4 Tips for Choosing an Adult Toy to Share with Your Partner

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Whether you want to explore your sexuality or try to achieve different types of orgasms with your partner, then shopping for sex toys together is one way to open new doors to pleasure. Even if you have owned a simple vibrator in the past, exploring other adult toy options with your partner can help you grow closer as a couple and help you discover more about each other’s bodies. Once you’re ready to shop, here are a few tips you can keep in mind to make the experience a positive one.

Talk About Your Desires

If you are going to find an adult toy that satisfies both you and your partner, it is important that you talk plainly about your desires. Being frank about what turns you on and what you are looking for in a toy can be vital when it comes to achieving satisfaction from it. Sit down with your partner and make a list of what your toy should be able to do for you, from providing different vibration settings to offering deep penetration. It might turn out that your partner was hoping for a jaunt in public while you were hoping for a pleasurable vibrator the two of you could use during intercourse. Having this conversation allows you both to figure out what toy fits both of your vision – and it can work as great foreplay!

Browse Your Options First

You might have some idea of what adult toys look like, but today’s technology has given rise to more choices than ever. Because of all these options, you and your partner might want to explore them before you settle on one particular style. You may even discover something completely new that has settings and features to satisfy you both in ways you never dreamed of. Plus, who doesn’t love thinking about all of the sensual, hot ways you could use these toys on each other? You both might end up taking the passion to the bedroom – long before the toy even arrives in the mail!

Consider Your Orgasm Needs

Not everyone achieves orgasm in the same way – no matter their body type. You may need moderate stimulation to your clitoris or you may prefer a G-spot orgasm while your partner might enjoy anal play. No matter how you reach the heights of pleasure together, the adult toy you choose should be built to meet those needs. Consider a model with a clitoral wand or other attachment to give your pleasure zones the extra attention they might need. Otherwise, be prepared with a fun way to ensure both parties achieve satisfaction – even if the toy you choose pleasures only one of you.

Be Adventurous

One of the biggest thrills of choosing a sex toy for the time is discovering new ways of sharing pleasure with your partner, so don’t be afraid to get adventurous with your shopping. For example, grab a double ended dildo for mutual masturbation fun, or choose a strap-on model to enjoy a bit of role play. The choices are endless, so dive on in and try new things together. Just remember: if your playful adventure doesn’t end in mutual pleasure for the both of you, make sure the two of you end up with pleasure otherwise. You don’t want to leave a sour taste in either of your mouths about trying new things in the bedroom.

Shopping for an adult toy with your partner can foster feelings of extreme intimacy and give you a chance to discover each other on a deeper level. Remember to keep communication open, be honest about you what you want in the bedroom, and explore sexual pleasure together for maximum satisfaction.

Note: Thanks to DearLady for sharing some great advice with us!

Mistress Kay
Mistress Kay
Sex toy reviewer, kink educator, and weirdo who is constantly staging pretty photos for sex toys.

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