Sexually Dominant Woman Book Review

August 25th, 10   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   7 Comments
Sexually Dominant Woman Book

The front cover

The Sexually Dominant Woman is “A Workbook for Nervous Beginners”. It basically teaches a woman how to be a dominant female. It’s a regular-sized book – about eight inches tall and five inches wide. The book was published in 1994 and updated with a second version in 1998. The book is written by Lady Green, published by Greenery Press, and sold by Fun Wares. The book has 83 pages, so overall, it’s a pretty short book. The front of the book shows an illustrated picture of a female’s boot as well as a naked male’s foot and has the title in large letters. The backside says “For the Woman Who Wants to Take Charge and the Man who Wants Her To”, so probably not a good book to take out in public. However, if you can hide both the back and front cover as well as a couple pictures in places in the book, you could easily read this in public – it’s just the cover that would give it away.

Something of note is that this book isn’t actually a workbook. Maybe it’s just how I was brought up, but when I hear the word “workbook”, I assume there is going to be questions or spaces to write in answers. There isn’t any of that in here. It’s just a regular how-to book – no questions or anything of the sort included.

Sexually Dominant Woman Book

View of the back cover

The book is pretty short. Even if you include the fact that it only has 83 pages, this book also only uses up about 3/4 of the room from each page and also has really large margins between the lines of text. This means that you are getting probably about 50 pages worth of actual text. I easily finished this book within an hour. Not that it’s a bad thing. If you are really, really curious about female domination but honestly don’t want to put in the time to read a full book, this is a good choice for that reason. However, if you are sure you are interested in femdom, I’d recommend checking The Mistress Manual instead because it includes a lot more detail. As a random note, I have a hard time faulting the book for this – yes, it’s a little “brief” by today’s standards, but if you look at her references in the back of the book, she doesn’t reference a single other How-To book about female dominance. This is because there weren’t any! This is probably the first female-dominance book that was ever placed in “popular” publication. There’s now a couple other books that are better choices than this one, but this was one of the first.

Sexually Dominant Woman Book

The first chapter page

The writer, Lady Green (Janet W. Hardy) does a good job with the actual writing. The book is extremely understanding, doesn’t assume that you are too scared or anything to do Domination, and approaches it from a factual level than appealing to emotions. If you are looking for a book to “baby” you by telling you it’s okay and everything, this isn’t it. It basically says “Many guys like this. You are okay if you like this. This is how you do it.” It spends a lot more time on the actual how-to than on the why. Which, for a book of this small size, is the best way to go about it. The author does do a great job of keeping the information, short, succinct, and to the point, so it’s really hard to get bored of the book because the topics are so short.

The chapters vary in length, but honestly, most of the chapters are about two pages long. Others go about as long as ten pages, but for the most part, the chapters are really, really short. There are 13 chapters in this book as well as the appendix – which is a lot to fit into 13 chapters.

Sexually Dominant Woman Book

Example of some of the inside

Chapter 1 is “Could you Be a Sexually Dominant Woman?” which is a small checklist of things that the author thinks you need to be a Dominant woman. I think this list is pretty much useless because it includes six questions that are pretty basic things. Either way, it’s still there. Chapter 2 is “How Did you Get this Book?” which basically addresses your concerns if your partner gave it to you because they want to be dominated. Chapter 3 is “What is Sexual Domination?” which basically explains that it’s BDSM – but not the harmful kind – it’s kind and loving.

Chapter 4 is “Styles of Sexual Domination” which is about a page long and includes the “three” styles the author is going to address – role-playing, sensation play, and helplessness (bondage). Chapter 5 is “Playing with Helplessness”. It basically includes info on why someone would like this kind and what types of objects you can use for bondage. It includes a rope tie, has an illustration about how to do it, and talks about where on the body you can and can’t do bondage. Chapter 6 is “Playing with Roles”. We get information on some of the more popular roles such as “Mistress/Slave”, “Teacher/Student” and what the basic premise of each roleplay is. Chapter 7 is “Playing with Sensation”. This chapter basically covers the different types of sensation that can be given. Since it’s so short, I really do feel like impact-toy sensation really got the shaft – yes, that’s not the only sensation there is, but it is the one that most people associated with BDSM, and thus, will attempt – whether they have the safety info or not. It covers genitals, cock rings, nipples, upper back, buttocks and thighs.

Sexually Dominant Woman Book

Example of another inside page

Chapter 8 is “Winding Down” which is basically just a chapter explaining why it’s important to sit around after a session and relax. Chapter 9 is “How Will you Feel Afterwards?” which really just answers the chapter title’s question in one page. Chapter 10 is “Tips for Physical and Emotional Safety” which touches on what items you should have around during play, why negotiation and safewords are important, and what negotiation questions should be asked.

Chapter 11 which is “A Basic Session” is my favorite chapter of the book because it’s so unique. Why? Because this is a step-by-step guide on what you should do on your first session. It includes what to say, what to do, what to make him do – it’s basically perfect, and this is something I’ve never seen in another guide. I remember when I first started doing BDSM, I searched online for something like this only to come up short. This is really the shining part of this book in modern standards. It’s really thorough and if you want to do a scene but are nervous, this will make things much easier.

Chapter 12 is “Some Notes for your Submissive” which is basically three pages of describing how a submissive could make their woman want to Dominate them more. (Pampering, being understanding, etc.) Chapter 13 is “Tips on Finding a Partner”. A small section is mentioned about the internet, but considering this was published in ’98, that doesn’t surprise me. The section is pretty useful, but it’s much more of a “What to look for in a partner” than how to actually find a partner. Like understanding what you are looking for and looking for someone who can hold a conversation and not just play. The Appendix just basically mentions how you can continue your FemDom journey and mentions some of the big-league helpful BDSM books like SM 101.

When I said “In modern standards” earlier, I mean to compare it to today’s standards with femdom books. And you know what? This book doesn’t compare well. I’m sure it was a shining star back when it was first published because the internet was filled with crap information, and this book provided a great source. But now, when the internet isn’t half-bad for good info and when there’s other femdom books out? This one really pales in comparison to other options out there.

Surprisingly, no matter how short this book was, it always included the proper safety information. That made me happy. Even if there was only a paragraph about something, two sentences were devoted to how to not harm someone. So despite this being a really quick read, newbies are definitely getting the right safety information.

Overall, though, this is not a book I’d probably recommend unless you a woman who wants to learn about Female Domination but has a very, very limited schedule. The book may have been an amazing resource 12 years ago, but with other books available now, I think this one is lacking in the detail that most books could provide. However, if you are really just barely curious or have a really limited time schedule, the short, basic-facts-only approach could really appeal to you. For most women, though, I’d recommend The Mistress Manual much more highly. This fetish book is sold at this sex toy store, so pick up a copy of the Sexually Dominant Woman if it sounds like the book for you.

7 Comments on "Sexually Dominant Woman Book Review"

adriana says...
August 25th, 2010

Nice to see your review of this. I REALLY preferred it over any other BDSM book I’ve read for Dommes. The tone is less restrictive than The Mistress Manual. If it’s your very first BDSM book, it’s a great option. It lacks all the BS of the other books.

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