You might have thought you’d heard about all of the kinks out there, but tickling is one of those kinks you can never forget once you hear about it. A bit different than the standard BDSM kinks, a tickling fetish is just as enjoyable for the people who enjoy it. This kink might seem interesting, safe, and fun, which it is, but only if you know what you’re doing. If you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re likely to suffer miscommunications or just keep the scene from being as fun as it could be. A tickling fetish doesn’t have very many safety concerns (aside from the obvious concern from the resulting thrashing!), so this guide will help you navigate yourself into the most-satisfying tickling fetish scene possible.
Talk about It First
In case you and your partner are completely new to this fetish, you have to discuss some things before you try it. To start, figure out who wants to be tickled and who would like to do the tickling. Then, you have to talk about the tickle torture tools and techniques you want to try out and the ones you want to avoid. When you agree to the terms you’re comfortable with, you can start tickling each other.
Communicate with Each Other During the Torture
Discussing certain things before the tickling session is important, but communicating during the “torture” is crucial. If something feels good, you should say it. If you are not feeling well and you want your lover to stop, you must say that. Tickling can go from “teasing and playful” to “too intense” pretty quickly. Especially if the recipient is unable to breathe from giggling too much! If you are the tickler, don’t forget to check on your partner every once in a while.
A non-verbal safeword is also a lovely addition to tickling fetish play. Consider something obvious that can be banged loudly onto something nearby or a specific hand placement that means “uncle”. Especially when someone is laughing so hard that they can’t breathe, having an obviously-seen sign that you need a quick break is important. Consider holding the hand over the heart or whatever non-verbal sign works for the two of you.
Start with Your Fingers and Fingernails
If you are a newbie, you should probably start with your fingers and fingernails. All you have to do is touch your lover’s ticklish spots lightly and gently. Feel free to use your fingertips and fingernails to caress their body until they are crying with laughter.
Use Feathers and Different Kinds of Brushes
In case you can’t tickle your lover with your fingers, you can always try using certain tickling tools. Feathers have that light and ticklish touch. However, if your lover requires something a bit harsher, you can use different kinds of brushes. Paint brushes, regular, or electric toothbrushes will definitely make them giggle.
Lips and Tongue Will Do the Job
All the tools we mentioned above are appropriate for a tickle torture session. However, if you want something more sensual and erotic, you can use your lips and tongue. Kiss and lick your partner gently all over their body. Start at their feet and work your way toward other ticklish areas. You might need to experiment with the exact tongue and lips combination that feels ticklish to them, but it’s possible to tickle with kisses!
Use Restraints and Blindfolds
Tickling your lover while they are free to move and resist is fun, but if you want to experience the real tickle torture, you might want to tie them up and blindfold them. Get some high-quality BDSM restraints and tie your lover to the bed in a spread-eagle position. Then, use any of the tickle torture tools we talked about and have your fun with them.
Determine a Safe Word
We said that this fetish is usually very fun and safe, but only if the two of you are on the same page. The crucial part of that communication is establishing a non-verbal and verbal safe word. This way, if anything goes wrong, your lover can stop the tickle torture by saying the word you agreed upon beforehand. While you’re unlikely to cause permanent damage with tickling torture, you certainly can cause physical discomfort and bruised trust if the tickling goes further than the recipient is interested in going.
