You got yourself a male sex doll. It looks like a model straight from the runway with six-pack abs, muscled arms, and an abdomen “V” that leads right to his unrealistically-huge shaft. But…now what? Do you know how to use a male sex doll?
Don’t worry. With these quick, simple steps, you’ll be good to go and ready to relax into the experience. I recommend giving this a quick skim before you unpack your sex doll; it’s simple, but I don’t want you to interrupt your fun later. ;)
So, let’s talk about how to use a male sex doll:
First, Give It a Clean
Your sex doll comes straight from the factory. Even if that factory is absolutely spotless, sex toy manufacturers use releasing agents to get the sex doll to come out of the production mold. Those chemicals are probably still on your doll.
Washing your male sex doll when you receive it can be a great way to clean off all the chemicals and get to know your doll.
As washing a sex doll can be a bit of a production, I won’t even fault you if you choose to only wash the doll’s penis and anal channel for now. You can do a full clean later after your new toy is covered in the results of your great time.
Use Lube
No matter how you want to use your male sex dolls, you’re going to need lube. Sex dolls don’t have bodily fluids. You’ll need to bring your own.
Since sex dolls don’t have real skin, they don’t have the restorative properties of real skin either. If you tear the material, it won’t heal. That’s why I really recommend using actual lube meant for sex. Saliva may not provide enough lubrication, and you may tear the material.
Water-based lubes will be compatible with all sex dolls out there, so choose water-based when possible. No matter how you plan to use your male sex doll, you’ll need it.
Choose Your Sensation
One of the coolest things about male sex dolls is the fact that they offer two different ways to play. You can enjoy the penis, or you can slide inside the butt. It’s like one of those “Choose your Adventure” books!
When You’re Going for the Penis: Place the sex doll on a very sturdy surface. Coat the sex doll’s penis in lubricant, and lube yourself too (if desired). Straddle your sex doll. Press the tip of the shaft against your own entrance, and gently lower yourself down onto it. Go slowly; many male sex dolls are very well-endowed, and their shafts can be a lot to take. Once you’re on, you’re free to have a great time!
If you find that the sex doll’s shaft is simply too large for you, I’d recommend laying next to your sex doll and using some warm-up dildos on yourself ahead of time. Choose dildos that are smaller than the sex doll’s length, and take your time using them on yourself. This can help gently stretch open your entrance and get you ready for the sex doll’s larger size.
When You’re Going for the Butt: Place the sex doll into position. If you can support the doll’s weight, you can hold it in whatever sex position you want to replicate. If the doll is too heavy or unmaneuverable, I recommend placing it against the edge of a table or countertop or laying it face-down on a bed.
Lube up the doll’s anal entrance, and coat your own shaft or strap-on dildo in lube as well. When you’re ready, position yourself at the sex doll’s entrance and slide inside.
If you’re looking for a bit of added realism, use a warmer on the doll’s tunnel ahead of time, allowing the sex toy to reach a more realistic body temperature. This can make sliding inside feel even more life-like.
Don’t Forget to Clean Your Male Sex Doll
Clean-up is, by far, the worst part of sex dolls. The entire realistic experience is amazing. You get the hottest visual ever as you see a sculpted six pack while riding. You get the feeling of the sex doll’s firm pressure against your body. As you get primal, you even get to up the intensity as you grip and tug at the doll’s firm, heavy presence.
When everything is said and done, though, how to use a male sex doll includes cleaning it up too.
You can make-do without them, but you’ll find these accessories help:
- Enema/douche
- Drying sticks
- Handheld showerhead
- Disposable gloves (very ideal if you have long nails)
After you’re done with the doll, use warm water and a mild soap to clean up the sex doll anywhere you may have touched it. If you just used the penis, this is straightforward; clean around the penis’ base and the penis itself.
If you used the internal anal canal, however, you’ll need to clean that out. Use your fingers or the enema/douche to squirt your soapy water into the canal. Use your fingers in a curled-up shape to help pull out any lube or ejaculate inside of the doll, spending lots of time applying pressure against the texture of the internal canal. You, essentially, want to dislodge any bodily fluids or lube that might have caked up against the internal textures.
If you have fingernails, those disposable gloves can be really helpful. They can keep your fingernails from accidentally tearing the doll as you move it around. If you have salon-grade talons, I even recommend placing cotton balls in the tip of each of the fingers of the glove to ensure you won’t accidentally tear through the gloves too.
(IMPORTANT NOTE: Some sex dolls are made from very-sensitive, proprietary sex toy materials. If yours is, make SURE you read the recommended cleaning procedure from the manufacturer. You don’t want to accidentally harm the doll’s material by attempting to clean it. Some dolls may have sensitivities to soap.)
If you have a full-sized male sex doll, it may be easiest to clean it in the shower. Simply tote that sex doll into the shower, hop in with it, and soap up and clean up the doll while you’re in the shower. A handheld showerhead that can be moved around can help dramatically here.
How to Use a Male Sex Doll: Drying is Vital
When you’re done cleaning the doll, drying is equally important. Crevices and tunnels inside of the sex doll are dark, moist environments when they’re wet. You know that’s the secret recipe for mold, and we want zero mold inside of our sex dolls.
After you’re done cleaning your male sex doll, let it airy out in a spot with good circulation. This probably isn’t your bathroom. If you can, place your sex doll’s anal entrance right in front of a fan, allowing the fan to blow air up the tunnel.
Some of our sex dolls take multiple days (upwards of a week) to fully dry out after we’ve washed them. The sex doll drying sticks helped immensely to bring that drying time down to a few hours.
Just slide that sex doll drying stick into the doll’s anal canal, and it soaks up moisture. It works just like those moisture-sucking “Do Not Eat” packets in the clothing you buy. However, make sure you set a timer. It can over dry, drying out the skin-like texture of your sex doll by accidentally soaking up too much moisture.
Remember: even if you only used the shaft, you may have gotten water into the anal canal while cleaning. Letting it fully dry is still of the utmost importance.
Gettin’ Kinky: How to Use a Male Sex Doll
If you just want to get into (or on top of!) your male sex doll, have at it. When you’re learning how to use a male sex doll, there’s really no “wrong” way. If all you want to do is have intercourse with it, have at it.
If you want to get a bit kinkier with things, though, let me leave you with some easy tie-ins for your male sex doll with kink play:
- Use your male sex doll for cuckolding play. You can have a lot of fun talking up your sex doll as an “alpha” while your cuckolded partner can’t compare. Explore cuckolding without adding another person to your relationship.
- Enjoy queening. If you’re someone who loves facesitting or rimming, if your male sex doll has a face, this can be a great way to explore it. While the doll won’t be using its tongue, a touch of lube and grinding against the sex doll’s nose can provide some really hot visuals. Just make sure to understand what care and cleaning you’ll need to do with the hair if you go this route!
- Fake a threesome. Group sex can be a blast, but adding a third human comes with its own risks. Instead, couples can fake a threesome with a male sex doll. Create a backstory, pretend you’re in a hotel room, lay the doll out on the bed, and simultaneously enjoy the sex doll’s penis and anal entrance. (Or take turns if you want!)
- Explore double penetration. Skip the faux threesome roleplay, and simply go straight for the sensations with double penetration. While getting the positions can be difficult here (as the doll will be unable to make minor adjustments), you and your partner may be able to make double penetration happen with the help of your sex doll.
(Author’s Note: A sex doll with six pack abs and a penis isn’t automatically male, and it can be whatever gender you want it to be. That being said, I’m trying to get this information to the people who want it most, and unfortunately, that requires using the terminology that search engines will pull up when someone wants this information. While sex dolls themselves don’t have gender identities, please feel free to identify your sex doll however YOU want to match your kink scenarios and make your brain happy.)
