Guy Tips for Successfully Using CraigsList to Hook-Up

September 17th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Now, CraigsList is definitely a sketchy website in some cases. There’s a lot of people that post on there because there are issues in their real lives or they aren’t able to connect with people in real-life. Because of the anonymous aspect of it, it also makes it a great breeding ground to find potential victims or find somebody that’s less-than-stellar. At the same time, not everyone who uses it is bad. A lot of people are on there out of boredom or just because other dating attempts haven’t worked. And when it comes to No-Strings-Attached sex, CraigsList is still known as one of the better places to try.

So, let’s say you’re a guy and you’re answering female ads looking to hook-up. This guide is designed to help you. It’s really not designed for males answering any other types of ads as I imagine a male-to-male dialogue has different nuances, and I honestly am not familiar with it. However, as a female who has experience with these types of things, here’s what you really need to know if you want to be successful in using CraigsList for a one-night-stand.

You Can Post Your Own Ad, but Don’t Expect Much: You can post your own ad on CraigsList, but honestly don’t expect too much. A lot of responses may be spam, but some women do read the CraigsList listings now and again, so you may get lucky. Be clear and concise in what you’d like but also be respectful. Read other ads and see what guys tend to do – now DON’T do that. You want to stand out – and in a good way.

If You Respond, Respond Well: If a woman posts an ad and you’re interested, please take the time to write out a legitimate response. Lots of responses tend to fall under the “hi” or “i’m interested” category. Seriously? It’s laughable. You might assume that she gets the same responses to her ads that you get to yours, but you’d be wrong. It’s a USUAL occurrence for CraigsList casual sex ads posted by females to get 300-400 responses. Guess what? If you don’t do something to stand out, she’s going to delete your e-mail without even bothering to reply. You want to have sex? That’s fine, but understand there are lots of other people out there that do too, and they might have taken more time with a response than you.

Have Pictures but Don’t Send Unsolicited Ones: Yep, you probably own some pictures of your penis – and you might think they’re awesome. But after 300 pictures of penises (one in each e-mail), they don’t look some entertaining anymore. Unless she specifically asked for it, you’re probably better off leaving it out. Instead, try something more suggestive. Women are used to seeing penises just out and about – and it kinda isn’t all that special anymore. (Having something shoved in your face so often means it’s just not all that unique) However, suggestive can be fun. Consider taking a photo pulling down the corner of your jeans and underwear to expose a hip bone. You can always save the penis pictures for later – when the two of you are actively flirting and having fun.

Understand Her Need for Comfort: If you meet up a girl for casual sex, it’s pretty unlikely you’ll be harmed or raped. Guess what? Her chances are MUCH higher that harm will come to her. While you both are looking for something casual, it helps if you make it clear that her comfort comes first. If she wants to meet in public first, do that. For example, if you’re meeting in a hotel, offer to meet at the hotel bar, see if you both “click”, then disclose room numbers if you both want to. While every person has different comfort levels, it’s important that you make it clear that you respect her need for safety and comfort.

Respond to Her Ad: Don’t just copy and paste a reply to every ad that’s posted. Instead, take the time to actually respond to what her ad says. If she says she’s looking for a good night of fun, tonight, you might want to make it clear that you have time available tonight. If she wants to fulfill a specific fantasy, respond with information about how you’d be a good choice. Read her ad; usually it’s obvious if she’s looking for a hot and sexy fantasy tonight or if she wants a good guy a week from now after she’s had some conversation with him.

Protect Your Own Safety: While it may not cross your mind, keep your own safety close as well. Just in case, consider leaving a notepad with where you went and who you went to meet on it in case something happens. You never know – you could end up meeting a male instead of a female, and it could potentially be dangerous. (Females can be dangerous too, of course, but it’s just much less likely) Also ensure that you have your own condoms and lubricant. In case she doesn’t have any, you’ll want to be protected and ready for your own fun.

I’m curious: have you ever used CraigsList successfully? Has it worked out for you?

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand Review

August 25th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand

One of the latest trends in electric sensations, the Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand is an affordable Violet Wand that provides pleasurable electric currents through the skin. Including 4 separate glass attachments and the wand itself, the Twilight Wand offers electro-stimulation.

This Violet Wand comes packaged in a sturdy box that’s going to work for storage. The interior is all lined with thick foam that has cut-out areas for each one of the glass attachments as well as the wand itself. It also comes with an instruction book that’s going to explain how to use the wand. For safety, PLEASE read the instruction book before going nuts with using the wand. It will work fantastically for storage, but it’s not particularly discreet. It does clearly state what’s inside the box on the outside of the packaging.

Basically, the Twilight Wand is electronic device that channels electricity through the glass attachments and then to the skin. The electricity will only “discharge” when there’s space for it to jump. Basically, if you have the glass attachments directly resting on the skin, nothing happens. However, if you let the attachments lightly hover over the skin, it will produce a pleasurable spark that travels between the wand and the skin. Perfect for beginners, the Twilight Wand includes a small knob at the base that allows you to adjust the intensity of the spark, so nothing has to be too intense. In use, you can even see the spark jump the gap between people – especially if you turn down the lights.

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand packaging

Like any electrostimulation sex toy, this toy has some pretty important safety information that should be followed: This shouldn’t be used with anyone with heart conditions, pacemakers, or those who are pregnant. Like all electricity, keep it away from flammable liquids, gas, or water. It shouldn’t be used in a single spot for more than 10 seconds as it could burn the skin. Immediately cease use if something seems fishy – like it has an odd smell, has smoke, sounds odd, or just seems like something is “off”.

As an important note that may apply to LOTS of people: Do NOT use the Twilight Wand on any jewelry, watches, or body piercings. It may transfer the electricity with more intensity than intended and in the case of watches or other electronics, it does have a possibility of destroying the electrical aspect of it – and who wants that?

A lot of people that I’ve talked to have a fear of electro-play. Honestly, there’s nothing to be afraid of. There are a lot of safeguards in place, and if you’re going to start with electricity play, a Violet Wand design is the way to go. With something like the Twilight Wand, you can easily hear the buzzing from the electricity. As the buzzing gets louder the more intense the settings are at, you can use this aural indicator to ensure that things are at a level you can handle. It’s also possible to turn the wand all the way down in intensity (and it gets to about the level where you can’t even feel it!) then slowly increase intensity as you find out what you’re comfortable with. Compared to other types of electro-play toys (such as TENS Units), I really find Violet Wands to be much less scary.

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand

Showing one of the glass electrodes

I’ve played around with many of the Violet Wand sets before, and with that in mind, I’m impressed with the Twilight Wand. Standard Violet Wand sets can cost upwards of $400 – and that’s with a basic kit. The Twilight Wand helps you save a lot of money compared to that! I’m unsure if it will be compatible with many of the Violet Wand accessories that exist out there, but if you wanted a lower cost alternative anyway, the Violet Wand could work fantastically.

The kit does include an instruction manual, but it’s pretty basic. If you have very little experience with electro-sex, I highly recommend that you do some online reading in addition to the instruction manual. The instruction manual will teach you how to use the Twilight Wand, but it doesn’t really give any safety or further information about using a Violet-Wand-Type-Toy in general. I’ve seen much more comprehensive instruction manuals before, and I’ll admit to being surprised that the instruction manual for this isn’t more comprehensive considering this kit is aimed towards a lot of electrosex beginners.

It’s pretty easy to use as well. Even if you’re new to electro-sex or Violet Wands, you’ll pick up the Twilight Wand pretty easily. As long as you put safety first, you’ll have no problem with this wand. The wand should always be off when not in use or when changing electrodes (I like to unplug the wand to be extra safe). The electrode then just simply slips snugly into the hole in the Wand. There’s no snapping or extra pieces to deal with. Once you have the electrode fitted into the Twilight Wand, you can start using it. Start with the lower settings and work your way up as your partner enjoys the sensation. When you’re done, turn off the wand and gently wiggle the electrode while pulling to remove it from the wand. Remember that the electrodes are made from glass, however, so ensure that you treat them with care.

Zeus Electrosex Twilight Wand

Showing how the Twilight Wand fits together

Each one of the electrodes provides a different type of sensation. Remember, as the point of contact becomes smaller, the sensation will become more intense. The Twilight Wand kit includes 4 electrodes: the Ambient, Halo, Illume, and Flux. As a beginner, I recommend starting off with the Flux (rake-looking) attachment as it produces the least intense sensations. The Ambient (single point) attachment is the most intense, and if you use it too intensely (staying in one spot for more than 10 seconds, full-power, etc.), it could possibly burn. The Halo and Illume produce more diffused sensations that spread out throughout the wide spots that the tips include.

Compared to a regular Violet Wand, this wand is definitely a bit different. It’s not a bad way, though. The average Violet Wand can’t be turned upside down. It will cut the power to the wand and make it stop working. That’s not a problem with the Twilight Wand. It’s made with a different inner core. It also feels a lot lighter and more mobile than other Violet Wands. Of course, there’s the fact that it also feels much more modern and not nearly as old as the usual Violet Wand does.

Using this is definitely a good experience as well. You get pretty much everything you need to experience this electro-sensation in this single kit. I wish the attachments were a bit differently-shaped as some of the attachments tend to feel similar to one another. However, it works perfectly for our uses. We can use it in the moderate range which produces pleasurable sensations that causing lovely moaning and shivering. It could go higher if we need, but the moderate levels have worked fantastically for us – and will work similarly for most people, I believe. The wand isn’t extremely loud, but it’s important that you’re aware that it does make some noise. It definitely can be heard in the same room, but if you turn on loud music/television, it’d be hard to hear it outside of a closed door.

Overall, it’s a good kit. If this is the kit you want, I have no reason that you shouldn’t purchase it. However, I’d steer most people towards the Neon Wand instead. Very similar in design and attachments, but the Neon Wand includes a more thorough instruction manual and allows you to choose various colors for your sparks when purchasing your wand. However, if you love the Twilight Wand and think it’s the right one for you, go right ahead! There’s no reason not to purchase it; just make sure to do some reading on your own about electro-sex safety. Thanks to Pink Cherry Sex Toys for providing this electrosex sex toy for my Twilight Wand review. They also sell the Neon Wand which was meantioned above in my review as well.

Silicone-Based UberLube Personal Lubricant Review!

August 13th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Silicone-Based UberLube Personal Lubricant

Silicone-Based UberLube Personal Lubricant in various bottle sizes

UberLube is a silicone-based lubricant designed to be more elegant and user-friendly than standard lubricants. Sold by Lucky Bloke, this lubricant is available in multiple size formats including a 50ml, 100ml, and sample-sized bottles.

As a silicone-based lubricant, UberLube is completely safe for use with all latex and other safer sex barriers. It can be used with any type of sex toy material aside from silicone, and it can be used for anal or vaginal use. It can be used for massage purposes as well. The taste isn’t fantastic, so I wouldn’t recommend going nuts with oral use, but it’s not horrible if you accidentally get some somewhere you didn’t intend.

I’m pretty impressed with the longevity of UberLube. Since it’s silicone, it should definitely last a long time, but it lasts longer than expected. I haven’t had any reason to reapply during regular sex, and during anal sex, it has to be applied even less often than usual. It still is silicone lubricant, though, so it’s not quite as thick as would be preferred, but the thinness mixed with the long-lasting slippery aspect does work out just fine.

It’s just like standard silicone lubricant, though, and it doesn’t clean up particularly well. I’ll give it points for cleaning up better than most silicone lubricant. If you wipe it up and only leave a bit on your skin, it will dry up pretty nicely on its own. If everything is still all wet and slippery, it has a hard time drying into the skin properly. So if you don’t want to go all-out with the warm water and anti-bacterial soap to get it off, just wipe it off and the remaining bit will dry into the skin (from experience).

Silicone-Based UberLube Personal Lubricant

Silicone-Based UberLube Personal Lubricant

As anyone who has ever used a silicone lubricant can tell you, it’s slippery – and it’s definitely to clean. As anyone has ever has used a lubricant at all can tell you, lubricant tends to get on the bottle when you’re using it. Between these two things and the glass bottle for UberLube, you have a recipe for disaster. It’s not the worst thing in the world, but handling the bottle is a giant pain in the ass if it gets lubricant on it. Glass gets slippery easily, and this lubricant is no different. While the elegant glass design is beautiful, I’d love to see UberLube add a textured label or change the bottle design so it’s not so damn slippery when it’s wet. It’s frustrating and feels “icky” while handling. If you can manage to avoid getting lubricant on the glass bottle, though, it’s not a big deal.

I love that UberLube offers their lubricant in multiple types of packaging as well. For those that just want a bed-side companion, you can get one of their glass bottles. If you want something for a weekend away, one of the vials of water-based lubricant is fantastic without being too much. If it’s just a one-time thing, they offer small packets of lubricant for single-use. By far, you get the best value with the bedside bottle, but if you travel a lot and hate taking more than you need, the smaller options are fantastic. They’ve even made a travel-friendly option with the logo on the interior for absolutely discretion (doesn’t look like lube at all).

While that isn’t the focus of what this website would review it for, UberLube is also fond of mentioning that it can be used for athletics as an anti-chafing solution (and I’ve heard that it works pretty well for that!) and that it can be used for stylish as a hair product.

Overall, this is a good choice of silicone-based lubricants. It seems to do better than other silicone-based lubes at the good things – and is less annoying for the bad things. It lasts longer than I expected, and it actually cleans up better than other silicone-based ones as well. Plus, the packaging is absolutely stunning and doesn’t look cheesy like a lot of sex toy packaging is prone to do. If you need a silicone-based lubricant, I’d say that it’d be hard to go wrong with UberLube. Thanks to Lucky Bloke for sending out this UberLube silicone-based lubricant for my UberLube review.

Tips for Having Sex in the Water

July 29th, 14   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Having sex in the water is overrated. There, I said it. There’s so much extra stuff that has to be dealt with, and it honestly becomes more of a matter of “doing it’ than actually focusing on the pleasure. That having been said, it also is one of those things that people love to cross off their bucket list – and it can be naughty and enjoyable in the right context! With that in mind, though, it’s important that you do a bit of preplanning before having sex in the water. Whether you’re planning it in an ocean or in your own shower, water makes for slippery surfaces – and not-so-slippery private areas. With that in mind, keep some of these tips in mind before you start experimenting with your next underwater sex adventure.

Heat the Water: As most people know, cold water doesn’t do so well with the genitals – especially the male side. If it’s possible, heat the water to a comfortable temperature. In some situations, like in the ocean or a pool, this may not be possible, so allow your body some time to get adjusted to the temperature – and be flexible if the cold water is getting in the way of sexual functioning.

Get Into a Safe Position: While it shouldn’t have to be said, safety comes first, and when we’re turned on, finding a safe position might not be at the forefront of our minds. However, it’s important that you both have good footing and a good grasp on one another before getting too rough. Especially in your own shower or bath, don’t be concerned about getting down onto hands and knees. It’s much better to have your stability than to end up in the ER because of awkwardly-explained broken bones. Some sex toys companies now make specific shower sex accessories just to help you achieve the perfect position in your shower; consider those as an option if you’re looking for shower sex.

Be Ready with Lubricant: You might be extremely turned on, but with water involved, the water can wash away a lot of the lubrication that females produce. You don’t want an uncomfortable penetration, so be ready with some lubricant on-hand if possible. Water-based lubricant will wash away in the water, but silicone-based lubricant should stick around despite the water. Silicone-based lubricant will keep everything slippery for an enjoyable romp in the water.

Understand Condom Difficulties: Not a ton of research has been done, but a few studies have shown that condoms are affected by use underwater. Hot water and chemicals can affect a condom’s durability, so make sure to have other condoms at-hand. In the best case, not relying on condoms or other latex barriers (having other protection sources) would be optimal.

Water Safety: It’s also important to keep the safety of the water in the back of your mind. Some sources of water really weren’t designed to be sanitary or clean – and that’s especially bad during sex. The same can be said about a hot tub or Jacuzzi that isn’t properly taken-care-of. Unsanitary water can cause rashes, irritation, or worse. Try to make sure that your source of water is clean. Of course, the easiest way to do this is to have sex in your own home or pool, but using reasonable precautions in other bodies of water can also help.

Legal Issues: If you’re not having sex inside your home, and instead, doing it in public, do be aware of legal issues. In most places, having sex in public is illegal.

With all of those things in mind, if you want to have sex in the water, have at it! Just make sure to do some fore-planning and keep safety in the forefront of your mind. Enjoy!