I’ve seen this book around so much, but I never actually purchase it when I flip through it since it just looks so tiny. Well, when I requested it from Adult Sex Toys for review, I was expecting to find that the book was so tiny that it wasn’t helpful. That’s completely false. I’ve actually found an attachment to this book that makes me want to read the rest of the series.
Toygasms! is a 142 page book written by Dr. Sadie Allison published in 2003. Sadie Allison also wrote the books “Tickle His Pickle”, “Tickle your Fantasy”, “Ride Him Cowgirl”. The book is published by “TickleKitty” which is a company I’ve never heard of, but I do like their taste in publishing books. The tagline for the book is “The Insider’s Guide to Sex Toys and Techniques”. The front of the book largely states “Toy Gasms!” right on the front and while it doesn’t have any nudity on it, it’d probably not be a good choice to take outside of the house. The book is extremely short to read as well. I’d say about an hour – and that’s a long estimate.
I’d say this is probably one of my favorite sex books I’ve read so far. So why was this book so enjoyable to read? The diagrams and the writing. The diagrams and pictures are all over this book, and Sadie Allison’s writing is ridiculously enjoyable to read. She gets straight to the point while including all of the information that needs to be included. There isn’t any paragraphs that feel like they have been expanded purely for the purpose of having more words. She also includes all sorts of fun positions and diagrams about positions to use the toys in. You won’t have to only rely on the words – the diagrams will show you the positions and other important points.
The book is set-up to be very short and straight to the point. It’s set up to be a book that can be read within an hour. She wants the information to be remembered without feeling like you have to study up on all of this. I’d say Sadie definitely accomplished that. The book is split into thirteen chapters, and each one includes good information.
Chapter one is about how to spring a sex toy on your lover. She includes information that is directed towards both genders instead of just one. She talks about how sex toys will enhance your life – not take it over.
Chapter two is about the erogenous zones. She talks about both male and female anatomy, but she spends more time on the female anatomy. In fact, she doesn’t include a diagram of the male anatomy saying that most males know their anatomy since they grew up with it.
Chapter 3 is “Getting Ready for Pleasure”. This chapter purely focuses on the female. This entire chapter just talks about different ways a female can finger herself including diagrams and specific techniques. She also talks about how a woman in her pregnancy can enjoy just as much pleasure as a woman who isn’t pregnant.
Chapter 4 is all about lubricants. It’s only a couple pages long, but it talks about water-based and silicone-based lubricants. In these couple pages, she does talk about all of the basics, and I’m surprised that she even includes to avoid silicone-based lubricants with silicone-based toys. These are the basics that any lubricant-using couple should know.
“Dildos – Ready when you are” is chapter 5. This entire chapter is all about dildos. She starts off talking about the differences between porous and non-porous the moves into talking about the different materials of dildos. From there, she talks about the diameter of a dildo, and it’s really neat how she includes a little chart that will easily show you what your toy’s diameter is in real-life. This chart is something I will be referencing when wondering about the girth of a toy before purchasing online. It then goes into the different types of dildos (realistic, abstract, smooth). From there, we then get to read about (and see) different positions we could use the dildo in – both for masturbation and for use with our partner. To end off the chapter, we get a short few pages about how to use specialized dildos to find your g-spot.
Chapter six is “Vibrators – Get your Buzz On!”. Allison talks about both the vibrators that plug in and those that use batteries. She gives the pros and cons of each type and gives the subtypes as well (Wands, bullets, traditional, etc.) She actually includes the vast majority of the different types of vibrators – even if this book is a bit old, she does have it covered. From there, she talks about the different accessory features your vibrator could have like being waterproof or self-lubricating toys. Like at the end of the last chapter, she then goes into showing and writing about the different positions vibrators can be used in – whether by yourself or with a partner.
“The Anal Playground” is chapter 7. Allison goes into the different types of anal toys and how to slowly ease yourself into anal play. She gives a short step-by-step guide about how to enjoy anal pleasure. Of course, she ends the chapter by including some positions you can learn to enjoy anal pleasure in.
Chapter 8 is all about nipple toys. It’s only three pages long, and she just includes the different types of nipple toys out there.
Chapter 9 is all about male sex toys. She includes all of the different types of male sex toys with a brief description about their features. She even talks about the different types of cock rings instead of just grouping them into “cock rings”. You’ll learn about the penis sheaths, vibrating cock rings, and ball spreaders and other toys.
“Strap It On”, which is Chapter 10, is all about using a strap-on. She includes pictures of girl/girl, but she mentions it can be used with men as well. She covers the two different styles of harnesses, how to choose a dildo to go with your harness, and covers other types of harnesses such as chin, head, or thigh harnesses.
Chapter 11 is all about those sex toys you already own such as how to use your shower head, your bath tub spigot, toothbrush, living room chair, washer and dryer, and tooth brush as sex toys. Fun little chapter with cute drawings.
Chapter 12 is about those toys that are always considered “random”. This includes vaginal exercises, hitachi attachments, sex swings, massage gloves, and blindfolds.
Chapter 13, which I’m really glad they included, is all about safe sex. It includes information on dental dams, condoms, and how to keep your toys safe from any STDs. Sadie recommends throwing multiple condoms on a toy and pulling one off as you go so you don’t have to keep putting new ones on. She does, however, mention that that isn’t a good way to go about sex where pregnancy or STDs are involved since the condoms can tear each other.
Overall, I was impressed with Toygasms! I will be looking into getting the rest of the series, and if you need to educate someone while still keeping them interested in sex toys, this is a great book. I recommend this mostly for someone who needs a book to explain the different types of sex toys to themselves or their partner. This doesn’t go very in-depth on recommendations on specific toys, but it will let you know what toys are out there. So head on over to this store that sells adult sex toys, and pick up Toygasms! Guide to Sex Toys and Techniques.
