The Fleshlight and Better Sex Essentials Gel Lube is a nice little kit offered from Better Sex. It includes the Original Pink Lady Fleshlight as well as a 8 ounce bottle of water-based gel lubricant for use with the Fleshlight. Since the Fleshlight can’t be used without lubricant, this is actually a kit that really was made for each other. The kit is actually cheaper than buying the two separately and is honestly even cheaper than buying a Fleshlight by itself, so I’d highly recommend you check it out if you are in the market for a new male masturbator.
The Fleshlight comes like all other Fleshlights come – in a giant metal can that can be used for storage of the Fleshlight. Unlike any other sex toy on the market, this male masturbator is actually less discreet when kept in the can instead of by itself. The Fleshlight comes with a small little sample packet of lubricant as well as a little booklet about the Fleshlight. The neat thing about the Fleshlight itself is that its basically a male masturbator that is contained in a plastic case designed to look like a flashlight. When the cap is screwed off, you can see the masturbation sleeve itself. The Fleshlight is about a foot tall, and the sleeve is contained pretty comfortably inside of the plastic casing. The “hole” of the Fleshlight is honestly only about the size of my pointer finger when not stretched, but this thing stretches around pretty much anything that will fit into the plastic casing.
In terms of care, you want to only use water-based lubricant with a Fleshlight since it’s made from SuperSkin which will deteriorate with silicone based lubricant. Most male masturbation lubricants are silicone-based, so check your lubricant to make sure it works for your masturbation sleeve. A Fleshlight is porous with no way to be sterilized, so don’t share it. After use, it should be rinsed out with warm water to get the ickies all out. Don’t use soap on this since it will harm your sleeve. Cornstarch can be powdered onto the sleeve after use to help it retain it’s skin-like feel, and this should never be stored while its still wet – it might actually mold. We end up leaving ours out on the counter for a day or so to let it dry. Amusing, but just fine if we don’t have any company.
To use the Fleshlight, you are supposed to lubricant yourself and pour some lubrication on the inside of the sleeve as well. From there, you just slide yourself into the Fleshlight. Jor reports that it doesn’t feel too tight – it feels honestly about perfect for him. We’ve had problems in the past with some of them feeling too tight and just slipping off during use, but this actually clings comfortably to him. We didn’t have to reapply lubricant during use, but if it feels like it’s getting a little dry or too clingy, just putting a little bit more lubricant will help. However, watch how much lubricant you put on since putting too much on will actually reduce the friction and make it less pleasurable.
What we found is that Jor wasn’t all that fond of the sensation of the Fleshlight. Surprising, I know, actually. We think it’s because the Lady Original actually is lacking in any sort of inner texture. It’s basically just a long sleeve that is without any texture or bumps which makes it a little boring to use. He says the most pleasurable part is the tight grip of the Fleshlight when first inserted but says that the sleeve itself is nothing to be impressed over. I have a feeling that he’ll enjoy future toys more if they include some texture inside the sleeve as well. (JULY 2021 UPDATE: That has definitely been the case too! I’d highly recommend not getting the Lady Original at this point! Should I Buy a Fleshlight?)
What makes the Fleshlight neat is that we can choose to purchase another sleeve for a discounted price to switch them out since we thing we’d like to try another one. During use, the sleeve doesn’t move out of the case, and the case keeps it completely stable during use as well. The case has little ridges on the outside which makes it easy to hold – even if your hand is covered in lubricant, but I’d still recommend you take a paper towel with you and attempt to get some of the lubricant off.
The Better Sex Essentials Gel Lubricant is a water-based lubricant with a thick consitency that is intended to keep it from dripping. It comes in an 8 ounce bottle which should be more than enough for months of use of the Fleshlight. The top of the bottle is a pop-top bottle, so you have to push down on one side of the lid to get it to open to pour it out. This means you may get some lubricant on the bottle itself, but since its water-based, it’s easy to clean up.
I’m not sure how I felt about it in conjunction with the Fleshlight since it was a little difficult to pour the lubricant into the sleeve and have it run down the sides like I wanted. It took a bit longer, but it would run down. It worked great to avoid having a giant mess with the Fleshlight though. All of the lubricant stayed contained with the bottle, his hand, and the Fleshlight. It worked great for lubricating the penis though and stayed on for quite a long time after we first applied it.
We ended up spilling a bit of it, but honestly, it didn’t leave any stains on our black sheets which was awesome. It was a bit slick on the sheets and didn’t really absorb, so we ended up washing the sheets though. It lasted relatively long, but we only used it with the Fleshlight, so it didn’t have to be reapplied during our use of the Fleshlight. It would be easy to reapply if it did need to be though.
In case you are curious, the ingredients for this lubricant are water, carbomer, hydroxyethylcellulose, methylparaben, trieti iaonlamine, propylene glycol, aloe vera extract, sodium benzoate, peg-8, and citric acid. While the paraben might make it unsafe to use with a vagina owner who is sensitive to chemicals, nothing in this line-up should bother a male using this with a Fleshlight.
So how well does the set work together? Pretty darn awesomely. The lubricant works perfectly with the Fleshlight and any other Fleshlights you will purchase. This saves you the hassle of attempting to find another lubricant to go with the male masturbator since this is already included. However, we both weren’t very fond of the Lady Original sleeve, and we might be switching it out for another sleeve. It felt okay for him, but this was nothing that would get him anywhere near orgasm.
