Let me let you in on some of my secrets to prevent pegging poop messes. I’ve been pegging butts for a long, long time now – about 11 years – and over that time, I’ve figured out some of the magical secrets to pegging. (Oh god, it’s apparently been that long. Give me a moment to let me realize I’m getting older.)
And as I talk about in my article about how I used to HATE pegging, there have been a whole, whole lot of changes I’ve made over the years to turn pegging (which had been aggravating, frustrating, and bothersome) into something that was usually enjoyable and occasionally orgasmic.
One of those solutions was to minimize the need to take a deep-cleansing shower afterwards because I felt like I’d ended up covered up in fecal matter.
I get it: doing anything around the butt means accepting that you might encounter poop. And I’m an adult and stuff. I totally accept it.
But that doesn’t mean that I have to accept getting it on me in any manner. In fact, as I have achieved adult status, adulthood means that I can use the tools at my disposal in order to reduce the likelihood of dealing with any pegging poop messes in the first place.
And after I’ve taught a couple of femdoms, in person, how to peg and realizing that these tips drastically increased their enjoyment too, I want to make sure they’re available to the masses at large. So, let’s dive into ways to reduce pegging poop messes:
Bottom Can Eat a Healthier Diet
“Eating healthier”, as ableist as the advice is, is a functional way to reduce the likelihood of coming in contact with pegging poop messes. The thing is: the more solid your bowel movements, the more likely it removes the majority of the “mess” when you have them.
Now, that isn’t advice that’s going to work for everybody. Not everyone can get ahold of “healthier” (whatever-the-fuck that means) food, not everyone can afford these foods, not everyone can eat those foods, and not everyone has the time to cook and prep these foods. Then, after all that, some people have health conditions that make “solid” bowel movements a pipedream. (Kinkly has some really good advice with that)
The goal here is “improved as best as possible within your body’s limitations”. At a bare minimum, if your body can tolerate it, consider trying to get more fiber into your diet. Especially if you end up with fiber supplement foods (like fiber-filled snack bars and such), experiment around to find one that works for you. Some people find that certain types of supplemental fiber can upset their bodies. Experiment and find what works best for the two of you.
And don’t be surprised that you end up being particularly gassy or odd-feeling directly after you increase your fiber intake. The body generally likes slow and gradual increases in fiber; after awhile, you should see some of the discomforts go away as it gets used to the regular fiber intake.
If you have that type of femdom dynamic, if you don’t think they’ve been eating the “proper” diet, you can always refuse to peg them until they get their eating habits in order. I’ll admit to being a slight sadist here, but I find it a bit fun to make my partner choose between his favorite, spicy meal – or getting pegged later.
Use Gloves to Contain Pegging Poop Messes
Disposable medical/first aid gloves are probably one of my favorite, must-have bedroom accessories. They keep everything contained – and ensure your hands stay free of lube, pegging poop messes, and more.
Disposable gloves are kinda my go-to for virtually anything mess-related in the bedroom. When we need to apply lube, I can use gloves to apply the lube – which ensures I can slip off the gloves when I’m done in order to touch my partner without making a lubed mess all of their skin. (Plus, gripping onto skin for better leverage is waaaay easier without lubed hands.)
If we need to reapply lube halfway through, I can easily pull on a glove, slather on the lube, and rip off the glove again to get back into the action. Again, zero contact with any sort of pegging poop messes – and as a bonus, zero contact with lube either! This keeps my hands free to roam my partner’s body.
Putting on (and taking off) your disposable gloves properly ensures you don’t touch any of the mess to keep your hands clean.
If you’re not a fan of the smell/texture of latex, gloves can also be used to put on any safer sex barriers as well. That’s further than we generally go, but it’s an option.
Gloves can also be used for menstruation play (if you need to keep blood/bodily fluids away from your hands for any reason) or long, long edging sessions (where you want to avoid your fingers feeling pruny). Or, y’know, for any type of medical play or kink/sexual play where cleanliness and sterility is important (like needle play or urethral sounding).
Honestly, disposable gloves one of the most versatile “sex accessories” I have in my entire bedside table, and we don’t travel anywhere without at least 20 in our sex kit.
They’re relatively cheap to get (prices have gone up since the pandemic) for standard, white, boring, first-aid gloves. Some sex stores and medical stores sell colored versions for a premium, but with how you’re using them (for mess containment), the colors don’t really matter so much.
As a fun fact, anytime my partner now sees me pull out a glove, he gets an erection. It’s a lovely Pavlovian response to them after using them for sex so many times.
(No, this isn’t the most environmentally friendly, but it’s one of those trade-offs I make for my comfort and ease during sex. If you don’t end up using your gloves for anything bodily-fluid related and only for putting on lube, Terracycle offers recycling for disposable gloves.)
Use Puppy Pads/Chucks/Towels
If you want to protect the bedding from any pegging poop messes, get a barrier layer to make that happen. This will keep any poopy lube from dripping onto the bed. If the dildo pops out accidentally, it also won’t flop onto your bedding and transmit fecal matter there.
An extra, disposable barrier can also be used for “dirty” implements. After you use your stretching toys or use a glove and strip it off, it can be tossed onto this “extra” barrier for easy disposal later. This helps you keep all of your not-messy items away from your messy items, and it reduces the likelihood of the two coming in contact with one another.
If you’d ever see me play, I generally have my partner lay out on one puppy pad – then open up a second puppy pad within arm’s reach. As I use various items (like used gloves, messy condoms, used dildos, etc.), I toss them onto this second puppy pad. This allows me to focus on what I’m doing with my partner, worry less about a pegging poop dildo rolling back onto us, and ensuring I don’t accidentally touch or grab something that’s in the “dirty” pile.
If you’re more environmentally friendly and not worried about doing more laundry, you can also use folded-up towels or a waterproof blanket like the No More Wet Spot for this too. That way, they’re entirely reusable and cost-free.
Depending on the bottom’s body, whether they have solid bowel movements, and how deep and rough you were going, you might also consider an extra towel or puppy pad for the bottom to wrap around themselves to make it into the shower. Especially after rough or gaping sessions, lube might end up dripping on the floor where you don’t want it. Having an extra barrier helps prevent that.
Don’t Forget about Condoms
No, your dildo can’t get someone pregnant, so condoms might not be one of your first thoughts for preventing pegging poop messes. But it’s surprisingly effective.
Slip a condom onto the dildo, and you have something that can easily be removed in seconds. If you’re changing positions and see a bit of mess on the condom, you can pull off the condom and start fresh with a new one. If you’re done with pegging and want to cuddle without the worry of any messes spreading, just pull off the condom. You’ll instantly have a clean dildo that won’t spread any pegging poop messes.
As long as you’re not using your condom to cover a porous material or to prevent STI transmission, you can also use expired condoms for this since pregnancy isn’t a concern with sex toys. We regularly keep around our expired condoms in a special pouch specifically for this pegging use. Not only does it reduce any extra environmental waste, but it means we don’t have to buy special condoms just for this.
There Are Always Enemas to Reduce Pegging Poop Messes
So, we rarely, rarely rely on enemas. My partner is extremely slender-bodied and sensitive to any body changes – to the point that most painkillers are potent enough to put him on the floor. So, enemas can be hit or miss.
Sometimes, the enema works great to clean out the area we’re going to play with – and sometimes the excess fluid ends up making him dizzy, and we have to call off pegging play entirely.
Enemas are never our first choice because of this.
But it doesn’t mean that they can’t be for you. Especially if you stick to smaller liquid amounts, doing an enema an hour or two before play can help clean out the area. There’s no NEED to do it (I hate the idea that enemas are “necessary” for anal play). But if you want to reduce the likelihood of coming across fecal matter, I definitely recommend it.
Further tips:
- If you’re playing with an unfamiliar femdom, I highly, highly recommend doing an enema ahead of time. Dealing with pegging poop on a partner I care about is one thing: having to deal with it on a near-stranger is an entirely new level of “nope” I’m not willing to do. Have courtesy and definitely go the enema route if this is a brand-new partner or someone you’re not regularly-intimate with.
- Definitely, definitely, definitely understand how enemas work with your body. Enemas can definitely clean out the anal area to reduce pegging poop messes, BUT they also can make things 1000 times worse. Do NOT do your first enema right before your pegging experience. Try out enemas on your own, multiple times, when doing anal on yourself. There are lots of things to figure out about enemas including how deep you need it, how much water your body needs, how it affects you, how much salt (if any) your body needs, and more. The time to know those things is before you’re going into the pegging experience. Because an ill-done enema can actually wiggle-free all of the pegging poop mess and make pegging way, way more messy when done incorrectly.
If you want more details about enema play, I got you. Check out my Enema Play 101 post for a bunch of other information about enemas.
Use an Anal Sleeve Plug
While this isn’t an option I have, personally, experimented with (as I find the above tips to deal with the majority of the pegging poop mess we come across), I know some people who have a lot of anal sex swear by anal sleeve plugs.
Think of these like really plushy penis strokers that get inserted into the butt. Once inserted into the butt, the butt’s musculature then holds it in place – and you are essentially sliding your pegging dildo into the interior of a sex toy instead of making contact with the walls of the rectum.
Especially if your pegging recipient is into feeling “humiliated” or “used like a sex toy”, this can be a great way to fit it into your sex life.
You both may need to experiment to see if it still feels as pleasurable for the pegging receiver. As your dildo doesn’t necessarily have nerve endings, you may not notice a difference.
To reduce “grippage” between sex toy materials, I also recommend using a condom with your dildo – and using copious amounts of lube to help the two slip around together.
If done “properly” with the toy staying inside the body, an anal sleeve plug should reduce any pegging poop mess down to a literal 0. If you want to stay away from any part of it, the recipient can remove the anal sleeve plug in the privacy of the bathroom or shower – and the pegging giver should avoid any interaction with pegging poop entirely.
Originally Published: October 26, 2021.
Updated: October 2022.
