What to Do If you Fall in Love with Your Casual Sex Partner

May 25th, 17   •   Posted by Mistress Kay   •   No Comment

No-strings sex dating is very popular these days, thanks to the glory of the internet. A lot of people find it easier to meet for a quick bit of fun rather than going into a fully committed relationship, and we can’t blame them! In fact there exists a great compromise between having sex with strangers and being in a relationship with someone: you’ve probably heard the term ‘fuck buddy’ before. Having that person that you can call upon when the urge strikes you is in fact the most convenient way one could have sex outside of a committed relationship; there is no commitment but you can still feel comfortable with each other (and of course, don’t forget about safe sex!). Sounds like the best of both worlds, but what happens if you start developing feelings beyond lust?

It’s just sex?
The root of the agreement between two friends with benefits is that they will have sex together: nothing more and nothing less. Fuck buddies get together for fun and also the knowledge that they can trust that person. That agreement implies some degree of complicity, which we can argue goes a little beyond the act of just getting naked and having fun. It will probably will start quite simply between two friends, but the situation often gets more complicated.
So this may be the first way you can simplify your no-strings-attached set-up: instead of having sex with friends, why not just meet people online instead? You can use sex dating sites like www.no-strings-sex.com and find people whom you don’t have a previous emotional attachment with. Because when it comes to friends, we often get closer than we think we will, and it’s easy to let our emotions get the better of us. When it comes to friends, you already know the hobbies you share, their personality you enjoy, and more. After all, that’s why so many relationships start as friendships in the first place!

How to deal with it?
So let’s say you’re having feelings for you fuck buddy that go way beyond simple lust. Most people don’t feel like confessing that idea because you don’t want to mess up a good thing. Well the truth is that it’s already too late. It’s likely not going to be healthy to repress what you feel. Your best thing to do is just to come forwards and say it to be fair on you and your casual partner. Going in with different intentions is likely to cause a chasm between the two of you – and drama down the road. So if you feel love, just tell them and be ready to break up the arrangement if the feeling isn’t mutual. Sex is going to get more complicated over time if the two of you have different goals.

There is also the situation where you fuck buddy is falling in love with you; it certainly can be a whole lot more complicated when it’s the other way around. What do you do when you don’t feel the same? Again, as soon as you notice it, your best thing to do is just to ask them about their feelings. Basically you really don’t want to be with someone just for sex if they feel more than you do. Again, it is simply not fair on them. Furthermore, knowing that they love you and still using them for sex is wrong, it enters in the realms of manipulation, and it certainly isn’t going to feel good for anyone involved when you’re outside of the bedroom. This imbalance of feelings can only lead to complications- which is what everyone is trying to avoid by no-strings-attached relationships, right?

Doing the right thing
Just like when you love someone, lusting for them can be a hard thing to let go of. After all, lust is a very strong feeling. Heck a lot of us probably confuse those two feelings because they are so intense, but confessing feelings ahead of time will lead to less drama and complications down the line – even if you have to find a new way to fulfill your sexual desires. Don’t let sex turn into a negative thing. After all, it is one of the most enjoyable activities out there!




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