“How to Be Knotty: The Essential Guide to Modern Rope Bondage” Book Review

August 25th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

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Continuing his trend of releasing full-color, how-to BDSM books, Morpheous’ latest book, “How to Be Knotty: The Essential Guide to Modern Rope Bondage” has recently found its way onto bookstore shelves. Softcover and 231 pages long, this book is printed fully in-color and on high-quality photo pages.

Table of Contents:
Introduction: For the Love of Rope
Beyond the Beginnings
Safety, Safety, and Still More Safety
Intermediate Equipment
Binds for Sex, Binds for Art, and My Modern Fusion Style
Easy Intermediate Ties
Medium Intermediate Ties
Difficult Intermediate Ties
Becoming a Bona Fide Rope Bondage Obsessive
Glossary/Resources/About Author

How To Be Knotty Intermediate Rope Bondage Tutorial Book Review

As you can see, the rope goes from the “basics” to “more advanced” as you go along in the book. Harder ties may build along some of the things you learned in the “basics” section, but nothing requires that you have gone in order – it’ll still explain steps. The majority of the introductory chapters are lots of words, but honestly, it’s words that you really should be reading. There’s some good information about safety, rope choice, and other things you’ll likely find applicable to actually using the suggestions in the rest of the book.

The book is particularly gorgeous and well-designed as well. High-color photo pages? Check. Nice, easily-organized information? Check. It’s possible to easily work through this book starting from the first tie and moving towards the end – it’s nice and “progressively harder” like that. It’s also possible to skip around and pick one particular tie you want to do at that given moment. The book is pretty well-organized, and you’ll find it pretty easy to find the tie you want.

How To Be Knotty Intermediate Rope Bondage Tutorial Book Review

As for the rope work itself, it’s a mixture of “mostly functional and somewhat decorative”. Some of it is haphazard-looking – and that’s on purpose. Most of the rope bondage suggestions in this book will focus on functional ties that will actually restrain your partner. Expect a lot of wrist, chest harness, and leg-to-thigh ties. There are a couple ties that are mostly decorative, but the overall theme seems to be “pretty, decently-easy, and fun ways to restrain your partner with rope”.

With all that in mind, how much experience should you have? Well, I’d recommend having touched rope a couple times and used it to restrain your partner a couple times, but nothing intensely important is required. The author will name knots by name a couple times, but if you’re willing to do a quick Google search while following the instructions, you’ll be able to follow along with the rest of the instructions. Lark’s Head is mentioned quite a few times along with “cinching” or “make a knot”. If you truly want to prepare, learn how to do a couple basic knots and single column ties and take your time going through the first instructional chapters, and you’ll likely be fine.

And finally: how easy is it to follow the instructions? I will, personally, probably always be much more of a fan of following instructions for rope bondage via a video instead of photos. That being said, it seems to depend on the tie. Some of the more complicated, decorative ties seem like they could have used more photos to truly get across what was going on. Some of the more basic, functional ties seem to do just fine with the amount of photos they have. Either way, you’ll likely end up doing a bit of “trial and error” on a couple ties until you figure out what the author was trying to communicate.

How To Be Knotty Intermediate Rope Bondage Tutorial Book Review

The spine of the book doesn’t lay flat particularly well (a complaint for any book that offers instructional steps I’m supposed to be referencing while I do something). I’ve had to crease the hell out of the spine AND use heavy objects on both sides of the book to try to hold the book open while I’m trying to follow the printed steps. A spiral-bound book would have worked better for this purpose, but I’m not sure it’s financially-suitable or would have high-enough durability. This effect is particularly pronounced compared to other types of rope bondage books because of the high-quality photo paper that makes the book thicker.

One of my biggest complaints about this how to do rope bondage book is that almost all of the photography feels “male gaze” pornographic. Lots of lesbian shots. Lots of women in barely-there lingerie looking orgasmic in rope. A few fully-clothed-in-suits male rope tops with – you guessed it – women in lingerie looking lustfully at the camera. One (maybe two?) sets with a female rope top and a male rope bottom – again, with the woman in lingerie while the man has an unbuttoned shirt. All bodies are “model” bodies with slender women with large breasts and very muscular men. In the book’s defense, nothing is blatantly hardcore pornography, but it definitely feels on the “softcore, male-gaze-focused” side of things. There are female butts (with panties up the crack) and some barely-visible female nipples through lingerie. If that sounds like something that would turn you and your partner on and make it more fun to practice, have at it! However, be aware that it exists in case it’ll cause you to feel uncomfortable.

Despite that “porn” issue with the photography, Morpheous does do a good job of giving some “context” to ties. As-in, if you’re doing a wrist or upper-body tie, the “final product” photo will show you a particular predicament that the model is in. It might just be laying on the bed, or it might partner that upper body tie with one tie that restrains the leg/thigh and a second that has her other leg restrained to a bed post. These “finale” photos will give you some good inspiration for how/where to use the ties – even if they do look more like shots from a rope porn more than an instructional book.

(All things aside, Morpheous is a good photographer. The shots are well-lit, clearly show the steps, have flat, clearly-showing-everything lighting, and look pretty. I would definitely guess that he shoots kink porn shoots for a living/hobby.)

How To Be Knotty Intermediate Rope Bondage Tutorial Book Review

That all being said, I’ve read a couple of Morpheous’ rope/kink books, and this one is probably my favorite. Many of Morpheous’ previous books fell victim to pretty photography that wasn’t particularly applicable to the topic in the text. This seems to be mostly-ish eliminated in “How to Be Knotty”. Since the entire book focuses around rope, all of the photos are mostly on-topic. No longer will there be a photo of ball gags next to information about finding your local community. All the photos are on topic. (Which was usually one of my biggest pet peeves)

Overall, this book is well set-up, offers a lot of good information, and is intermediate enough for people who have experience with rope without going off into the stratosphere of difficulty like some “advanced” rope bondage books tend to do. I have some bones to pick with the not-average-looking models they choose to use for the modeling, and I think some steps could have been better illustrated, but it’s, overall, a solid book that you’ll likely pick up a good amount of information from. Thanks to Morpheous for sending along this intermediate rope bondage book for my “How to Be Knotty” book review.

4 Tips for Choosing an Adult Toy to Share with Your Partner

August 24th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Whether you want to explore your sexuality or try to achieve different types of orgasms with your partner, then shopping for sex toys together is one way to open new doors to pleasure. Even if you have owned a simple vibrator in the past, exploring other adult toy options with your partner can help you grow closer as a couple and help you discover more about each other’s bodies. Once you’re ready to shop, here are a few tips you can keep in mind to make the experience a positive one.

Talk About Your Desires

If you are going to find an adult toy that satisfies both you and your partner, it is important that you talk plainly about your desires. Being frank about what turns you on and what you are looking for in a toy can be vital when it comes to achieving satisfaction from it. Sit down with your partner and make a list of what your toy should be able to do for you, from providing different vibration settings to offering deep penetration. It might turn out that your partner was hoping for a jaunt in public while you were hoping for a pleasurable vibrator the two of you could use during intercourse. Having this conversation allows you both to figure out what toy fits both of your vision – and it can work as great foreplay!

Browse Your Options First

You might have some idea of what adult toys look like, but today’s technology has given rise to more choices than ever. Because of all these options, you and your partner might want to explore them before you settle on one particular style. You may even discover something completely new that has settings and features to satisfy you both in ways you never dreamed of. Plus, who doesn’t love thinking about all of the sensual, hot ways you could use these toys on each other? You both might end up taking the passion to the bedroom – long before the toy even arrives in the mail!

Consider Your Orgasm Needs

Not everyone achieves orgasm in the same way – no matter their body type. You may need moderate stimulation to your clitoris or you may prefer a G-spot orgasm while your partner might enjoy anal play. No matter how you reach the heights of pleasure together, the adult toy you choose should be built to meet those needs. Consider a model with a clitoral wand or other attachment to give your pleasure zones the extra attention they might need. Otherwise, be prepared with a fun way to ensure both parties achieve satisfaction – even if the toy you choose pleasures only one of you.

Be Adventurous

One of the biggest thrills of choosing a sex toy for the time is discovering new ways of sharing pleasure with your partner, so don’t be afraid to get adventurous with your shopping. For example, grab a double ended dildo for mutual masturbation fun, or choose a strap-on model to enjoy a bit of role play. The choices are endless, so dive on in and try new things together. Just remember: if your playful adventure doesn’t end in mutual pleasure for the both of you, make sure the two of you end up with pleasure otherwise. You don’t want to leave a sour taste in either of your mouths about trying new things in the bedroom.

Shopping for an adult toy with your partner can foster feelings of extreme intimacy and give you a chance to discover each other on a deeper level. Remember to keep communication open, be honest about you what you want in the bedroom, and explore sexual pleasure together for maximum satisfaction.

Note: Thanks to DearLady for sharing some great advice with us!

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device Review

August 17th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device

Interested in chastity? Welcome to the Lock Your Man Up! Male Chastity Device made by Sexy Slave and sold on Amazon. Made entirely of plastic, this cage comes with everything you’ll need to place a penis into chastity. A generic version of the CB-6000, this cage is offered in two varieties: a longer shaft cage and a shorter shaft cage. Best measurements are provided by checking the Amazon page, but the longer version is 3.25″ in length with a diameter of 1 3/8″ inside the cage. The shorter version is 2.5″ in length with a diameter of 1 3/8″ diameter inside the cage. Both cages come with the same-sized base ring size diameters: 1.5″, 1 5/8″, 1.75″, 1 7/8″, and 2″.

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All of the parts of the Lock Your Man Up! Male Chastity Device come squished together in a zipper pouch. Getting them all back into the pouch is a tight fit, but it’s entirely do-able. The Lock Your Man Up! Male Chastity Device comes with the cage itself, five base rings, 3 different-sized locking pins and spacers, one brass padlock, and 5 individually-numbered plastic locks. Once you get the perfect equipment for the best fit for you, you might want to consider keeping all of the “bonus” parts in a plastic bag within the zipper pouch to make it easier to grab out only the chastity cage parts you want.

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device

The Lock Your Man Up! comes with multiple types of locks. You’ll receive a brass padlock in addition to five plastic locks. Each one of these plastic locks has an individual printed lock on it. Similar to a zip tie, the only way to get these locks “off” is to cut them off. So if you want to avoid using a relockable lock like the brass padlock, you use one of the numbered locks, your keyholder makes note of the number, and then he’ll/she’ll know if you change the locks without telling them. As you can imagine, those are single-use locks, but the brass padlock can be reused over and over. I’d recommend testing out your brass lock multiple times on its own to ensure it opens and shuts smoothly to avoid getting “stuck” in your device.

Once you have the cage, this set also includes instructions for use. The instructions are words only with no illustrations. The instructions gives basic information about how to put on the chastity cage. It seems the semi-sleek paper the instructions were printed on can lose the words with multiple folds (along those seams), so I’d recommend not crumpling it up if you can help it.

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device

The instructions do a decent, but not fantastic, job of teaching you how to put on the cage. You’ll figure out the exact way to get it on with time and practice, but I highly recommend watching a YouTube or other video of a similar-style cage. Seeing everything in real-time really will help with getting this one properly situated. That being said, if you have nothing else, the instructions will help – it just might be a bit of a case of trial and error until you get it right.

As with any chastity device, the most important aspect is going to be “fit”. This device could be the most-perfect-item you’ve ever bought – or it could be frustrating and never work right. That’s the magic of a properly-fitting device. With that in mind, the company offers a longer version and a shorter version depending on flaccid penis length. Make sure to pay particular attention to the measurements before selecting a cage as getting a properly-fitting cage is the secret to having a great time with the cage.

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Now, chastity cages can run from $20 all the way into the $2-4 grand range. So this is definitely on the “lower end” of chastity cages. That being said, that doesn’t make it problematic or useless. In fact, if you’re not sure chastity is going to be your kink or if you’re going to like the feel of a chastity device, something like the Lock Your Man Up! Male Chastity Device is a good, affordable purchase. You shouldn’t spend your entire savings on something you’re not sure you’ll love. That’s where this budget item fits in.

That being said, the perfect-fit mentions given above pushed aside, this cage is still made from plastic. The plastic does appear to be smooth along all of the areas that might potentially touch the bottom, but due to the design, it does get a pinchy once in awhile. It’s not always a problem, but when it happens – well, you’ll notice. Using lots of lubricant near the base definitely does help a bit, but it requires a very good fit on the cage itself to ensure the extra lubricant isn’t going to result in a cage slipping off the penis.

That being said, if you get a perfect fit and have no problems with the cage, I can’t come up with any reason you shouldn’t be able to wear this as long as you’d like. Keeping in mind that you should strip it off once a week for cleaning and maintenance (and maybe a bit more often if you don’t line up with the urination hole), if the cage fits comfortably, I see no “warning” concerns about the fit or design. There seem to be more possible “ouch” opportunities than some of the higher-end cages, but this cage should work fine for trying out chastity or only keeping someone in a cage for days at a time instead of weeks at a time.

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device

This cage could be worn 24/7 if desired. There’s a hole for urination at the tip. Depending on your body, your penis may or may not align perfectly with the pretty-large hole, but it will allow the urine to drain regardless. This particular hole will also begin to make erections pretty uncomfortable. Because this hole is decently large, the skin will try to escape this way, and you’ll soon find yourself trying not to get hard (which is the point of a chastity cage, really) to avoid feeling that sensation. I’ve been told that it’s definitely not pleasant.

Lock Your Man Up! Plastic Male Chastity Device

When it comes to cleaning a chastity cage, you’ll have two parts: the human and the cage itself. The interior of the shaft portion seems to get the most dirty with this cage. Attempting to get shower water to slide down the cage’s shaft does help keep it a bit cleaner. The cage needs a thorough cleaning after every use, and if you’ve found a good enough fit for long-term use, make sure to strip this off of your partner once a week. The cage should be cleaned with warm water and anti-bacterial soap – and make sure to get a non-abrasive brush that can slide into the shaft cage and clean the walls of the cage. The human penis should be cleaned too. Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant when attempting to put on the cage – different lubricants will not harm the surface of this cage.

Overall, while you may want to upgrade to a non-budget device for long-term wearing, the Lock Up Your Man! Male Chastity Device offers a lower price point to allow couples (or solo people!) to try out chastity without worrying as much about their budget. This device allows for a bit of adjustment to fit your body as best as possible while also including instructions and generally functioning as a good “introduction” to what a chastity device could possibly offer. Thanks to Sexy Slave for providing this affordable male chastity device for my Lock Your Man Up! Male Chastity Device review.

Womanizer Plus Review

August 09th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Womanizer Plus Review

Specifically designed as a clitoral stimulation vibrator with extra handling space for easier use, the Womanizer Plus is the brand new iteration of Womanizer, and it’s sold by Good Vibrations. Unlike other Womanizer vibrators which may be only 5″ or 6″ in length, the Womanizer Plus is 9″ in total length – with most of that length being in the handle. The vibrator is waterproof and rechargeable, and it’s equipped with the company’s “Pleasure Air” technology that provides vibrations and suction for the ultimate pleasures. The body of the toy is ABS plastic while the head of the toy which touches the body is made from silicone.

Womanizer Plus Review

The Womanizer Plus vibrator comes in some downright-beautiful packaging. The box is white and black with shimmery gold accents, and it really sets the tone for a “luxury” experience before you even open the box. This box is also particularly sturdy, and it could be used to store the toy – including stacked up with other boxes. Inside the box (in which the lid just lifts off), there’s a plastic tray that the Womanizer Plus vibrator rests in. Underneath this tray, you’ll find the rest of the accessories including the charging cable, the instructions, an extra silicone head piece (in the company’s “large” size), and a black drawstring bag.

Womanizer Plus Review

The Womanizer Plus is just downright gorgeous. I have no complaints about the design or color scheme. The vibrator is a white, black, and gold design with the gold detailing running around the edges and the top of the vibrator. As most of the gold detailing’s crevices are well away from where any bodily fluids would get, it’s not frustrating for me. Just pretty. The toy just plain looks great. The entirety of the vibrator is made from ABS plastic and feels firm to the touch. There’s no textured areas on the handle, so it might be good to wipe down your hands if your hands are slick to get the best grip on this vibrator.

As previously mentioned, the Womanizer + is rechargeable. The toy requires a full 90 minutes to charge the toy up from empty, and it can be used for 4 hours once the toy is entirely charged up. Supposedly, the vibrator is equipped with an auto-shut-off mode to prevent overheating around the 30 minute mark, but I’ve never had the toy shut off on me. The vibrator’s charging port is located at the base of the toy, and it’s covered by a silicone cover when the toy is not being charged.

Womanizer Plus Review

Of course, it’s important that your vibrator be easy to use, and the Womanizer luckily is. You just have the power buttons and the intensity buttons. The power button will turn the toy on or off, and you can use the +/- buttons in order to increase or decrease intensity. Each button presses with a nice, satisfying “click”, and I’ve never had any problem with the toy doing anything I hadn’t told it to do. It’s easy to control.

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Womanizer Plus Review

Now, the most important part: how does it feel? Amazing, really, sums it up in a single word. The Womanizer Plus has a bit more power than some of the earlier iterations, and I thought the first releases were already pretty good! The Womanizer Plus continues the Womanizer line’s dedication to simultaneous suction and vibrations to a very pinpoint part of the body (which most users will likely prefer on the clitoris). This combined suction and vibration effort is something that no other vibrator on the market had done – and now there are a few manufacturers beginning to explore into it. This combination is absolutely amazing, and it somehow never manages to numb my body – and it’s one of the few (okay, the only!) toy I’ve been able to find that can give me multiple orgasms. This doesn’t seem to be a unique claim to me, either. It seems a lot of the Womanizer users have discovered multiple orgasms with it.

It’s just genuinely an extremely orgasmic toy. It feels unique, amazing, and intense. I have absolutely no complaints on the stimulation. Just keep in mind that it’s a bit different than your “standard” vibrator, so it might take you a bit of experimentation until you find the “sweet spot” for your own body.

As a note, the toy isn’t the quietest – but it isn’t insanely loud either. It’s quieter than most wand vibrators, but depending on how you’re holding it, it can be louder than standard vibrators. The toy is most quiet when pressed firmly up against the body. However, you’ll likely end up breaking suction or moving the toy around during use, and in those periods, the toy is loud enough to be heard outside of a closed door. It’s definitely not the most discreet of toys – but it’s not loud enough to be distracting to its pleasure either.

The second-most important part is how well this vibrator will work with larger bodies. After-all, that’s exactly who the vibrator was designed for. To meet this need, the Womanizer Plus was designed with an extra-long handle and a slightly curved design to help reach around larger bodied areas. The other area where I expected a difference is in the tip of the clitoral vibrator itself. In this case, it was there. While the Womanizer Plus comes equipped with the company’s “standard” silicone head equipped on the tip when you receive it, there’s an extra, “large” tip stored underneath the plastic tray of the vibrator. You can just slip it onto the tip of the vibrator if you find that the “standard” silicone head isn’t working well for you. (I find the “standard” tip to work wonderfully.)

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Womanizer Plus Review

My first impression was: wow, this vibrator is definitely designed with some “extra room to spare”. I’m not a small girl by any means – I’m definitely on the plus-size spectrum, and I’m about in the middle of available sizing at plus-size stores like Lane Bryant or Torrid. And the Womanizer Plus has noticeably much more length than I need. As an already plus-sized woman, this basically means the Womanizer+ will likely offer enough length for virtually anyone.

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Womanizer Plus Review

With the longer length, however, the company chose to move the Intensity control buttons. While the power button is located near the tip of the toy near the clitoral-touching part, the intensity buttons are located near the very, very base of the toy. For people who need the Womanizer’s length in order to reach the right spot, they’ll likely be holding the Womanizer+ near this tip, and this is a conveniently-located spot for them. For myself, I found that I didn’t need the full length of the vibrator, and as such, I was holding this clitoral vibrator near the middle part of the handle. This meant either moving my hand to slide down to the base or using another hand to change the vibration intensities. Unless you’re gripping the vibrator on the base in the first place, the button placement is particularly frustrating. That being said, you’re not going to accidentally press a button during use. You’ll have to intentionally try to change the intensity or power the toy.

The extra length could be particularly helpful to a couple groups of people. For one, if you have any issues with arm flexibility or find your body tiring out with holding your arm near the the genital area, the Womanizer Plus’s extra length is probably going to be absolutely amazing for you. This could be especially helpful for those who have back issues or find that bending forward to hold a toy between the thighs becomes painful or uncomfortable. The length will also lend itself particularly well to people who carry a lot of their weight in their stomach; the length makes reaching between the thighs with the vibrator a whole lot easier.

That being said, unless you usually have a particularly difficult time reaching between your thighs with standard vibrators, the Womanizer Plus is probably not necessary for you. Get it if you want it, but don’t think that it’s going to be “needed” for you to enjoy a Womanizer vibrator. The standard Womanizer toys will be an a-okay option for quite a few plus-sized bodies. If standard vibrators are uncomfortable for you to hold there, you’ll likely want the Womanizer Plus, but for many plus-sized bodies, that may not be the case.

Now, I own one of the first Womanizers to hit the market. As in, I have the Womanizer W100 – in a design that appears to be entirely unpurchasable anymore. So, in terms of comparisons, this is where my comparison point is coming from. The biggest difference is definitely size. The Womanizer+ is noticeably larger than the Womanizer W100 – but that’s exactly what the design was crafted to do. Secondly, you’ll notice the control structure difference. The Womanizer+ includes the dedicated strength control buttons that the Womanizer company has been leaning towards while the W100 only offers the single-button control. Finally, the other biggest difference is the storage options the toy comes with. I’m frustrated to say that the Womanizer Plus vibrator only comes with a drawstring storage bag. The Womanizer W100 came with a plastic, hard-shelled zip-up case that’s been absolutely amazing for protecting it, throwing it into a bag, and ensuring I can keep all of the parts (instructions, charger, additional tip, etc.) together. As an added note, the Womanizer Plus certainly looks more luxurious and gorgeous than the relatively-rocker-looking Womanizer W100.

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Womanizer Plus Review

Unlike many of the first iterations of the Womanizer, the Womanizer Plus is entirely waterproof. This makes cleaning a much easier affair, and it also means that squirters who have accidentally ruined their Womanizer because of fluid will have no concerns with this particular model. It’s pretty simple to clean, and depending on how you use the toy, majority of the cleaning will just need to be done on the removable silicone tip. You might need to run a soapy washcloth over the head of the toy as well, but regardless, it’s pretty simple to clean. I just recommend ensuring the vibrator is entirely dry before putting it back into storage. There’s no reason to use lubricant with the Womanizer Plus, but if you choose to, water-based lubricant is probably the best choice. Unlike some of the earlier versions of the Womanizer, this Womanizer does not come with a dedicated storage case. Instead, it can be stored in the original packaging or the black drawstring bag. (Seriously. I was in love with the Womanizer W100’s hard-shell case, and I’m very sad to see that the company didn’t continue this storage option with their later toys)

Womanizer Plus Review

Overall, the Womanizer Plus is a good iteration of the Womanizer for those who find that standard vibrators are a bit uncomfortable to use for long periods of time. It’s probably not necessary for most plus-sized bodies, but for the people that find its extra-length necessary, it’s probably one of the few vibrator options on the market that will work. The design is gorgeous, it offers quite a bit of power, and like the Womanizer is known for, it offers easy and intense orgasms. I’d highly recommend most of the Womanizer line – and the Womanizer Plus in particular for those who might find the vibrator’s extra length to be helpful. Thanks to Good Vibrations for sending out this plus-sized Womanizer for my Womanizer Plus review/Womanizer+ review.