There are many fetishes and kinks out there, but one of the most popular ones is definitely the butt fetish. Commonly known as butt play, people who enjoy the butt tend to enjoy anal pleasure – and viewing some pretty booties too. As a lot of people (at least in the United States!) consider the butt one of the main visually arousing areas, that shouldn’t come as much of a surprise! If you want to enjoy some butt play with your lover, here are the 6 pleasurable things you might love.
Using Your Tongue Is a Good Way to Start
The anus is up there as one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on a human body. At the same time, it’s a relatively easy-to-damage tissue if you don’t take things slowly. That’s why it has to be treated gently and carefully. If you’re new to anal play, we suggest you start with your tongue. A lot of people find it hard to relax under the sensation when they’re still new to anal play. So, to help with that, a tongue is a great option for stimulation before you attempt penetration.
(All that being said, not everyone is into rimming – and that’s a-okay! A finger lubed up with some warm lube can be somewhat-similar in sensation and just as relaxing! Worried about taste or possible bacteria? Dental dams work just as amazingly for rimming as they can for vaginal oral sex!)
Fingering the Anus Feels Amazing
Oral pleasure is a great lead-in to finger play. Once you’ve enjoyed some oral time, you might consider moving onto inserting a finger or two – very gently. Don’t forget to use tons of lube and have lots of patience (and be gentle!). Patience and gentle movements are the name of this game – along with lots of lube! If someone is new to butt play, this is going to feel awfully weird at first. Give them time to get used to it – or decide it isn’t for them.
Butt Play Can Be Better with Toys
While you can get pretty far with just your fingers, anal play can be a lot more fun with a few toys! This is for a few reasons; first off, it can be hard for a lot of people to easily reach their own butt – which can make solo play pretty difficult. For another, butt toys allow you the option to insert an item and gently prepare the area for later anal play with a partner. Allowing an anal toy to sit inside of the body for awhile will help gently stretch the muscles for whatever play you have in mind later.
Don’t Neglect Your Lover’s Genitals
We said that the anus is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on a human body, but that doesn’t mean you need to forget the rest of the pleasure zones! The penis, vagina, perineum, nipples, and clitoris are all full of sensitive nerve endings too, and you can really enhance the recipient’s experience by finding ways to provide as much pleasure as possible.
Stimulate the Perineum
In case you don’t know what perineum is, it is an area between the testicles and the anus on a man’s body or the area between the vagina and the anus on a woman’s body. The perineum is full of nerve endings, and it’s pretty sensitive to touch. Gentle stroking against the area can feel fantastic – especially while other stimulation is going on. However, on vagina-owning individuals, make sure to only pleasure this area with clean hands. While anal play is fun, using the same hands you just had in this area is likely to lead to bacteria getting near the vagina – which can lead to UTIs.
Use Your Breath
If you want to help your partner relax their butt muscles for fingering or anal sex, consider using some warm breaths. All you have to do is spread their butt cheeks and breathe on their perineum and anus. When doing it patiently and sensually, the warmth can feel good and the dedicated attention can help your partner relax as well. It’s a surprisingly unique sensation for an area that rarely receives any moving air flow!
