Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

September 29th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

One body-safe, ejaculating, harness-compatible dildo, coming right up! That’s basically the Pop Dildo in a nutshell. Made from the same shape of the FunFactory Boss dildo, the Pop Dildo (made by Semenette) takes things one step further: it equips the already-awesome dildo design with the ability to shoot liquids. This silicone dildo is 7″ in length with a diameter of slightly over 1 and a 1/2″. The tubing is entirely removable for use without the ejaculation system. The manufacturer also sells Tube Refill kits with brand new tubes and bulb pumps to ensure you can switch out the tubing if you ever have any cleanliness concerns.

Like most FunFactory-manufactured items, the Pop Dildo comes in lovely packaging. There’s an interior box that slides into an external slipcover. The slipcover provides a lot of information about the toy, and the entire box is stable enough to be used for long-term storage of the dildo. To be honest, with all of the tiny bits and parts of this system, I’d recommend just keeping it in the original box. It helps keep things together quite nicely, and everything goes easily into the box. The Semenette POP Dildo comes with the dildo itself, a standard-sized pump bulb, 3 custom plastic tips, 3 replacement interior tubes, and 3 locks.

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

Let’s talk about the basic design of the Pop Dildo itself – ignoring the ability to ejaculate. The dildo is made of a nice, body-safe silicone. It’s definitely on the “draggier” side of things – even with lubricant, the dildo retains a slightly-textured feeling when dragging your fingers over its surface. The dildo also has a slightly-curved tip designed for g-spot or p-spot stimulation. The curve is not extreme enough to hit my own, but the flexibility of the tip is relatively minimal, so the dildo does retain some of this curve internally – and doesn’t bend easily into a straight shaft under pressure.

The Pop Silicone Ejaculating Dildo retains quite a fantastic bit of flexibility too. It has flexibility near the curved tip and near the middle of the shaft, but the dildo has very little give around the base of the toy. This works particularly well for insertion purposes. After all, when dildos fold easily in half (or compress near the base), it can be difficult to peg someone – and frustrating. The Pop Dildo has none of those problems. It has held its shape fantastically and with no problems.

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

The POP Dildo by Semenette might seem a bit scary/complicated to use at first, but it’s honestly pretty simple. I’d highly recommend watching the below video in addition to the instruction manual, though. The instruction manual makes it sound complicated and honestly could use some diagrams instead of full-text.

The basis? You are going to take the dildo and slide one of the included tubes into the hole in the toy – shoving it in from the base. Once you do that, you’re going to go ahead and attach one of the locks to the tip of the toy. You then connect the squeeze bulb to the other end. The tube will likely be sticking decently far out of the tip of the dildo. You slide this tube into a container/bowl/etc. of the liquid you’d like to shoot – using pressure you’ve placed on the bulb to draw the liquid into the hose and bulb. Once you’ve done that, pulling the tube from the base will cause the tip’s excess tubing to pull into the tip, and the tubing itself will disappear from view. You’ll be locked and locked and ready to go.

As a quick view of exactly how to use the Semenette Pop Dildo, check out their video. It does a fantastic job of showing everything at a glance:

Easy enough, right? That’s just the point. A lot of attention and love was given to the Semenette Pop Dildo. Many cum tube dildos have a non-removable tube – making it a pain in the butt to clean. Other dildos use a giant syringe to sploosh out all of the liquid – making it difficult to peg with or just meaning you have to stop the fun to attach a syringe. Other ejaculating dildos have the tube sticking out from the bottom of the toy -making it extremely uncomfortable to strap-on.

Semenette’s Pop Dildo does none of those things. The tube is entirely removable for simple, thorough cleaning. The base allows for the tube to stick directly out of the bottom -or out of the side of the base. There’s no uncomfortable, rough tip at the top. The silicone Pop Dildo also uses a small, attached squeeze bulb to squeeze out all of the liquid inside of the tube. The bulb is removable, but due to its screw-in design, it doesn’t fall off with lots of movement. It’s ready when you need it.

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

If you care about body-safe materials (which you likely should at least consider!), the Pop Dildo is one of the very few “mainstream” options that offer a silicone dildo that’s capable of ejaculation. Some of the dildo manufacturers that make fantastical options (such as Bad Dragon and their dragon dildos, etc.) make ejaculating dildos, but none of them seem to make body-safe somewhat-realistic human-based dildos. A lot of the realistic, human-based dildos out there seem to be made from hard-to-sterilize materials like rubber or PVC. Not the POP Dildo. The POP dildo is made from FunFactory’s trustworthy (and lovely) silicone, and you can be sure that you can sterilize and make this dildo ready for use with new partners/new uses anytime you’d like.

Another thing that sets the Pop Dildo apart from other ejaculating options is the small footprint of the tubing system. It’s not huge. It’s not unwieldy. While a longer tube system might make it easier to reach for odd sex positions for solo use, the longer tube system is usually a pain for partnered use – or just makes it too awkward for me to want to use in a strap-on harness. The Pop Dildo’s tube only extends slightly over 7″ outside of the base of the dildo when set-up and ready to go. It’s a small, easy-to-move around tube as well. It curls up easily, and as long as you don’t squeeze the bulb, the liquid doesn’t come out. When hand holding the dildo, it easily can just be gathered in the palm of the hand at the base of the dildo and held against the dildo with the bulb sticking out of the side. It makes for pretty comfortable, one-handed use with no concerns.

With all of those things in mind, the Pop! Dildo makes a fantastic strap-on ejaculating dildo. There’s really just no other toy on the market that “does” it as well as this silicone ejaculating dildo does. Why? Because the tubing is there – but it isn’t ridiculous or unmanageable. The tubing offers a squeeze-bulb that doesn’t slide off or doesn’t require “assembly” at the moment of ejaculation. The tubing slides easily under a strap on my strap-on harness, and whenever I’d like, I just pull out the tubing (to reduce squeezing the flow), press the bulb, and viola – ejaculation. It’s a 2-second process. Other dildos will require loading up a large syringe full of liquid at the moment of ejaculation – which certainly can’t stay in place during the entire penetration session. The POP Dildo makes it easy to move from “pegging” to “ejaculating” within seconds. It really does feel like a natural, comfortable transition.

Do you know what else it does fantastically? It works particularly well for all-day wear if you like to wear “hard”. The base is comfortable against the body, the dildo is flexible enough to get shoved up in panties/clothes, and with the tube design, the base’s tube never uncomfortably rubs against the body. In addition, it uses a very small amount of lubricant in its tube – which means I can pack a small travel-size bottle of lubricant in my purse or shorts, and when I’m ready to use, I just have to slide out the tube, suck some up, push the tube back in, and my already-worn dildo will be ready for squirting. (Though when wearing this in a harness, it takes a bit more effort than it’d seem. I’d recommend excusing yourself to the bathroom for a couple minutes, and you’ll be “locked and loaded” when you get back.)

Now what should you “lock and load” with? It really depends on your preference. The Semenette POP Dildo can be used with biological ejaculate to induce pregnancy if that’s your thing. It also can be used with virtually any other liquid under the sun – but use common sense. The manufacturer recommends POP Lube which is specifically formulated with Sliquid. (I generally love Sliquid lubes, so I’d likely enjoy this recommendation, but I haven’t tried it). I have, however, tried a couple water-y, thin water-based lubricants, and those work fantastic. Bad Dragon’s Cum Lube also works particularly well and has that “white” look that many ejaculate-viewers might be going for. (For purely visual purposes, we’ve found that White Chocolate Drizzle [found near the coffee aisle or ice cream aisle] mixed with some water will be thin enough and white enough to look about right. Please don’t put that anywhere near the butt or vagina, though.)

For best use with the internal tube, thinner lubricants seem to work best. Some of my thicker, “gel” lubricants don’t seem to shoot out with the same ease that the thinner ones do. Definitely stick with lubricant that is closer to a water-like consistency. Move the bottle back and forth in your hands to see the consistency of the lubricant in the bottle if purchasing a bottle specifically for the POP Dildo. You want something that splashes around pretty easily in the bottle. Do make sure to stick with water-based lubricants unless you do a spot test with silicone-based lubricants on the tube and dildo. (Though, honestly, cleaning the silicone-based lubricants out of the tube will likely be a giant pain in the butt, so I recommend sticking with water-based.)

It’s worth noting that the squeeze bulbs for the Pop Dildo – while fantastic in their ease of use and ability to stay out of the way – also can only hold so much liquid. If you want to shoot after exhausting your first “shot”, you need to reload the entire dildo again – or screw on another pre-loaded bulb. This means you’re pretty much limited to the size of the bulb in terms of how much liquid the dildo can hold. Semenette sells a larger bulb that holds more liquid, but it’s still much more on the “smaller” end of ejaculate scale compared to many dildos. If you’re hoping to give your partner a lot of liquids internally, this is probably not the way to do it.

In our experimentations, the receiver couldn’t feel the lubricant squirted into the body during use. You’ll definitely want something with more of a capacity for that. However, the dildo gives more than enough if you want a pleasant visual – such as ejaculation on the face or on the body. The dildo also does a pretty good job of adding internal lubrication if you’re just looking to slicken up someone’s insides for easier penetration.

Semenette Ejaculating Silicone POP Dildo Review

Cleaning is not a simple task with the Pop Dildo, but it was designed to be as simple as they could possibly make it. The tubing system pulls directly out of the dildo. The squeeze bulb allows you to pull soapy water directly into the bulb itself and rinse out the interior of the bulb with drawing in the cleanser and then squirting it back out. The tubing can be tossed after use or you can (and should!) take the time to clean it thoroughly. Once the dildo is empty of the tubing system, the POP Silicone Squirting Dildo can be boiled or cleaned in a water/bleach solution for full sterilization.

The manufacturer recommends tossing the interior tubing after every use for full cleanliness reasons. In fact, it’s pretty adamant that you should do that. It’s up to you if you choose to abide by the recommendation – especially since the tubing seems like it’s made from silicone. While the tubing should be thoroughly and completely washed after every use, it may not be budget-friendly to replace the tubing after every ejaculation. The company sells a kit with 5 additional tubes and a bulb replacement, so when you replace the tubing (which you should on occasion or after any potentially concerning encounters), it’s possible to rebuy the tubing without splurging for an entirely new toy.

While it may defeat some of the reason some couples may be using the POP dildo, it’s also possible to use a condom with this dildo. You’ll still get the visual of ejaculating without possible bacteria contamination of the dildo’s interior tubing.

You can always use the POP dildo without the ejaculating tubing as well. If you’re going to do that, however, I’d recommend covering the toy with a condom to avoid getting difficult-to-clean fluids in the empty hole.

Don’t forget to use lubricant with your POP dildo’s shaft as well. While some silicone toys may require minimal lubricant when used for vaginal purposes, the draggy-type silicone of the POP Dildo is not one of those toys. Even with really lubricated orifices, it’s best to add some external sex lubricant. I’d recommend water-based lubricant, but if you’re dead-set on silicone-based, make sure you do a spot test along the base to make sure the lubricant is compatible with the material of this dildo.

Overall, while the Pop Dildo isn’t going to be loading your partner full of tons of liquid or lube, it’s one of the only non-fantastical, ejaculating dildos made from a body-safe material. Partnered with the attention to detail, cleaning, and a size and shape that will work well for quite a few bodies, the Pop Dildo by Semenette is one of those toys that I’m more-than-happy to recommend for anyone. In fact, it’s going to be the top of the list for anyone looking for an ejaculating dildo. Thanks to Pop Dildo for providing this silicone ejaculating dildo for my Pop Dildo review.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps Review

September 21st, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

For those who can’t modify their living space or just want an easy and discreet way to put up bondage points and then put them down, there’s the Overhead Attachment Straps from MEO.de. Convenient and easy to use, these high-quality leather straps just loop on top of a door to wedge between the door and the doorframe. Once there, they stay in place against the door, and each strap’s available D-ring allows for bondage possibilities up against the door. the Overhead Attachment Straps includes these two straps, fully-assembled and ready to go as soon as you open the package.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Like most MEO.de purchases, the Overhead Attachment Straps come packaged in a plastic, see-through bag. This bag will need to be destroyed to get the straps out, so don’t think you’ll be able to use it for storage. The bag includes a barcode for warehouse use, but it’s otherwise instruction-less.

These straps don’t really require much instruction, though. Each one of the Overhead Attachment Straps features a slim bar at the end of the straps. You open your preferred door, toss the straps on top of the door with the D-rings facing the side you want to play on, and then you shut the door firmly. Lock the door if possible. The straps will be over the top of the door, the door will be closed, and you will have two, unmoving overhead attachment points for playtime.

Once you have these straps in place, make sure you don’t need to open the door again. They slide out extremely easily after the door is opened – even if no one is attached to them. To be honest, it’s been a bit of a source of frustration when I know I need something in the other room and need to get through the door after I’ve set up the Bondage Attachment Straps. Make sure to plan ahead better than I do.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Depending on the fit of the door, the person on the unused side of the door will likely see very little. There will be a small black bar at the very, very top of the door. That’s it. Unless someone is paying attention, they won’t notice the Overhead Attachment Straps on the unused side, so don’t worry too much about playing on people-facing doors. However, be aware that the person might think you “caught” something in the door and open it to tell you – OR they might hear your captive banging around on the door. Appearances may not be the only possible concern with that one.

The exact fit that these Overhead Attachment Straps have in your doorway is going to depend on your particular doorway. For example, my front door happens to have an interior rubber lining along the doorframe – which makes these straps a very, very tight fit, and once in place, the straps won’t move an inch. However, on some of my other interior doors that don’t have this rubber lining, the straps seem free to move around along the top of the doorframe a bit more. As a clarification, I’m talking about moving from side-to-side – not coming off.

As a note, some doors may not have the required/necessary space between doorframe and door to allow these to work. Most people’s interior home doors should be fine, though.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

That being said, I’ve had absolutely no problems with the overhead attachment straps coming off. Once they’re wedged between the door and the door frame, they seem to stay there pretty much perfectly. Getting them into position can be slightly frustrating (as mentioned above), but once there, they definitely stay. With the door shut and locked, I’ve had no problem with the door bowing or moving under the person’s struggles either.

How well do they hold up? Fantastically. Even with multiple uses and multiple squirming submissives under the presence of these, I’ve had absolutely no problem. The leather is reinforced in multiple places near the attachment points including thicker leather all throughout the entire strap. Near the D-ring, there are a couple extra rivets while the loop near the doorway bar has extra rivets too.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Do be aware that these straps were never designed to hold a full person’s bodyweight. These are designed to be overhead bondage points – not suspension points. Don’t try to hang your partner by just their wrists – or by just these two hanging points. It’ll hurt them, possibly destroy the door, and may just rip the leather. Wouldn’t recommend it. These are just designed to keep your partner’s hands in an upright position and fasten/bind them to the wall/door behind them.

There shouldn’t be much cleaning required with these straps. They shouldn’t get much of anything on them. A gentle wipe-down with a slightly-damp washcloth on occasions should do a good job of keeping these nice.

Overall, I would enthusiastically recommend the Overhead Bondage Attachment Straps. Especially for people who are renting or who can’t make holes in their ceiling/furniture, these straps are going to offer a secure and safe way to bind your partner to a fixed object. The straps are very durable, extremely easy to use, affordable, and just look sexy too. No complaints here; these are fantastic! Thanks to MEO.de for providing these over-the-door bondage options for my Overhead Bondage Attachment Straps review.

Overhead Over-the-Door Bondage Attachment Straps

Mr Hankey’s Toys Remove-O-Balls Review

September 14th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Is your dildo missing a little bit of something-something? Well, Mr. Hankey’s Toys Remove-O-Balls are designed to help. Swinging, silicone testicles attached to a flexible, stretchy silicone ring, the Remove-O-Balls are designed to add the realistic sensation of testicles to any dildo. Available in three skin tone colors and made from silicone, the balls have a resting ring diameter of 1.75″ and testicle width of 3.75″.

Coming from a small studio, the Removte-O-Balls will come to you in a plain, unmarked brown box. Inside the brown box, the removable dildo balls will be wrapped in a plain black, opaque bag. Even if someone does accidentally open your box, all of the toys inside are hidden via this black bag.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Now, I’ll admit: the Remove-O-Balls look kinda weird. Well, more than “kinda”. They look weird. Why in the world would you want to add some testicles to a dildo? Especially attachment testicles that are a separate part and seemingly useless outside of the visual?

First off is their application for strap-on use. When many dildos come equipped with their own testicles, they’re placed on the base – which is exactly the part of the dildo that presses up against the wearer’s body during strap-on use. Depending on the type of harness you’re using, the balls might even be entirely hidden underneath the harness’s fabric! For that reason, the balls of those dildos usually have very little movement or added sensation. That’s not the case once you add the Remove-O-Balls. Not only are they going to sit outside the harness and in front of the strap-on O-ring, but they also move around – a lot. Every movement of the hips has these balls swinging with relative ease. Soft, gentle sex likely won’t add much sensation for the receiver, but anything more than grinding will likely have these testicles swinging and hitting pleasurable areas for the person you’re penetrating.

It’s also worth mentioning that these removable silicone testicles for dildo can be used for other purposes. If you get especially rough or fast-thrusting with your own dildos, you’ll likely create enough movement to experience the sensation these testicles can provide. You may also find these balls to be an especially great addition to partnered sex as a cock ring or for use on a sex machine or thrusting hand-held dildo machine.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Second off is their unique “swinging” sensation that no other dildo balls offer. As mentioned above, most testicle-equipped dildos have built it into the base of the toy. That means very little (to none) movement of the balls. The Remove-O-Balls don’t have that problem. They’re stand-alone, and they move with every moment of the dildo. This movement causes the balls to “slap” up against the skin of anyone who’s being pounded with the dildo. It’s a particularly pleasurable sensation – one that I’ve heard a lot of my friends talking about as enjoyable. These balls can help create that in a way that no pre-built dildos seem to do. And when you don’t want it? Poof! Just “remove” the Remove-O-Balls, and the sensation will be gone.

The Remove-O-Balls have a texture and design that lends themselves well to this swinging, strap-on use. The front of the Remove-O-Balls has a very life-like, wrinkled texture. The ring of the removable balls is entirely smooth. The backside of these balls is entirely flat and smooth to avoid adding extra bulk to the backside of the balls for no reason. Made from pretty firm silicone, the testicles move as one large “bundle” – don’t expect a lot of bounciness or individual “ball” movement while using this one. The entire package moves as one with a good chunk of momentum behind it.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Getting these removable dildo testicles onto any toy isn’t difficult. The ring of the testicles stretches out pretty nicely. Depending on the thickness of the toy you’re using, you might have to have someone hold the dildo (or use your feet to keep it upright while sitting in an awkward position) while using both hands to stretch out the ring large enough to slide onto the toy. If you’re having issues because of the width, remember that you can add some lubricant to the balls or the shaft of the toy to help it slide into its proper place. The balls stretch just fine, but they do require some effort to get them to stretch to the biggest sizes. But once they’re in place, they stay just fine, and I’ve never had any issue with the balls sliding or moving out of their place at the base of the dildo.

The Remove-O-Balls are particularly well-sized for any of the Mr. Hankey’s Toys. They share a thick O-ring that matches the thick bases of most of the Mr. Hankey’s Toys. The balls stretch out enough (with a decent amount of pressure) to slide over the biggest toys that I own. That being said, the circular ring of the Remove-O-Balls is still relatively small at rest, so it also fits some of my medium-sized toys as well. (It does not, however, stay snugly on some of my 1″ diameter and similar toys. You’ll need at least an average, 1.5″ or bigger thickness to get these balls to stay.)

The Remove-O-Balls colors perfectly match all of the shades of toys that Mr. Hankey’s Toys sells. I have to admit wishing that they expanded some of their color choices of the Remove-O-Balls to match other various “skin tones” of silicone dildo manufacturers. While the Remove-O-Balls are great for use with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, they’ve also been fantastic to use with our other dildos, and I do wish the colors matched a bit more. The sensation is still fantastic, though, so they get used regardless.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

If you’re using these removable sex toy balls for pleasure, you’ll likely get some bodily fluids on them. Using warm water and anti-bacterial soap will clean up the surface of these silicone balls pretty quickly. You might want to consider getting a super soft toothbrush and doing in-depth cleaning along the texture of the balls on a regular basis. That, or you can consider doing some sterilization with boiling water or a water and bleach mixture. If using lubricant to get the balls onto the base of a toy, you’ll want to use water-based lubricant. For storage, these removable silicone dildo balls are pretty easy to deal with. Just don’t put them in direct sunlight or squish them, and you’ll likely be fine. I’d also recommend against storing them stretched out on a dildo as you’ll likely loosen the silicone’s tightness over time with that plan.

Overall, while you’d think the Remove-O-Balls might just be a bit on the odd side or something you’d never imagine being useful, you might be surprised. They’re extremely easy to use, add extra stimulation for people who like that feeling, and they’re super A-Plus for use in strap-on harnesses. Fantastic job, Mr. Hankey’s Toys. Thanks to Mr. Hankey’s Toys for providing these removable dildo balls for my Remove-O-Balls review.

Mr Hankey's Toys Remove-O-Balls

Should You Check Your Partner’s Online Activities?

September 14th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comments »

Lack of trust and jealousy can easily become the destructive forces that can wear down your relationship. You would expect that one will trust their partner, but the reality is that we’re human. Jealousy and paranoia are part of most people’s natures, and we don’t want to lose the amazing things we already “have”. The media, the soap operas, and the movies we watch often portray paranoid or jealous behavior as “romantic”, and this can stain the way we see things. One big real-world example is when a person checks their partner’s private online activities. The question is: is this even acceptable? Should you consider doing this, and what effect will it have on your relationship?

Unfortunately, when you feel insecure, it’s hard to avoid those paranoid feelings that are stuck in your head. This is why when someone has trust issues, just telling them: “Don’t worry; you can trust me” won’t quite cut it. It can become a compulsory behavior, and nothing short of a slow, long trust-building process will cause the urges to go away. However, sneaking through your partner’s stuff only gives them more of a reason not to trust you – and less of a reason for you to trust them – and the ugly cycle will continue. Eventually, it will reach a point where they will leave you – or even worse, your fears of “cheating” might come true because of annoyance, anger, and an unsatisfied relationship. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy: your paranoid behavior has pushed your partner away, and in the process, you’ve made your paranoid predictions come true.

Well, let’s not beat around the bush: this stuff happens all the time. It doesn’t take a lot of forethought to realize that going through someone’s private online activities can end up really hurting that person. Imagine if someone did this to you. How would you feel? For most people, it can definitely erode some of the trust the two of you had. If anything, you know that they are doing things without your consent – which is certainly not the best way to grow a relationship.

But what if you discover that your partner has indeed been cheating on you on some naughty dating site like http://www.grannycontacts.com/us/ ? Does this mean that your actions are suddenly justified? It kinda feels like it, doesn’t it? As they say: it’s not paranoia when they’re after you. Is going into someone’s online accounts only justified by the success of your findings? Not quite. You’ve just piled another trust concern on top of the infidelity that your relationship is already going to have to handle. Multiple wrongs don’t make a “right” – but they certainly are going to make it harder to rebuild the relationship.

One article won’t be nearly able to cover that whole spectrum of the issue, but you should know that it is not acceptable to go through your partner’s online activities behind their back. If you don’t trust them, just tell them and ask them to show you what they are doing online. It might sound like a harsh thing to ask, but it’s better than just betraying their trust – especially when they’ve done nothing wrong. Consider a statement such as “I know it might sound silly, but I’m feeling really paranoid today because you’re so important to me. Could you show me what you’ve been doing online?”

If this is something you do with every partner you’ve ever had, then it might be time to consider a bit of extra help. Extreme paranoia and jealousy can decrease your satisfaction in relationships (and life!), but it’s mostly “treatable” with a change in perspective, open communication, and some professional help. After all, just like a single mental trait (fear of failure, free of heights) doesn’t have to change your entire life experience, a fear of losing your partner doesn’t have to change it either. You’ll just need to go through some extra steps to make sure you can manage your fears and expectations.