Named “Enby” for its non-binary design, the Wildflower Enby 2 is a one-size-fits-most, gender-free vibrator that’s made to pleasure all bodies and anatomies – with no specific type of genitalia in mind. It’s made from body-safe silicone, and it features 3 levels of vibration and 3 vibration patterns.
What I enjoy about the Wildflower Enby 2 is that it’s a bit of a “jack of all trades”. It doesn’t do any of its pleasure perfectly, but it does a whole bunch of things a-okay. Similar to the Satisfyer Multifun vibrators, it encourages exploration between the two (or more) of you, figuring out what your body really needs for orgasm and pleasure, and figuring out how you and your partner’s bodies can fit together in different ways (if you choose to explore the Enby 2 with a partner).
Here’s how it rates on the ways we like to use it:
Hands-Free Pleasure with the Wildflower Enby 2
This is probably our number 1 use for the Wildflower Enby 2 at this point. The Wildflower Enby 2 easily slides into a pair of my panties. I can spread my labia and snuggle it all up in there, and with snug undies, the Enby 2 stays nicely in the spot where I put it.
This means I now have a hands-free vibrator. We almost exclusively use this for adding pleasure (for me) when we’re focused on him – and I’ll want both hands to play with him. This allows me to really enjoy myself physically – not just mentally – when we’re both focused on him – which is what happens during a lot of D/s play, believe it or not. I generally leave the vibrations on the lowest level for this because the higher levels can feel somewhat numbing for me over time. I also regularly have to reach into my undies and turn off the vibrations to avoid (even the lowest) setting getting too numbing.
I can’t orgasm with this method, though. The vibrations and the placement are not at a point where I can orgasm with this set-up. It feels nice, and I enjoy it, and it works for great foreplay, but unless I start adding grinding into the mix, there’s no way the Enby 2 is getting me to orgasm with this hands-off set-up like this.
If my goal is “orgasm”, I’ve actually raved about the Lora DiCarlo Baci for hands-free pleasure – but I can’t use that vibrator in all positions as some body positions “break the seal” of the air suction. You might find some luck with the Ruby Glow, too, but that one can be hit-or-miss because extreme angles can feel a bit too pokey into your vulva-bits. You can always experiment with the placement of a wand massager head, too, for more hands-free pleasure. (I should probably do that, honestly).
Grinding On a Partner with the Enby 2
This comes in at number 2 on the list. While the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow is more pleasurable for me to grind against, when we’ve tried to put that onto his thigh for me to grind on top of, the hard plastic edges of the toy are just painful for him. Since the Wildflower Enby 2 offers super-smooth, super-thin edges of the vibrator, that problem disappears with the Enby 2.
This means I can grind on the Enby 2 while it’s sitting somewhere on his body. Our favorite is his thigh, but it could work anywhere. I still don’t find it “deep” enough to easily hit my clitoris, but if I manually spread my labia and take a really deep stretch in order to help it hit where it needs to go while grinding on top of it, it can be enough for orgasm. The silicone material of the Enby 2 is draggy enough to stay pretty well in-place on his skin while using it. (We’ve noticed some slippage when using it over clothing.)
I really don’t have a “good” alternative for this use. For us, this has been something we’ve really wanted for awhile, but most of the options we try are too “solid” on top of him, so when I add body weight on top of the object, it just digs the object into his skin. The Enby 2 is the closest to a comfortable option we’ve found – despite the fact that it isn’t an easy orgasm for me.
Pegging with the Wildflower Enby 2
If everything is properly aligned, I can orgasm during strap-on sex – just from the base of the dildo. That being said, it has to be in the right spot, it has to be the right dildo, and it has to be the right movement. So anything I can find that can help take that very-specific-list of items and help me to make it work all of the time is a high-priority on my list.
The Wildflower Enby 2 helps – to point. Essentially, the manufacturers recommend sliding the Wildflower Enby 2 between the base of the dildo in your strap-on harness and your body. It’s never really specifically stated, but I’m guessing the idea is that the strap-on harness will be tight enough to keep the Enby 2 in place with nothing else holding it in one spot.
And that sorta works – but it depends on the sex position. If I’m very actively pegging him like standing up or my legs spread apart (like being the penetrating partner in the Hinge Position), the Enby 2 stays in the right spot for approximately 2 seconds – and then slides away. Depending on how long I keep trying to use it and how long we’re pegging, the build-up of sweat and fluids (and reapplications of lube on the dildo that get smeared around) makes the Enby 2 get further and further out of place. It just isn’t functional for active strap-on sex. (Which is probably why the BumpHer design wraps around the base of the dildo to keep it in place.
However, if you’re going to be doing a strap-on sex position that leaves you more stationery (like him/her/them on top), the Enby 2 can add a good chunk of pleasure. For example, when I put on my strap-on harness and lay down for some of our femdom play, I slide the Enby 2 between the dildo and my body underneath the harness. I spread the labia, and I snuggle the clitoral bump right against the clit.
Then, when he gets on top, everything is in place, and since I’m staying mostly in-place, the when he rides the dildo, it just causes the Enby 2 to “wiggle” – which is exactly the grinding sensation that’s perfect for me for orgasm. The Enby 2 doesn’t slide out of place like in active sex positions, and the non-attached nature of the Enby 2 actually seems to cause MORE pleasurable movement than if it was attached like other options. So it’s definitely an A+ use there.
If you’re someone who doesn’t a lot more active pegging sex positions, though, you’ll probably want something that’s designed to stay in place better. I’d first look towards the BumpHer which is a pegging toy that covers the base of your existing dildos – and adds clitoral pleasure to them. If you’re open to buying brand-new dildos, though, the Wet For Her Fusion and Fuze Toys lines (like the Fuze Ten Ultra, Fuze Ten Foreman, Fuze Wilde, Fuze Ten Ace Dildo) are absolutely fantastic for clitoral-focused dildo bases.
Penis Use of the Wildflower Enby 2
We’re not super fond of this use. While it’s one of the uses that Wildflower Enby 2 markets itself for, it feels more cumbersome than pleasant – FOR US. With a penis-owning partner who doesn’t have dysphoria and enjoys using penis strokers, the shape and function of the Enby 2 just doesn’t compare to using a stroker or other vibrating options. It feels like a serious forearm workout to keep the Wildflower Enby 2’s wings wrapped around the penis, and my hand is just straight-up too small to actually have the finger-reach to reach the ends of the Enby 2 – so my “curled around the penis” shape looks more like the curve of a sloping hill than a circle.
Once you actually get it into place, the “stroking” functionality doesn’t feel particularly great to him without a ton of lube, and if we start pouring on lube to actually get some stroking in, it inevitably escapes the penis (and gets onto the gripping part of the toy), and then the toy that was already-hard to grasp is slippery too.
It just really isn’t for us.
If a vibrating penis toy is what you’re after, I’d definitely hit up the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Lux before the Enby 2. It has a similar, non-realistic design, but the vibrations are so much-more powerful, some people online say they can use hair-ties to fasten it in place for hands-free use, AND it has a remote-control so I can easily control the vibrations. The Pulse Solo Lux can be used flaccid or hard.
If hands-free is important, though, just go with the Hot Octopuss Jett. The cock-ring-esque penis vibrator straps into place (flaccid or hard!), and the two bullet vibrators attach to it for some serious penis pleasure.
Masturbation Grinding with the Enby 2
Finally, the last use we’ve found: the Enby 2 recommends grinding on the Enby 2 for solo/masturbatory pleasure. This really ends up as last on my list because it’s really unfunctional for me. If I set the Enby 2 down on a chair and grind on top of it, it never-even-sorta reaches the clitoris. If I set the Enby 2 down on a bed and attempt to grind on top of it, it still doesn’t reach the clitoris – maybe my thick thighs are in the way. The “pronounced” clitoral hump is just nowhere-near-workable.
The only way I could think to make this work with my plus-sized body would be to have it elevated on another object – like how it works when I grind on it on my partner’s thigh. The fact that my partner’s thigh lets me “straddle” the Enby 2 seems to make it workable. I’d probably have to make some DIY straddling station in my place to masturbate with it, and at that point, I might as well just get a different toy to masturbate with.
The Rocks-Off Ruby Glow is still my go-to for solo masturbation grinding – though I do have an Orion VibePad I’m in the middle of testing that shows some promise too. Both of them have clitoral bumps that are twice as pronounced as the Enby 2.
Final Thoughts on my Wildflower Enby 2 Review
That being said, it isn’t amazing at any one thing. As you can see by my recommendations, for each function, I have recommendations that work better – because they do. Each one of those recommendations doesn’t offer the same versatility as the Enby 2, though. Each one of those recommendations does the one thing – and it does it well – but it can’t do the other things on this list.
The Wild Flower Enby 2 is the only toy that can flit between various parts of your sex life – and still offer pleasure. It isn’t just one thing. It’s an all-in-one toy that doesn’t necessarily excel at everything it does, but considering you’d likely need to spend over $1,000 to buy all of my “recommended” options, the fact that this sub-$80 toy can do most of it semi-well is a testament to its design.
That’s pretty much the niche where the Enby 2 fits in. It allows for easy exploration, doesn’t box you into a “toy for this genital-only!” design, and still offers the features you want from a luxury sex toy like rechargeability and waterproof capabilities.
I’d still really love to see stronger vibrations – especially rumblier, deeper vibrations as well as more vibration intensity levels, but the Wild Flower Enby 2 still works a-okay as-is.
If you’re interested in reading the full Wildflower Enby 2 review, you can catch that on Kinkly.
Wildflower Enby 2 Review
Summary
The Wild Flower Enby 2 fits into a niche area of my sex life; it works well for some things, and despite the design that allows it to work well for other things, it doesn’t work well enough that would make it replace some of our other sex toys – that do those things better.
We really enjoy it for grinding against while playing together – and hands-free pleasure when my hands are otherwise occupied. The thinner clitoral tip requires some specific positioning on my end in order to actually make it hit the clitoris, but it’s very doable after I get everything adjusted.
The vibrations don’t do much for me, but if you’re someone who isn’t used to pleasurable wand massagers, the vibrations are decently powerful for a buzzier, surface-level vibration.
As someone who enjoys pressure and grinding for clitoral pleasure, I find that the big “selling point” of the Wild Flower Enby 2 is just the fact that it’s solid, rigid silicone that can be thrusted against until you achieve the pleasure you want – whether that’s slipped into a strap-on harness, rested on your partner’s thigh, rested on your bed, or more.
But as a cisgender human with no dysphoria, I may not necessarily be the target audience for this product. While leaving it out on my desk while some of my non-binary friends were over, they couldn’t stop talking about it or enthusing over it. The no-genital-specific design mixed with the “craft your own experience” can really appeal to people who are tired of the constant binary experience with sex toys.
