Sexy Roleplay Ideas

April 26th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Looking to liven up your bedroom time with your partner? There are tons of options: BDSM, sex toys, new positions, and more. However, some people choose to try roleplaying. Roleplaying allows both you and your partner to “pretend” to be people that you really aren’t. This allows you both to experiment with pleasurable and kinky roles that may not be otherwise (socially or practically) possible.

Have no idea where to start? This list of general ideas will give you a good idea of some roleplay ideas to experiment with.

  • Student/Teacher: One of the favored classics. Whether you want to pretend it’s a college course or a high school course (or maybe even just a library lecture), you can have a lot of fun with this. There’s something attractive about someone who is very knowledgable about what they’re teaching. Your roleplay can happen right after class or when you come in for a private “help” session – or maybe you just need to do a special “something” for that grade you need to graduate.
  • Police Officer/Offender: Uh oh – is someone misbehaving? The police officer can set them right! Local adult stores will sell handcuffs if you’re interested, but make sure to use the handcuffs with care. For a more public thrill, if you own two cars, have the “officer” pull over the first car, and let your imaginations take you from there. Of course, always ensure safety and legality when doing anything in public and near vehicles.
  • Nurse/Patient: While this might not be so enjoyable if someone is sick, it can be a fun way to experiment with the nurse/patient dynamic. It’s especially easy to pick up all sorts of creative costume accessories for a nurse outfit right around Halloween.
  • Callgirl/Client: You can get really creative with this one. If you want a weekend away from “home” without actually going out of town, consider booking a room at a local hotel and roleplaying this fun scene. The callgirl can be as high-class and expensive-looking as you both prefer. Don’t forget the money as well. Play money can work, but some people say there’s a special “thrill” about actually having real money involved for this fantasy.
  • Boss/Employee: While this one isn’t so fun in the actual workplace, it could be an enjoyable adventure for the two of you in your bedroom. This would work especially well with one person doing bookkeeping/bills while the other person interrupts with their sensual plan. (Of course, make sure this is consented to ahead of time)
  • Potential Employer/Interview Candidate: Just like some popular adult videos, this can be a fun one to play out. The inherent “power difference” between an employer and someone who needs a job can make it fun. All it requires is a pretend “job” to apply for as well as two different types of seating. This could be particularly fun in a home office.
  • Vampire/Victim: With the popularity of vampire novels and movies, this could be a fun one to play out. If you have a partner who especially loves biting, this one could be perfect for you.
  • Stranger/Stranger: This one tends to work best in an agreed upon public place where sexual tensions tend to run high – such as a bar or night club. Pretend you don’t know each other and enjoy the flirtation. Depending on how much you enjoy the show, you may want to make it obvious to one another that the two of you “just met” and will be going home together. It’s really up to your imagination!

While you don’t need anything in order to roleplay, you both may find it more realistic if you purchase accessories to go with your costumes. Adult fancy dress ideas may allow you both to see each other as your “roles” instead of the partners that you’re accustomed to. If possible, you may enjoy setting up a time “ahead of time”. This allows you both to meet up in your prospective roles instead of staring at each other and going “Okay! Now I’m this person!” For many people, meeting up gives you the personal time you need to make that mental transition into making the situation more believable. Of course, experiment with what method works best for your partner and yourself for the best results.

Five Head Wartenberg Pinwheel Review

March 25th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel

Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel

Based off of a standard Wartenburg Pinwheel, the Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel from UberKinky takes things to the next level. Made from stainless steel, the handle is attached to five individual wheels (each wheel can move on its own and doesn’t require moving with the other four wheels). The handle has no texturing on it, and the points of the Wartenburg Wheels are quite sharp. This BDSM sensation toy is 6.1″ in length with a width of 1.18″ at the wheels.

This small pinwheel doesn’t come in very particular packaging. Like all UberKinky packages, it will come in a discreet package to your door. The Five Head Wartenberg Pinwheel is contained in a small, flexible plastic slipcover that protects the Pinwheel. This case will not protect your foot from pain should you step on the Wheel, but it is thick enough to protect you from getting accidentally poked if you were digging around in a drawer that had this Pinwheel in it.

Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel Review

The length of the Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel

This Pinwheel was designed to be effective, and it’s good at that! All of the pins are surprisingly pointy, and if you aren’t careful, you could do more damage than you intended. A very, very light touch will get the general “shiver sensation” across without much issue. Once you start adding pressure, you may start to move towards a more pain-inducing type of sensation. This BDSM toy can definitely draw blood if you press down with quite a bit of pressure. For this reason, I recommend you always start with the lightest touch and gently work your way up as you find out exactly how much your partner would like. If you don’t know much about BDSM safety, you should definitely take a quick glance at the Beginner’s Guide to Wartenburg Pinwheels before you begin.

The rolling mechanism on the Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel works flawlessly as well. I was a bit worried about squeaking, but it has none. It rolls very smoothly across the skin without any squeaking. None of the wheels got stuck either. It feels high-quality and it behaves like a high-quality toy too.

Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel Review

The packaging with the Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel

The awesome thing about this Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel is that it’s as effective as you want to make it. Because the wheels are so sharp, you have a large variance in how you can use the tool. If you’re using this on someone else, I recommend that you try it out on your own skin for a bit. You’d be surprised by how much more sensation it puts out than it looks like it would. It looks a bit harmless, but rolling it over your skin will quickly change your mind.

If you already own regular Wartenburg Pinwheels, should you upgrade? It really depends. This definitely provides the same type of sensation as your other Pinwheel – only FIVE TIMES the sensation, so it’s much, much more intense. If you love the sensation of the regular, one-wheel Wartenbrug Wheel, you’re going to enjoy the sensation multiplied. It’s worth an upgrade if you already love the Wartenburg Wheel. If you’re lukewarm on the sensation of the Wartenburg Wheel, you may not find a reason to want to upgrade.

Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel Review

The five individual wheels on the head of the Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel

I’m not sure if this will change over time, but even with super-duper light use, this advanced BDSM pinwheel leaves marks on the skin. They are like little pink dots on the skin. They are much more noticeable if you press down with pressure, but even with very light usage, you’ll still leave a bit of a trail on the skin. Since there are five wheels, it’ll leave five identical tracks of lines along the skin. In case you planned on using this in publically-visible areas, make sure to try out a test area first to see if it does it to your skin as well! It might just be because the sharps are extremely sharp still, and they will dull with time and use.

My only slight complaint is that the handle of this Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel is entirely smooth. While it doesn’t seem like this would be a big deal, it means that it’s just a smooth piece of stainless steel. If your hand is sweaty or covered in bodily fluids, you might have a hard time keeping a really good grip on the toy. While this isn’t dangerous, it would be annoying if you ended up dropping it.

As this toy is made entirely of metal, it’s really easy to keep clean. A quick bath in warm water and antibacterial soap will do a standard cleaning while boiling water will allow you to sterilize it. Because the Five Head Wartenberg Pinwheel is quite pokey, please don’t let it where anyone could actually poke themselves. (Such as in a bowl of soapy solution near the sink) For storage, just ensure that it’s entirely dry. Metal like this could oxidize if you don’t let everything dry fully before placing it in storage. For storing, the original bag that the sex toy comes in works fantastically. It’s a thick enough plastic to keep the pokey tips from breaking through and harming someone.

Overall, this is an extremely high-quality BDSM toy. The Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel should last you quite a bit of time, and with the sharpness of the points, it really gives you quite a bit of flexibility in how intensely you want to use it. If you enjoy a regular Wartenburg Pinwheel, I imagine that you’re going to find this one to be an enjoyable experience as well – and it feels so much more intense! Thanks to UberKinky for providing this BDSM Wartenberg wheel for my Five Head Wartenburg Pinwheel review.

Tickle Your Fancy Book Review

March 16th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Tickle Your Fancy Book

Showing the front cover

“Tickle Your Fancy” is a book that is supposed to be A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure. The book is written by Dr. Sadie Allison and published by Tickle Kitty. It has won the Independent Publisher Award as well. It’s a softcover book with black and white pages on the inside. The book has 89 pages which are divided into 13 chapters. (Which means that the chapters are pretty short at about 5 or 6 pages each.) The book is a smaller book at about seven inches tall and four inches wide – and since it has so few pages, it ends up being pretty thin too. The front cover shows a woman’s neck stretched sexually while the back shows a picture of Sadie herself as well as features of the book. I wouldn’t recommend reading this in public because of the illustrations on the inside of the book. However, it only took me about 30 minutes to read through, so it isn’t a long book.

The basic premise of “Tickle Your Fancy” is to teach a female how to masturbate. I wouldn’t say that this would be useful to those who have masturbating for awhile, but if you are having problems orgasming or don’t see the point in masturbating, or are just curious, there’s things in here that the book could teach you. It is definitely intended for those who have never masturbated or enjoyed masturbation before. The short time it takes you to read it does help you stay interested then jump right into enjoying masturbation for yourself.

Tickle Your Fancy Book

Showing the back cover

The book does include quite a few illustrations. This isn’t going to be those pictures that is all text and no pictures – almost every page includes some sort of illustration. Whether it’s just a picture of a woman enjoying herself, an example of a masturbation technique or position, or a picture of a sex toy you could use, almost every page does have some sort of illustration to offer you. The women drawn are usually pretty slender and of model-like proportions, but it shows the idea. Again, though, because of these drawings, I probably wouldn’t take this one out to read in public.

The book does a good job of providing an overview of all the things you should know for masturbation. It doesn’t include a lot of any one specific thing which does help keep your interest, so you don’t get bored of any certain topic. The writing is well-written and written in a way that should seem friendly without being rude or too beginner-friendly. However, because it does include only the basics, you may find yourself wanting to know a lot more about a specific subject but it won’t be included – you may have to check out other books after reading this one. However, at least, when you read this one, you’ll know in what areas your interests lie.

Tickle Your Fancy Book

Showing the text on the pages

An interesting addition to “Tickle Your Fancy” is the “Playtime” sections. Basically, after it introduces something (like vibrators) the chapter after is a sensual description of how you could use the object described. It talks about dimming the lights, doing other sensual things, and teasing yourself before using it. It’s very softcore and makes the act seem very romantic instead of “gross” or “dirty”. If you’ve always thought masturbation was wrong, I could easily see how these Playtime sections would help someone feel a lot more comfortable participating in what is described. Aside from the Playtime sections, the book just reads like a regular book.

The book is split into those 13 chapters though. I can’t say that any of the chapters are amazingly long nor detailed – but they do get the basic point across and give you information about the basic things you need to know. The book gives a good introduction and talks about why masturbation is healthy then dives right into discussing the female anatomy. It also covers what an orgasm feels like, why it’s good for you, and the different types of orgasm.

Tickle Your Fancy Book

Showing some illustrations

Now we get to learn about being actually pleasured. It starts off by giving us tips on how to be ready for masturbation such as finding a quiet place, playing music, and dressing up. From there, we learn that movies and books are good places to find some sexy scenes to turn us on. Once we’re turned on, it talks about the different types of lubricant and why you should use water-based. (However, there is no mention of silicone-based lubricant. It mentions N-9 which makes me think this book is a bit old too. (Apparently the copyright is 2001, so yeah, a bit.)

We then learn about how to actually give the pleasure. There are three pages of “techniques” to use on the clitoris to provide pleasure then it goes into a Playtime story about doing it. Each technique does show a diagram to make it easier though. The next sections repeat the same thing but instead with information about dildos, vibrators, anal, and g-spot play. It does show you the specific types of sex toys that are out there for pleasure too, so you know what basics you have to choose from.

We then get a neat little chapter about how to use water for your pleasure as well as other objects including a washing machine, couch, pillows, and other things. It’s just a basic overview. After that is the chapter on how to have safe sex and keep everything clean.

Overall, Tickle Your Fancy is an interesting book but I found it to not be as amazing as I’ve found the rest of Sadie Allison’s series to be (Toygasms, Ride ‘em Cowgirl). It does provide the basics, and it makes you feel more comfortable about masturbation, and with practice, this book does provide everything you’d need to know to orgasm – but mostly for those who have never tried. If you are having difficult getting an orgasm, this probably won’t help you too much. If you’ve always been curious about masturbation orĀ  want to try it, I would recommend picking this up because it is an easy, fast read that provides all the basics and encouragement you need to try it.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension Review

February 10th, 15   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Designed to be different than other penis extension solutions, the Rhino (by Traz) penis extension offers a unique interior chamber for a perfect and snug fit that also transfers sensations. Available in a single length (8″ that can be reduced) with two various widths (1.5″ and 2″) and multiple colors, the Rhino by Traz offers multiple options. This penis extension also is available with various interior textures to suit your needs.

The Rhino penis extension has a built-in design that’s supposed to make it better than most penis extensions. Its “Exaggerated Stroke” design is supposed to transfer some of the sensation from thrusting to the penis that’s housed inside. It has a specific ridge along the shaft designed for g-spot stimulation for a female partner. The interior rings help keep the attachment in place while also folding and compressing for added sensation onto the penis. Not only that, but the Rhino by Traz uses a vacuum seal technology in order to keep the penis extension in place and avoid it sliding off during use.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Packaging for the Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

The Rhino by Traz comes in pretty standard packaging. It is, however, in a box, so if you need to gift-wrap this for any reason, it’s very easy to wrap. The box also includes a print-out of instruction manual of how to use the Traz Rhino.

The Rhino Penis Extension includes three pieces: the penis extension itself, the interior filler piece, and a penis extension “plug”. These three pieces work together to ensure that the penis extension is enjoyable and stays in place. To use, you first will need to trim the various pieces to fit (instructions are included). After that, the filler piece is inserted into the tip of the penis extension. You’ll then need to lubricate your penis and the extension’s interior. Once you’ve done that, slide the penis in. Once your penis is nice and snug, press the penis plug into the hole to start the vacuum seal to keep the extension on your penis.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Showing the interior ridging

While the Rhino you buy definitely has a “single size”, it’s a customizable size. By taking a pair of scissors, you can perfectly adjust the size of the Rhino penis extension. The extension itself can be cut around the base to reduce the length of the extension (if that’s what you want). The inner “filler” piece can also be cut that allows for the penis to properly fill the interior of the extension. This keeps the tip of the Rhino extension from bending over or getting folded while trying to use it.

If possible, I would recommend giving the Rhino a try by your lonesome before trying to bring a partner into the action. It’s definitely not hard to use the Rhino, but the first use does require some scissors and some trimming to ensure that the penis extension is the perfect size for your own penis. Not that your partner will be scared by scissors, but some couples may find that the time it takes to do the cutting and trimming will cut into their “first use” experience. However, it’s up to you as to whether you think this is something you and your partner are going to mind.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Showing the tip of the extension and the extension plug hole

I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised by how well the Rhino tends to stay on the penis. When I say “pleasantly surprised”, I also mean “insanely impressed”. The vacuum seal works way better than any other system that we’ve used. There are no fussy strap-on straps to deal with. It doesn’t slip off of the penis. It doesn’t have to adjusted at all. It pretty much just stays put perfectly. Be aware that it does take some effort to get the “penis plug” into the extension itself, but once it’s in there, it doesn’t seem like it’s going to slip out at all. I wouldn’t even have any issue using this without a condom covering it (thought the Rhino is NOT designed as a pregnancy prevention option, so do not do that unless you’re fluid-bonded and using an alternative birth control). If you prefer, though, a large-sized condom can definitely roll overtop of the Rhino extension. Standard-sized condoms may not fit correctly (depending on the brand).

When it comes to actual use, the Rhino does transfer some of the sensations, but not all of them. It was enough for orgasm for the wearer, but it wasn’t nearly as intense as it usually was. If you’re someone that is concerned about premature ejaculation, that could be perfect for you. It definitely provides less sensation than if wearing a condom, but compared to other penis extensions that we’ve tried, it does provide more sensation. It mostly feels like the sensation of the internal ribbing rubbing against the penis.

I’m not really sure what Rhino was thinking with the “g-spot curve” of the extensions. We’ve tried most of their line, and absolutely none of these “g-spot curves” do a thing. This is really my only complaint about the Rhino penis extensions. Maybe this is better for those with a very shallow and very sensitive g-spot, but I get no g-spot stimulation off of this dildo. Some might, but the design doesn’t really seem intensely designed for this. Considering most diagrams that say that a “hook-like” shape is required for g-spot stimulation, I’m not sure how the Rhino’s claim that: “8? of length keeps constant contact with the G-spot, the key to vaginal orgasm”. Again, maybe if you have a shallow g-spot or one that tends to get hit with straight-line toys, you’ll be good with g-spot stimulation, but I don’t see this being a g-spot toy for many women.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Showing the very gentle curvature near the tip of the dildo

It was definitely unique to try out a penis extension. The 8″ length is almost a bit too much. I’d love to see Traz come out with something like a 7.5″ dildo. However, keep in mind that you can easily trim down the Rhino using scissors, so this 8″ toy can become a 7.5″ toy with just a quick snip of the scissors. The toy stayed on with no problem during use, and it works fine with a condom over-top of it as well. Easier clean-up!

The Traz Rhino also boasts other uses. They recommend using it as a vibrator sleeve. This is definitely possible, but you’ll definitely deaden the strength of the vibrations by using this. They also claim that it can be used as a masturbation toy. Attempts with this have worked, but it requires a lot of frequent reapplication of lubricant. It also can be used as a stand-alone dildo, but it does require some manuvering since the dildo itself doesn’t really feel “sturdy” enough to grip onto without something inside of it supporting it. It seems to work better as a dildo if you slide it onto a vibrator or other toy first.

As a note, the Rhino penis extension can also be worn with a flaccid penis. Depending on the thickness of the penis, though, it can be hard to get it “set up” unless the penis is at least semi-hard.

Taking off the Rhino can be a bit more of a pain in the butt, but once you get used to it, it’s not so bad. You definitely will want a rag or to go to the bathroom to clean off the tip of the toy. You’ll need a good grip in order to grab the top and pull out the extension plug. It’s a bit hard to do, but you’ll figure out exactly how much pressure you need as you use it. Depending on your penis width, the interior of the Traz Rhino may leave ridges along your penis that may look concerning (if you ask me, they look hilarious), but they’ll go away within a half an hour.

When it comes to cleaning, you’ll need to pull apart the toy and clean out the interior and exterior. Make sure you don’t accidentally let the penis extension plug slide down the drain. The interior “filler” can be hard to get out, but with the lubricant you hopefully put in to add it in, it will slide out if you squeeze the tip and work it out. Once that’s done, just give it a good clean. It’s pure silicone, so it can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap. It can also be sterilized in boiling water or with a water and bleach solution. Silicone is a simple and safe material to take care of. When using lubricant, though, make sure you use a water-based lubricant or use a high-quality silicone lubricant that won’t hurt the silicone material of your Traz Rhino penis extender.

Overall, the Traz Rhino is a surprisingly good penis extension. I wouldn’t expect any g-spot miracles out of it, but it’s an amazingly effective penis extension. It stays on exactly how it should, is easy to customize for exactly your penis size, is made from high-quality materials and easy to sterilize, and extends the penis in a really simple, easy-to-use way. It’s not complicated. Thanks to Traz for providing this silicone penis extension for my Traz Rhino penis extension review.