harness itself

To make it easy after playtime, this harness was designed to be machine washable. I’ve thrown it in a lingerie bag, put it in the washing machine, and then put it in the dryer on a gentle setting. It has had no problems with that. I keep it relatively bunched up in a drawer, but it doesn’t seem to mind that either. If you want to keep the back-end lace looking as gorgeous as possible, though, I’d recommend at least laying that part flat. It helps reduce any creasing in the material or padding. Overall, for a plus-size body, I don’t think I’ve seen many better harnesses. Not only does this one fit much-larger bodies than a lot of plus-size harnesses fit, but it also was designed for a plus-size body, and it’s easy to take care of. I’m not as fond of how the harness sits on my body, but that’s a personal preference that others may not share. I would definitely recommend it for plus-size bodies – and it’s gorgeous. Thanks to SheVibe for providing this plus-size harness for my Sportsheets Plus Size Grey & Black Lace with Satin Corsette Strap-On harness review. shevibe_468x60

8 Simple Tips for Using Internet Dating Sites

August 10th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

The Internet can really help you with your search for love – or just something for the night. Here are just eight tips for going online, joining a dating website, and utilizing it for maximum potential.

Upload Recent Photos: Everyone wants to look good in their profile picture, but imagine if your prospective date used a photo from six years ago when he had a full head of hair and no beer belly. Wouldn’t you feel cheated that the picture didn’t match the reality? Don’t do the same to others. Not to mention, this doesn’t lead you anywhere positive. It might get you a meet-up you might otherwise get, but your partner probably won’t want to go much further than that if you aren’t looking like your photos show.

Avoid Generic Descriptions of Yourself: Don’t say that you’re “funny” or “romantic.” You’ll find these words in 99 percent of dating profiles. To make a more lasting impression, throw out descriptions that are both specific and unique to you. For example, you might say that you “have an edgy sense of humor” or that you “prefer hot dog dates to candlelit dinners.”

Advertise What You Want: If you’re hoping to meet singles for no strings attached sex tonight, make sure you mention that on your profile. If you’re looking for a committed, long-term relationship, go into those details instead. Let the world know exactly what you’re looking for so other like-minded individuals can find you.

Fill Out All Forms and Surveys: Don’t be alarmed by a dating website that asks you about your favorite foods or political afflictions. They aren’t trying to trap you; they’re trying to match you. The more detail they put into their compatibility algorithms, they better chance they’ll have of recommending other members to you that align with your interests and values. You can skip these things if you want, but it’s going to make it harder for you to find good potential matches.

Look for Specialty Sites: If you’re striking out on a general dating website, broaden your horizons and look for something more specialized. There are hundreds of sites out there that cater to specific tastes, so it doesn’t matter if you’re seeking mature dating, Christian dating, disability dating, or hobby dating: there’s a place out there for you and your kin. People have even made dating and sex-meet-up sites that focus on particular fetishes, so if you have a unique fetish, consider seeking one of those websites out.

Be Brief: Again, think about what you like to see in other membership profiles. When you find someone who’s written a novel about themselves, do you read every word? Or do you scoff at their ego and move on? Don’t make the mistake of writing too much on your profile. Give details, but keep them brief.

Make the First Move: Don’t wait around for someone to message you. Get out there and send the message yourself! You don’t have to agonize over its contents; a simple greeting and expression of interest will do. “Hi, my name is X. I saw your profile, and I like X hobby too! I’d love to chat.” It’s as easy as that. Make sure to put some effort into your initial message, though. A simple “hi” is something that most people probably receive on a daily basis; you want your message to stand out among all of the other messages.

Vet the Site: Last but certainly not least, make sure you can trust a dating website before you give them any membership dues or sensitive personal information. How long have they been in business? How many users do they have? How well are they reviewed on third-party sites? Don’t sign up unless you’re absolutely certain that they’re legitimate.

These are just a few things to keep in mind as you utilize dating or hook-up sites. Whether you’re looking for a future spouse or just a good time, these tips should be enough to get you started in a virtual search for love. Good luck!