Perfect for Pet Play: “Puppy” Cock Ring Review!

May 25th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
"Puppy" Cock Ring

“Puppy” Cock Ring

Especially for those in love with puppy play, the Cock Ring DOG-Balls from MEO.de is going to be a well-loved treat. Available in diameters from 1.6″ to 2.2″, this aluminum ring features a bone-shaped tag that hangs from the ring engraved with the word “Puppy”.

The packaging for the Puppy Play cock-ring is pretty basic. It comes in a sealed plastic bag. You’ll need to destroy the plastic bag to get the ring out, so the bag doesn’t work for long-term storage.

"Puppy" Cock Ring

Thickness of the “Puppy” Cock Ring versus the thickness of the tag itself

This puppy play cock ring includes a very simple design. There’s a large, rounded ring that serves as the cock ring, and with the ring’s thickness, there’s a hole through the base of the ring that allows a small D-ring to hang off of. Off of this D-ring, there’s a dog-bone-shaped tag that reads “Puppy”. All of the pieces are made from aluminum or a metal – none of it feels like cheap plastic.

"Puppy" Cock Ring

Extremely smooth ring on the “Puppy” Cock Ring

The concern about metal cock rings is usually whether the material is entirely smooth. MEO.de has done a fantastic job with this ring, and it is. The aluminum has absolutely no raised edges on it; it doesn’t even have a “seam”. The edges of the ring are rounded as well; nothing will be sharp or jagged to cut the skin. Nothing should catch the pubic hair, either. Unless you happen to beat the odds and accidentally get a hair caught in the hole for the D-ring, this ring shouldn’t snag any pubic hairs unless you’re tugging them against the ring itself. With lubricant, though, the ring becomes pretty smooth, so it’s hard to snag things.

I’m actually surprised by how light this cock ring is too. The aluminum of the ring is extremely light-weight. It will definitely restrict blood flow, but I’ve been told that it doesn’t feel like it’s “pulling” down on the entire area like other metal cock rings do. It’s about as light as a thinner silicone ring – and that’s including the fact that it has an entire “Puppy” tag hanging off of it.

"Puppy" Cock Ring

“Puppy” Cock Ring

Now, you do need to be experienced with couple’s rings if you want to play with this toy. This is unforgiving aluminum. It doesn’t stretch, and it doesn’t have any give. This makes it a particularly effective cock ring, but it also means that you need to know how to put on and remove cock rings before you should really go with a ring that’s entirely one, rigid metal. The point of a cock ring is to be snug and restrict blood flow, so you want to make sure that you can get the ring off when you want – and get it put on too.

The “Puppy” tag doesn’t get in the way of using the ring. It was added in a hole through the metal of the ring, so there’s no contact with the D-ring itself. The “Puppy” tag dangles freely, however, so during penetration or movement, it will move/bang/hit with sharp movements of the hips. Since the tag isn’t particularly heavy, it’s not a danger or discomfort to the perineal area. With each movement of the tag hitting the D-ring, you’ll also get a bit of a metal “cling” noise, so if you’re looking to embarrass your partner with a tell-tale puppy-like collar sound, it works particularly well.

How well it functions as a cock ring will depend on your own anatomy. For us, it worked just fine. It can be a bit hard to put on at first, but a good application of lube really helps it slide on a lot better. The MEO.de website offers this cock ring in multiple sizes to help you best pick the best size for your own “puppy”. Make sure to do the measurements to have the best chance of a good, comfortable fit for your partner.

Since the Puppy cock ring is almost entirely made from a single piece, it’s extremely easy to clean. Just use warm water and anti-bacterial soap and give it a rinse-down in any bath of water. You could use a very gentle cloth or brush if you wanted to clean in the crevices but take care to choose a gentle material to ensure you don’t scratch the surface. The cock ring easily cleans up and its small size makes it very discreet to store as well.

Overall, if you enjoy pet play in the bedroom, this cock ring for pet play is going to be a good purchase. It feels high-quality, does a good job of restricting blood flow to the area, and was made in a very practical manner that displays the “puppy” tag without getting in the way of the use of the ring. Thanks to MEO.de for providing this puppy play sex toy for my Cock Ring DOG-Balls review.

What to Do If you Fall in Love with Your Casual Sex Partner

May 25th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

No-strings sex dating is very popular these days, thanks to the glory of the internet. A lot of people find it easier to meet for a quick bit of fun rather than going into a fully committed relationship, and we can’t blame them! In fact there exists a great compromise between having sex with strangers and being in a relationship with someone: you’ve probably heard the term ‘fuck buddy’ before. Having that person that you can call upon when the urge strikes you is in fact the most convenient way one could have sex outside of a committed relationship; there is no commitment but you can still feel comfortable with each other (and of course, don’t forget about safe sex!). Sounds like the best of both worlds, but what happens if you start developing feelings beyond lust?

It’s just sex?
The root of the agreement between two friends with benefits is that they will have sex together: nothing more and nothing less. Fuck buddies get together for fun and also the knowledge that they can trust that person. That agreement implies some degree of complicity, which we can argue goes a little beyond the act of just getting naked and having fun. It will probably will start quite simply between two friends, but the situation often gets more complicated.
So this may be the first way you can simplify your no-strings-attached set-up: instead of having sex with friends, why not just meet people online instead? You can use sex dating sites like www.no-strings-sex.com and find people whom you don’t have a previous emotional attachment with. Because when it comes to friends, we often get closer than we think we will, and it’s easy to let our emotions get the better of us. When it comes to friends, you already know the hobbies you share, their personality you enjoy, and more. After all, that’s why so many relationships start as friendships in the first place!

How to deal with it?
So let’s say you’re having feelings for you fuck buddy that go way beyond simple lust. Most people don’t feel like confessing that idea because you don’t want to mess up a good thing. Well the truth is that it’s already too late. It’s likely not going to be healthy to repress what you feel. Your best thing to do is just to come forwards and say it to be fair on you and your casual partner. Going in with different intentions is likely to cause a chasm between the two of you – and drama down the road. So if you feel love, just tell them and be ready to break up the arrangement if the feeling isn’t mutual. Sex is going to get more complicated over time if the two of you have different goals.

There is also the situation where you fuck buddy is falling in love with you; it certainly can be a whole lot more complicated when it’s the other way around. What do you do when you don’t feel the same? Again, as soon as you notice it, your best thing to do is just to ask them about their feelings. Basically you really don’t want to be with someone just for sex if they feel more than you do. Again, it is simply not fair on them. Furthermore, knowing that they love you and still using them for sex is wrong, it enters in the realms of manipulation, and it certainly isn’t going to feel good for anyone involved when you’re outside of the bedroom. This imbalance of feelings can only lead to complications- which is what everyone is trying to avoid by no-strings-attached relationships, right?

Doing the right thing
Just like when you love someone, lusting for them can be a hard thing to let go of. After all, lust is a very strong feeling. Heck a lot of us probably confuse those two feelings because they are so intense, but confessing feelings ahead of time will lead to less drama and complications down the line – even if you have to find a new way to fulfill your sexual desires. Don’t let sex turn into a negative thing. After all, it is one of the most enjoyable activities out there!

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System Review

May 09th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »
Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Designed for partial suspension – and for a more comfortable above-the-head bondage session – the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System includes almost everything you’ll need for an above-the-head binding. Including a heavy steel bar and Nubuck leather suspension cuffs along with all of the required chains, all that’s left for you to provide is a sturdy attachment point as well as weight-bearing carabiner clips. This set is designed to support up to 200 pounds of weight.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Cuffs that come with the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Ready to play and safely transported to you, the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff system comes in two separate pieces. The pieces themselves are shipped from Shop Kinky Toys in a long, discreet brown box with no mention of where the items are coming from. The black metal bar and chain are wrapped together in bubble wrap while the two cuffs are wrapped together in separate bubble wrap. There is no manufacturer’s packaging, and they do not come with instructions.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Showing how the cuffs attach to the bar

The Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System comes with a couple pieces that easily come together to form the entire system. The black metal bar comes attached to a length of chain that runs to a single binding point to be able to hang the system. The set also comes with the two suspension cuffs – each cuff includes the cuff itself along with the chain that attaches it to the point and a foam-covered wood bar for wrapping the fingers around. The set does NOT include anything to attach the cuffs to the black metal bar.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

How the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System comes packaged

It’s worth nothing that this set does NOT come with everything you need in order to play with the set. Take note that it does NOT include anything to attach the suspension cuff’s chain to the black suspension bar. You will need to provide that on your own. I’d recommend weight-bearing caribiners – likely from your local sporting goods’ store. Make SURE they are designed to hold weight. Don’t just go around grabbing crappy keychain-designed caribiners. There’s no reason to mess around with your partner’s safety on this one. (And if safety isn’t enough of a motivator, just imagine how silly you’ll look when your partner is just magically “set free” by an equipment failure)

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Another view of the cuffs

This set uses a single overhead point to “hang” your suspension cuff system. If you plan on suspending ANY weight from it, make sure your overhead point is extremely sturdy and able to hold someone’s body weight multiple times over. However, if you’re just looking to use the cuffs to hold someone’s hands in place, you can get away with a much lighter-intensity bondage point such as a decently-hung eyebolt in the ceiling for potted plants. Again, though, make sure you don’t place any amount of someone’s weight on an ill-hung bondage point. That’s exactly how you end up taking down part of your ceiling – and possibly injuring your partner in the process.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Padding on the comfort grip areas

For those that can’t make any permanent modifications to their living situations, we’ve also found some success with “over the door” systems. Being careful to ensure very little “banging” against the door or wall (to avoid marks on those surfaces), you can use an over-the-door hook or over-the-door workout system to hold this set in the air for use. However, you’ll want to ensure that the top of the Suspension Cuff System is FIRMLY attached to your above-head point, and you’ll likely need to place your victim in a “chair” in order to actually have their hands be above their heads with the system. It can, however, work just fine. If you want more flexibility, make sure to consider a freestanding sex swing/suspension frame. Those would offer the most flexibility possible if you’re unable to make modifications to your living area.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Soft interior of the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

A big consideration for a set like this is the comfort of the cuffs and wrist restraints. A lot of weight is going to be placed in this area, so you want your captive to feel at least somewhat comfortable. These cuffs are lined in a soft faux fur lining that offers a nice cushion against the skin. The “grips” are short pieces of thick wood that are covered in a thick foam. The cuffs themselves feature a regular belt-like buckle – but they do not include a locking buckle.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Another view of how the cuffs connect to the bar of the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

As for the comfort, they do decently well. We own other cuffs that feel slightly more comfortable than these, but these do feel pretty sturdy and well-made. If you wanted to spend way outside this price point, you likely could find a “better” system with higher-quality cuffs. However, for the price point, the cuffs do feel like they fit in great, an they do their job well – restraining your partner comfortably while offering a comfortable place for them to grip with some of their bodyweight. Depending on how much your captive squirms around while placed in these, the edges of the cuffs have a habit of unaligning and getting somewhat itchy, but a quick adjustment from the dominant fixes that really well.

The Suspension Cuff System has multiple parts that come apart. This offers a whole lot more flexibility. While the cuffs (and the handles to the cuffs) are entirely one unit, the black suspension bar (with its upper chain) are an entirely different unit. This means you can pull off the suspension cuffs at any point and use the black suspension bar for anything else – possibly other cuffs, some rope, or hanging things from. It offers a bit more flexibility than if the entire system was one, large attached piece.

Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System

Non-locking buckles

When it comes to suspension purposes, we had the chance to try this out at a local dungeon a couple weeks back. We did not, however, put someone’s full weight onto it. The legs were suspended while the Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System was used to hold the upper body’s weight. It definitely did a-okay with holding the person’s body weight. However, it wasn’t the most comfortable for the person (being suspended purely by arms and legs), so addition support was added near the waist. It was good to know that the item can hold partial body weight on its own though. (A 160 pound “suspect” was used.)

For non-suspension purposes, it works pretty comfortably as well. As mentioned before, the cuffs feel pretty comfortable and secure around the wrist. Since you’ll be able to adjust your ceiling bondage point for anyone’s height, the cuffs can also be adjusted to any variable height to be the “right’ head for your partner’s height. However, be aware that holding the arms above the head for long periods of time can still reduce bloodflow and make limbs numb, so be prepared to give your partner a little “let the blood flow come back” break in the middle of your scene if you’re planning something lengthy.

Since this Suspension Cuff System uses a single hooking point at the top of the chain to put up the system, it’s easily removed from the hook after you’re done. This makes it particularly discreet if you don’t happen to have a “sex dungeon” hanging out at your place. Just get a chair, pull the system off of the hook, and you’re good to go. Again, though, please make sure to fasten it securely enough that the Suspension Cuff System isn’t going to fall off of your ceiling point. If it does fall, it’s likely to slam your partner straight in the top of the head – and you’re not going to look really sexy if that happens. The system easily goes up and down, though, for effortless bondage. It’s literally a “less than 10 seconds” solution. Hook the cuffs to the carabiners (you provided) to the suspension bar. The suspension bar’s chain then gets hooked to a ceiling point. Done.

When it comes to cleaning, you don’t have much to do. You’ll likely want to gently wipe down the interior and exterior surface of the cuffs with a slightly damp washcloth. You’ll want to do the same with the hand grips. I’d avoid taking too much soap or liquid near these to avoid harming the material. A slightly damp washcloth should clean up most sweat. As mentioned before, the entire system can be pulled off the ceiling for easy storage; you’ll just need a spot that’s long enough to fit a long, unyielding 36″ metal bar. In a corner of the closet or behind a dresser works just fine.

Overall, the Suspension Cuff System does exactly what it promises to do – it provides a supportive and comfortable way to partially suspend some of your partner’s body weight. I wouldn’t use it to suspend all of your partner’s body weight (if only out of comfort!), but it can be used in a variety of ways without that. Easy to put up and take down, the system offers some flexibility in that the pieces can be taken apart. It’s frustrating that it doesn’t come with all of the required items to use it straight out of the packaging, but it only takes a simple trip to the store to easily have everything you want to start playing right away. The system is easy to use, the cuffs are comfortable, and you’re going to find that this makes for an easy and comfortable way to restrain your partner’s wrists above their head. Thanks to ShopKinkyToys for providing this suspension cuffs system for my Comfort Grip Leather Suspension Cuff System review.

Finding Cheap Kink Toys Around Your House (AKA Pervertibles)

April 29th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

With a little bit of creativity, literally anything can become a “sex toy”. Whether it’s used for spanking, penetration, or licking off the body, it’s pretty easy to take any item around the house and turn it into something that your partner will constantly see in a “new light” every time they walk through the hallway.

The reasons for using pervertibles are as varied as the pervertibles themselves. Some people like to use household objects for sexual fun as it provides a kinkier aspect to play – after all, you can make a scene revolving around “humiliation” if you’ll only allow your partner to be spanked with objects she can find around the house. Other people just prefer the fun of seeing what items around the house can be made into a sexual object. Some just want to find a way to satisfy their partners or to have creative ideas in their search for local horny women. Others yet just prefer the extreme cost savings between buying specifically-made kink toys and doing a DIY method. (Especially in the case of insertables, though, it’s worth dolling out the cash!).

However, make sure to keep safety in mind. Since all of the toys you’re playing with are NOT designed for sex – and likely haven’t been cleaned recently for sexual purposes – make sure to treat them as such. If you know you’re going to be drawing blood or using something for penetration, make sure to clean or sterilize it as best as possible. And of course, assume EVERY item you use as a pervertible is entirely disposable. Using these items for their non-intended use can break them relatively easy. So the family heirloom? Probably a hard limit. But that $1 spatula you’d just replace? Have at it!

So, what items can have a new use for around your home?

Spanking Items: Easily the biggest category out there, almost everything in your home can be used as an impact toy. I mean, you could literally take the trash bag out of your kitchen garbage can and use the trash can to spank your partner! For the less extreme, though, consider a lot of the other items around your home: ladles, books, rolled up newspapers, shoes, bundled-up cables, sports paddles/rackets, hairbrushes, decorative lawn ornaments (especially large candy canes near holiday time!), cereal boxes, plastic containers, and more. Just be prepared for lose/break any of these items. Spanking, in particular, is what’s most likely to break most of your items.

Clamps: Anything that can “clamp” can be used as clamps. Clothespins are definitely the most-popular option, but clothespin clamp – and TIGHT. A lot of beginners aren’t too fond of sensation of that. Consider looking in stationary aisles at your local stores – including your craft stores. There are lots of decorative clips and pins that could work great as sexual clamps – and they’ll likely be a whole lot prettier than clothespins.

Restraints: Restraints are an easy one to play around with – and very versatile! Just make sure you have safety shears (or, at the very least, some sharp scissors!) around to cut out your partner. Lots of fabrics that aren’t bondage rope tend to hold knots tightly – very tightly – to the point where you likely won’t be able to undo them. A knot that you thought was “okay” when you tied it is going to become “holycrap tight” after your partner has been struggling and tugging on it for a half an hour. Make sure that you can slide two fingers underneath between the restraint and your partner’s skin – that’s a comfortable and less-risky bondage tightness level. Avoid the use of zip ties unless you know what you’re doing – they can do serious damage. Household objects that can be used for restraints include scarfs, belts, electronics cords (hello, extra useless USB cord ;) ), shopping bags, discarded clothing, and more. Don’t forget about household plastic/cling wrap. Easily bind any part of the body with just a couple wraps of the plastic. A trip to local fabric stores might also offer options for restraints. If you’re on a budget, look in their discount fabric remnant bins.

Sensual Play: Virtually every item in your home can be used for sensual play. Use a scarf for a blindfold or gently run the edges of the soft material along the skin. Use cheap ear plugs or noise-cancelling headphones to reduce someone’s ability to hear. Use standard body lotion to easily slicken the skin for massages. Low-temperature candles can be used for wax play while an ice cube can offer a chilling sensation. Change up how your own hands feel by wearing gloves to touch your partner – or tie really thick oven mitts to your partner to make them unable to use their fingers. Almost any item in your house can be lightly dragged along the skin for a unique sensation include feather dusters, chains, fabric of clothing, napkins, paper, washcloths, and more.

For Sexual Foodies: Does your kitchen sound like the perfect place for sex? Maybe you just really love food – and sex – and want to combine the two? Lots of treats in the kitchen lend themselves well to perverting. Consider the standard chocolate syrup, caramel syrup, whipped cream, and more. You might even want to think about pouring your syrup into a bowl and using a chopstick to “dip” and “draw” onto your partner before licking it off. Not into sticky substances? Any food can be made a “pervertible” too! Just have your partner lie out naked – and serve on them as your “plate” for the meal. (Just make sure to keep any sweet/sugar-y items away from the vagina!)

Insertables: If you’re looking to find the most dangerous of the pervertables, you’ve found it. Using items for insertion that weren’t designed for insertion can be a really, really bad idea. So before you go and get your mind set on sticking something where it shouldn’t be, make sure you’ve thought about all of the risk potentials. Could the item possibly break inside of you? If it’s going in the butt, do you have an easy way to insure you can get it back out? Is the item itself going to be bad for the vaginal environment? (For example, nothing sugary or sweet should go inside the vagina unless you want an infection!) Can this item create suction that could potentially damage the vagina (such as glass bottles)? Is this particular item clean and ready for use? No matter what you plan on playing with, cover it with a condom – these items weren’t designed to make it in a body, so a condom at least provides another layer of safety. Common household items as a dildo include: vegetables (especially carrots or cucumbers), sturdy-made non-wood hairbrushes that don’t come apart, toothbrushes, and plastic containers (such as shampoo bottles).

Furniture: Who said all of your kinky items had to be movable?! Furniture can be used for “pervertible” purposes too. All it requires is a bit of creativity. The washing machine can be used to add extra stimulation during sex. You can bend someone over a table pretty easily. Consider bending a partner over a footrest for sex or as an impromptu spanking bench! A kitchen chair partnered with some handcuffs easily becomes a good place for CBT or other genital-focused play. Any tiled floor quickly becomes a surface perfect for easy clean-up after wet and messy play. Whatever you’re choosing to use, just make sure the surface can handle the body weight and the force of what you’re looking to do on it!

Now that you have a good idea of some of the kink ways to you can use some of your favorite household items, I’m going to give you a dare: why don’t you hit up your local dollar store (where everything is actually a dollar!) and purchase items purely with the intent of using them for sexual purposes later. The low price tag means you won’t be upset when you break things later, and you’ll end up finding tons of uses for items you hadn’t even imagined!

(This list is by no means exhaustive! If you have your own items you’d like to suggest, feel free to leave a comment. Your experience could be someone else’s inspiration!)