Let’s face it: when it comes to giving massages, your partner will likely get a higher “quality” one from a professional – someone who has trained for months to learn how to hit those pleasure spots and work out those knots. What your partner can expect from you, however, is a more intimate, creative experience. You may not be professionally trained, but you’re there just to make your partner feel good – and that counts for something in itself.
However, if you don’t have the professional tools or skills, you’ll likely want to “make up for it” in other ways. Instead of focusing on trying to give the best hand massage possible, why not consider bringing in some other items – some that you might even have right in your bedside drawers? Adding some temperature play, some vibration, and some mood lighting and scents can take your massage to a different, yet just as amazing, place than a professional massage.
Stainless Steel Dildos: You know about the foam rollers at the gym, and you know about ceramic deep tissue massagers, but did you ever think about using a stainless steel dildo to help loosen up those knots? With absolutely no give and an indestructible design, stainless steel dildos can hold up to virtually any pressure you give them – making them wonderful deep tissue massage tools.
However, their rigidity is also their downfall. Make sure you use the appropriate amount of force and intensity – and avoid using stainless steel dildos anywhere near bones or low-body-fat areas. Try pressing the dildo into the palm of your hand – now make sure you keep that in mind while using it as a massage tool! Even the lightest bit of pressure will transfer wonderfully to the skin.
Don’t forget that stainless steel can be a bit cold when you first pick it up too. Before surprising your partner’s body, make sure to warm it up between your legs or hands or give it a nice soak in a bowl of warm water.
Glass Dildos: Just like the stainless steel dildos, these toys can be used for massage. Unlike Stainless Steel dildos, which are insanely indestructible, glass dildos are not. When using glass dildos for massage, you’ll want to use them as fun texture toys – or for temperature play. Do NOT use glass dildos like “rollers” on your partners’ skin for deep tissue massage. You may break the toy, and it may cut your partner.
However, warming or cooling the glass toy in a bowl of corresponding water temperature will warm or cool the dildo. Once warmed or cooled, you can take the textured toy and gently drag it along your partner’s skin for a fun way to give your hands a break once the massage is being a bit too much for them. While this isn’t a trick used in professional massage, we aren’t professional masseuses, and our hands are bound to get tired.
Massage Candles: Do you know that manufacturers make massage candles specifically for couples’ massage? Now you do. These low-melting-point candles come as a solid, but once you light them, the candle’s wax turns into gently-warmed massage oil just perfect for your massage. Plus, most of them are scented with sensual-smelling fragrances. Why not take advantage of that?
Light the candle, use it for ambiance as you settle your partner into position and explain their lucky evening, and when you’re ready to give the massage, blow out the candle, give it a few seconds, then drip (from a decent height) the massage oil right onto your partner’s skin. Yummy!
Kegel Balls: Does your partner like deep tissue massage? Do they have some knots they’d like worked out? Medium to large-sized kegel balls can work wonders for you. Stick with the non-vibrating variety that can roll around all on their own. Sturdy balls like pure-silicone, stainless steel, or glass would be best. I’d avoid using the plastic ones – you might end up putting enough pressure on the ball to “crack” it.
Push some pressure behind the balls as you firmly rub them into your partner’s muscles. Like we’ve mentioned with the other toys, make sure to keep these to the muscles and fleshy parts of your partner’s body. Feeling this hard, ungiving pressure on shoulder blades or other exposed bones will feel ouchy instead of good. Be careful about the small, rolling nature of a ball too! These little guys can “escape” you if you aren’t too careful.
Vibrating Massagers: While not “technically” a sex toy, these vibrating back massagers surely haven’t been exclusively used on people’s backs since they’ve been invented. While the other objects on this list are great to take advantage of the sex toys you already own, a store-bought Vibrating Back Massager is going to be one of the cheaper options on the list.
You can get a super-cheap one at your local big-box store, or head to your local sex toy store and pick up a Hitachi or other wand massager. Do you know those were originally made for self-massage of sore muscles? Clearly, they’ve gained popularity in other uses, but they still can make lovely choices for an easy way to massage your partner – especially if pain in your arms or wrists makes it difficult to do with your hands.
